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But telling someone to their face or worse, to someone else, that one is an addict, as if it were diagnosed fact, can be wrong and very harming to one's reputation.

In my opinion, it is a poor idea to reprimand a gambler because no one knows what brought him into the system; he was possibly duped or needs extra money to pay his bills. It's the truth, but telling someone face to face is simply not providing assistance because addicts can still resuscitate themselves and become responsible tomorrow, the only thing is that they haven't made that decision yet. Spoiling one's reputation, especially if he is a high-ranking employee, would undoubtedly exhaust him and result in a demotion at his level. So I would advise us to keep any negative ideas about someone to ourselves and to mind our own business.
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But telling someone to their face or worse, to someone else, that one is an addict, as if it were diagnosed fact, can be wrong and very harming to one's reputation.

Therefore, having reputation is not visible for an addict, that is why giving them help is mostly by initially out of their will , that means the third party has to act for them by taking the decision to help him out of it.
If you can get an addicted gambler out of his addiction, it can be certainly a good work. However, I have seen several gamblers who were addicted gamblers but presented themselves as if they were not gambling. Once when a person advised one of addicted gamblers about his gambling addiction, he became angry with him and harassed him in various ways. So it is good to give advice but It is better to do whatever the situation dictates.
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But telling someone to their face or worse, to someone else, that one is an addict, as if it were diagnosed fact, can be wrong and very harming to one's reputation.


I think a real addict doesn't have much to do with reputation anymore because if he does, he won't have to get to the level of addict, he would place some limit to himself because at that point he is still in control of himself and emotion which makes him to be cautious of his actions. Someone is an addict because he has lost self control to limit himself on his gambling playing habit. Therefore, having reputation is not visible for an addict, that is why giving them help is mostly by initially out of their will , that means the third party has to act for them by taking the decision to help him out of it.
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Certainly an addict will always refuse whatever is given to him to diagnose if he is truly a gambling addict.
I'm not sure if gambling addicts are willing to do a test to find out their condition because they will always refuse on the grounds that their mentality and mind are already affected by their addiction so they don't take this addiction too seriously.
Gambling addicts can only be cured if they use forced methods to come to a psychology doctor to undergo examination and rehabilitation and after that maybe gambling addicts will understand a little about their addiction.

Using coercion may be the only way when nothing else can be done to persuade the addict to undergo testing, but the family must agree.
but more people will not think about whether they are being checked or not because everything seemed fine before the disaster came. There will be many negative impacts when the addict continues to live with his addiction, which will certainly have an impact on the environment he lives in. They will tend to be more aggressive and criminal thoughts to earn gambling money will be higher. Take action immediately when some danger threatens.
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Any form of addiction would face a denial stage where they would neglect listening to opinions and observations by the people around them. Most of them are aware that they are spending too much time in gambling but they couldn't notice personally that they are really into gambling addiction. They will surely feel offended and will deny other people's observations as their defense but I don't think telling or informing them that they are already addicted to gambling would stop them from excessive playing.
To occasional gamblers, it will surely hurt their feelings unless it will be delivered in a good manner where they could also explain their side and defend themselves. Of course, most of us are protecting our image and being referred as a gambling addict is a heavy thing for us to bear.
Telling the person that he has a gambling addiction is necessary so that he can begin to change for the better. And even though he may get angry or deny or even distance himself from us, we should try to approach and tell him, especially if he is a family member. Who else will tell him and pull him out of gambling if not us? Maybe we need to find another approach that can make them open their minds and finally realize that they are already addicted to gambling and start looking for ways to overcome their gambling addiction.
Therein lies the most serious problem to start approaching before telling if he has started gambling addiction.
Because those who are addicted to gambling always cannot accept words from other people as if they are already skeptical of other people and he feels that everything is fine because he is mentally disturbed and has difficulty accepting any suggestions.
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Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.
This is really true no one wants to accept the bad character they are attributed to, even a thief who clearly sees that he is a thief will still deny it. Addicted gamblers are worse they also deny when people refer to them as an addict and they easily get annoyed when they are being called an addict. I have seen someone fight his friends for calling him an addicted gambler. Being addicted is not a good thing but equally its not that bad when you can accept it and work towards reducing your addiction for it, it may be difficult but not impossible.
I won’t like being called an addict but I won’t find it offensive either. If i am one i would easily accept who i am and work towards reducing it because i will be ashamed when people call me an addict.

It's a shame when you realize and accept that it was true, but like what you said most of those gamblers who still in a denial stage of their addiction they will not accept that and they will get mad at you when you tell them things about their addictions, they are not willing to take that word as they think they can still control and they are just enjoying and trying to kill up some time.

But when they are already in the stage where acceptance is already shining in their minds, that shame will be there and they will seek
help if they are already willing to move away from this addiction.
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This is so on point.

If you really care for someone, you will point out their shortcomings so that they can do better. It will help them address the things that needs to be straightened in order to be the better version of themselves. But of course, it is needed that we do it in a caring and concern manner, not in an insulting and condescending way that they will feel bad about themselves.
There are times that we take it personally even if the person is just caring for us and telling us what we're at. Although the concern of those that addresses people who are really addicted in gambling and needs some control should be taken into account.

Because instead of helping out, you may come off as aggressive and bully to them that they have to avoid.
That's right, people are aggressive when they're being addressed but I think if I'll be called that, I can't also deny that I may feel the same thing as what the others feel that way.
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Any form of addiction would face a denial stage where they would neglect listening to opinions and observations by the people around them. Most of them are aware that they are spending too much time in gambling but they couldn't notice personally that they are really into gambling addiction. They will surely feel offended and will deny other people's observations as their defense but I don't think telling or informing them that they are already addicted to gambling would stop them from excessive playing.
To occasional gamblers, it will surely hurt their feelings unless it will be delivered in a good manner where they could also explain their side and defend themselves. Of course, most of us are protecting our image and being referred as a gambling addict is a heavy thing for us to bear.
Telling the person that he has a gambling addiction is necessary so that he can begin to change for the better. And even though he may get angry or deny or even distance himself from us, we should try to approach and tell him, especially if he is a family member. Who else will tell him and pull him out of gambling if not us? Maybe we need to find another approach that can make them open their minds and finally realize that they are already addicted to gambling and start looking for ways to overcome their gambling addiction.

This is so on point.

If you really care for someone, you will point out their shortcomings so that they can do better. It will help them address the things that needs to be straightened in order to be the better version of themselves. But of course, it is needed that we do it in a caring and concern manner, not in an insulting and condescending way that they will feel bad about themselves. Because instead of helping out, you may come off as aggressive and bully to them that they have to avoid.
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Telling the person that he has a gambling addiction is necessary so that he can begin to change for the better.
We can't distory the reality if we're diagnosed or verified that we're addicted gamblers. But one thing that we can do is to deny that in front of those that have said. It's up to the person that's been said as an addicted gambler whether to admit that or not because we have no option but to accept the reality eventually.

And even though he may get angry or deny or even distance himself from us, we should try to approach and tell him, especially if he is a family member. Who else will tell him and pull him out of gambling if not us? Maybe we need to find another approach that can make them open their minds and finally realize that they are already addicted to gambling and start looking for ways to overcome their gambling addiction.
An addicted gambler will have to get the hard fact about himself, some may be in denial at first but the acceptance will come. Because he'll also see that there's something wrong with his attitude if a person addresses or is concern with his status.
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Any form of addiction would face a denial stage where they would neglect listening to opinions and observations by the people around them. Most of them are aware that they are spending too much time in gambling but they couldn't notice personally that they are really into gambling addiction. They will surely feel offended and will deny other people's observations as their defense but I don't think telling or informing them that they are already addicted to gambling would stop them from excessive playing.
To occasional gamblers, it will surely hurt their feelings unless it will be delivered in a good manner where they could also explain their side and defend themselves. Of course, most of us are protecting our image and being referred as a gambling addict is a heavy thing for us to bear.
Telling the person that he has a gambling addiction is necessary so that he can begin to change for the better. And even though he may get angry or deny or even distance himself from us, we should try to approach and tell him, especially if he is a family member. Who else will tell him and pull him out of gambling if not us? Maybe we need to find another approach that can make them open their minds and finally realize that they are already addicted to gambling and start looking for ways to overcome their gambling addiction.
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Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.

Very hard to answer, but for sure there will be gamblers not willing to admit that they are addicted and be called with that name. They are going to defend to death that they are not that kind of person, but instead just playing to have some fun. But we all know that it's not the case since addicted one has that psychology to not disclose everything.

So it's not only difficult to accept, but I think it will be offending too. And it's a sensitive matter, so I guess we just need to be very careful as this is a delicate. We don't know what will be their reaction is, if you call and identify them.
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I think I would be very insulted if somebody called me any kind of addict, regardless of whether its a gambling addict, drug addict, alcohol or smoking addict. It is understood as an insult to those who are not addicts. Now, if somebody would tell me that I am expressing symptoms of addiction , then that is not something I would get mad at. I would question the person and make a judgement of myself, should the facts all check out.

It is imperative that one understands why one is being associated as an addict. But telling someone to their face or worse, to someone else, that one is an addict, as if it were diagnosed fact, can be wrong and very harming to one's reputation.

Someone will only call you an addict if they have seen too much of what or what you prioritise. This may not sit well with you, but such a scenario can be seen as a wake up call to evaluate yourself to see if you truly fall into that category. As I previously stated, being addicted to something isn't all that bad as long as you're making something positive out of it. However, the ideal approach to use anything is to have control over it, not the other way around; don't allow it rule you; instead, you control it.

Remember that what is worthwhile is worthwhile to achieve well.
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Well, this is what you really have to feel.
As long as we don't feel disturbed by the gambling activities we are doing, and don't disturb other people because we gamble with our own money, why do we feel we have to really care about what other people say.
We just have to focus on ourselves regardless of whether we are addicts or not as long as we can still share finances well and as long as we don't feel like we are doing things that are out of bounds then it doesn't matter because we can do whatever we like as long as it is in accordance with the portion regardless of whether it's addiction or not as long as it's not burdensome then it still doesn't matter.
Even though addicts are actually at greater risk, as long as we know the rules that we treat ourselves and as long as we comply with these rules, it's not a big problem.
I agree with you and indeed when we gamble using our own money and don't disturb other people, then there is no need to care about other people's bad words.
But if you are already addicted, there are some things that can harm other people, such as borrowing money and also committing crimes to be able to continue gambling.
So it's natural that many people look bad at gambling activities and often say words that are inappropriate for us as gamblers.

As long as we can be responsible and never disturb other people, we can be said to be wise gamblers.
As I did, as long as it doesn't disturb other people, it doesn't matter, but when it comes to borrowing, it means it has become a disturbance to other people because of gambling addiction.
the conditions are slightly different when talking about this because indeed this will slightly damage our self-image. I don't have a problem with the views of other people who say I am a gambling addict or not because I have never done anything that harmed other people, be it in borrowing money or doing other things that made them lose so I don't feel there is a problem with that because I feel myself what kind of gambling and that is what really matters here. It would be a different story if indeed we gambled and were considered addicts and still harmed other people.
Whether we don't care about what people say or feel on this subject matter doesn't matter, we should still strive to ensure that we moderate everything. Even if it's our money and did not borrow it, it still doesn't mean that we should be wasting it, everything we do including gambling should be done responsibly and be void of letting our conscience prick us about doing it badly.

In other words, we should be the judge of ourselves whether or not what we are doing is good. And if gambling has become an addict and you are wasting your money despite not borrowing it, then you should never be proud of yourself but rather fight to stop it.
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Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.

I think I would be very insulted if somebody called me any kind of addict, regardless of whether its a gambling addict, drug addict, alcohol or smoking addict. It is understood as an insult to those who are not addicts. Now, if somebody would tell me that I am expressing symptoms of addiction , then that is not something I would get mad at. I would question the person and make a judgement of myself, should the facts all check out.

It is imperative that one understands why one is being associated as an addict. But telling someone to their face or worse, to someone else, that one is an addict, as if it were diagnosed fact, can be wrong and very harming to one's reputation.



That's a good opinion mate, calling you directly that you are already an addict to whatever types of addiction is really something that can be taken as an insult. But if someone gives you an opinion or an observation that you are taking so deep and your engagement is no longer normal, that's something you need to take and think about. I agree when you are still unsure or you still don't accept that your engagement is already far from the usual.

Chosen words is also important when you are giving some opinion about a person who are already having difficulty in controlling their gambling participation, if they are still open for any criticism they can re-assess and change their ways, but if they are already addicted, that's something that really hard to take.
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Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.

I think I would be very insulted if somebody called me any kind of addict, regardless of whether its a gambling addict, drug addict, alcohol or smoking addict. It is understood as an insult to those who are not addicts. Now, if somebody would tell me that I am expressing symptoms of addiction , then that is not something I would get mad at. I would question the person and make a judgement of myself, should the facts all check out.

It is imperative that one understands why one is being associated as an addict. But telling someone to their face or worse, to someone else, that one is an addict, as if it were diagnosed fact, can be wrong and very harming to one's reputation.

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Would be worse if there's no professional diagnosis 'coz you'd be stereotyped or labeled in that case and there's no one who deserve such kind of treatment. Addiction is not limited to symptoms alone, this is why we have professionals in this field. There'll be tests to be conducted in order to determine a condition.

However, are those who are indicated to be an addict willing to take a test to find out their condition? People who are really addicts will consider themselves fine and do not need any tests and sometimes they are undetectable so it is difficult to determine whether they are addicts or not. Those who become addicts are already mentally attacked, so any advice given will be denied. Rehabilitation needs to be done to control their addiction to gambling.
Certainly an addict will always refuse whatever is given to him to diagnose if he is truly a gambling addict.
I'm not sure if gambling addicts are willing to do a test to find out their condition because they will always refuse on the grounds that their mentality and mind are already affected by their addiction so they don't take this addiction too seriously.
Gambling addicts can only be cured if they use forced methods to come to a psychology doctor to undergo examination and rehabilitation and after that maybe gambling addicts will understand a little about their addiction.
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Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.
everyone will definitely refuse if they are said to have an addiction to something especially when it comes to gambling addiction (which still has bad stereotypes in society in several states), but you don't reject the term "gambling addict" said by other people to you when you are indeed identified as having that history (such as gambling for hours and having debt because of the gambling you are experiencing)

(if i am a gambling addict) when i admit that i am slowly but surely becoming a gambling addict then the possibility that i will recover in the future will be great, the people closest to me will help me recover from it, so there is nothing wrong with admitting it.
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Would be worse if there's no professional diagnosis 'coz you'd be stereotyped or labeled in that case and there's no one who deserve such kind of treatment. Addiction is not limited to symptoms alone, this is why we have professionals in this field. There'll be tests to be conducted in order to determine a condition.

However, are those who are indicated to be an addict willing to take a test to find out their condition? People who are really addicts will consider themselves fine and do not need any tests and sometimes they are undetectable so it is difficult to determine whether they are addicts or not. Those who become addicts are already mentally attacked, so any advice given will be denied. Rehabilitation needs to be done to control their addiction to gambling.
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As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.
If someone calls me an addicted gambler, I will definitely protest because I am not an addicted gambler. Moreover, gambling is looked down upon in many societies. To ask such a question is a direct insult. If I were an addicted gambler I would never reacted on this issue. But since I'm not, to say I'm an addicted gambler means I can't control myself, I am wasting a lot of money etc. associated with an addicted gambler which is difficult for any responsible gambler to accept the word. Moreover, an addicted gambler does not want to be known as an addicted.

No reasonable person would label you as an addictive gambler if you are not one; but, if you are being tagged as such then there may be something you are doing wrong as a gambler, and you should check yourself. Being an addictive gambler is not a bad thing as long as you make a living from it. Some people use gambling as a side hustle, while others see it as a job and put their entire life on the line for it, not caring if they are labelled as an addictive gambler or not. One can be addicted while still controlling how much he wagers, and that is what matters as a gambler, not how often you play.


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As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.
If someone calls me an addicted gambler, I will definitely protest because I am not an addicted gambler. Moreover, gambling is looked down upon in many societies. To ask such a question is a direct insult. If I were an addicted gambler I would never reacted on this issue. But since I'm not, to say I'm an addicted gambler means I can't control myself, I am wasting a lot of money etc. associated with an addicted gambler which is difficult for any responsible gambler to accept the word. Moreover, an addicted gambler does not want to be known as an addicted.
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