That's even more true in times of war. Take World War 2 for example, the Americans didn't even get involved in it for the first 3 years, and only came in until the Axis showed both capability and will to attack US mainland.
Even during these days where 3 wars are going on (energy, food and the armed conflict in Ukraine) US is seeking its own benefits and is using EU (the "friends") instead of helping them. They sometimes even use them as cannon fodder like Australia and Taiwan against China, South Korean against North Korea, etc.
It's probably because the United States of America was also worried about another "Empire" from the East, Japan, which was also having its own expansion of its war in Asia which also included China. We can't point fingers why they were late in entering World War II, but the probability is high that the war would have taken longer than 6 or 7 years without the Americans. Or it might also have given the Axis Forces a better probability to win.