Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 15. (Read 3857 times)

I can bet you that after this the children's school is actually a sure banker to be used because that's what addiction can cause to a person life and believe losing the money is just the first phase as I believe he will go further by even trying to win back that wedding money he used which will further subject him to more chaos.

This one of the worst things gambling addiction and bad responsibility can do and hurt even their close people, that lady must be brave to not mention breaking up with that man. Unfortunately, such mistakes are unforgivable to me, no matter how bad your addiction is, you should never use important funds to gamble and risk your future, this is even worse when using other people’s money that meant to be spent on a wedding.

That man really failed in every possible way, failed to be responsible, failed to communicate with his partner in life, and more importantly he destroyed his life in just few seconds putting all that money on one single bet without even telling the real owner of that money. Gambling is not a joke if you are not aware of the risks.

That's right, we have to be prepared to lose money if we want to gamble, trade and so on related to the money at stake.
But only stupid men who use important money, such as using savings for a wedding that has been planned for a long time, and other important necessities for gambling risk losing it.
And if he knows the risk of gambling is the potential to lose money, why still use it and indeed sometimes these expectations can be tempting. However, these expectations must be supported by knowledge and experience to have a chance of winning, although there are no guarantees. And whatever the reason, it is not advisable to use important money to gamble unless you are ready to face the consequences.

This is a very expensive risk to take,and I must confess that I cannot try this kind of thing.I have gambled for some years now,and I haven't seen anything that can make me forget my event,and want to double my money in that kind of risky way.What if you  lose all the money? These are things that can make someone very depressed,and can make you turn into a drunkard in less than no time.
Since I started gambling,I haven't made this kind of risk,and I'm not thinking of risking like this anytime soon.

It is a sad story, though, but on the other hand, if he won that gambling, no one would have heard the story unless they found it hard to share the money equally. I have encountered something similar to this some years ago, but I was not able to handle the situation. Because they came to me for a solution, the story is that for a boyfriend and his girlfriend, she has a local bank that she saves money at home, which normally people who have that usually keep it in a private place. So when the boyfriend is looking for something, he finds the bank, and he is always having financial issues due to his gambling habit, so he breaks the bank and takes all the money worth around $100, so he uses the money to gamble, and he wins approximately $10,000. 
 
So the main issue to hear is that the girl friend said that all the money he won belongs to her unless she wishes to give him a bit of the money, so this is the same as what happened in this weeding stuff: no one will talk of woman abuse or violence against women. 

Talking about the risk in gambling i am sure the man is not a fool and he knows the risks of gambling because the outcomes from gambling is really unpredictable then with decide to putting all of his wedding saving then he realize there are only two possibilities which he will got that if won then he can doubled his money then if lost then most likely his marriage will fail because the money has run out to bet on gambling and from this case we can see that the man had already become addicted to gambling and i am sure this is only the beginning because if he does not try to recover from addiction then he will used other money to satisfied his hobby however addiction can be cured with the help of loved ones and now the decision is up to the woman herself that will she continue to marry a man who is addicted to gambling and help him to recover or she will decide to cancel the wedding and leave the man

Well, sorry but I will have to disagree with some of the points you made.
First being that losing money in/to gambling gives worst feeling, this is not exactly true, loses are normal in gambling, and who ever can not move on from their gambling loss shouldn't be gambling in the first place, losing money in gambling is a normal thing, it can only result to worst feeling like in this case, the money lost was one that was meant for some really important stuff, or money the gambler wasn't ready to lose at all.

And Secondly, it's important you understand that expections are normal thing in gambling, and this is not only in gambling but other things as well, like trading, everyone who is placing a bet is expecting to win, nobody places a bet and expect to lose the body, expectations is a natural thing in life generally.

Of course, this is most likely the most unpleasant situation in this girl’s life, but if you look from the other side, it would be worse if she married such a gaming addict. She would have had to divorce him, but the situation cleared up and everything became clear. I think next time she will meet someone who will never in her life sacrifice their relationship for the sake of a game or other entertainment that is not worth it. Of course, girls cannot figure out whether their future groom is a gambling addict, because they hide it very carefully, because they understand that if they find out about their secret addiction, they will most likely leave him and find a more serious man without addiction.

If they finally form a relationship that continues seriously, I'm sure they will appreciate each other more from this bitter experience. Indeed, a very unwise action was taken, but when they were able to overcome the crisis that happened to them. If they learn and want to improve themselves, they will pay more attention and manage their finances better.

We as gamblers may often make similar mistakes. using money for other purposes in gambling, the risk is greater. don't repeat such things. If a gambler has never made such a mistake, then this is a warning and a piece of knowledge that every gambler must understand.

Losing money in gambling gives everyone a worst feeling. But when the money placed bet for the purpose of any particular issue and after losing that money, then the losing pain increases more. A woman who lost wedding money by betting understood the pain of losing. However, no money should be placed in gambling that one cannot afford to lose. Every bet is risky If someone places a bet with the expectation of certain win then it is a completely wrong decision. They lost the bet and suffered losses but I don't think there was any crack about their relation. If they can learn from this mistake then they will not make mistake repeatedly.

While it is very sad to hear about anyone having their trust betrayed like this, it might be a blessing in disguise. It's better she found out early on and avoided being attached to this degenerate gambler for a much longer time. She found out that he would be willing to throw away their future in order to satisfy his gambling urges. That is a lot of money and presumably his mind had become so warped that he was trying to double up or take a shortcut. Unfortunately for gamblers there is never enough and they will keep going until losing everything. Hopefully there were no outstanding and unpaid debts connected to the wedding.

It is very sad to read the story where the husband of the woman who had saved her wedding money loses it instantly by taking part in gambling. The woman's husband was greedy and wanted to double the money by winning a bet together in gambling, so he gambled with his wife's savings.
But such a story is a regular occurrence in my country which often happens. Alcohol and gambling from wife's savings is a common occurrence in my region. These gamblers have never been convinced, but when they fail to manage the gambling money, they steal the wife's money, make gambling bets and get drunk.
A common issue of violence against women arises mainly from managing this gambling money. The dowry system, abuse of women, theft, robbery, murder etc. unusual events are mainly caused by managing gambling money.

True, the incident indirectly tells the female partner that the man she is going to marry is someone who does not have a good responsibility in him, and of course what you say is a possibility that is really very likely to happen, in the sense that if the two of them continue their marriage then yes there is a possibility for the man to do more crazy things which can damage the harmony in their household relationship or even threaten their lives. On the other hand, a man is the head of the household in the family, meaning that they have a very big responsibility to maintain the lives of all their small families at all costs, while on the other hand gambling is an activity that requires someone to always allocate money, and if the gambler is already addicted then of course it is likely that they will not hesitate to do or take various crazy actions that can have a very negative impact on their family life. So this incident indirectly tells the female partner to reconsider her decision before regretting it.

There are many relationships nowadays that capitalizes with being financial stable. And if someone is seen to be having an emotional breakdown due to lack of finances, that will also give more emotional problems that might lead to stress and breakup.

We may not like it but this is how most of the relationships nowadays.

Women want financial security for their stability and living a good life with someone who's good at money and responsible not with someone who's irresponsible.

I thought this was yours for a second until I checked the name and realized it was you fivestar lol. In any case, the young lady who's got a soon-to-be-husband (hopefully an ex now) is dealing with someone who is already so far gone with his gambling urges that he doesn't even realize the risks he's taking with the moves he's making anymore. First off, that money is never his, and is money that is both theirs if they are chipping in as she said. So in no way whatsoever is he allowed to just make moves on that money without consulting her first and foremost.

I am hoping she breaks up with this guy already as there's no way in God's Green Earth that I'd stay for a gambling addict. They are the worst kind of people to stick with, cause one day you think you're helping them and they've already changed, until they get that itch again and they fall for it disappointing you in an endless cycle.

Well, the girl has the say on that relationship when it's come to marriage. Actually, if we're going to analyze their relationship, the girl probably has the idea that the guy has been gambling.

But then, the worst has came and the guy spent their money for wedding to gambling and that's already off the road and limits.

The girl needs to do something if she wants to make her life better in the long run or be with the guy that he'll struggle with and hope for the change but that's the biggest gamble of her life.

Her fiance just displayed the highest level of irresponsibility and that alone for me is a  reason she may have to reconsider the relationship because if she proceeds with the marriage, in the nearest future, chances are that he may end up using funds mwnt for something really important to the family to rather gamble than to meet up with the need sof the family and that in itself will be very detrimental to the family which she knows, this is a great opportunity for her to learn and make sure to see the errors and the possible Chances of their marriage having a huge problem in the future which she may not be able to bear and will proceed to divorce which may turn out another huge stress on its own.

Indeed. True colors will come out once you're already living in the same roof. In this case, it's a good thing the woman already discovered the behavior of his finance before they get married. It might be really painful losing someone plus the money you worked hard for meant for this special event but everything happens for a reason. Because a man giving you importance won't dare to use your both savings for his believe to easily grow it through gambling. Because it's never been an answer to give anyone a guaranteed money once you place a bet.

No one will actually see something bad and want to get involved in it in the first place. If the person knows that the person they are about to get into a marriage with is a gambling addict, then they will never want to get into that marriage in the first place, unless, otherwise, other things are in play. 
 
There are some attitudes that most people will hide from their partner for almost a lifetime until they are fully married, and there is no way that they can continue hiding them again, so in most cases, that's how some people get involved in getting married to an addicted gambler without even knowing it.

It is normal for a person to get blamed if he spend the family budget for his own entertainment.  The person should be responsible to not spend the family budget and losing it to gambling activities.  Winning and gambling sure give more fund to the family and it is praised, that is good enough.  And I also agree that a person who spend the family budget for gambling should be blame.  It is the responsibility of the gambler to make sure that his action won't affect his family negatively.  So if the gambler messed up he must bear responsibility. Because the scenario of a family getting short of budget could be avoided if the gambler has control over himself and avoid spending more than he could afford to lose.


I disagree that the gambler who lost the family budget in gambling shouldn't be criticized.  As I stated it is the responsibility of the gambler to make sure that he is in control over his gambling activities and do not put his family in tight situation due to his gambling acts.  This is like saying that any donator in the government can be exempted from any criminal acts.  

Gamblers bringing more fund to the family had been recognized and praised but this should not be an excuse for the gambler to mindlessly gamble their family budget and lose them all leaving the family in not good situation.  So for me, it should be addressed if the person made a mistake.


It is hard to say whether  the guy would stay as a gambler and won't change since no one can tell the future.  And if the girl does not give the guy a chance then that is good for her since she believes that the guy has no chance to change his ways and by deciding to not marry the guy evaded her for future problem if the guy failed to change.