Indeed, thinking about the horrors of this world makes me sad, too. How can one bring themselves to appreciate such a horrific god that would condemn any life to such terrors? That's definitely not a loving god. Not the way I understand love to be.
This seems to be an error we are fed all our lives, a wrathful or vengeful god. This is not an expression of love and not what I believe god to be either.
What we "believe god to be" is completely irrelevant.
I had a theology professor that once said he was annoyed with all the bumper stickers he was seeing around at that time that said, "God said it, I believe it, that settles it!." He said that they should read, "God said it, that settles it" because it really doesn't matter if we believe it or not.
I think many people are in danger of making god "in their own image" which really is a form of idolatry. To really know God, we have to study His character and this is done by reading the Bible in it's entirety, both the Old and the New Testament. We can also "know God" by spending time in prayer as well. He says, "His sheep know His voice." Unfortunately it seems lately the world likes to focus on the attributes of God that they like and just ignore the parts that they don't like. I have heard way too many sermons about "Gods grace" for example. Sure, God is gracious and forgiving and has endless love for those that are repentant and seek Him, but God is also a God of judgement for those that mock Him and those that are proud and deny Him. This should bring comfort to those that do feel that there are "horrors" in this world. God will eventually make all thinks right. Those that have hurt others, if unrepentant, will pay the penalty for their actions. All wrongs will be made right in the end.
Rather than know god by reading scripture, try the great experiment.. If you want to of course, express a genuine emotional curiosity to feel the emotion or love of the creator - maybe a genuine desire to get to know who this being is - If your desire is pure and emotion is put behind it (not just a mental desire but an emotional longing) what will happen next will show you who god really is and bring an understanding that is not wholly from you.
Try it (Unless you have already in which case awesome sauce)
http://www.reddit.com/r/CreatorOfTheUniverse/comments/2l0lga/the_great_experiment/