Topic: Marriage: Character or Beauty? (Read 1751 times)
A marriage can give a person a beautiful life if his partner is a good person. But nowadays finding a good quality life partner is a very difficult thing which is not easily found nowadays. Having a good life partner can make a beautiful family, moreover, it is never possible to make a beautiful family.
It might be a life and death decision, let me explain.
My friend got married to a nice looking but very selfish woman, they have made couple kids and he worked hard everyday to sustain a good life for them.
After 12 years of what it seemed to be a good marriage he got sick and due to his condition he couldn't work anymore so his wife had to find a job as she was only a house wife - very poor at it if I may add.
After few months she started cheating on him with a co-worker and soon after filed a divorce and requested to leave house that he built and requested in court money for child support, that she ended using for partying with her new men while kids started to get in trouble with law.
My friend had to find a job instead of resting to pay her off and to repair old part of house he had left after his brother died a year back.
Due to not following doctors orders to rest he died of heart attack.
The End.
So choose wisely.
My friend got married to a nice looking but very selfish woman, they have made couple kids and he worked hard everyday to sustain a good life for them.
After 12 years of what it seemed to be a good marriage he got sick and due to his condition he couldn't work anymore so his wife had to find a job as she was only a house wife - very poor at it if I may add.
After few months she started cheating on him with a co-worker and soon after filed a divorce and requested to leave house that he built and requested in court money for child support, that she ended using for partying with her new men while kids started to get in trouble with law.
My friend had to find a job instead of resting to pay her off and to repair old part of house he had left after his brother died a year back.
Due to not following doctors orders to rest he died of heart attack.
The End.
So choose wisely.
In determining the choice of a life partner towards marriage, of course I choose one with character, because character is the foundation of a person's life, good morals make a marriage last and character can influence a person's life for the better, rather than beauty which will fade over time. Apart from that, the basis of a woman is beauty, beauty can be bought, while character cannot be bought. 
People always tell me that my wife is ugly.
Wow, you need to get away from this people as fast as you can.
I can't even believe someone can be this toxic and this empty of feelings inside.
Un-fucking-believable.
People who chose beauty over character in marriage mostly battle all sort of issues from one end to another which in turn led to divorce. The true beauty is character, if you posses a good character then you definitely are beautiful. Welcome to my world!
I really do complements your speech alot mate, what a vital sense of humor ,alot of men who chose beauty over character don't last long In there marriage or relationship, indeed if my woman is possess a good character seriously she's mine and forever Will she be mine .
I would like things were simple as falling in love with someone just taking their character into consideration. But how can you be married to someone you don't feel physically attracted to? For me it doesn't make any sense, and I prefer to remain alone forever than staying by the side of someone I don't feel attracted to. Character can make good and beautiful friendships, but not genuine and rewarding romances.
I don't want to judge anyone here, but for me, I would be lying to myself if I married a woman who I didn't feel physically connected to. And I would hate to live that way, lying to myself and deluding the person by my side. Better to suffer alone than making another person suffer due to indifference and fake feelings.
There isn't much to do after all... These things are out of our control and the more you search, less likely it seems to be you will find...
I don't want to judge anyone here, but for me, I would be lying to myself if I married a woman who I didn't feel physically connected to. And I would hate to live that way, lying to myself and deluding the person by my side. Better to suffer alone than making another person suffer due to indifference and fake feelings.
There isn't much to do after all... These things are out of our control and the more you search, less likely it seems to be you will find...
People who chose beauty over character in marriage mostly battle all sort of issues from one end to another which in turn led to divorce. The true beauty is character, if you posses a good character then you definitely are beautiful. Welcome to my world!
True beauty can't take the position of character they are like night and day going for beauty instead of character is like preferring night instead of day light which may course you allot, character can withstand all forces of life but beauty can't it's a matter of time as it will fade away and everything about beauty will collapsed but character keep standing, many marriage in terms of beauty is a typical example that has collapsed but those with characters stick to the end.
According to research results and personal experience, most people tend to choose beauty over character because there is a universal tendency to choose certain physical characteristics that are considered attractive, such as a symmetrical, healthy face, and the presence of feminine characteristics. In addition, individual preferences also influence how someone sees beauty and attracts a potential partner. However, I really agree with you that rather than beauty, it is better to choose character in a long-term relationship. Having good character will create a strong foundation for mutual support, understanding, and growing together in a relationship. In conclusion, good character is much more valuable and important than just physical appearance in choosing a life partner.
External beauty is temporary. There is a saying in English 'Don't judge a book by it's cover' which means it is not right to judge something by its cover. Judging something from above is nothing but deception.
Regardless of your wife's external beauty, she is an incredibly beautiful woman.She has a great mind and is the best teacher in the world for her child. It is clear in your quote that she loves you a lot and she is always by your side through happy and sad times. I don't think a real husband could ask for more from a wife. External beauty of wife will give you temporary happiness but there is no guarantee that you will be happy later or not. But if you have a good wife like your wife, I think there is no chance of sorrow.
Regardless of your wife's external beauty, she is an incredibly beautiful woman.She has a great mind and is the best teacher in the world for her child. It is clear in your quote that she loves you a lot and she is always by your side through happy and sad times. I don't think a real husband could ask for more from a wife. External beauty of wife will give you temporary happiness but there is no guarantee that you will be happy later or not. But if you have a good wife like your wife, I think there is no chance of sorrow.
Although there are no generally acceptable feature of a beautiful woman, but there are some physical qualities that we see in a woman and assume she’s beautiful. Large eyes, white teeth, big smile, the curvature of the spine, a waist-to-hip ratio of .67 to .80, glowing skin, thick and healthy hair are all beauty qualities. We hear slim is beautiful, fair is lovely, fat is shaming.
My wife doesn’t have these qualities. To make matters worse, she is suffering from a skin disease that makes her skin very unpleasant to behold. People always tell me that my wife is ugly. Sometimes I feel bad and want to regret marrying her, but these few attributes keeps me going.
Intelligence: My wife is extremely brainy. My children don’t have issues with their academics because she is the best teacher.
Contentment: She has never encouraged me to spend money on what we don’t need. My wife ensures we live or spend based on our income. Borrowing or loans is a taboo in our home. And she has taught our children contentment.
Caring: I and the children always feel her absence when she travels. She ensures that I don’t lack both physical and emotional support.
Selfless: The first laptop I had was a gift from her. She had to sacrifice part of her business money for me to get that device.
Team player: We are the best match. My weakness is her strength and my strength is her weakness. She is my better half.
Like I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.
There is no perfection in a relationship. If you feel happy live with sincerity, your wife shows love with her character not with her beauty, you should be proud, if you are not happy and you want to end your relationship. whether you will get a replacement like her, obviously in my opinion you will not get another character like that, a slim body beauty face can be changed with money as long as there is a will, character or nature is difficult to get. That is a gift My wife doesn’t have these qualities. To make matters worse, she is suffering from a skin disease that makes her skin very unpleasant to behold. People always tell me that my wife is ugly. Sometimes I feel bad and want to regret marrying her, but these few attributes keeps me going.
Intelligence: My wife is extremely brainy. My children don’t have issues with their academics because she is the best teacher.
Contentment: She has never encouraged me to spend money on what we don’t need. My wife ensures we live or spend based on our income. Borrowing or loans is a taboo in our home. And she has taught our children contentment.
Caring: I and the children always feel her absence when she travels. She ensures that I don’t lack both physical and emotional support.
Selfless: The first laptop I had was a gift from her. She had to sacrifice part of her business money for me to get that device.
Team player: We are the best match. My weakness is her strength and my strength is her weakness. She is my better half.
Like I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.
People who chose beauty over character in marriage mostly battle all sort of issues from one end to another which in turn led to divorce. The true beauty is character, if you posses a good character then you definitely are beautiful. Welcome to my world!
True beauty can't take the position of character they are like night and day going for beauty instead of character is like preferring night instead of day light which may course you allot, character can withstand all forces of life but beauty can't it's a matter of time as it will fade away and everything about beauty will collapsed but character keep standing, many marriage in terms of beauty is a typical example that has collapsed but those with characters stick to the end.
When I get married, character is of course what I prefer. Compatibility of character is very important here, a marriage will be difficult to build if there is no compatibility of character so that it will never be harmonious. Therefore, understanding each other is very important in marriage, because character compatibility is the key to happiness in married life. If you choose beauty, of course everyone will experience aging and in married life you will definitely see your partner more often, so boredom will definitely arise.
Beauty and handsome are good but as far as marriages goes, it doesn't sustain marriages, if it does, then we won't be seeing high divorce rate of elegant beauties and handsomeness in our societies, in the long run what sustains marriages is tolerance, respect and communication which by extension is character. If your spouse doesn't give you joy and happiness in the home, then all the beauty and handsomeness will all be vanity without peace of mind, so inasmuch as beauty is important in a marriage because of attractiveness, what really makes marriages to last is the character of the couples, especially the wife. I'm glad that OP could look beyond facial beauty and find the inner beauty in his wife, which is what matters most in a marriage.
The two are important in marriage, just that one has to be looked into critically, Character is a unique identifier of every good man or woman, I mean the character of a person makes the person stand out, I will give a brief analysis on this one after the other.
The first is beauty a woman should be beautiful, they say beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, I mean before I notice your character as a woman what will bring me close to you is your beauty, I should be able to present my partner to my friends and family without been ashamed of her, Our physical look attracts our partner to us first before character,
Secondly character, talking about character character is a ladies inner beauty, you might be the most beautiful lady but if your beauty does not reflect in your character no man will want to keep you,
So the two go hand in hand outward and inner beauty.
The first is beauty a woman should be beautiful, they say beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, I mean before I notice your character as a woman what will bring me close to you is your beauty, I should be able to present my partner to my friends and family without been ashamed of her, Our physical look attracts our partner to us first before character,
Secondly character, talking about character character is a ladies inner beauty, you might be the most beautiful lady but if your beauty does not reflect in your character no man will want to keep you,
So the two go hand in hand outward and inner beauty.
Character is the main thing in life whether in marriage or anything in life, character it's very essential and it's what keeps a woman in marriage while beauty only attracts attention but beauty without character will not keep the woman in marriage or keep husband so I think character is the exact thing in marriage most especially.
Although there are no generally acceptable feature of a beautiful woman, but there are some physical qualities that we see in a woman and assume she’s beautiful. Large eyes, white teeth, big smile, the curvature of the spine, a waist-to-hip ratio of .67 to .80, glowing skin, thick and healthy hair are all beauty qualities. We hear slim is beautiful, fair is lovely, fat is shaming.
My wife doesn’t have these qualities. To make matters worse, she is suffering from a skin disease that makes her skin very unpleasant to behold. People always tell me that my wife is ugly. Sometimes I feel bad and want to regret marrying her, but these few attributes keeps me going.
Intelligence: My wife is extremely brainy. My children don’t have issues with their academics because she is the best teacher.
Contentment: She has never encouraged me to spend money on what we don’t need. My wife ensures we live or spend based on our income. Borrowing or loans is a taboo in our home. And she has taught our children contentment.
Caring: I and the children always feel her absence when she travels. She ensures that I don’t lack both physical and emotional support.
Selfless: The first laptop I had was a gift from her. She had to sacrifice part of her business money for me to get that device.
Team player: We are the best match. My weakness is her strength and my strength is her weakness. She is my better half.
Like I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.
My wife doesn’t have these qualities. To make matters worse, she is suffering from a skin disease that makes her skin very unpleasant to behold. People always tell me that my wife is ugly. Sometimes I feel bad and want to regret marrying her, but these few attributes keeps me going.
Intelligence: My wife is extremely brainy. My children don’t have issues with their academics because she is the best teacher.
Contentment: She has never encouraged me to spend money on what we don’t need. My wife ensures we live or spend based on our income. Borrowing or loans is a taboo in our home. And she has taught our children contentment.
Caring: I and the children always feel her absence when she travels. She ensures that I don’t lack both physical and emotional support.
Selfless: The first laptop I had was a gift from her. She had to sacrifice part of her business money for me to get that device.
Team player: We are the best match. My weakness is her strength and my strength is her weakness. She is my better half.
Like I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.
In marriage beauty and character are two Major factor, that seem inseparable but among then character stand first though it can be base on choice. Bible say beauty is deceitful, vain but good character is wisdom itself.all that glitter is not gold so it's in woman beauty when place before character, many breakage on marriage are course by misplaced priority of beauty against character, only character can build and develop and bring peace to any marriage. One thing beauty does in a marriage it brings pride, we all know pride bring fall in anything.
Although there are no generally acceptable feature of a beautiful woman, but there are some physical qualities that we see in a woman and assume she’s beautiful. Large eyes, white teeth, big smile, the curvature of the spine, a waist-to-hip ratio of .67 to .80, glowing skin, thick and healthy hair are all beauty qualities. We hear slim is beautiful, fair is lovely, fat is shaming.
My wife doesn’t have these qualities. To make matters worse, she is suffering from a skin disease that makes her skin very unpleasant to behold. People always tell me that my wife is ugly. Sometimes I feel bad and want to regret marrying her, but these few attributes keeps me going.
Intelligence: My wife is extremely brainy. My children don’t have issues with their academics because she is the best teacher.
Contentment: She has never encouraged me to spend money on what we don’t need. My wife ensures we live or spend based on our income. Borrowing or loans is a taboo in our home. And she has taught our children contentment.
Caring: I and the children always feel her absence when she travels. She ensures that I don’t lack both physical and emotional support.
Selfless: The first laptop I had was a gift from her. She had to sacrifice part of her business money for me to get that device.
Team player: We are the best match. My weakness is her strength and my strength is her weakness. She is my better half.
Like I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.
My wife doesn’t have these qualities. To make matters worse, she is suffering from a skin disease that makes her skin very unpleasant to behold. People always tell me that my wife is ugly. Sometimes I feel bad and want to regret marrying her, but these few attributes keeps me going.
Intelligence: My wife is extremely brainy. My children don’t have issues with their academics because she is the best teacher.
Contentment: She has never encouraged me to spend money on what we don’t need. My wife ensures we live or spend based on our income. Borrowing or loans is a taboo in our home. And she has taught our children contentment.
Caring: I and the children always feel her absence when she travels. She ensures that I don’t lack both physical and emotional support.
Selfless: The first laptop I had was a gift from her. She had to sacrifice part of her business money for me to get that device.
Team player: We are the best match. My weakness is her strength and my strength is her weakness. She is my better half.
Like I stated before, sometimes I look at her unattractive face and skin and I wish she wasn’t my wife. But her good character informs me that I am married to the most beautiful woman in the world.
In marriage beauty and character are two Major factor, that seem inseparable but among then character stand first though it can be base on choice. Bible say beauty is deceitful, vain but good character is wisdom itself.all that glitter is not gold so it's in woman beauty when place before character, many breakage on marriage are course by misplaced priority of beauty against character, only character can build and develop and bring peace to any marriage. One thing beauty does in a marriage it brings pride, we all know pride bring fall in anything.
Inasmuch as marriage is concerned, we shouldn't be too attracted to physical qualities of our partners because if we don't see those physical qualities again as time goes on our interest on our partners will start to diminish because that was the sole reason why we found them attractive and of which developed interest in them.
Beauty or no beauty the most important thing is to be able to understand each other perfectly like for example a couple should know when one among them is not happy and should be able to find out why they ain't happy and possibly proffer solution. A couple should be able to understand each other very well during courtship so that they won't find it difficult to adapt to each other when they're married.
In conclusion, beauty should not be a prerequisite to determine ones choice of a partner as you might live to regret it as soon as those physical qualities begins to fade whereas they don't have the basic attributes to building a happy home.
Beauty or no beauty the most important thing is to be able to understand each other perfectly like for example a couple should know when one among them is not happy and should be able to find out why they ain't happy and possibly proffer solution. A couple should be able to understand each other very well during courtship so that they won't find it difficult to adapt to each other when they're married.
In conclusion, beauty should not be a prerequisite to determine ones choice of a partner as you might live to regret it as soon as those physical qualities begins to fade whereas they don't have the basic attributes to building a happy home.
As a single man, I have dated several different types of women, and am currently thinking about getting married But currently I am still in the process of looking for the right person.
Learning from experience, I think character is more important than beauty, why do I talk like that because I have dated several times with women who I think are beautiful But in the end we separated due to incompatibility.
Therefore I think I have to find a woman with a character that suits me because for me marriage is not just 1 year or 2 years, But marriage for me will last forever and of course this is not a short time.
Imagine if you lived forever with someone who clearly had a character that didn't suit you, I'm sure your married life would be very terrible, And what's more, every women can be beautiful, but not all women can have good character and suit us.
Apart from that, this is just my personal opinion, I'm sure there are many people out there who have different views, But apart from that, I hope that you guys and I will meet the right person, someone who will always be there when we need, someone who will always support us when we fall, Someone who accepts us as we are, and someone who always thinks about us and someone who is always a home for us to return to. God Bless you guys 😁
Learning from experience, I think character is more important than beauty, why do I talk like that because I have dated several times with women who I think are beautiful But in the end we separated due to incompatibility.
Therefore I think I have to find a woman with a character that suits me because for me marriage is not just 1 year or 2 years, But marriage for me will last forever and of course this is not a short time.
Imagine if you lived forever with someone who clearly had a character that didn't suit you, I'm sure your married life would be very terrible, And what's more, every women can be beautiful, but not all women can have good character and suit us.
Apart from that, this is just my personal opinion, I'm sure there are many people out there who have different views, But apart from that, I hope that you guys and I will meet the right person, someone who will always be there when we need, someone who will always support us when we fall, Someone who accepts us as we are, and someone who always thinks about us and someone who is always a home for us to return to. God Bless you guys 😁
Marriage whereby beauty is considered as the main concentration is a Marriage that won't last long. What determine that a Marriage will last forever is beyond just beauty, beauty without characters is nothing in a marriage. What enables partners to live together is characters and understanding but if the characters of the partners is always misunderstood it will always lead to fight and disagreement and with this it is impossible for them to live together. When people agree it brings peace that can enable them to stay together.
Beauty is your natural qualification and attraction. It is a gift of nature. He who sees remains seen. He who sees is left. What has happened to me? Who has taken possession of my thoughts and my mind? How did I get crazy? Whose eyes robbed me? Beauty is a perishable wealth.
On the other hand, character and good character is a constant and supportive asset that brings the bad to the senses. It makes a human being human and creates beauty in his personality. And this is permanent wealth. Which does not fall. And marriage requires a partner of good character. If this fellow is good-natured as well as good-looking, all the better.
On the other hand, character and good character is a constant and supportive asset that brings the bad to the senses. It makes a human being human and creates beauty in his personality. And this is permanent wealth. Which does not fall. And marriage requires a partner of good character. If this fellow is good-natured as well as good-looking, all the better.
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