Topic: Gambling by financial dependents. - page 29. (Read 4202 times)

Gambling addiction somehow the effect is not so different from drug addicts where they stole some money or sell some stuff to have some money to buy the drugs. It's hard to resist when the monkey keeps scratching. The mother of the boy knows much her son than we do and there are more reasons why she worries about him stealing some cash.

My old lady always tells us not to let her see us smoke cigarettes if the money we use to buy those cigarettes comes from here. To expand this a bit, if we're still dependent on her and our money comes from her, we better not do any vices.

The boy saves money, probably skipping meals to save just to gamble. Does anyone think it's not bad?

My advice for the young boy is to remember that he still lives under the parents roof, is still dependent on them for funds and other basic necessities, so he should obey what the mom says until he is living on his own and earning his own income to gamble with. If he is left to keep up with this habit, he might not see the need to complete schooling but instead see gambling as a way out of the financial rat race. So he should be stopped now.

One reason why he is gambling is because he has no major responsibility to commit to, otherwise, the savings he has done well to keep aside can be used instead to invest in BTC /cryptocurrency knowledge, since the prospects of earning from crypto investment is more certain than that of gambling, and I doubt it would be a cause for concern to the parent.

In my perspective gambling is not a crime but excessive gambling is not acceptable. If a parent knows about their child that he has become addicted to gambling, it can have a negative effect on them. Because when a child becomes addicted to gambling, they may steal their parents' money to manage their gambling finances. No one is safe if they gamble with their earnings and lose that money, but no parent is safe when a child relies on their parents to make money from gambling. So, I would advise here that if he is not 18 as per the rules then he should not do gambling. and if he is fit for gambling then he must gamble with his own money.

Gambling is never a good act, and that is why many people are going against it. It involves high risk and a chance of luck, and the luck that is in gambling is just limited; it is only a few that are opportune to get lucky from gambling, so for anyone that may be involved in gambling, it may be hardly possible for such a person to gather wealth, especially when someone is addicted to gambling. For some to be a liability, it's never a good idea for them to be gambling because when they become addicted to gambling and don't have money to gamble, it can lead to any dirty attitude like borrowing money to gamble, using money that may be used for important things to gamble, selling property to gamble, or stealing to gamble.


I will advise the boy to stop gambling because, insofar as he doesn't have any sources of income but only depends on his mother, if he doesn't stop gambling and becomes addicted to it, it will surely affect him even in the future if he starts making money for himself he just be wasting it on gambling. And for his nephew, who said it never stole from its parents before but only gambled from his savings, that may be true, but believe me, whenever it stops winning from gambling and he doesn't have money to gamble for like a few days, it will need him to take dirty actions like selling its properties or borrowing money that it knows it can't pay back.

I honestly don't have any advice for your nephew. but if in your country a person can only gamble, the minimum has reached 18+, according to what has been regulated in such a way as the law applies. a person has the right to what he does, most importantly he is responsible for what he does. it's just that, the problem is that aged 18+ is an age that is still very unstable with every decision. in fact, I doubt that your nephew was a responsible gambler at his young age. let alone your judgment, only based on stories from your nephew.

Well, speaking of the first point, it would be natural for every parent to feel worried about what their child is doing. because this child is still 18 years old, even at this age parents still have an important role in everything a child does. especially if you are still a student. supposedly, the task of a student is to be responsible for the education he is currently demanding. in fact I doubt, that while this kid was having a gambling session, he was enjoying it. in fact, it is likely that he does not have a thorough understanding of the risks of gambling.
here, I don't want to be someone who judges. that in fact, what he does is his own responsibility. but how wise it would be if your nephew only focused on the education he was currently demanding as an investment for his future.

What makes you feel that he isn't lying to you and that he is a responsible gambler. If he sees gambling as a means of making profit,then it is possible that he will become and addict later which will become a problem for his mom because he might start stealing her money to gamble if he can't control himself.

Since he is not working and depend on his family,he should stop gambling and stay focus on his studies so that he doesn't get carried away with his gambling activities to the extend that he might use his tution fee or funds for something important to gamble. As his uncle,you are to explain to him the consequence of gambling and how he can help himself not not being addicted to gambling,if he doesn't want to stop. Remember that some gamblers don't even know that they are addicts.

As long as he is a responsible gambler, in my opinion, there is no need to worry about it as long as he is still under the guidance of his parents so he doesn't gamble too deeply and eventually becomes an addict because it is rather difficult to cure an addict, moreover he is still relatively young, he still has plenty of time to get to know gambling because he should be the same age get an education and focus on your education to completion so you don't have to gamble for fun.

Looking for another game that doesn't require the use of money as long as it's free is pretty good too, isn't the demo game also entertaining even though there's no adrenaline there, but personally I think this young person should only be warned to focus more on his education than playing gambling and looking for Money.

She is in better position to know the kind of son she gave birth to, gambling doesn't makes one steal unless there is an addiction in place, if he is playing for the fun of it, it's great and let him be, with time he will find out if it's worth gambling or not because the boy is already an adult and by that, an adult has the right to do whatever he chose so long the stuff he is doing is not illegally and in moderate condition. I think she can do an extra parenting by guiding him instead of been afraid.


If he has never stolen before, it means the boy had a good discipline and the parent should continue to monitor him in that path, it's possible that gambling addiction can make him do the wrong things but if he is watch, he will gamble normally. I am also in support of the parent not allow him use his school pocket money to gamble, they should also watch his transaction history to check if he has been depositing money into gambling platforms. It's better the parent do the work of parenting than try to force him to stop, he could stop and may do more of gambling in there absent.

My advise for him is to put a stop on what he's doing, not because I don't want to see him gambling but because it is not the perfect time yet for him to engage in this kind of activity. Anyone who are not capable of generating his own income is not advisable to do gambling. Why? because once they get hooked up with it, they might start stealing just like what you said or find fraudulent and illegal things to make easy money and go back to gambling. I've seen people who's like this.
The kid needs to finish his study first so he can land a good paying job that would sustain his gambling needs in the future. That is how you explain it to him. Gambling activities might cause him to lost focus on studies and worse he'd drop out.

A man who is 18+ should be able to take responsibility for earning his own living but if all the expenses are still borne by his parents including his unfinished schooling then he will not be able to work unless he continues to rely on the money flowing from his parents.

Gambling with the age of 18 is still said to be bad especially if he is a student who is still educated, even if you say the nephew is responsible about gambling but we never know behind what he did, maybe the lost money was his doing because of his gambling addiction, we never expect it if it happens.

My advice is to advise the person not to gamble once he is still unable to earn, this is not a good way unless he has a job and there is a great sense of responsibility in him.

As a parent myself, I will reprimand the child.

Even if he gambles using the money he has set aside from what he gets from his family, it is still his family's money, he should use it for something more useful, for example to buy milk, vitamins, studies, or other things. It is inappropriate for a student to gamble because what they are doing should be studying, not gambling like what adults do.
His parents' worries are also fundamental, because after all gambling is something addictive, moreover he is still young which is still unstable and could have done all kinds of ways so he can gamble, and that includes stealing or robbing on another day.

My advice is especially for children's mothers, if mothers know their children like gambling. The step he took was how to prevent his son from gambling.
Forget what he lost and the accusations his son took and focus on helping his son not get too far or addicted, because I don't think he deserves it yet because he's still in school. And another reason is that he does not have a job or income that he is free to use as he pleases.
And I think that's very important because a mother's role is very influential on her child, and if she always blames or accuses her child of stealing because there is no real evidence, it will only make her child feel depressed. Because gambling involves uncontrollable emotions and self-control and it will make things worse.

If he has not yet stolen from his mother to gamble, maybe he will in the future or if not from his mother, maybe he will steal from someone else who is not family. If he does not steal or the type that can steal, he is not excluded from being involved in other illegal activity that will fund the new habit he is learning. Gambling is not something that someone young should becoming addicted to, it can be the gateway to other addictions and lead to life long problems.

This young boy need to understand how dangerous his actions are and how dangerous they can become if he continues gambling. He has to have an idea that addiction is possible so he either stops or be prepared to make sure that his gambling does not get out of control.

He's barely up to 20 and started gambling, ofcourse he's supposed to take good care of himself while growing up, and his mother should support him in all areas and give him more advices about how to go with the whole thing. The teenager is growing, and there is every reason for suspicion that he will become addicted, which means he will desire to generate more money from the system. It's better that he's stopped since gambling consumes the mind and, before we know it, he's gradually becoming an addicted gambler. He is youthful and capable of accomplishing anything. He should be convinced to refrain from gambling as soon as possible because the repercussions are catastrophic.

Do you know?

The gambling addiction are starting like these, as the gambler sad to see for a young people who don't know anything about gambling are doing gamble. I don't mind for gambler shill about gambling to other gambler.

But, for people who are just fresh people. Feel sad.

If I were at her position then I would probably teach him trading and investing. I would say him that if you want to gamble then consider it the same and try to make profits from it.
This way he would be able to have fun while learning to trade and make profits. Also, he could still play gambling games or pace bets out of the stipend by allocating 20% for gambling and 80% for trading.
You just have to find a way to know what is working for him. There are other ways to try as well. For instance, I would tell him to earn some money now that he is 18 and then he can gamble what he has earned.
This way he would start earning on his own and learn to value money. Probably he would quit gambling after this since he would know how hard it is to earn money.

The best solution is the son and his mother should live separately to avoid this kind drama, 18 years old man already mature and living alone will make him able to do what anything he want, also learn many thing to survive.

He can't just live with his mother where he don't need to pay household, electricity cost, and foods, it will not able to help him to learn about financial management.

He is 18 but still relies on family for any money then obviously I will not encourage him to gamble even if he is doing it with his savings from his pocket money. Because it is not his money so he doesn't know the responsibilities come along with money which is possible only if he starts making his own money by working his ass off.

If he still feels that gambling is giving the thrill then it is time for him to find a job and work 80 hours a week and save money from that which he can allocate for gambling and whatever entertainment he wants to pursue.

It is not the time for children of their parents to gamble even though they are already 18 years old because children at that age are still dependent on their parents who are still not ready to meet their own needs without the help of their parents.
I am afraid that the child may fall into addiction because gamblers who are over the age of 25 or more who are considered mature and ready to work to make ends meet can have a sad ending.

My advice to this kid is to stop and stay away from gambling before he is really ready even though from your observation he is a responsible gambler who is just having fun.
This is more to avoid before he gets addicted when tempted by winning large amounts of money.

You really can’t really trust him to be able to control himself when it comes to gambling and since he newly just got into gambling he might be able to withstand that urge but trust me, when he starts to realize some wins he will feel the pressure to want to play more so that he can win more and that will eventually lead to him becoming addicted to gambling which in turn will make him starts to develop some unusual habits.

If he can limit himself to the bare minimum it will be better and he should also try to abstain from gambling sometimes even if he has the money to place a bet. Because has you have said, he only bets when he has money at hand and if he continues to bet each time money comes into his hand he’ll end up not being able to control himself anymore and it might even affect his saving habit.