Topic: Your gambling life could affect your relatives lifes. - page 20. (Read 2533 times)

The person in question whose family had to go to various gambling houses to place a restriction on their relative from gambling actually seem to be approaching this case wrongly because this is a case of addiction and going to various gambling house to place such restrictions will only cause the addicted fellow to device another means to satisfying his urge.

The addicted fellow at this point needs help and in oder to help this addict, Firstly you need to make him understand that their habit isn't a healthy one and you can only do that properly in love and calmly but when you try to do it forcefully they will only find a way around your restrictions and continue with their habits, such persons may even needed as much as professional help probably from a therapist . Such person could relocate to a different destination so that they can gain freedom to continue since there's a restriction around their current environment.

one way to prevent such addiction is to address potential indications at early stage rather than when you are already too deep in this addictive vice. or much better if you always have self-assessment of yourself on what's going on with your gambling life. it is easy to pause or stop this habit if you are still very clear with yourself about what's going on with yourself.


most of the time, the immediate family is the one suffering on this type of addiction, gambling or drugs or any kind of vice. because let's look at the financial facet of every vice. if the family is not wealthy, and financial troubles and one member of the family is into any of this addiction, they will suffer more when it comes to finances. there's no problem if the family is rich enough to accommodate his vices, because it is the person himself will suffer the worst consequences brought by his addiction.

This is a common problem for individuals who do not view gambling as a form of entertainment and find themselves unable to control their gambling habits. If you or someone you know is facing this situation, it is important to seek help from specialized doctors who can provide psychological support and guidance. Family and friends can also play a crucial role in providing support and encouragement to those seeking help. Personally, I have not experienced such addiction, but I understand the importance of seeking help if necessary. I always make sure to stay within my limits and avoid going beyond them.

This is true, being hooked on gambling even if not totally addicted to it can also affect relationship.  Some of the instances are:

Neglecting the needs of the family, like attention and finance since the person is too busy with his gambling activities, he is not able to do his responsibility as a member of the family.  Worst if the person is the sole earner of the family, and due to being hooked to gambling, the money he give to his family is less and is not sufficient for the family needs that can be resulted to debt and unpaid debt.


But sadly you cannot ruin your life without affecting the one who cares for us unless you are living alone and no families and friends at all which is somehow an impossible situation..

Good thing if you do have that kind of relative on which they would really be having a time that they would really be making out such step on going into those places and telling that you should really be that banned or prohibited as we do all know that not all relatives or close to you would really be giving or showing up that kind of concern but most likely they wont really be putting any care at all on the things that you've been doing.
It is really just that there are relatives or loved ones or close to you who are really that in concern on someones situation specially if they have seen that they are really that already that being messing up their
lives on the decisions that they are making on which they would really be definitely making out such involvement because they cant bare out to see those things anymore.

Most of the time those relatives of mine wont really be doing on the same stuff or simply they dont really just care anymore on what would happen to you.
You would really be just that setting aside on the things that you've been dealing with no matter how badly you would really be wrecking up yourself into gambling.
You wont be that careful? They dont really care at all.

I mean I suppose this could be true for any sort of topic.  You're drug habit effects your relatives or whatever else could be said.  I think for the most part no matter how much gambling ruins your life, that as long as it does not effect other peoples lives, than so be it.  I wouldn't not gamble simply because of fear of doing this is I guess what I'm trying to say.

This your thread reminds me of a guy who gamble a lot and have sold out most of his properties just to fulfill his gambling desire which he always ends up losing in almost all of his games and still he don’t want to learn from that and stop the gambling habit instead he go as far as borrowing money which he can’t even be able to pay back, at the end of the day most of the people he owes debt end up coming to there house to disgrace the family and make some threat to there properties, such kind of behavior are no longer to be regarded as normal gambling as those people have gone above limit from using there own money to borrowing and if time is not taken they might also go as far as stealing just to keep the game going.

That is true, but I would like to focus on the reverse role, that is, the situation where a familiar is affecting you through his gambling disfunctional behavior. Let's say you are the victim of the story, the passive agent. Of course there is strong negative feelings of revolt and unacceptance for suffering the consequences for someone else's actions, mistakes and addictions, what is likely to keep growing inside, as the situation keeps repeating itself along the time.

You feel mixed feelings, as you love your familiar, but also hate him for acting irrationally and harming the whole family emotionally and financially. You would like he changed, and when you see it's definitely not going to happen, your anger increases and you feel hopeless, not only about this specific situation, rather about your life in general... That is something you have to avoid at all costs! It's very nasty and exhausting to deal with this, but when a familiar is screwing up your life, you have to move on, to stay away and to understand you are the only one responsible for your currently conditions and future, without expecting anything from your addicted familiar.

Then focus in personal plans and goals, draw your schedules and go for it. Forget about what is or were around. Those are things which are unlikely to change, it's out of your control. Don't let someone else's addiction mess your life, just it's messing his.

it depends on how we respond to it. if we are too open to gambling with them (unless they are also gamblers) we will definitely get a bad perspective, sometimes they don't want to accept us, we feel insulted, etc. but if he is a gambler it also has a dangerous effect. The danger is that if he is a gambler who cannot control his gambling and then becomes friends with us, it is possible that we will also get carried away with the same thing as him. Usually I prefer to gamble alone and meet friends online. because it doesn't affect my real life much and keeps me from getting addicted to gambling.

When most people play, they start to focus a lot on the game and as a result end up spending many hours playing. They start not to be present when their relatives celebrate a birthday, they start not to spend time with their relatives, as a result they start to hate their relatives when their relatives fight with them. Naturally, relatives will draw their attention so that they don't spend too many hours playing, but unfortunately, when people become addicted to gambling, they don't listen to anyone. They begin to become very violent and problematic people. Sometimes they steal family goods and sell them to continue playing

and they lie that they were robbed, and the family really thinks it was a robbery, sometimes the guy addicted to gambling keeps stealing money from his relatives and lies that it was a thief who stole it and the relatives believe him. There are many such cases, unfortunately. It has been very difficult for families with problematic players to be happy, the end is always for the family to destroy itself. because on one side there are the radical relatives wanting revenge for the damage that the gambling-addicted relative caused, on the other hand we have the more moderate relatives who try to be more optimistic in relation to the cure for the addicted relative. The problem is that the addicted relative always ends up being a very difficult person to deal with and only makes the situation worse

If you are not a gambler, but belong to a group or live in a gambling environment, then there is a high probability that you will become one. And when you are a gambler but you live in a place that does not recognize gambling, then there is a possibility that your environment will gradually be affected by your behavior, so that they all join in gambling. And this shows how powerful and easy it is for someone to be affected by gambling and fall into it.


And if we're talking about someone who is addicted to gambling, it's even worse. Not only do they influence their surroundings to do the same, but they also often endanger those around them, including their family. What happens if a gambling addict is an unemployed person who has no income and no other activities other than gambling. And to fulfill his gambling cravings, he does not hesitate to sell his family's property without having to ask permission first, or go into debt and ignore the bills. In the end, it is the family that has to take responsibility and suffer the consequences.

If they are already at the level of addiction with a chronic level then I think it is quite natural if they do things beyond expectations, whether they are mature enough or  even old but still the impact of gambling has minimized awareness in their minds so that it is difficult to do better things or even just consider. For a gambler who has entered the phase of chronic addiction then I think there is little chance of recovery if they just do it alone without any help from anyone, as you said that there must be someone who is willing to guide him in all ways that are needed and needed to change his mindset and beliefs. Because what is  feared is that one day they could be in a situation that is really concerning by experiencing great pressure due to their excessive gambling activities  which of course cannot be denied and it is possible for them to think about ending their lives.

You will worry about this if you stay with family members both nuclear and some extensive members, or if you are someone who is always visiting relatives or have them visiting. If there is no very good relationship between the family members, then there is no way your habits Which is gambling will affect your relationship with your relatives because then the communication between both parties will be very close to none. Also, when you understand the kind of family you come from, you would know in your heart if they can accept you as a gambler or not and then having answered the personal question, you would then know whether to keep it to yourself a secret or to allow them know that you are a gambler.

I’m curious what country you are which you can easily make a request to your gambling board to ban someone on all the casino without any personal appearance of the person being ban.

In my country, reaching out to gambling regulators is very hard to do because they don’t make appointment to individuals and they doesn’t entertain requests like this because their main focus is to regulate casino not the gambler itself.


In sever cases, This is true since you will be financially indebted while you still have family to feed.

Just like what everybody says "everything in excess will do no good" and gambling are definitely not an exception, in fact it bears one of the most devastating outcome just next to drugs. Frequent gambling always ends up getting more losses than winning most likely, so, one could end up broke in no time. Who else would suffer from these? Not just that person, but the family as well, because who else would he turn to when every thing about him fall apart.
Items sold and debts is going to be the most difficult one if every single bit of it has already been exhausted. It may lead to depression that will become the main reason for suicide.

There's also a man in my locality who is married and also had kids. This man gambles more often on sport games and he wins a lot too, he takes care of his family and pays every necessary bills that is required of him. Upon how often he frequentes himself in one local casino in my area, I wonder how he manages to earn a lot of money from gambling to the extent that he take very good care of his family responsibilities.

With the gambling habit of this man, I believe that it's not every gambler that allows their gambling habit to affect their family affairs. Despite that, some people too could be addicted to gambling, yet they don't allow it to get to their relatives. In some other cases, most gamblers end up losing their sense of gambling. I do gamble, even more often than some people do but yet, it doesn't affect any of my relatives.

However we want to gamble we should have it in mind that our reckless and compulsive gambling habit can only not affect us but also has a way it indirectly affect our families and loved ones who care about our wellbeing and mental health. I made a similar thread last year concerning a family's action towards one of their own who went too extreme with his gambling addiction of which the family had to take same action as Op story highlights.

We can gamble without causing harm to ourself neither our family. The matrix in all of these is that we tend to enjoy the beautiful side of gambling when we chose to stay discipline and gamble responsibly you enjoy both the fun, entertainment and the financial rewards thats involved in the activity, but when it's on the negative side you deny yourself the fun, entertainment and the financial rewards because I have seen a successful compulsive gambler, maybe there has been one or two successful ones but the number can't be equated to those that gambles responsibly.

Addiction is something very bad that should be gotten rid of by every gambler so that they don't put themselves in a state where they would be abandoned by relatives, friends and family. This is the most saddened thing, that because of your excessive gambling, you lost everything. The best thing is that anyone who finds himself in this state needs to quit gambling and focus on how to amend his life so that he will not live with depression due to isolation from relatives. Gambling is fun but if you allow gamble to destroy your life and your relationship, you will live to regret it

        -  Gambling can only have an effect on us when it causes bad things in our lives, which will eventually have an effect on our relatives. And even though it has brought good results to us, like, for example, winning a large amount of money gambling, our other relatives will still think that gambling is still not good in their eyes.

And they will think that I just got lucky playing gambling, and they can also think that if I don't win the game, my life will definitely be ruined by gambling. These are the possible thoughts that are in their brains, in my opinion.

Yes, Royse777 you are right on the impact of our cycle on the outcome and reality of our life and future,  just like the old saying.

(Show me your friends,  and I will tell you who you are)

The above statement makes a lot of sense in this regards,  and as a gambler,  if you satisfy yourself with unsatisfied and addicted,  there is no way you won't fall into addiction at some point,  so for, for anyone to escape from getting their life ruined via gambling addictions,  you need to gamble within a specific set of rules and guideline to help you manage yourself smartly while gambling to avoid getting into a mess.