Topic: Will you find it offensive to be referred to as an addicted gambler? - page 8. (Read 1444 times)

But most addicted gamblers will not stop even though they already know they are addicted to gambling. They can easily deny it and show proof that they are not a gambling addict. But some gamblers who are addicted to gambling and find out that they are gambling addicts will be offended and even angry at people who say that. They would probably say it was none of their business, knowing he was a gambling addict. It is very difficult to tell someone affected by gambling addiction, but if it is a family member, we must warn him and ask him to heal himself.

Perfectly understandable. A whole lot of addicts wouldn’t actually realize they’re addicts unless being told to their face or perhaps when they’re trying to stop the habit and finds out that it’s not as easy to stop as it initially was when first starting out.
I can understand when an addicted gambler takes offense when being told to his face that he’s addicted. Denial is a phase when the person doesn’t believe he/she can get addicted and denial in itself could hinder any thoughts of trying to get better cause in the mind, there is no addiction to get out of.

I agree with you and indeed when we gamble using our own money and don't disturb other people, then there is no need to care about other people's bad words.
But if you are already addicted, there are some things that can harm other people, such as borrowing money and also committing crimes to be able to continue gambling.
So it's natural that many people look bad at gambling activities and often say words that are inappropriate for us as gamblers.

As long as we can be responsible and never disturb other people, we can be said to be wise gamblers.

Well, this is what you really have to feel.
As long as we don't feel disturbed by the gambling activities we are doing, and don't disturb other people because we gamble with our own money, why do we feel we have to really care about what other people say.
We just have to focus on ourselves regardless of whether we are addicts or not as long as we can still share finances well and as long as we don't feel like we are doing things that are out of bounds then it doesn't matter because we can do whatever we like as long as it is in accordance with the portion regardless of whether it's addiction or not as long as it's not burdensome then it still doesn't matter.
Even though addicts are actually at greater risk, as long as we know the rules that we treat ourselves and as long as we comply with these rules, it's not a big problem.

Perfectly understandable. A whole lot of addicts wouldn’t actually realize they’re addicts unless being told to their face or perhaps when they’re trying to stop the habit and finds out that it’s not as easy to stop as it initially was when first starting out.
I can understand when an addicted gambler takes offense when being told to his face that he’s addicted. Denial is a phase when the person doesn’t believe he/she can get addicted and denial in itself could hinder any thoughts of trying to get better cause in the mind, there is no addiction to get out of.

if you tell a gambler who you think is addicted that he or she is an addict, and he or she picks an offense, do not blame such a gambler because it's very possible he or she is yet to realize he's or she's addicted, they can only discover when they decide to stop gambling but realize they are finding it difficult to stop.

The most important thing in this condition is that we only have to focus on ourselves because if we only refer to other people's words we will only feel more burdened by it.
Regardless of other people's views whether we are a gambling addict or not, that is their view, we don't have to prove anything with this because it will only add to the burden they accuse us of.
The most important thing is that we don't harm other people, as for gambling activities, we feel that as long as we don't mind spending money and don't have problems with the closest people or partners just because gambling is enough.

Many people find it difficult to accept who they are and the bad habits that they have, accepting a habit is the first step that will determine if any help offered to you will work. As a gambler, will you find it offensive if you are referred to as a gambling addict? will you easily accept it or try to give excuses like some other people do, saying that they are not addicted to gambling when the signs are clearly there. Do you think identifying as an addicted gambler will make people stereotype you. The answer is different for every gambler here.

I don’t think being addicted to gambling will make me offend anymore. So what? As long as you are not causing someone’s life into jeopardy then being addicted to gambling will never be a big issue. And the fact that it’s my own funds that I’ve been spending the whole time while gambling so my addiction should never be an issue at all. However, for some beginners who easily fall into gambling addiction might be hard for them to admit that they are gambling addicts, and would want to deny it as much as they can.

I think if someone is truly addicted to gambling and then takes offense when being referred to as an addicted gambler, that person will likely not change any time soon.
A man that’s a gambling addict would only truly change for the better if he first realizes and tells himself the truth that he’s addicted and then makes up his mind to quit the addiction. Only then would change occur.

Addiction creeps in slowly and most times unnoticed. And I think if you find it offensive when referred to as an addictive gambler, then most likely you’re slowly creeping into addiction if not there yet.

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Addiction creeps in slowly and most times unnoticed. And I think if you find it offensive when referred to as an addictive gambler, then most likely you’re slowly creeping into addiction if not there yet.

Would be worse if there's no professional diagnosis 'coz you'd be stereotyped or labeled in that case and there's no one who deserve such kind of treatment. Addiction is not limited to symptoms alone, this is why we have professionals in this field. There'll be tests to be conducted in order to determine a condition.

We can see it from another perspective and even discuss it from different perspectives. Being offended is basically a common thing, which can be experienced by us at any time, including in this case gambling addicts. for example, a person will be offended if he is judged in front of his family that he is a gambling addict. or, another example, someone is not aware that they have become part of the gambler. then, someone said that you have become an addict. as a result, there will be various reactions depending on each individual. one example we can take, as you say, they will react by denying that they are not gambling addicts. within reason, just doing it for fun. so the point is, being offended is normal. moreover, a person was in a situation to defend himself.


Yep, in fact, there are many of us who even deny it, even though we consciously know that we have become part of a gambling addict. referring to what you said, the more we come back, the stronger our indication of addiction. so, automatically what you say refers to ourselves. the question is, is it appropriate for us to say that we are part of the addict himself, even though with the excuse of doing it just for fun. for me, it's not a problem at all. because, I know very well what I do with my gambling activities. anyway, there are good points from what you say. we need to realize, so as not to get out of control.

Yes, I agree with you, as long as we don't harm other people, why should we listen to what they have to say? in this context those who say something that is not pleasant to hear or something like that. It's different if they advise me, even if I'm not addicted, then I will be happy to listen to their advice.
If I'm addicted and out of control maybe I'll be resentful and angry when I'm counseled, similarly we'll get angry when people say things we don't want to hear about us.
And maybe if I feel that I can't control myself, I will ask for help from the people closest to me and also those I can trust, so that they always remind me when I am out of control in gambling. That is something that will be very helpful in my opinion, because they will not hesitate to remind us, and we will definitely accept it, because when they start talking something wrong might have happened to me.

The moment a gambling addict identifies as a addict, he is half way to recovery. But not wanting to be called a wanted a gambling addict is living in denial of the severity of the addiction. In gambling anonymous meetings you would hear something that goes like this, "Hello, my name is Tiger and I a gambling addict."
There are over  one billion gamblers worldwide, being called a gambler going to make me get offended but being called an addict will get me offended because I would take it as an insult from a lay person.

I don’t think being addicted to gambling will make me offend anymore. So what? As long as you are not causing someone’s life into jeopardy then being addicted to gambling will never be a big issue. And the fact that it’s my own funds that I’ve been spending the whole time while gambling so my addiction should never be an issue at all.

I don’t think being addicted to gambling will make me offend anymore. So what? As long as you are not causing someone’s life into jeopardy then being addicted to gambling will never be a big issue. And the fact that it’s my own funds that I’ve been spending the whole time while gambling so my addiction should never be an issue at all. However, for some beginners who easily fall into gambling addiction might be hard for them to admit that they are gambling addicts, and would want to deny it as much as they can.

I don’t think being addicted to gambling will make me offend anymore. So what? As long as you are not causing someone’s life into jeopardy then being addicted to gambling will never be a big issue. And the fact that it’s my own funds that I’ve been spending the whole time while gambling so my addiction should never be an issue at all.