Topic: Never gamble in front of your kids. - page 26. (Read 12692 times)

At a growing age, children respond very quickly to what they see and hear. I definitely agree because I experienced it myself at home as a father with children. So it's certainly not a good act to do something in front of them, especially gambling.
It is recommended to interact more with them naturally with touch that makes them close to us.
Our habit with them will be permanent although I don't dare to guarantee 100%.

We can blocking and educating our children so they knows that gambling can gives a bad effect to them. We can shows what happens to those who playing gambling without control and even if those people have control, they can lose much money because gambling can tempts them easily. We must take care of our children from something that can harm them, especially when they are starting to grows up. The situation now is different than few years ago so we must be careful to explain about many things so they will not curious and search by themselves.

If they can close to us, they will asks to us about something that they don't understand and will not trying to knows about that by themselves. They will not wants to risks their life for something that is not important too them because their parents already taught them to be careful when accessing the internet.

It is interesting to observe, how in the beginning this topic was about banning, not allowing, hiding, secretly gambling. Into understanding that is does not work, and it is better to educate and give proper knowledge on the subject. I was always telling that ban, hide or forbit is not a solution, and this only pauses the problem. Talking with kids is the best solution. Or it will be better to give a visual example. Dont get this wrong, that does not mean show how to gamble (but that will be good to do also, to show the object of discussion), but to show what gambling and reckless behaviour could lead to. Kids learn from watching.

I absolutely agree with that. You can't just block your kids from gambling, they will find a way to circumvent the blocking. As difficult as it may be, you have to educate them. First of all, you have to tell them that gambling is not a way to make money, rather it's a way to relax from your hard work. And if you have no job yet, it's pointless to gamble because you don't have anything to relax from yet. Besides, it's a very bad practice to gamble with other people's money, and since you have no job, you don't have your own money, do you?

Honestly, that is BS what you are doing. You said it yourself, when kids can find out about gambling from TV and the internet, as well you said that is good to educate them, why the hell you lock yourself then? I know that answer. You do it not because you dont want to gamble in front of them or dont let them learn about gambling, but you do it because you dont want to get distracted. Just admit it, that you want to dedicate some time for yourself and gamble calmly and peacefully. I am sure that if your wife wants to enter your room while you gambling, you would not let her in either. So it turns that problem is not in kids learning early, but you just want some free time for yourself.

As a parents for the sake of living an exemplary life it would be highly beneficial not to gamble in front of your kids especially the growing ones, same time we should not hide or let our kids be ignorant about Gambling.
I have read some comments about blocking, Monitoring devices and all that, true but of what use is blocking, rather Educate them on it. Curiousity at early age causes a lot of damage and the sole reason many begin to incorporate habits they ain't supposed to is because Parents try to hide stuffs believing by so doing you are protecting not knowing that you are simply creating room for a negative narrative in your ward (kid).
Social education at home is very important.

Whenever I am gambling, I lock myself up in my room and wouldn't want my kids to come around me at that moment, because I know that they are smart and can easily understand what I am doing. Actually, they are still very young but I still keep my gambling activities secret.

However, children can learn to know about gambling through ads on TV and on the internet and that is why it is good to monitor what they are doing with their devices and also educate them on the consequences of gambling, so that it can be a guide for them as they are growing not to involve in gambling to the extend of becoming an addict.

Same with you, I also have two kids and even how busy am I working I never failed to check their devices, it's better to keep finding that time to make sure that there's nothing that will gain there attentions, though not just limited to gambling but also to other things that will attract their interest, like what you said, sometimes explaining is not enough as kids nowadays have more access to information and if you failed to guide them and make them understand chances that in their early age they might be hook to something that may develop inside them and you may find yourself late trying to expalin things out.

You know, the thing is, what you say might be true, and might be not. Such things might happen, or might never happen. It is a 50/50 chance, and in addition every human is different. But what you purpose is only one side of the coin.

Why someone should not gamble in front of his kids, when kids never get addicted, will never show interest to gambling, and are emotionally stable. This means such person will be hiding his gambling routine for nothing. The same as your might hide everything, but your kid will familiar with gambling on the street. You might be the most calm person in the world, but your kid might get crazy and start tearing off hair after loosing in rock-paper-scissors.

Again people say that "kid might get addicted". But nobody can tell what the kid is going to be in 10-15 years. And its parents duty to observe how their kids behave and changes. They are responsible for spotting that something is wrong and try to fix that. Also, how many cases of kids becoming addicted by watching their parents gamble you know? Probably 100 or 200, out of billion parents that have kids and at least once gamble in front of them or kids saw game of gambling.

I cannot get used to that kind of belief but I am trying. There are so many things that I see in my kid's YouTube history and sometimes I wonder how it all happened. Damn recommendations. Anyway, sometimes explanations are not enough or you have to repeat it to them over and over again so that they won't forget or they will remember it as soon as they go on that website, a game, or a video.
I have two kids who are both using a smartphone at an early age and thankfully they are more hooked into games but there will be times when they will get bored of it and that's when they switch to watching videos.
I still want to preserve their innocent minds so I don't explain things they cannot understand yet. I only pick those I think they would have an idea with and let them answer freely about what they think of it. Luckily, I don't see any gambling histories yet.

Of course, you are right that when a child sees their peers doing something they copy and try to learn, and they can learn quickly. When a person mentions gambling in front of his child, and he gambles, the child will learn about it gradually and at some point he will be attracted to gambling. Children always learn everything by watching their parents, so all persons should do everything behind the children to refrain from doing bad things and doing anything that could cause harm to children. It is by all means a guardian to be careful that his child does not learn and imitate gambling or any vice. So if you want to gamble, you must eat secretly, you should not play in front of a child. However, children can copy everything at a young age and what they can see and copy in their brains from childhood they will understand and focus on as they grow up.

Children now can copy what they see in front of them easily without other adult people knows and realizes. Children can understand something without asking so they can try by themselves if they thinks that thing is excited. They will not knows that is a wrong thing because their minds is not understand the name and other thing. They even can try with their friends without adult people knows and when they gets deeper and often playing gambling with their friends, that will trigger them to be a gambler. If no one is realizes about that, they can becomes addicted gambler and their parents will be too late to realizes that their children is change.

The other problem that children will gets is a changing of the emotion because when they see adult people or their father lose their money in gambling, their father will say many bad things and even their father can angry to other people around him. That can trigger another problem for children, especially if they often see that happens and will thinks that is usual thing.

I have written above about parents reputation. Of course the will gamble if he wants to gamble, no matter how hard you protect him from gambling or forbid it. A person can not control kids 24/7 or turn their life like they are living on a leash. However, parents reputation can be so high, that kids will trust parents opinion more than some other kid on the street. I hope that works with my kid. I hope that when I am not around, my kid dont something stupid or illegal. I dont know how to explain it properly, I have built relationship with my kid not like father and daughter, but like father+friend and daughter. I try to be on the same wave with kids of her age and little bit above, and direct it to a more positive direction.

Now about gambling, we have tried playing some gambling games at home. She had little interest to it. I dont think that she will try to gamble on the street to get some money (because she tries to earn for a new mobile). She earns a little by helping her mother doing house work. My solution with kid and gambling situation is quite simple. My kid is busy most of the time. Doing something creative, sports, reading, limited gadget time (this applied to all family members, I find it fair to do like this), hanging out outside. I believe that kid is so busy, that dont have time for gambling.

Perfectly said because this is what is really causing problem in some many families today and is very wrong sometimes I used to wonder why some elderly people will sit in the front of their children and be doing gambling research without noing that it we going to lead them into gambling tomorrow, although just like one family their father is a gambler and when ever his doing gambling focast he normally do it in front of him children and he was thinking that he is doing good to him children without noing that he is paving way for them into getting addicted to gambling today na the family is on fire, that is why is not really good to they gamble in front of  your children.

Gambling in front of the children shouldn't happen because children at young age don't have their own opinion they copy all what their parents do, not until they asked them to learn from but one thing with children even by watching they are learning, doing all sorts of bad things in from of them is actually wrong, even the father that his engage gambling faces a lot of challenges in process of gambling, he know what he felt when he lost and again father can be able to control himself when gambling, he knows when money has finished and he face the consequences of any thing that happened since he is an adult. But when it come to children issue father will the responsibility, we shouldn't gamble in their presence to avoid future problems that can be out of hand.

I've emphasized on this before, but let me say it again that, a child that will gamble will gamble, regardless of how the  parents try to keep him or her away from adult contents (like online Casino ads, and they themselves(parents) not gambling in the front of their kids).

It is imperative  or very important for us to know that what our kids do not learn while at home, they will definitely learn it when they are in school if they are keeping the wrong company, and it is absolutely impossible for parents to be with their kids 24 hours a day.
So, as much as we try our possible best as parents, to make sure our kids are only exposed to online contents that is healthy for them and their growing up, it's also very important that we pay very close attention to the type of people they are hanging out with while in school, doesnt matter if the ward is a child or adult, wrong friends is how many people get destroyed.

Good for you! You showed your kids that you worth of respect not through use of force but through examples. Not many parents can say that rightfully. And yet you understand that a teenager will be doing everything not like you said. I admire you. Being a father myself, I can say that you really know how to raise your kids.


Again, what can I say? I couldn't agree more. Normally, it's not easy to find the right words for your little kids to explain that they shouldn't gamble before time, but I'm sure you'll find them.

I am not a tyrant in my family, but my kid respect and trust me. I have proved that I am more smart and experienced, and made kid understand that. So when I tell dont touch the fire you will get hurt, the kid listens to me. And when I say that "you are to young to gamble right now, but let me explain why" that usually works. The kid listen to what I say. I am lucky that I try to give much explanations and "how would be better" now, when kid is not a teenager yet. Because a teenager will do all opposite to what I tell.


I am the follower of the idea "simply banning, prohibiting, saying no" never works. That only postpones everything. Better explain today and get less problems in future.

It's never so easy. Or, at least, in many cases it's not. If you don't want to be a tyrant and you want your kids were open-minded and free-thinking individuals, you can't expect absolute obedience from them.


That's what I totally agree with! Don't forbid them touching it until they 18(btw, I think it's better to wait until 20), don't hide it from them(because it's impossible actually), but rather explain it to them on the language they can understand at their current age.

You are absolutely right by saying that some adjustments must be done. For example, every kid nowadays have a devices with internet access. Any kid can watch any content when parents are not around. Even Youtube kids is not a safe anymore. Somehow bloggers and their content sneaked through filters. Not saying that it is a must to do adjustment, because not every kids intends to open casino site as quick as possible when adults are not around. But some kind of switch for safety mode must be done.