Topic: Losing at gambling - page 7. (Read 1198 times)

Probably the topic assumes that the gambler lose everything as in including the funds which they are both save. This is the common reason why married couple destroyed when the problem is due to gambling addiction.

Some people can’t stand already their partner once he already affected the family finances in general. No one will gonna have a problem if the gambler still earn or doesn’t loss since it’s still part of entertainment but I believe even can’t stand a husband/wife that spend too much in gambling to the point that your family savings is already at loss.

None of the options are correct for me. Why would you divorce them when you were in on it the whole time? And on the other hand,  why do you even need to forgive them when they lose? They are human, in fact when your partner loses what you should do is to go and console them. Make them understand that they may get it next time. And you should have told them from the onset to quit gambling or maybe play safe so they don’t lose everything instead of feeling offended when they finally do.

It's not right to divorce your spouse/husband because in the first place you know that he is gambling you did not stop your spouse/husband it's your fault actually because you should know that gambling can take everything from you or your husband can win a jackpot if you don't want your spouse/husband to gamble you should tell him right away and walk out right away, but you agree on what your spouse/husband is doing so whatever happens good or bad you should bear with your husband, your not a good spouse/husband if you only want winnings and don't want to be part of losses.

It's a good thing that my wife doesn't know how to gamble or else, I may be experiencing such a thing.
But assuming that situation, I couldn't think about leaving my wife or she might because we can still earn money if we find a job. Financial problem is a common reason why some couples separate that is why, being a husband we should consider and think deeply about why we should limit our gambling addiction and always think about the welfare of the family, not just ourselves. We never get that worse if we also understand the needs of the family over our personal happiness and addiction.

Oh yeah? Will it be that easy if you are in that position? Forgive her? I doubt that. The first thing that will come out of my mouth will probably be curse words and it will never end for a week or maybe a month until she gives up and just leave me alone.
Those are savings and everything you have financially. How are you going to pay the electric bills? Mortgage? Water? Internet? And everything. And I bet she (if it's the wife who did it) will come back gambling trying to chase the losses once she possesses money again. It's not easy to forgive when it comes to money cases and lots of married couples get a divorce because of money. What more with someone who spent it all on gambling?
I might reconsider when it's an investment that failed because it will not be fully her fault, it happens. But in gambling, she had a choice, she could just stop and end the day in gambling, clear her head, or maybe ask the husband for permission first before she exhausts everything.
You are married for a reason, the half of you must know everything first, if that won't happen then I guess both of you have trust issues.

If you are married and like to gamble, the best way is to give your wife monthly money first before you use it. I never really spent all my money in gambling because I always gave monthly money to my wife. If I spend my money on gambling, then it doesn't matter because my wife holds the money for our family's needs for the next month

However, if we fail to manage our finances, it is very likely that the things you mentioned will happen. Recently I read the news that a husband committed suicide because he always lost gambling and had a lot of debt even though his wife was pregnant and his first child was being treated in hospital.

You are fully aware that your partner is into gambling and you accept it based on your statement because you mention that you accept your partner's losses and winnings but you should be fully aware of how risky gambling is and there's a possibility of your partner losing everything or winning a jackpot.

It's one-sided if you divorce because your partner happens to lose everything, but what if he won a jackpot after you divorce your partner will you ask your partner to get back at you?

You have a bow that you will stick through thick and thin you should have stopped your partner from gambling if you don't agree with this habit in the beginning. But you condone your partner so you accept any eventualities whether it's in your partner's favor or not.

By the way, this is the result of the poll and the majority voted that it should not result in divorce.

Your spouse/husband earns a lot in gambling but one day loses it all: how do you react?
I'm divorcing / leaving him or her   - 1 (5.9%)
I forgive him/her   - 16 (94.1%)
Total Voters: 17

No one is above mistakes, we make them steadily every year. Mistakes are made every day, and lessons are learned in a variety of ways, both difficult and simple. Losing, all of us who participate in the system have experienced unprecedented losses in the space, but we ensure that our losses do not exceed our profits proportions. Making critical mistakes in life. It will undoubtedly become one of the saddest occasions in one's life on earth. How can he be in danger when he is fully aware that he is the cause and gambling is the source of these severe and fatal conditions?

Just because you lost the gamble does not mean that the marriage must be divorced. Instead of thinking about your family, you focus on gambling excessively for which you are in such a situation. It is really stupid to waste all money in gambling. It is not right for you to spend so much money in gambling thinking about the future. If you have made a mistake, the best course of action is to let them try to make amends without divorce. It should be understood well so that it does not make such a mistake later.

Most people fail to understand that in the long run, the house always wins, unless you are playing a game that involves skill like poker. There are some other exceptions, where people are able to construct profitable strategies in things like sports betting, but the majority of the time you will be playing a losing battle. There's a reason that Bet365 (and many others) make hundreds of millions of profit each year, because they offer enticing odds and are able to do a lot of analysis on what they offer. All offers by bookmakers also have a margin of error, in their favor, built into the price. So if you set a bet of 1.1x odds, you could potentially be lucky to break even on the real odds the bookmaker calculated of 1.

Dafuck is probably what I'd say first then probably talk it out about what the hell happened. Impulsive decisions usually stem from a sudden rush of emotions which may be caused by various different things like stress and whatnot. I'd honestly like to talk it out first but whatever happens afterwards, I'm probably not too sure since I'd have the same rush of emotions. And from what I know of myself, I'm pretty prone to anger.

Something at the level of divorce or worse would happen though. I mean it's not only because its about his money, but rather the money of the family after all.

I could in any case have the opposite assumption, as I am the only one who bets. Besides, the idea that your wife can bet everything is too unrealistic, at least in my case. If you have a house, a pension plan or investment funds in the bank, your wife can't sell them without you knowing about it in order to gamble it all. I think my situation is far from this simple example.

The question is: why was it done like that? Those kinds of problems are usually the advice that I often know is counseling first before leading to what you say is that divorce will be the solution. The question is, is divorce the solution to that?

All the problems can be resolved through that proper conversation if one applies understanding. That means when one is too proud and the other is calm, of course he will understand the proud because he is usually moved by emotions. Are there situations like that that happen?

Losing in gambling, in my opinion, is a natural thing because it will definitely happen often we gamble, so the defeat that will be more often obtained is not victory. The problem that often occurs in a relationship or family is indeed finance, because finance is an important thing in my opinion so as much as possible if you already have a family or official partner then do not often gamble, with the fact that gambling will only give defeat that will make us a loss of money just. Financial problems are often a major problem in a family, many divorce cases have occurred due to unstable finances. In my opinion, if you already have a family, don't gamble too often, because what you have to pay attention to is our economy, don't have a family when we are single, it's not good if we often do gambling, do gambling as naturally as not to overdo it because it will drain our finances quickly . Having self -control in gambling must, because we cannot get a victory with certainty. No matter how often gambling is done it will definitely end with defeat not with victory, because I think the host also holds gambling to make a profit instead of sharing profits to every gambler who plays it with sure to get it, that is impossible.

I myself a man who must have a work that produces because I also have needs that must be fulfilled also with the future that must be prepared when I have my own family or wife, if I already have my own family or my wife but I don't have Work of course I am ashamed, because I do not have a clear income, so I think having a job before marriage is important. Also I will not marry a gambler, even though I like gambling, it doesn't mean that I have to have a partner who likes to gamble too, because in my opinion when married is no longer we have to gamble, we must be able to focus on the relationship that must be well guarded, Do not let problems occur with relationships that have been established. I myself intend to stop gambling or depending on my gambling habit when married, I do not want to happen problems such as risking everything just for gambling.

I never gamble outside of entertainment and always use a fixed income budget like 1%-5% for gambling. I always gamble to keep myself safe. I never gamble to put myself in trouble. If I ever lose everything in gambling I will never mistreat my wife because I love her the most. If I ever lose a gamble, I will not mistreat my wife or ask her for a divorce. All this can be said by those who are addicted and addicted to gambling. Every such gambler should treat his wife well, if he treats his wife well or if the wife can treat her husband well then life will be beautiful, happy, no one will blame anyone if they lose in something.

There are various kinds of household problems and not all financial problems are the cause of divorce because there are also married couples who are grateful even though their lives are simple because the economy can still be improved if both try harder, but the problem is if the economic problems are caused by gambling. Of course, as a partner, you definitely don't accept it if your partner continues to gamble excessively, especially if it causes addiction. Whoever the person who is your partner will definitely suffer a lot because they have to see their family experience this, sometimes gambling addiction is what causes divorce because the economy cannot be repaired if the husband or partner continues to gamble and to cure it is quite difficult.

So the factor that causes divorce is not economic but because of gambling, but if the gambling remains responsible and able to manage finances well and does not cause unstable financial problems then this will not lead to divorce. But if you are addicted then it will be difficult to accept the loss ratio is definitely very large when it comes to gambling, therefore it is wise to manage your finances if you have a family so you don't experience these problems.

Well, if this is the first time it happens, then I think we can talk about it and forgive her, because remember, if you are married, you will be together in the worst-case scenario. Yeah,  the impact of that might be the worst and will be a very hard challenge. But if this happening keeps on going, then that will be a different case; more than once is enough; that should be a lesson to stop gambling at all costs. especially if you are already in a family, being responsible is a must. Stop what you are doing that could affect the family's state.

But there is still a case wherein the loss of money gambling is so bad that divorce is inevitable. For example, if the funds or money that your partner lost in gambling should be allocated for an important thing in your life, like tuition for your child.

For me I have never heard or seen anything close to such reaction of couples. But my question is, there anything like love in such relationship? Because if there is then I don't think anyone will divorce his partner because of huge loss in a gamble because before hand one should have already know that his or her partner is into a thing of risk that might lead to a bad reaction some day. .

Anyone going into gambling should be aware of the pros and cons of it before venturing into it and divorce could be one of the consequences.

For the ladies I see no much effect but when it comes to the head of the family divorce might not be the problem but we all know how ladies get angry with little or big issues and it can lead to quarreling but going further to file a divorce is wrong and I have not see such. Despite the divorce stories I see online some related to gambling issue but I Strongly believe such union lack love and care. No one should make such expensive mistake when gambling but regardless everyone deserves to be treated rightly.

Talk it out, seriously! Share what's on your mind about the money mess and how it's hitting both of you. Get some expert advice, maybe financial counseling to figure out a plan. Dive into why the gambling thing happened and team up to rebuild trust and get back on a solid money track. It's all about tackling the problem together and making sure you're a strong team