Topic: Have you been threaten to stop gambling (Read 2503 times)

a warning or a prohibition on gambling from the people closest to us, this is a form of worry and concern from the people closest to us towards us because they are afraid that gambling could destroy our lives.


And if something like that happens, there are two possibilities. The first possibility is that maybe the people closest to you don't care about you so they don't worry about whatever you do or whatever happens in your life. And the second possibility, maybe the people closest to you already believe that you can control yourself when gambling so that they (the people closest to you) are not so worried when you gamble. and if the possibility is like this then what we have to do is to maintain the trust they have given us, don't let it go because our bad behavior in gambling can cause the people closest to us to lose trust in us.

Still the same whether you are quitting gambling for your kids or wife then it doesnt matter because in overall then this would really be for the sake of your family on which it would really be just that so normal that you would really be quitting for the better and you dont really like for your family to be broken on which it would really be just that a normal approach or sensible thing to be done. This is why it would really be just that important that you should really not make yourself comes into a point that you would really be threatened up by your wife on having some divorce because of your wrong decisions specially on dealing up with gambling.On the time that you are already compromising yourself when it comes to finances and then heavily affects your family with it then it would really be an another story because no women would really be lasting up if they would really be suffering those kind of problems specially if they do saw that her children is really that been affected due to lack of finances because of what you have done.

If you do really value your family then you should quit gambling for good because if you dont then you would really be losing everything not only your money but also your family and this is something that we dont really like to happen for the rest of our lives. In my case, then i dont really experience this kind of threat towards into my wife or family because i do play in moderation and never ever comes into a point that
im really that wasting all of my time and money towards gambling. Everything should be in balance and must be.

I have not received such threats before from anyone either family or spouse regarding my gambling habit maybe this is as a result of me not being an addict or maybe as I don’t have much people around me who can say that I’m using the money they are giving to me for gambling which they can use the announce and give me some traits , I believe people who receive such threats are those who have much responsibility which they could have used their money to settle instead they are using it for gambling.

I know of a guy whom the mother have threatened to stop his education if he don’t stop his gambling habits, as they believe he is not focusing in his studies due to his so much passion for gambling and foot ball watching, I have also come across a case of parent accusing their child of stealing due to their gambling habit here in this forum, I believe this things are just common for those who are family who really provide for them or are close to them and need their financial help.

Actually I don’t get any threaten in the gambling,because I don’t accept the words of my wife.But my friend had get big threaten by his wife like she will divorce,if he doesn’t stop the gambling.Because he had loss nearly 4000 dollars in a period of six months in the gambling,actually he doesn’t agree my point of the tactical gambling games.He try the many games with the random bet in the gambling.This was the biggest mistake made by my friend to get this bad situation.Actually he had quit the gambling because of their children and not for his wife.

It's very crucial we don't get to the point where we have to be threatened to stop gambling before we stop the habit of unhealthy gambling, because it's only when it becomes unhealthy that their would be threats to stop if that's the only available means to explore and get you to stop, but then if you are gambling responsibly there will be no need to give you a threat so you could stop.

I have never been threatened to stop gambling because I don't make my gambling habit public and I aswell don't allow myself become addicted such that it becomes a problem for me or people around me, so I have never gotten to the point were I even had to stop or forced to but I do take break when ever I feel I'm already loosing so much so I don't have to chase losses.

It's really not a good thing to get to the point where you should be forced, basically try to control your habit and gamble responsibly for your good and that of people around you, don't spend more than 10% of your income on gambling so you don't get to become addicted while trying to make money off gambling and catch the fun and entertainment in the game.

the problem here is that he did not let his wife know about it until she found out. telling him to stop is a good thing because she saw some loses which she feels is not good enough especially if it continues and it can affect him and the household at large. i wont be surprised if the wife has been trailing him for a while and expecting maybe the man will tell him about it, some women are like that. if you are gambling and doesn't want anyone else to know should keep it private enough and clear all traces that can make it known. this is an easy thing if you are not addicted.

threatening people, blackmailing people is not a good thing. this type of behavior is unacceptable. I have seen cases in the newspapers and on TV in which the man threatens his wife for her not to go to bars and consume alcohol and when she does not obey then he starts to attack her, and as in many cases the women in my country leave their fathers' houses parents in a very bad way, they fight with their parents to stay with a man, this happens because their parents don't approve of the man she chose and in many cases their parents are right. now something interesting is that when men start to abuse gambling to the point of taking money destined to pay bills and use that money to gamble, when their wives charge and threaten them

men resort to violence against women and it is only after suffering violence for a long time that women decide to leave the man's house, because they realize that the man has no cure anymore, he has reached rock bottom, you see that the woman would be being raped while her sole purpose was to help the man. this also happens with houses where the children are still at their parents' house, the children are lied to that they are paying for college while they are and taking the money to go consume drugs, beer and gambling and when the parents find out and tell them they ask them to stop and change their behavior they don't listen

after some time the parents are left with no choice and send the children away from home, unfortunately when the parents do that, the children destroy their futures forever, they do not recover from the addiction, on the contrary they get worse and the end of them is death, I'm not threatened, I'm not someone who gambles every day, I don't spend a lot of money on gambling, I don't consume alcohol, that's because I lost many relatives because of addiction. So it was a big trauma for me, I always tell myself: I won't follow the same path, I won't follow the same path. I try very hard to have my act of control

Lol, that's funny, you are right that some wives are over-suspicious and they would always be looking for things you might be doing behind their back and if you are actually doing something without telling them and they get to know about it, that will either be the last day for you on earth or you are going to be single again because wives with such natures wouldn't just let things go and move on, they would never forget and you will never be forgiven for what you did.

However, not all of them are the same and there are a lot of wives who are too good with their partners, and if the partners hide something from them and they come to know about it, they will simply threaten them to stop doing that or they will leave and I believe that is a very modest reaction to it.

From what I see, you are a responsible gambler, and you shouldn't be told to stop gambling. But if, being a gambler like you described, a responsible gambler, you would still be threatened "to stop gambling" by your close ones, what would you do? What would you say to them? Because I don't think such people would be convinced by the words above.

Well, I think you have said all the consequences of when an assignment is acquired, and if you are right they can be like that, in my very personal opinion I am a player who controls very well what is destined to play and lose in a casino For me , if the money that I have destined to use in the casino runs out because I lost it, I will stay away, I will not start inventing more edpepostitar because I will be going against my own rules and that is something that I never want us to be able to and should not do neither in the game nor in the trade.

Now, if a person who has spent their money in the casino and decides to take a loan, it is because that person has the ability to pay in case they lose, whether it be with jewelry, gold, cars, whatever, it is their decision. of the person, now if the person has nothing or capciada of payment, it is a very bad decision to have taken a loan and secondly things should not be done like this because a person who is of legal age and completely of legal age does not have to recriminate nothing, because it was under his decision that they gave him that credit or loan.

In particular, I am a person who would never take a loan to play in a casino. It seems to me the dumbest way to spend money, because it is very difficult to earn with that pressure that the money is lent, I must also emphasize that things are not how people always imagine them, when you take a loan there is the hope of earning the most money, to repay the loan and make a profit, or worse, to go after what you already spent to see if it can be recovered.

I am one of those who think that when there is a lot to spend in a casino, other types of things can be done, but less for a loan because I consider that a loan in a casino is not as necessary as for other things that are necessary, it is In other words, for things that must be paid for health, or emergencies, of course it is my criteria, I don't see any other, but there are some who give priority to casinos and that is respectable, everyone has their criteria.

Those small expenses will add up if we don't realize it and stop immediately. And it's best if our expenses can be recorded properly so we can know that we can reduce those expenses and not use the money excessively.

And yes, it may have been a failure for friend @OP but at least he can learn from his mistake and intend to change it to avoid it again. But that requires awareness from @OP friends so they can really reduce their gambling activities and communicate with their partners.

True, small expenses can become a problem if we spend that amount of money too often, but at the same time it is not as if a spouse needs to keep records of all expenses as that will be too overbearing for everyone involved, as now they will not have the liberty to do anything without consulting each other.

So a balance must be reached in which an adequate control over your finances can be established, but doing so without restraining some small freedoms to spend in a thing or two you may want, something which is clear the friend of the OP has failed to establish.

I also had a story like this when my girlfriend found out that I was participating in the crypto market, and she was very angry about it. She said that I had just one choice: either her or continue with crypto. I was so confused at that moment, but I decided to continue with crypto and told her to give me 3 months to prove that this market is good for investing and our future life if we make sensible investments, not gamble. And now, she completely believes in me and supports me so much.
Maybe you are single and haven't had a wife yet. If not, every one of your single actions will be detected immediately, even if you always clear your browsing history. Wives are very good at sniffing out things. 

      -    We are the same in another angle of what you said, though, I also gamble but I never let it lead me to become addicted to gambling. That is unlikely to happen to me. Because as long as we can control and discipline ourselves in gambling, it will never happen that we end up in that situation.

And this is really what a normal gambler should do, because if it can't be done, it will be a threat to a gambler in the coming days or every time he plays in a casino

This usually occurs when a family member discovers that you've been spend recklessly and that in return is affecting your financial stability therefore would come up with different strategies or ideas even it means involving emotional blackmails to help change the person, but in that case his wife is right because as a man and head of the family it's your duty to be financially stable to cater for your families needs and spending recklessly or losing alot of money to gambling when you have a family to feed is not fair, it unnecessary and uncalled for because if you go bankrupt it would really have a negative impact on the family.
 I think most times it's people that have affected their families with their gambling addiction that are mostly threatened to stop, when they don't have any other options or way of  helping them change, and in my own case im not an addict and barely give all my attention to gambling cause i have other important activities to carry out, anyways when i got my first profit from gambling i disclosed it to my siblings and they where shocked at first that i was able to make good predictions but later advised me on the negative effects of gambling and not to take it very seriously.

Usually people do weekend party with the Jack game is the common thing,we had a friend of four member to play card in the weekends.Actually it’s offline gambling,because we the real money for the game.Every one had their chance of winning based on the cards delivered to them and the show of card using least possibility.My personal experience is my mom found I had use of gambling over a year,at first she thought I was playing online games on my free times of work.But actually I had loss huge money in last year,So I had rarely take part in the monthly expenses of my family.This was the key factor for my mom to find I had involved in gambling.Then she called me and stop the gambling.Then I stopped to play gambling in the home and use my office time to gambling and my friends home are my spot.

Maybe it's because there is no communication or honesty with their partner about what they often do but just hiding it from their partner. And I think it will only cause problems in the future, especially if they are gambling but turns out to be caught by their partner and will cause a fight between them. This can become a mess in their family and spread to their extended family when people around them also know about the problem. So we shouldn't be threatened to stop gambling and do it before it's too late because if it's too late, we will get bigger problems that can lead to divorce.

Damaged self-esteem is one of the most common consequences of infidelity. The person suddenly feels incomplete, unprepared, and wonders why their partner chose someone else. Therefore, being aware of the possible consequences of infidelity will help you avoid actions that you may later regret. But not all forms of gambling give people fun or enjoyment. Life gambling is a defined activity. But those who do not have an innate desire to win at gambling, greed usually works in them, so even after losing, they keep making bigger bets. Then lost and destitute which attacks the family. It is very difficult to give exact instructions on winning in gambling it is based on luck.

It's good if you haven't felt threatened and told to stop gambling and you should have kept it up so you don't get addicted to gambling. But out there, I think some people have been threatened to quit because their gambling is already severe and require them to stop immediately. Otherwise, they can develop a severe gambling addiction. And those who are not yet at the point of being threatened have to be able to keep themselves from crossing those boundaries because we won't be able to realize if we have crossed the boundaries. Only other people can see it.

that's good. even if you often gamble and you can say you are not addicted yet, but you have good control because before that you already know how gambling works and what you have to do you already know beforehand so you are not too addicted and there won't even be a threat from anyone because Im sure people like you can separate time for gambling and with family or with friends.
I really appreciate people who are like this because it is difficult to control themselves and understand how gambling works and they prefer to take risks and always choose not to be able to control their emotions. because in this situation any gambler will definitely be very bad because they always bet and lose after that gamble every day without thinking about the people around who cause threats to come to stop your gambling.