What to do if you're crazy about a girl that has a boyfriend? - page 4.

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Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 09, 2012, 02:48:11 PM

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Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

Yeah, yeah, I know...

sorry to rock the boat but i think thats bull shit. It took me 16 years to find 1 girl that wasnt a toxic piece of shit. There are NOT plenty of fish in the sea.

What you mean a "toxic piece of shit"?

I think he means exactly what he says

I'm sort of in that place right now, having a hard time finding the non-toxic girls, by that he means they're absolutely psychotic, if a girl has had multiple boyfriends within a year then it's for a reason.

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Quote from: gweedo on December 09, 2012, 12:16:52 PM

Quote from: Anon136 on December 09, 2012, 11:40:38 AM

Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 09, 2012, 11:11:18 AM

Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

Yeah, yeah, I know...

sorry to rock the boat but i think thats bull shit. It took me 16 years to find 1 girl that wasnt a toxic piece of shit. There are NOT plenty of fish in the sea.

What you mean a "toxic piece of shit"?

I think he means exactly what he says

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Quote from: Anon136 on December 09, 2012, 11:40:38 AM

Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 09, 2012, 11:11:18 AM

Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

Yeah, yeah, I know...

sorry to rock the boat but i think thats bull shit. It took me 16 years to find 1 girl that wasnt a toxic piece of shit. There are NOT plenty of fish in the sea.

What you mean a "toxic piece of shit"?

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Quote from: Anon136 on December 09, 2012, 11:40:38 AM

Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 09, 2012, 11:11:18 AM

Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

Yeah, yeah, I know...

sorry to rock the boat but i think thats bull shit. It took me 16 years to find 1 girl that wasnt a toxic piece of shit. There are NOT plenty of fish in the sea.

This has been my experience too

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Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 09, 2012, 10:59:34 AM

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Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Be bright and go for a younger girl. You should be looking at 21 and 22 year old girls based on your age. When your 40 and she's 43 you'll be scouting out younger ones anyway. However if you are 40 and see is 33, your girl will still be hot. With today's social networks you should be able to find another. Also check out the girls mother to see how should could turn out. Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

21/22 are in colleges... He should be shooting for 23-25, also different girls age differently.

Though at 31 girl tend to want to settle, so the question is if this girl picked a "husband". She may not be in-love with the guy.

"Picked a husband"... F*ck that's what I'm scared of! I hope not Sad

You could see hints of this happening. This phase usually occurs when he's taken to her mom's place a lot, and if they live together already. The extreme phase comes when they go out to shop groceries together. That's the husband phase. Tongue

Maybe stalk around for a bit?

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Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 09, 2012, 11:11:18 AM

Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

Yeah, yeah, I know...

sorry to rock the boat but i think thats bull shit. It took me 16 years to find 1 girl that wasnt a toxic piece of shit. There are NOT plenty of fish in the sea.

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Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

Yeah, yeah, I know...

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Quote from: vampire on December 09, 2012, 12:18:12 AM

Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Be bright and go for a younger girl. You should be looking at 21 and 22 year old girls based on your age. When your 40 and she's 43 you'll be scouting out younger ones anyway. However if you are 40 and see is 33, your girl will still be hot. With today's social networks you should be able to find another. Also check out the girls mother to see how should could turn out. Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

21/22 are in colleges... He should be shooting for 23-25, also different girls age differently.

Though at 31 girl tend to want to settle, so the question is if this girl picked a "husband". She may not be in-love with the guy.

"Picked a husband"... F*ck that's what I'm scared of! I hope not Sad

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Quote from: John (John K.) on December 09, 2012, 12:20:14 AM

Words of wisdom. Shocked

ROFL. I guess I am lucky I am 5 years older than my gf and her mom looks great at 50.

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Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Be bright and go for a younger girl. You should be looking at 21 and 22 year old girls based on your age. When your 40 and she's 43 you'll be scouting out younger ones anyway. However if you are 40 and see is 33, your girl will still be hot. With today's social networks you should be able to find another. Also check out the girls mother to see how should could turn out. Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

Words of wisdom. Shocked

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Quote from: Dunster on December 08, 2012, 09:50:58 PM

Be bright and go for a younger girl. You should be looking at 21 and 22 year old girls based on your age. When your 40 and she's 43 you'll be scouting out younger ones anyway. However if you are 40 and see is 33, your girl will still be hot. With today's social networks you should be able to find another. Also check out the girls mother to see how should could turn out. Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

21/22 are in colleges... He should be shooting for 23-25, also different girls age differently.

Though at 31 girl tend to want to settle, so the question is if this girl picked a "husband". She may not be in-love with the guy.

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Be bright and go for a younger girl. You should be looking at 21 and 22 year old girls based on your age. When your 40 and she's 43 you'll be scouting out younger ones anyway. However if you are 40 and see is 33, your girl will still be hot. With today's social networks you should be able to find another. Also check out the girls mother to see how should could turn out. Don't get too fixated on one girl its not healthy.

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Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 07, 2012, 11:55:50 AM

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Quote from: Anon136 on December 07, 2012, 10:46:48 AM

Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 02, 2012, 05:33:25 PM

Wow, all such great advice: fold, kill the guy, or kill the girl.

I'm thinking the best approach is to treat it like a background thread... drop some hints and monitor the situation, but generally speaking try not to bet on it and so keep on the lookout for something new.

It's easier said than done though... this one's a keeper. Dammit, this sucks monkey f*ck.

how much are you worth? as an an-cap my initial inclination is to say buy him out. If you are poor than fix that problem first then buy him out. If he cant be bought than perhaps you should consider being happy that the girl you love seems to have a really damn decent guy.

A lot depends on what life phase you are in. So how old are you? And how old is the girl?
What is the setting: is she a peer at the workplace? A girl from the uni campus? A high-school sweetheart?
What do we know about the current boyfriend? Is he a macho bad guy, a rocker, or a well tailored and rich businessman?

I'm 28, she's 31. The BF doesn't seem that macho, and certainly not wealthy. I'm pretty sure I have significantly more cash than this guy, probably by at least a factor of 10. She's a girl at work.

I feel petty comparing myself in this way though, as he seems to be a nice guy, but these are still the facts.

you:"hey bub here's 10 thousand dollars now get lost" him:"hell yea" girl:"you payed 10,000 dollars just for me? my hero!"

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Quote from: JohnBigheart on December 07, 2012, 11:02:16 AM

Quote from: Anon136 on December 07, 2012, 10:46:48 AM

Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 02, 2012, 05:33:25 PM

Wow, all such great advice: fold, kill the guy, or kill the girl.

I'm thinking the best approach is to treat it like a background thread... drop some hints and monitor the situation, but generally speaking try not to bet on it and so keep on the lookout for something new.

It's easier said than done though... this one's a keeper. Dammit, this sucks monkey f*ck.

how much are you worth? as an an-cap my initial inclination is to say buy him out. If you are poor than fix that problem first then buy him out. If he cant be bought than perhaps you should consider being happy that the girl you love seems to have a really damn decent guy.

A lot depends on what life phase you are in. So how old are you? And how old is the girl?
What is the setting: is she a peer at the workplace? A girl from the uni campus? A high-school sweetheart?
What do we know about the current boyfriend? Is he a macho bad guy, a rocker, or a well tailored and rich businessman?

I'm 28, she's 31. The BF doesn't seem that macho, and certainly not wealthy. I'm pretty sure I have significantly more cash than this guy, probably by at least a factor of 10. She's a girl at work.

I feel petty comparing myself in this way though, as he seems to be a nice guy, but these are still the facts.

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Quote from: JohnBigheart on December 07, 2012, 11:02:16 AM

Quote from: Anon136 on December 07, 2012, 10:46:48 AM

Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 02, 2012, 05:33:25 PM

Wow, all such great advice: fold, kill the guy, or kill the girl.

I'm thinking the best approach is to treat it like a background thread... drop some hints and monitor the situation, but generally speaking try not to bet on it and so keep on the lookout for something new.

It's easier said than done though... this one's a keeper. Dammit, this sucks monkey f*ck.

how much are you worth? as an an-cap my initial inclination is to say buy him out. If you are poor than fix that problem first then buy him out. If he cant be bought than perhaps you should consider being happy that the girl you love seems to have a really damn decent guy.

A lot depends on what life phase you are in. So how old are you? And how old is the girl?
What is the setting: is she a peer at the workplace? A girl from the uni campus? A high-school sweetheart?
What do we know about the current boyfriend? Is he a macho bad guy, a rocker, or a well tailored and rich businessman?

yea that was definitely oversimplification but i just wanted to get the idea out there

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Quote from: Anon136 on December 07, 2012, 10:46:48 AM

Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 02, 2012, 05:33:25 PM

Wow, all such great advice: fold, kill the guy, or kill the girl.

I'm thinking the best approach is to treat it like a background thread... drop some hints and monitor the situation, but generally speaking try not to bet on it and so keep on the lookout for something new.

It's easier said than done though... this one's a keeper. Dammit, this sucks monkey f*ck.

how much are you worth? as an an-cap my initial inclination is to say buy him out. If you are poor than fix that problem first then buy him out. If he cant be bought than perhaps you should consider being happy that the girl you love seems to have a really damn decent guy.

A lot depends on what life phase you are in. So how old are you? And how old is the girl?
What is the setting: is she a peer at the workplace? A girl from the uni campus? A high-school sweetheart?
What do we know about the current boyfriend? Is he a macho bad guy, a rocker, or a well tailored and rich businessman?

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Quote from: BrightAnarchist on December 02, 2012, 05:33:25 PM

Wow, all such great advice: fold, kill the guy, or kill the girl.

I'm thinking the best approach is to treat it like a background thread... drop some hints and monitor the situation, but generally speaking try not to bet on it and so keep on the lookout for something new.

It's easier said than done though... this one's a keeper. Dammit, this sucks monkey f*ck.

how much are you worth? as an an-cap my initial inclination is to say buy him out. If you are poor than fix that problem first then buy him out. If he cant be bought than perhaps you should consider being happy that the girl you love seems to have a really damn decent guy.

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