Topic: A gambler's family action. (Read 1498 times)

However just as things are not going to go according to what the gambler wishes, the same is true about the actions of his family, to begin with the family has no legal recourse against the casinos they threatened to sue, and since their family member is unable to recognize he is addicted to gambling, even if they have the very best intentions at heart, their attempts to help them will fail, because unless he admits he has a problem then he will never think about what he is doing as something wrong.

There is no need to stay away from your family or friends that agree to your gambling behavior, I no that everyone have their life's to live but there is one thing for sure, that no one will keep quiet when they see someone either their friends or enemy go astray and they keep mouths short.
You someone likes you he or she will not allow something bad to happen to you. However, both me even if I see anyone that's close to me becoming a gamble addict, I will try my best to advise the person but if the person refused then I will definitely stop because that's he's life and lastly, I will not collet any money from the addicted gambler because if I do, that means I am also supporting him or her.

The family cares about him which is why they are forbidding him because they can see he is getting out of hand and if he continues going on this path, he will ruin his life and the family can't let that happen because they love him, obviously. Do you think that if you are doing something that will ruin your whole life and your future, your family will stay totally out of it? That's not how things work in most families because blood relations tend to care for each other in such times.

Besides, the family didn't stop them from gambling until the time when they saw that it was becoming excessive and we all know where excessive gambling leads one to. If someone in my family is going on the wrong path, it's my responsibility to try and stop them before it's too late and there is no way to get out of it anymore.

Families that look after each other will always provide what their family members need. They will not abandon family members who are experiencing problems and will help them to solve these problems. Maybe this seems firm or harsh, but maybe that's what the person needs to be able to control himself by not gambling and can even reduce or eliminate his gambling activities. And maybe for us, the method used by this family is too extreme, so we can say a lot about the method they use. But we also have to know what really happened so that we can understand why other family members made the decisions they did.

It may be difficult to cure him, especially if he has a serious gambling addiction. But with the help of his family, who is willing to accompany him to heal himself, he can definitely encourage him to continue doing what he has to do. Someone who is addicted to gambling may feel alone and have no one to accompany him, so if his family can accept the reality and are willing to help him, he can rise to overcome his gambling addiction. He will not want to give up before he succeeds in curing his gambling addiction. He really needs help from many people, especially his main family, so he can feel that they, his family members, still need his presence. This will be a strong encouragement for him to be able to undergo his healing session. This can also help him avoid gambling and never gamble again.

of course i will stay away from my family who didn't like my gambling behavior from the start. why should i stay around them and share the rewards from my gambling winnings, i bet that they would not accept my gift because they already hate my behavior. it's better for me to go away and start my own life.

maybe it sounds like i'm so greedy that i left my own family and enjoyed my own life with these rewards, but it's no use being with people who don't accept you for who you are. it's true that my behavior was quite annoying to them, but when i won millions of dollars they should have realized that i could also not accept them the way they did.

This is something that we as a players must face things, Things can get out of control, I think that sometimes when he sets in a casino to establish our way of jguar a perosn who is in addition it is obvious that he lins at the Request of his Own family and it is something that Cannot be Denied, we are a person that we can Generate things , but it is always good Based on this , any Code can be established to avoid this type of Behavior and not Compromise things , in this Order of ideas nsotros we can do many things to Avoid putting our family in trouble , I do not know if some person wants and peuda contral Their things to their Families, are in them to do it, now, things when they try to do something right , we must avoid we are Wrong.

A person who does things like these , who is someone who has problmas and who reaches the family , because he has to have a problem of Addiction and that is Something that is very Difficult to be able to remove it, it is nominally needed the support of all the people Possible , friends , family , all, in part a person  that is like this even is his responsibility many mistakes , but it is important to be amended, personally I will always be a person who when I see that some need a Special help to hollow it out of a ´problema, because with all the taste, we all should be like that, if I had Much money, I would not hesitate to help with a treatamient with a psychologist, or something, but to vces if there are no Words, they hear and help a lot , at least to lift the Spirits.

Inasmuch I don't support someone being addicted to gambling but the family of the young man made a wrong unconstitutional move to stop a grown-up being from gambling. There is no place it's done, to deny someone who's above 18 years old to gamble.

The family of the young man threatening gambling shops because of their brother shows that they don't know what the law says about denying someone his fundamental human rights as a human being who is over 18 years old.

If the young man takes his family to court because of that, his family would pay a huge sum of money for damages. But the young man won't report the matter to court because of the African mentality he will have of not taking his family to count for trying to deny him, his fundamental human right to do whatever he likes with his life and money.

Yes, we don't know how the family is doing until they take such decisive action. The man may have gone too far in gambling, so his family felt the need to threaten the man so that he would not gamble anymore or even gamble in other cities. The man should be aware that his family really cares about him and does not want him to experience a more serious gambling addiction that makes it difficult to cure.

His family just wants him to reduce his gambling activities and stop them because they care about him and don't want to lose him. But if the firm actions of his family still can't bring the young man to his senses, he has really gambled excessively. He must be immediately taken to an expert so that he can be treated immediately before it's too late.

We all know the extend a gamble addict can go just to satisfy the urge to bet, the man in question is an adult that can take good care of himself, families vary and everyone comes from a different family. We cannot start blaming the family for their action, most family are very caring and what they did was Just to express their love and care for him.

If a grown up adult can go to that extend to sell his property to bet then I think the person needs help, if the family allows him to continue like that it's likely he will not have any valuable property in his life, secondly he will never get married cause no woman wants to be with someone who always sell his valuable property to bet, we hear stories like this almost everyday the addiction of gambling can destroy a marriage.

In my point of view the family did the right thing, even if he doesn't want to share his money with his family there's nothing bad, I believe the family has been surviving so his money will not change the fact.

Exactly the point, some times, some people's eyes get blinded in order for them not to see what help is being rendered to them by their family, they are quick to tag their family the problem in their life, meanwhile, family is only trying to help the person become a better version of who they currently are.

Over here in my area, a family was all over their one of their sons who made money, and started living a very flamboyant and useless life, he bought cars even when there was no need for it, he was told to invest In business, or atleast, buy a land and build his own house, he told the family he would, but never did, when the pleasure from the family become heightened, he ran away from home to God knows where.

Long story short, about 3 to 4 years later, he came back left with nothing, he has squandered every single penny, and the same family he saw as an enemy because they were telling him to invest, was the same family he ran back to when he had nothing left, and all his friends had left him.

Enemy on your eyes but actually they are the ones who could be able to help us, they wont really be doing something like this if it werent for you in the first place. They dont really just like on seeing you like that
this is why they would be making actions for the solution of the current problem that you are taking. It might be looking that too much but your own family could really do all sorts of extents of action
just for the sake of own goodness. There are really just that people who cant really be able to appreciate on what their family or other people been doing on the time that they are on hardship.

You might really be that get irritated on just because they are blocking your happiness specially with gambling but actually they are really doing this for the good.
They dont mind if the action the had made is really that something too much or you hadnt been able to expect as long it would be able to save you up
then this what they would gonna do and this is something that you should appreciate on the love and care that they are showing.

Well, family will hardly become our enemy in hard times, though some families may not have the financial means to support their own to rise again after a fall, but trust that they will always give good advice on what to do and what not to do.

It is we most times who turn against our family because we feel they want to control us, we ourselves choose to either make our family our enemy or  not, not the other way round.

Someone who won a jackpot is supposed to be sensible enough to invest the better part of the money in business or good assets that will ensure that the gambler never experiences financial hardship anymore, even if he spent a little amount left with him or her after investing to gamble, and lost it all, he or she will not regret so much as he or she will have that investment to fall back on.

This are the kind of advice good family will give their own, but most times, some of us are so stubborn and will never listen, we eventually family start pleasuring us to ensure we do not make such mistake as gambling away all that we have won, we turn our back on them and tag them our enemy, this ought not to be so bud.

1. Maybe many people here will disagree with me but I think that the family in the story is a very caring family that is trying its best to help out a loved one. This is very beautiful because the alternative would be the family not caring or only doing the bare minimum to help him fight his addiction. But having said that, the family does not know how to treat gambling addiction. They aren't therapists. I doubt what they did will have had any kind of impact on treating his addiction. Worst case, they just make things worse with their actions.

So yes, it was a bit extreme.

2. I would not share my money with anyone without good reason. Being family is not a reason to give away your money.

I don't think all families have that mindset. When someone hits the jackpot, let's say $10K, he gives $3K, to his family, the rest he uses for his own needs and gambling again. After winning, the gambler never wins again, even if he wins, he cannot cover his previous losses. At that time, maybe it wasn't moral support that was given, it could have been that his family blamed him for not stopping playing after that big win and lose all of his money. Of course it's good to get good advice, but family sometimes becomes our enemy when our finances get worse.

Keeping a secret from your family that you like to gamble is not a good idea, because the only ones who can help you in case you develop a gambling addiction are your family members. If you are worried about the mental health of your relatives, then don't get involved with high-stakes activities at all. A sudden revelation of the bitter truth can be a huge blow to the psyche of your parents, especially if they are already elderly.

Keep private your gambling habits from your family. In our country family don't support at all after saying that I earn the tought I earn a lot but don't give them money and don't help them by given money. That's creat family problem and family pressure and something they force you to give money that make you depressed. That's the problem of asian parents such as Bangladesh, India country. If you are a gambler and you are student like me don't sheare your achievement with your family because the small achievement happyness  creat big depression in your life.

I agree with what you said. There is truth in what you mentioned. Let's just consider gambling as entertainment; it should not be considered a fixed income, because if we happen to think of it as a source of income, we will be misled by false beliefs. Because let's just remember that gambling and having a fixed income are just being an employee or having your own business.

So, gambling is very far from the self-employed or employee; this is where a gambler knows it should be, so if there is a gambler who thinks gambling is a source of income, it is obvious that he is immediately lost in his belief. It's just a bonus because of the winnings we get here.

This guy in question isn't gambling with clear eyes, I mean his habit might be as a result of peer influence or false hope he either feeds himself, or his fellow gamblers feeds him to enable them always purchase his items at a cheaper rate and enrich themselves at his expense. He's in a situation that he can't help himself and he needs all the love and acceptance he can get. At this stage, there's no difference between him and a mad man. At this point, there are two ways to stop his habit:
The hard way & the soft way
The hard way is the way the family in question took, but they got the configuration wrong. The guy in question should be arrested by relevant authorities and detained until he signs an undertaking that he will never sell any of his property again nor be seen in any gambling shop. upon release he shouldn't return to that same environment that affected him negatively. He should be relocated to a new environment to start a new life.
Secondly he should be made to understand that seeing him around any gambling office will lead to a re-arrest with stricter punishment and harsher condition. however, he should be allowed to gamble  at intervals, to keep him sane.
Thirdly, he would be going to the police station daily to sign until the family is sure he's repented of his stupid lifestyle.
Finally, a legitimate business or trade should be opened for him, or he should go learn a skill to keep his mind occupied as an idle mind is the devil's workshop.
The second way is therapy, continuous therapy and convincing advise that will help him reshape his mind and focus on being better and more useful with his life. I still suggest he move out of his present environment to help him not mingle with the familiar persons that had poisoned his mind to becoming useless. The rewarding pattern can be initiated too, whereby he gets an incentive periodically for being of good behavior and after some time, he'll get used to being of good behavior and the case is solved. He should be engaged during this healing period to help reshape his mind positively. This second process is slower and needs much patience and with someone who's case its not yet as extreme as the one mentioned by OP.

in the case being treated above, I suggest the first and harder way, the guy is too stubborn and needs a very much stronger force to bend him and the authorities can do a good job there. In my country, it'll cos some considerable cash to get authorities to comply, but its worth the investment.

To reply your second question, this guy needs to stop that habit first cos even if he wins a lot of money today, it wouldn't last cos he's not in control of himself, he'll waste the money and not bring it home if he's still the wayward guy, but If he has some senses after being controlled, he'll surely remember his family members knowing fully well, everything done was in his own basic interest...

If we determine that gambling is only for entertainment then never target getting additional income from gambling, because many gamblers experience losses because they focus on achieving daily profits, we must determine user limits on gambling funds and never involve the family budget in gambling, I think never force to gamble when you don't have special funds for gambling, because gambling is not something that has to be done in every daily activity and I only gamble when I'm bored and just to calm my mind.

Skill to many is just jara for gambling. Some people don't take skills very serious in gambling, as they think it's not relevant for them, but they rely on luck for their winning.
 
If we depend on luck alone for gambling, it will only end us where our own winning can't be predicted. Of course we can't be too sure of what's going to be the result of the game, but still skill makes it a bit easier for us to select a better option that will make us win our game.

That's why it has also been proven that most people with mathematical knowledge winning gambling the most more than other gamblers, and this is not luck, but skill.