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You ought to make your point clearer. I’ve read your post thrice and cannot manage to make heads or tails from it. The "friend" thingy is a bit misleading and overly abused, and often one may read that merits often go to "friends". I have no friends here as such, although, overtime, there are profiles with which you may engage a little bit more than with others, likely because of some sort of affinity.
Surely, members are going to vary in their thinking about the idea of having "friends" on the interwebs, and sure there likely develops some familiarity with the trustworthiness or even the creative, inspiring or informative nature of some posters with the passage of time.
For example, I might see some posters who make mediocre posts that might come close to inspiring me to want to send an smerit, but the posts do not quite reach a level that causes me to act in sending such contemplated smerit, but at the same time, the members' names (name recognition) may end up in my head, and so I may end up sending an smerit to their posts at some later date(s) because I start to believe that such type of members are genuinely trying to contribute to the forum, to help members or to just bring up meaningful issues that help themselves, but perhaps just having some difficulties in expressing himself/herself very well.
On the other hand, sometimes, I see a lot of mediocre posts from members, and I conclude that those kinds of members are NOT even trying to substantially contribute to the forum or even to raise questions that might even come close to being meaningful for other members (except for degenerate ones, perhaps).. and I might even tentatively conclude that such members are merely cluttering various threads with nonsense - so my negative impression of those kinds of members might cause me to expect a decently higher level of contribution from those kinds of members before I feel inspired to send any smerit(s).
So, familiarity can work in either direction, but if members are actually attempting to make meaningful and substantial contributions to the forum or even legitimately seeking information for themselves (that might be interesting to other members), I see no reason that such members should not learn, with the passage of time to hone contribution skills and to inspire other members to recognize their contribution attempts by sending such "trying to contribute" members with smerits.