Topic: Losing at gambling - page 2. (Read 1123 times)

we all know how painful it is to lose everything to gambling and the fact that your partner made a very irrational choice and that is why it is always good to have a budget and not to pass it because you might endanger yourself and your family because some of your decision will affect them one way of the other. and leaving that partner won't help them the best thing is to get help for them because if you don't get help they might do worse. and everyone is open to mistakes so the best thing the wife can do is to get help for him. before he ends up selling the house all in the name of gambling and trying to win. separating is not even an option. devolve is not even a good option because it will affect the partners and also the children so it is better to talk things out than to divorce.

Confidence in your abilities and empathy for beginners are key. People think gambling is for losers, but I argue its for victors who play their cards well.

Practice makes perfect. You warm up in the minors before entering the majors, right? Your trial games are great. Gamblers' apprenticeship. After mastering the game, you hit the jackpot. Not luck, but skill, planning, and flair.

Its not about betting on every game and hope for the best. Smart, planned play is what its about. The "gapless play" you describe is because skilled gamblers execute a strategy. They know when to wager, fold, risk, and play safe. Thats how to win in life and gaming. Always plan and know your game. Knowing you'll win makes it not gambling.

There is distinction between offering advice and providing support for individuals struggling with addiction. Addiction is a complex and often overwhelming condition that can impair an people's ability to make rational decisions or seek help independently. Offering advice is not effective nor well-received, because they may be in a state of denial, resistance, or distress. These people need to be approached with empathy, compassion, and understanding.

Addiction is a disease that requires comprehensive treatment and support that helps reduce stigma and fosters a non-judgmental environment conducive to healing. Offering advice may not be sufficient for individuals grappling with addiction, providing genuine help, support, and access to professional resources is paramount in facilitating recovery and promoting positive outcomes. Fostering a supportive and empathetic environment can empower individuals to confront their addiction.

It's easy to say to forgive and give a chance to change but I bet it will be different if it really happens.
Just imagining all my savings gone because of an irresponsible person who gambled everything. My first question will be: Why? Is the total income not enough to gamble it and try to double the money? You have savings, which means the income is enough, so why?
I won't be a hypocrite and I forgive the person who did it especially if it's your partner or your spouse. There will be a crack in the trust and I doubt it's going to be a healthy relationship when you continue it. Every time a financial problem pops out, that event where he/she gambled the money will float again and it's the start of an argument.
I don't see a relationship moving forward after that kind of mistake.

it's not worth it to leave your partner just because he lost at gambling and spent all your savings. indeed, the mistake he made was quite fatal, namely that he gambled using savings which should not have been used for gambling. but try to look at the other side, how long was your marriage, what are the memories of the two of you, what will your children be like in the future, and there are many other things that need to be considered before deciding to divorce.

so forgiving him is much better than divorcing him because after all divorce will not solve the problem, in fact it will make the problem more complicated and worse. so it's better to solve the problem together and find a solution, there must be one.

In recent years it has been normal for marriages not to last long, this is because many wives get tired of their husbands' behavior and when they receive their salaries at the end of the month, they rush to spend all their money on alcohol, other women and gambling. . It may seem like fantasy stories, but they are real stories. There are people who, when they receive their salaries, go to the physical casino on the same day and play until they lose almost everything and the remaining money goes to sit in restaurants or nightclubs and consume alcohol and sleep with many women and then this person sleeps outside. from home and returns the next day when he lost all the money. It's been like this in many homes, women fight with their husbands to see if they change their behavior

but unfortunately they don't change their behavior and as a result the couple separates and the children are left with separate parents. These are sad situations that are increasing every day. In some countries because these kinds of sad things are on the rise, it has led governments to get tougher on gambling and to regulate and limit nightclub hours. but the problem is that the governments that do this do not also limit the supply of alcohol in the country, on the contrary the alcohol companies increase production and the governments are happy with this because this way the government will collect more tax and because also the guys in the government are partners in alcohol companies. they keep more profits

At the end of the day, it's up to people to take responsibility. be it gambling, alcohol, sex, they should not be abused. everything needs to be done in moderation, because addiction will destroy the person in every way. It will destroy the person physically, psychologically and destroy the relationship that the person has with other people and leave the person alone, few people have managed to cure themselves of the addiction and regained the love and attention of the people who were close to them. In most cases, the person is cured of the addiction but does not regain the friendships they had or the good relationship they had with their family.

My understanding is that the household or family is everything to me, that is my principle, of course I don't want the household to be damaged because of gambling, for us it is very insulting.
Thus, until now, I gamble and never know my wife/family, What's more, when it comes to money, I'd rather use other types of money rather than having to take out my basic money, for example salary, other income known to the family, that way I'm safe to gamble, win big or lose.

For this reason, we should have principles before gambling, if you gamble, you should take money that is known to your family, it's better not to gamble, gamble as you are, don't force the situation, Thus, if you lose at gambling, separating from your partner is clearly not a good idea, give him a chance to change, if the warnings are not good for your partner, then the decision will be made to divorce or stay.

Don't know how much it costs for a therapy session in your place or town, but I've confirmed from multiple sources that it's expensive. Yet, a relationship with the therapist also matters. It's risky paying a whooping amount and the addict continuously misses therapy. The healing process for an addict requires time and help from within before seeking a professional for help. The family of the gambler must be sure their ward is ready for therapy, if not, they should try to get him to calm down and think about receiving help. If he's not yet interested, there is nothing a therapist can do. Those professionals are limited to the cooperation of the addict. Hence, it's excellent for home therapy with a loved one to commence, first, before any other healing method.

This helps reduce expenses on the addict's family. Thereby, saving the ward, despite waiting for the right moment to visit a therapist. A family that's not buoyant enough can end up demoralized by the funds needed to visit a professional and end up not giving proper treatment to their ward. So, anybody can represent a therapist in such a case. What's needed is a relationship with the addict, a person who can talk to him and he'd listen. That's the core root of therapy, if this stage is not achieved, the whole point of therapy is a waste, whether with a professional or not. Every addict needs family support to heal.

For people who are addicted I don't think advice is what's needed at that point rather such persons or people should be provided with help and not trying to advice them because they may not at that point heed to such an advice and it's will look like they are been disrespectful or not listening but the truth is that they at that point don't have control over their selves sometimes so they just need help either professional or probably from family or friends, such that will help them come out of such habit, there are measures with which we can take or suggest to these people and if they apply it relatively to the peculiarity of their case they may turn out better.

Advice isn't the solution even if it Also helps at times but professional help is usually the ultimate especially for those whose addiction is beyond the one who we will consider to be at the beginners stage. When they go to professional therapy they get to see them through processes that will help thsm quit gambling and become better persons.

The economy clearly affects our lives as well as the way we spend every day, but here we must analyze clearly, when we win, our family shares joy and conversely, when we fail, our family also needs positive attitudes, addicts sometimes have good intentions for the family's future, so I don't understand why many family members would overreact when they discover this problem. Conflicts should not start with such things, winning and losing in gambling are not concepts that can be managed, simply rebuild and stop blaming, put feelings and relationships as a higher priority.

Those experts are actually doing their job well because they know what exactly you need to do and they know how to approach you but there's something we can't deny those experts are mostly too costly and only a few places you can find to ask for professional advises which kinda hard for the others to look for it and ended up causing more troubles with their addictions because they don't know how to cure it once they get addicted and most likely they don't know what to do anymore and just simply return to do the same loop over and over again every day.

I am a guy and my partner do not gamble, so I think I will not be in the position you have described above. I will not also want to put my partner in that situation because I see gambling as something that should help me make progress in life and family and not something to destroy my relationship. This is the reason I have always supported having stable income before gambling and using only money not meant for other basic things for gambling. I understand the risk involved in gambling so I ensure I do not expose myself to risky so high that it will impact on my ability to meet my family and relationship demands. Maybe because of these steps I took, my partner have never complained about my gambling even though she already know everything about it.

Well, as long as the addict is still living it is never too late to advise him as you have noted. Overcoming addiction is difficult but not impossible. Gamblers struggling with addiction often face innumerable challenges that go beyond financial implications. The compulsive need to gamble can lead to deceitful behaviour, lying about losses, and hiding the extent of their addiction from their family members. This dishonesty erodes trust and can lead to feelings of betrayal and resentment among loved ones.

An addicted gambler is always having economic problems since he gambles all the time which makes it easier to lose at every point in time. This is so disturbing since economic problems can put a significant strain on relationships and a breakdown of trust within the family and between partners as the gamblers may prioritize their addiction over their loved one’s well-being.

I hope that doesn't happen to me and I also don't want that to happen to me because in a household what we have to think about is the children.

I like gambling even though I'm not very active and I also do it secretly without my wife knowing, and I just play for fun on the weekends after five stressful working days. And that's just by spending a few dollars using money you can afford to lose. And that's if I have the urge to gamble, otherwise I won't.
And another reason, I also always spend time with my wife and children when I'm at home, so even though sometimes I feel guilty for hiding my gambling activities, I consider my gambling to be very normal and not excessive. And I am very aware of my gambling behavior, so if I wanted to stop I could easily do so.
And I also realize that many cases of gambling destroy their households and even lead to murder, and negative incidents regarding gambling will remind me that I have to play with full awareness so that it is easy to control it.

The gambling is not the bad one,many people portraits in a bad way.We should update our skills in the gambling to avoid of losing the money in the gambling.The gamblers learn the skills by the game in the gambling with no money as a trail.So the trail will help the gamblers to get away from the loss.Most of the gamblers will do the trail game in the gambling because they have gap in the gambling game,So the play without the practice will leads to a loss.Instead play the game without the loss of money by the trail games in the gambling site.

The gambler who had huge experience will try to manage their game with the gap less gambling play.The reason is they will do the gambling as their regular activities.Many gamblers can make the money by using the strategy of every game.The gamblers should skip the betting with the random game betting,because the random game will always make the gamblers to loss their money.The gamblers who have enough money to play the initial game with the less budget can able to make money in the gambling site.The gamblers should not play the risk game all the time.Sometimes risk free bets also essentially important to avoid of full loss.

It is absolutely true that knowing one another, for example, getting to know a partner's preferences and tendencies, is essential prior to entering into a marriage union. Nonetheless, the idea of instantly leaving your partner because of some variations in interests or habits may sound too extreme. In contrast, mutual understanding and dialogue may assist in forming successful relationships.

Not surprisingly, saying that an addict is so much of a burden that they cannot be left at home and tolerated by others at all is an overstatement. It is true that addiction can put pressure on a relationship; however, this does not always mean that the person in the relationship has to leave their addicted partner. In making such decisions, there are many factors that should be considered, including support, treatment, and readiness to change.

The choice to depart from an addicted partner is likewise not right, using the term "bad person" to describe someone. Such a decision to leave a relationship with an addict is highly personal, very complicated, and two-sided and needs to be given thorough consideration by both parties involved.

Real transformation requires more than wishful thinking or supernatural intervention. Action, tenacity, and a stubborn support system are needed.

No more poisonous influences? An absolute must.  The goal is to replace the negative with the positive. Inspire new hobbies, interests, and relationships. Its a war on mental, emotional, and social fronts.

Dont underestimate professional help. Therapy, support groups, and treatment are essential. Its about giving victims the tools, techniques, and resilience to rebuild. Not a sprint, but a marathon. Persistence, support, and firm love can make all the difference.

Once you do crossed the line and once you have broken their trust then everything wont really be ever the same on which for all of your life there would really be that blaming and there's really that kind of suing you out in regarding with the mistakes that you have done in the past. If you dont like on ending up something like  this then it would really be better that you should really be mindful on the actions that you would really be making and never ever make that kind of actions on which it would really be something that would be resulting into disaster or something that you would really be ending up on having that huge problem. Losing in gambling is inevitable and its just that normal considering that it could really be only have 2 possible outcomes on which its winning or losing.

Thankfully that this didn't happened to me and hopefully that it won't be in my entire life. But if I found out that my partner spend all of our savings and money and we've got nothing left, I'd definitely going to be mad at her and she should have given me an advise on her gambling needs. Because with that, I'll be able to help her control that addiction and will help her on the budgeting for her gambling needs because if it's not for her, I won't be happy but at the same time we should be planning for our future together and someone has to help each other in terms of finances. I may be the one that can be good at finances or it will be her but then the other one is reckless in spending so that tandem is going to be terrible and useless in the end.

If both of us can't agree to things then we know where this relationship is going. But if that's the first time that she did it, of course everyone deserves a second chance and if ever I am the one on her shoe then I'd be asking her to forgive me and I'll do my best to become the better me and won't be doing the same mistake of losing our entire life savings. But I don't think that someone will ever do that when they're inside a relationship and have been out of control and will be losing their entire fund because of gambling. That's a serious gambling addiction that needs to get addressed because if it won't get some help from the experts in psychology then that will be continued and mistake will be repeatedly done no matter how much and how many times we'd be giving some reminders about it.

Sometimes economic problems can cause things to strain relationships and none other than people who are addicted to gambling will definitely lose their sense of trust in their family and also their partner if they have crossed the line and don't want to be asked to stop. If it's not too late, we can advise him well and help him to stop, but if it's too late, it's quite difficult to advise people who are addicted to gambling, they need to discuss things with each other in a calm manner so as not to cause feuds in the household because economic problems like this are the beginning of the breakdown of the household.