Topic: Never gamble in front of your kids. - page 30. (Read 8273 times)

Tough to say as there are parents who are not care enough with how young folks can easily adopt whatever they are witnessing with the way adults are doing in front of them, not just limited with gambling but every single activities that may trigger the interest of those kids, they can easily reaearch it using the the internet, you might be surprise finding them playing or doing things without a notice, remember that with an easy access to the online world, kids can simply duplicate things that you are doing, so it is needed to be curious and have that care about that unexpected impacts.

It's good if you feel that you don't deserve to gamble in front of your children because it can arouse your children's curiosity. Yes, there is a reason why adults watch adults games, and children should not see them because it can make them curious, and they will probably find out for themselves on their phones. It is unfortunate if there are adults who send underage children to gambling places, but it may still happen frequently in some places. Children do not deserve to be exposed to gambling, although we cannot deny that many children gamble with their friends. And only supervision and guidance from their parents can keep children away from gambling.

Children always start following things that happen practically in front of their eyes. Because of this, no parent should gamble in front of their child. Because seeing them, the child will also try to gamble because he thinks it is a good thing because his parents are also using it. Because of this not only gambling but all kinds of bad things should not be used in front of children. Then children will not get involved in bad habits like gambling very quickly

We should also live a modest lifestyle as parents by not being the loosed type that we don't exercise caution from the way we gamble tonthe extent of doing it right in front of our children, we must not be the reason why they got exposed to gambling no matter what, being a parent, we should live by example, we must be intentional about the way of our children upbringings, parents should give the necessary attention on their children and not to complicate on the way they are living their lives through what they saw from us doing.

I think I have to suspect that one of the children said or asked his father "daddy is looking for money", which is an assumption that should not be said by a child when they are in the harmonious state of being together enjoying a meal at a restaurant. I think the children would have been more likely to ask that when they saw their father sitting at the computer table, and with that it could be that my suspicion is correct that it seems that before that incident their son had seen another person who was also gambling slots and that person told the son that he was looking for money.

In such conditions, in my opinion, the more likely thing that can be asked by his son is "dad is playing a game", that makes more sense, because honestly I myself used to be when I didn't know at all what gambling was, especially slots, when I saw someone playing slots I spontaneously asked "are you playing a game" it was a formal question issued by people who did not have any ignorance about what gambling was. On the other hand I think the father did a pretty good job of ignoring his son's question but the problem is that overall the father is still wrong because he can't do something according to his portion, gambling not at the right time. I think it's better to hide all gambling activities, don't explain anything to children because it might make them more curious.

And now lot of children are starting to get to know gambling, even those who are still in school are already fond of gambling and make it habit that they do at all times if they have some money.
They usually use the money their parents gave them to use for gambling, the money given to them to buy food or their own needs is instead used for gambling.
I don't know how to overcome problem like this because children will be more difficult to control because they can gamble secretly anywhere and escape the attention of their parents.
Incidents like this have also had very negative impact and there have even been school children who went to prison or committed suicide because of the impact of gambling.
This is mistake and negligence of parents in providing education to their children.

The use of the internet via cellphone or PC by children in this era is very free and many of them also use it without any restrictions or supervision from parents and this is why children can be vulnerable to gambling activities.
They must be able to supervise and limit all children activities using the internet via cellphone or PC so that bad things related to gambling do not happen and do not make children curious to try it.

Personal I don't think it's right to gamble in front of children. My wife know that am a gambler but my children don't. I told my wife no matter the arguments we might have that she should never bring up my gambling life in front of our kids. I think there is a reason why they said gambling is for adults. Sometimes I see some some adults sending children to go and place bet for them in the gambling house and I tell them it's not good. If I see underage children in gambling places I send them back irrespective of whoever sent them to go place the bet on their behalf.

At certain age it is better not to give them the option to even think about certain substances and practices. It is like sex: why should you explain your 6 years old child about the risks of sex, when you can simply avoid that topic until he is older?

I think that the OP and you are right when you say that children are aware of what parents do, so better keep certain practices away from their attention until they are prepared to know about them, just like we do with other potentially harmful things.

There are two important things to know about this and get lessons.

First, the children know what their parents are doing and if they are involved in gambling at home, the children would know that the parents or dad is gambling and they also know that the reason of this is that their father is looking to get some quick money from gambling.

Secondly, to give the right direction to the kids, why not tell them that gambling involves risks too? If your dad is gambling, then he is taking a big risk and it is not necessary that he will win the game on the restaurant table. So this may put the right meaning of gambling in the mind of children.

Guiding children is a must for every parent so that their children do not take the wrong path and can live their lives well. Maybe it won't be easy because the current situation is very different from what their parents experienced when they were children. Parents are now required to be able to adapt to their surroundings so that they can adapt to their children's development. Parents cannot demand that their children follow their parents because they live in a different era and these children will continue their lives. But with good communication between parents and their children, a close relationship will definitely be established so that they can understand each other and can live their lives well too.

And if the parents' guidance is good and the children understand what the parents are explaining, the children will not take the wrong path. They will always be careful in their every action and also be careful with their relationships. We know that today's social interactions are very different from previous years, where with the internet, they feel bigger when searching for everything.

A few weeks ago I had a quite surprising experience while eating at a restaurant with my friends. At the opposite table, there was a family who also came complete with their 2 sons. I knew his father was playing slots because when I entered I passed the family table. the most surprising thing was when one of the children approached his father while looking at his father's smartphone and said "Dad is looking for money?" his father didn't answer and ignored him.
but from this situation, I can see how there are also parents who are open about gambling activities with their children. that they don't even know the negative impact it could have on their child. and also acceptance of perceptions regarding gambling games which are used as a way to make money.

So, how do we properly explain gambling to children? or better, we should keep gambling activities a secret from anyone.

Children will be easier to understand something and feel more interested in something when they try it or see it directly, it has a greater impact and influence than just listening in theory like in school. And on the other hand, as you said, especially if children see that the activity is carried out by one of their parents who is certainly always the center of their attention in their daily lives. We must realize and understand that children have feelings that tend to be more easily tempted, especially when they feel that it is fun and also on the other hand they have a very high curiosity about the new things they find.

The development of the times is very fast and now it is very modern in any case including technology, I more often see children today busy with their gadgets than reading books and if only initially they have seen gambling activities that you do then don't be surprised if suddenly you find them busy playing gadgets that turn out they have been involved in one of the online gambling situations, in addition to every casino lately always appears on some social media with a really big promotion, and that is a significant possibility.

children, they don't have much attachment to things when they are still small, we can see children from 2 years old to 10 years old playing on the phone or even watching children's animes and when they become adults they have nothing related to anime addiction or games, this is because even if a child spends every day watching anime or playing games for 5 years, that child is not aware of the importance of what he is doing, he does not get attached to anything he is doing. For that child, what he is doing at that moment only serves to have fun at that moment, nothing more.

Now when it comes to children aged 14 and over, things are more complicated because they are in the rebellious phase and have too many emotions, so if they just play games every day and don't do other things in the real world, then this child you will have a greater chance of becoming addicted to games and this has often happened because in families they bully a member of the family and as a consequence the member of the family who is bullied will go down the wrong path in order to forget what he suffers, and this bad path is drugs or they start drinking a lot to forget their problems and become addicted to alcohol or in other cases they become addicted to gambling.

but most cases of gambling addictions are not in children, they are in adults because at this stage people tend to worry a lot about money to pay bills, at this stage people get very frustrated when they can't get a job or when They cannot earn a salary that satisfies them and they resort to other methods to earn money and so people go to games of chance where they lose even more and in an attempt to recover the losses they lose money, and destroy their lives. anything that people do in an exaggerated way will always be harmful

Every type of addiction is really complicated, especially when it comes to children who have no idea how serious it is.

Whenever possible, parents should pay close attention to the slightest sign of inappropriate behavior by their children when playing or using the internet.

Some people literally underestimate a kid's capability to learn something by just observing or watching, just remember that some of the children follow or imitate their parents as they see them as the one that guides them in life. Just for example, you are a good chef, if they know that you are a good cook, most probably they would like to be a chef as well when they grow up things like that. Even if you told them that gambling shouldn't be done by kids, they could still do it secretly so once they find it entertaining as you also do it as well, then for sure they would do gambling without hesitation. If you can't handle your gambling habits as you know to yourself that gambling is not good if handled poorly, then as a responsible parent you wouldn't even teach them in the first place.

More important things in life is to guide our kids to the right pattern of life, doing things like gambling where the chance that they may gain interest of our children should be prevented, yes it's true that having good communication with your children may give them heads up and preventions, though it's a must not to allow yourself to create that interest,

I mean if you can play away from their site than better doing so, from that point you are both protecting yourself to influence them and you are also protecting them to learn about the gambling that you are involved with.

Yes, that's true because an unfavorable surrounding environment can have an impact on children's development so parents must provide more supervision over their children. Parents should start paying attention to who their children hang out with and try to communicate with them or at least want to know who their children's friends are. Most parents don't really care who their children's friends are, where they live, who their parents are and so on. By knowing what their children are doing, parents can at least pay more attention so that their children don't take the wrong path as they grow up. With guidance from parents, they can keep their children away from things that are inappropriate and inappropriate.

I agree with what you said. Children don't really imitate their parents. But children have a great opportunity to imitate their parents' activities. And I see that children have a high curiosity to try something. Usually they start by trying what their parents did. Parents who gamble in front of their children will record the activity and try it. This can have bad consequences because they are not yet mature enough to think and take a wise attitude. Maybe we gamble because it is a hobby and we only use our entertainment budget allocation. But children are different. They can become addicted because gambling produces pleasure when they win and curiosity when they lose. That's why gambling is legal in some countries with age restrictions. Children cannot control themselves like we adults. I think the most correct option is as has been said by @piebeyb. You are truly a true parent.

Finally we have a real parent here. As a parent, I would gladly discuss some things with you. It is 10000% correct that you prioritize time spending with kids, then gambling. But do you really think that your kid never saw you gambling? If you say no, then I wont believe in it. At least once your kid saw you gambling and have asked what are you doing. No matter what answer you have give, I am sure that reply was kind of "OK" or "I understand", and the kid went doing his own things. Or sit near and waited for you to be free (you calmly have closed either browser tab or logged out). I mean nothing bad really happened from that situation. Rift did not appear in the ground and the devil did not shout from there that the soul of your child now belongs to him.

This happens a lot, especially in the slum area where most parents are irresponsible and don't really care about the mental and emotional health of their children. They just loosely let them watch such kinds of activities until they become one of those guys and their parents no longer have any means to control them because they already gain muscles and strength. If you could only see how many cases of a son punching their father in our community back then just because their fathers wanted to discipline them, but what can you do when they already growing and you getting older as well? In the end, they became criminals and most of them are in jail right now just because of this kind of mistake caused by their parents.