Okay let me phrase this another way..... you don't evolve from ape to fat man in one generation and ionomy isn't a charity.
It's a business that is developing and implementing a WIN WIN WIN business model. I along with ionomy are just as pro decentralised as you are but until the tools are in place to facilitate total decentralisation one has to survive whilst building infrastructure. The endgame is total decentralisation.
And about Ionomy hosting a node give me an example of something which is just as easy to setup i.e. a couple of clicks. That's the point of offering the service not to steal or control your coin. You are not the target market for the service, you have the technical capabilities to remotely setup a node and still locally keep control of your coin.
The point I'm trying to make is that they're moving BACKWARDS with regard to decentralization. How does it help to build the same things TWICE - i.e. electrons/atoms/hosted nodes/etc in the old-school PHP way and the rebuild everything "properly"? Sounds wasteful and sounds like an excuse.
The "couple of clicks" argument is a perfect example of going in the wrong direction. Why couldn't they take a decentralized staking pool idea and make THAT easy to use, if existing ones are not sufficiently user-friendly? Not sure why you're asking me to provide an example. Implying that ionomy can only do something that's already been done? I'm trying to suggest that they should innovate and you're arguing otherwise, what a bizarre reversal.
And no, the argument is not necessarily about stealing or ionomy's malicious intent (although decentralization would mitigate that as well). What if ionomy gets hacked, what if they go bankrupt, etc... there are many other threats out of their control. They ever warn about it in the TOS but still develop and promote services doing the opposite:
https://ionomy.com/terms-serviceWhile Ionomy Limited takes great care in safeguarding funds, the possibility of a security breach is always possible. Ionomy Limited is not responsible for loss of your funds in the event of a breach. Ionomy Limited has set up a reserve in the event of a small breach, but that reserve may be unable to cover all losses. Ionomy Limited encourages use of private wallets and the diversification of the Virtual Currency network. An always on, large, web hosted wallet is a target and you should carefully consider where and how you store your Virtual Currencies.