Topic: Gambling and Behavioral Change!!! - page 26. (Read 3202 times)

People are different. When I was addicted, what I noticed for myself is that if I lose, I will not be happy, but if I win I will be happen. I do not know if someone can noticed such mood swing in me which can be common to gamblers but I do all best to hide it from people that I am moody when I lost money to gambling. I do not have the anger issue but people are different.

Well, this happening is very common, so, yes, I guess mostly of us or almost all experienced it, just like in gaming you will experience a change in mood or emotion, sometimes people build anger management, and what more in gambling? It involves money, so the stress and the effect are greater, but the thing is, you should not involve your family or people around you because you are the one who's playing, so you should only be the one who's affected, but it can't be blamed on. It is a common phenomenon for gamblers and also a sign that you are addicted and can't control your emotions, so you should always have a way to ease your feelings or a way to divert your attention to other things so you can be calm, or if you really can't contain your emotions, then better stop and divert your anger to something that is not alive.

Changes in attitude that occur in gambler when under certain conditions, such as losing or winning, can occur and are very natural to occur because emotions and feelings will follow when in certain conditions.
When you win you may feel pleasure, you heart and mind are full of joy, so you can be friendly and gentle to anyone in your family, but when you lose it changes to the opposite, from losing patience to being emotional and more irritable.
This is an attitude that of course all gamblers experience, even I myself also do the same thing, only I don't show it too much to my family and prefer to keep quiet.
It would be great pity if we as parents and husbands did things that were little harsher or more disappointed with because of our attitude them just because they lost from gambling.
Usually I tend to go straight out of the house, whether it just looking for new atmosphere to calm my emotions and also change the atmosphere to be calmer after the defeat that occurred.

My advice to you is to have more controlled attitude or do the same as I did, where you tend to be quiet and leave your family from home to improve your mood and thoughts.
That way, when you return home, your family will not feel the emotional level or inappropriate behavior you have treated them.
Don't you feel sorry for the children who have to feel emotional release when you lose gambling?

So admit that the truth is that you are influenced by gambling, not that you come to it with the simplification of being a relaxing player, or more accurately, the premise for the beginning of a gambling addiction.

I don't think the results are important because sometimes I always assume in my mind that I don't want to win and would rather make money in this field. Although in history I have had some very impressive but not too important wins, I can also understand the behavior of someone who easily loses control of their psychology when they place more importance on their possessions than on their finances.

It all depends on the attitude of the gambler. If we gamble to make money when we lose, we will definitely get emotional easily and vice versa, but if we use gambling as a form of entertainment, we won't cause big problems let alone looking for an outlet for our family who haven't done anything wrong.
It was your mistake in gambling and your loss was a risk you had to take so don't take it out on other people. We must be able to control ourselves and position ourselves to be responsible figures as heads of the family because our attitude reflects a person's self. Don't let your children imitate your temperament. Your temperament affects your children psychology. So use gambling as a form of entertainment and face the risks when experiencing it. If you don't want to lose and don't want your emotions to control you, you should avoid gambling or avoid things that cause you to get emotional easily.

Almost every one in gambling are fond of this attitude in gambling, I remember back in those days when my dad use to play gamble, whenever he wins he'll start giving us money and buy drinks for us and he will tell us that he won that's why he's doing all that but any time he loses hmmm don't even near him because the way he will respond to you will be very awkward and whenever we noticed such attitude from him we already know that he has lost a bet so we'll give him space at that material time till when he's settled.

This habit of being emotional when you lose a bet is a very bad habit because you can do some nasty things whenever you are angry and realise yourself later on so at that time when you're angry it can really be very dangerous as you may live to regret you actions when you're settled.

This is very common to us gamblers to be honest and I personally experienced this kind of thing before. With the said attitude and emotions, the relations between you and your family and friends might be affected. My only solution to this is to divert myself to movies, foods and think how important my family is to me so conscience haunt me and calm me down.

Gambling addicts are the only ones people face. A person who gambles all the time suffers losses and actually talks angrily to family and neighbors. Always depressed and quarreling with the family is a behavior that is not tolerable.When a person gains from gambling he always gets better food, clothing, and environmental changes. Such behavior can only be observed among gamblers, such as the behavior of my neighbor. So, without becoming addicted to gambling, one should take a break from time to time, it will also improve the mental state and reduce the chances of gambling losses.

I feel fortunate because I have never experienced what the OP explained with gambling. It is true that I have felt what he says: to be so focused in something so you have little to no patience at all with the routinary things in life.

You remember me of a professor I had some years ago: on Mondays you only had to look at his face to know whether his favourite sports team had lost or won in the weekend. Such events shouldn't impact so much in one's life: it simply doesn't worth it.

The good thing is that you are aware of your situation and accept it, so you can take the first steps towards the solution.

Such behavioral change isn't only caused by gambling.

You get fired from your company, salary cut, receive complaint, hated by your friend, drop a cash, etc will make you become more sensitive.

On the other cases: you get promoted by your boss, increase salary due to your good performance, everyone being nice to you, receive a gift or present from someone, etc will make you happy and softer to other people.

Of course yes there is always emotions in winning and in loosing rather there are possibilities of taking the situation under control  either at the moments of appreciations or at the moments of depressions.

You lack the ability to take your gambling emotions under control which is not just right.
If you can be overwhelmed at your winning, you can also get overwhelmed at your lost.
Don't feel so frustrated at your lost and the transfers of aggressions on your family.
Your family doesn't know about your gambling status neither are they responsible for your looses.
Your family is supposed to be your consoler at your depressions and not having the same feelings with you.

Learn to believe that as you steps out of your home for gambling, you are at 99% to lost you bets so you can always take care of your depressions motions of loosing.

Bullying or channelling your gambling angers towards your family is another development mental state of health you are nurturing yourself in and also unhealthy to your families state of health.

If I'm normal, I never mix personal and work matters with family, so this habit makes me have the same response to my family, even if I win or lose at gambling. Apart from that, winning and losing in gambling is normal so I am not surprised and do not have excessive expressions when I win or lose.

Under certain circumstances I might get angry when I lose a large amount of money, but I never take that anger out on my family, neither my wife nor my children. I am always ready to take risks in gambling because gambling is a choice that I make fully consciously.

if the gaming style is "mathematical" based on a scientific approach in which you can predict the progress of your games, your mood is not affected...

Well, of course, if a day goes badly it's normal not to appreciate what happened... a bit like what happens at classic work

Yes. I am happy when I win and sad when I lose. This is an emotion that I cannot deny and act like I don't feel these emotions.


I understand how you feel and I thank you for being honest.

First of all, you should not transfer emotions to other people and things whichever be the result of your gambling. Guard yourself against it for surely, if you don't you may soon scared of the people who love you unconditionally.

It is not like I do this though but there are variations of it that everyone at some points exhibits. Self-examination and emotional regulation is crucial to overcoming these unusual emotions.

Yeah man, no one loves loosing and the bad thing is when its having clear effect on your emotions like you outlined here. I think you're an honourable man to take regular inventories of yourself and access your attitude towards your household, observe where you're getting it wrong and I believe you're working on it and that's why you've come out here to straighten us all up peradventure we're behaving badly too. Sometimes our emotions just cloud our judgements momentarily and we act in ways we are not proud of, but I believe in making up. If that your son is of reasoning age, possibly up to four(4) years of age, it's important you still let him understand you after you let loose and shout at him that you are not like that and you were not really happy. You've to go back and apologize to him and tell him reassuring words like "I'm sorry for shouting at you, daddy was not happy" so that he doesn't see that behavior as part of you and grow up being irritable occasionally. This will make him very sensitive and love you more because he will understand you don't shout because you hate him, rather you were unhappy. It will surprise you that when next you shout or get impatient with him, he might ask if you're unhappy and that will help you regain consciousness and straighten up your attitude towards your child. While you work on your emotions and your gambling addiction, your child shouldn't be a victim of your bad habit and mind you, the child is growing up and if you don't slow down on your addictions to gambling, you might end up having more addicts at home and mess up your household.

You just gotta gamble and leave emotion out of it. No matter what happens when you start a session or end a session, you haven't won or lost until you stop for the day. I think its hard to keep emotion out of it because gambling is all about the thrill(emotion). If you can train your brain to not get emotional, you might stop yourself from making wreckless bets and save yourself lots of money.

Most of us gamblers probaly have experience that, but it's a bad attitude mate, it's like we aren't good in accepting our losses and that we would involve other people with our disappointment in gambling. It normally happen when we aren't gambling for entertainment only and we do risk money more than our budget, I would not use "money you can affor to lose", as there are times you can afford to lose the money you are gambling but it's already out of your budge, so in the end, it will have a big effect on your emotion.

Does any of feel behavioral change in you based on the win/loss in gambling. Myself had experienced it, and personally I used to be happy and I used to be polite with my family members and kid whenever I am on profit. On the day of losing it changes exactly in the opposite way, even for simple things I get much anger. Particularly while giving food to kid patience is must. On winning days I let him take his own time and eat. On the losing days I used to shout at him. I'm addicted, and I want fellow gamblers to make a self analysis at regular interval and be on the safer side.