He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 19.

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Quote from: Hirose UK on October 27, 2023, 01:05:03 PM

Quote from: Helena Yu on October 27, 2023, 06:38:23 AM

Quote from: moneystery on October 27, 2023, 03:10:34 AM

it's quite sad to see this woman how she saved her money to get married but in the end the money was spent by her future husband. this case teaches us that sometimes trusting people with our money is not good because they could betray our trust and never gamble with other people's money, savings for education, health, or other important things.

So you mean we shouldn't trust our parents, family, wife/husband because they can betray our trust? not really sure if you've married or not, but I can't imagine when you've married, you still treat your wife as a stranger and not completely trust her.

It's already a risk if you want to have a relationship with other people, unless you're not want to marry anyone, you will 100% free and not disappointed with your spouse.

You are right because trust in the people around us such as family or partners is necessity that can be prioritized.
Maybe what @moneystery said is true that when it comes to money we can't just trust it because many problems happen just because of certain amount of money but he is not quite right in conveying it here.

And in this case it is not matter of trust but rather responsibility which the man does not have.
He should have been able to add more savings but instead used it for gambling, this is the kind of thing that actually makes the perspective of most people out there think that gambling is bad.

Perception about being bad or something not good to deal with, then its already been ages that community and people around would really be having that kind of bad perception or views towards it and its not really new anymore or something that shocking because its always been that way. Getting back into the situation on which the man had made out such action on which he didnt think of about into those consequences on which he might really be losing his wife to be on this manner on which we know that once trust is broken or something that you have done which is really that on extreme manner then you might be ending up on getting leave out by someone because of that irresponsible kind of decision.

Yes, you do have the plans on doubling the money or adding it up because you are really that desperate on making it big and since your girl is the ones does have that higher contribution then its true that ego
would really be that mainly affected or on whats the reason on why its been triggered out on why you do gamble those funds or simply you are really just that addicted?
We dont know about into those things that circles around on that mind of that guy but much sure that he would really be regretting this one.

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A gambler believe that every steps in gambling is an opportunity and it believe that with the little money in the pocket it can turn to millions and billions so that will be one of the reasons that pushed the young man to use their weeding money to for gambling, actually the man is looking for a way to multiple the money through gambling, which is in a wrong way if I'm not mistaken and secondly if you are addicted in gambling you will not hesitate to use all you have to gamble having the mindset you will win the gamble.

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Quote from: Fivestar4everMVP on October 26, 2023, 02:50:10 AM

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

I feel sorry for her and if she calls off the wedding I don't think anyone would blame her. Ladies do many things in the name of love, sometimes the handwriting could be on the wall but they would choose not to see it. What the man did is cruel, it's actually a sign of one of many things to come in the marriage and if the lady is wise, she should break up with him. Most ladies don't contribute a dime for their wedding, so for her to bring about 60% of the funds needed for the wedding and the fiancee to use it to gamble is really bad.

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Quote from: Helena Yu on October 27, 2023, 06:38:23 AM

Quote from: moneystery on October 27, 2023, 03:10:34 AM

it's quite sad to see this woman how she saved her money to get married but in the end the money was spent by her future husband. this case teaches us that sometimes trusting people with our money is not good because they could betray our trust and never gamble with other people's money, savings for education, health, or other important things.

So you mean we shouldn't trust our parents, family, wife/husband because they can betray our trust? not really sure if you've married or not, but I can't imagine when you've married, you still treat your wife as a stranger and not completely trust her.

It's already a risk if you want to have a relationship with other people, unless you're not want to marry anyone, you will 100% free and not disappointed with your spouse.

You are right because trust in the people around us such as family or partners is necessity that can be prioritized.
Maybe what @moneystery said is true that when it comes to money we can't just trust it because many problems happen just because of certain amount of money but he is not quite right in conveying it here.

And in this case it is not matter of trust but rather responsibility which the man does not have.
He should have been able to add more savings but instead used it for gambling, this is the kind of thing that actually makes the perspective of most people out there think that gambling is bad.

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Quote from: Fivestar4everMVP on October 26, 2023, 02:50:10 AM

Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

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My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

This isn't just a gambling addiction. This is serious level of gambling addiction and total disregard for her husband. I would leave in a heartbeat. Not respecting my limits is a no-no, no matter if she managed to win, or i found out that he has used that much our/my money without asking at all.

Trying to explain that she meant only the best just shows that she doesn't understand where the error was.

This reminds me of some youtube crypto influencer that invested his girlfriend's money to crypto and made profit for her, without her knowledge.
When people confronted him in twitter, he seemed visibly confused, as from his point of view he didn't do anything wrong. Only if he lost he would be guilty of something.
He was ignoring the fact that this was total violation of trust and outcome didn't even matter. The fact he wanted to risk it with someone else's money was the point.

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He is either the most foolish person in the entire world or he is missing a brain. Like who does that? It's their wedding money and he just spent in a bet? So sorry for you dear. But he is not the right person for you. This kind of man doesn't have any sense of responsibility. Good think for you that you got to know how a man he actually is. I was thinking if your marriage is still on or not. If it's no, then congratulations dear. He may have lost the bet but you have won in life. I'm sure you'll get someone who is actually right for you. You may describe this as a disguised blessing.

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What a sad situation. This is very disappointing that he could do such a thing with the wedding savings they both have been keeping for their wedding. Possibly he is an addicted gambler and has been keeping it secretly from his wife to be and he could not control himself from using the money. If he had opened up to his wife to be, the both of them could have had a plan B to the wedding savings so as not to do the unthinkable but the situation now has gone beyond damage control and it is obviously clear that he is an addicted gambler who can not control himself and this however means that in the future if they both get joined together he might do worst than this.

I believe she has no idea he is a gambler possibly she could have kicked against him holding the savings. Since he kept it a secret from her and eventually he has exposed himself and the truth have been revealed.

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Quote from: retreat on October 27, 2023, 11:38:24 AM

How stupid he was to double his savings for his wedding by gambling. I don't understand what he was thinking at that time that he could take such action. I know how the woman feels, she is definitely very disappointed, embarrassed and very angry, especially since the wedding invitations have been distributed to people.
This is the reason why you have to think rationally before acting and only gamble with money that you can afford to lose, because we don't know when a bad day will strike us.

I had not noticed the part where they mentioned the invitations or the plans of the wedding had already been done. That only makes things worse for that woman.
Some women (not all of them) can show a very bold sense of pride towards life changing events, like the graduation of their children, their first job promotion and of course, their wedding. Assuming indeed the invitations had already been distributed, then only adds to the sense of embarrassment and disappointment she must be going through, for being directly ridiculed in front of their family and friends, specially since most of them will know what happen to the money (because of gossip).

Her ex-fiance was not thinking, he acted on impulse and let greed to take over his reasoning. That is why I assume he became a gambling addicted person in the course of months, without she knowing about it

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How stupid he was to double his savings for his wedding by gambling. I don't understand what he was thinking at that time that he could take such action. I know how the woman feels, she is definitely very disappointed, embarrassed and very angry, especially since the wedding invitations have been distributed to people.
This is the reason why you have to think rationally before acting and only gamble with money that you can afford to lose, because we don't know when a bad day will strike us.

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Sometimes it is very hard to make better decisions, especially when it has to do with money. Some people find it so terrible for their wife's or their fiancee to always bring money for them to take care of things like family needs and so on. There are some men that don't like either their wife or girlfriend to always bring money for them to use. They think that it is their responsibility to always provide the money for them.

So the guy doesn't have much money for the wedding and, as the wife is bringing money, the husband was just looking for a way to double the money and not knowing that he's winning is not guaranteed in gambling.
Gambling doesn't give us money when we need it the most, it gives us winnings when we don't even have plans for the money and not even put in mind to win, it is just for the wife to make her own decisions. That's all because, as it has happened like this now, even when they get married, the husband might try this same thing.

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Quote from: Helena Yu on October 27, 2023, 06:38:23 AM

Quote from: moneystery on October 27, 2023, 03:10:34 AM

it's quite sad to see this woman how she saved her money to get married but in the end the money was spent by her future husband. this case teaches us that sometimes trusting people with our money is not good because they could betray our trust and never gamble with other people's money, savings for education, health, or other important things.

So you mean we shouldn't trust our parents, family, wife/husband because they can betray our trust? not really sure if you've married or not, but I can't imagine when you've married, you still treat your wife as a stranger and not completely trust her.

It's already a risk if you want to have a relationship with other people, unless you're not want to marry anyone, you will 100% free and not disappointed with your spouse.

Before we get married, we have to make sure our current partner is someone we have been waiting for and can be our life partner. No one is perfect, but at least we can see what people are like so we don't make the wrong choice. However, when we are married, we must trust our partner, and with clear communication, we can understand and support each other to achieve our goals together. Hopefully, there will be no cases like what happened to this woman and her fiancé. And whether he still wants to continue the marriage or whether he finally cancels the marriage.

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Quote from: Winterfrost on October 26, 2023, 06:28:40 PM

Oh what was the man thinking when he did that! He has left such a lady heart broken.

She said that in the text. He thought he could double it. I understand him and you will to if you think about it.

Imagine you're poor and you don't have a lot of savings. Then as a couple you open a savings account to get some money for the wedding. Your partner has more savings than you and contributes more to the account. On top of that some members of your both families chip in.
Suddenly you have access to an account that has 10 times more money in it than you ever had.
You think that if you could win a 50% bet you'd double it and the whole family would think you contributed as much as all of them together.
Your partner would be happy, your family would be happy, you'd be happy and they'd all be proud of you.
Dreaming like that you bet the money and lose it all.
Suddenly your dream turns into a nightmare.

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Quote from: Gozie51 on October 26, 2023, 10:13:07 AM

Quote from: pawanjain on October 26, 2023, 09:46:49 AM

Can't say if he's addicted or not but the truth is he is a gambler. There's nothing bad being a gambler but he wasn't a responsible gambler.
He should have known his limits and his responsibility. What I am curious about is that why would they spend 5 million on a wedding ?
I wonder which currency they are talking about. If it's USD then it's a pretty huge amount for a wedding.

Such amount of money for a wedding is also another point to this story. $5,000 in a wedding is huge no matter the country's currency.

m thinking if you are planning to spend $5,000 for a wedding then the would be husband should have more than that since he is claiming to support the girlfriend with the money he will win so that the burden will not be on her.

Another point to this is that if you are saving up for a wedding, you don't need such amount of money to be saved up before you do your wedding. If you are saving up it means you don't have and people who don't have don't need such elaborate wedding, I mean the story is twisted and for the guy to use the $5,000 saved for wedding to gamble is really not giving the real light to what it is.

Again maybe this is another social media frick who is looking for followership. Like if you are saving $5,000 for wedding that is too much to be saved for wedding, like people who plan $5,000 wedding ceremony are wealthy and they don't have to save for it because the money is always there and what they would need is to fix their date Grin

Actually, I had edited my post because I misunderstood the number earlier. I guess $5000 is a nominal amount for a wedding.
In my country, we can only do a basic wedding with $5000. We normally have around 300 guests at the wedding and food for them itself costs around $2000.
Besides that, I consider it good that they were saving money for their wedding instead of taking a loan. I am strictly against taking a loan for wedding.
There are many people in my country who take a loan and do a grand wedding and then keep paying up for the loan taken for months/years.
At least this couple wasn't going to that debt trap but eventually lost money. Fate.

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Quote from: Dzwaafu11 on October 27, 2023, 10:26:54 AM

Quote from: Yaunfitda on October 26, 2023, 03:25:27 AM

I don't want to be in her shoe right now. But I guess she has to make that important decision in her life, whether to stay with that man, or broke the relationship and start all over again.

The lady may still have decided to stay with the man, as she may have already spent months or years together with him, and to break up with him may not seem like a wise decision to her. However, if they have wise or elderly people around them, I don’t think they will break up but will take the marriage until another time when the man is able to generate another set of funds for them to settle down and marry her. The fact that she loves the man to the extent that she decides to marry him is why she won’t leave him because of this incident that happens.

However, the guy may think betting with the money is a wise idea, as he believes if he wins the ticket, he will get more money to add to the wedding. Just that he made the mistake of putting almost complete or complete if the money, which happens due to a lack of control over his emotions, I believe he has learned his lesson now and will never do something like this again because this is an unforgettable story for both the man and the gal.

"A thousand good things that have been done can be lost just because of one mistake" which proves that it is so easy to destroy a trust that has been built and maintained for many years. While this is not a small problem, it is quite a big problem because the man behaved carelessly by losing quite a large amount of money just in one bet. Meanwhile, to be able to collect that much money, the woman has to save for months and maybe years to be able to have that amount of savings.

And I think the woman will leave the man, because it is clear that the man is not capable of responsibility and does not want to try more to get money so he can get married. This man deserves to be left behind and this woman deserves to get a better man who is someone who can be invited to fight together.

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Quote from: Helena Yu on October 27, 2023, 06:38:23 AM

Quote from: moneystery on October 27, 2023, 03:10:34 AM

it's quite sad to see this woman how she saved her money to get married but in the end the money was spent by her future husband. this case teaches us that sometimes trusting people with our money is not good because they could betray our trust and never gamble with other people's money, savings for education, health, or other important things.

So you mean we shouldn't trust our parents, family, wife/husband because they can betray our trust? not really sure if you've married or not, but I can't imagine when you've married, you still treat your wife as a stranger and not completely trust her.

It's already a risk if you want to have a relationship with other people, unless you're not want to marry anyone, you will 100% free and not disappointed with your spouse.

Some how, I agree with you, I might actually not trust my parents, siblings like brothers, sisters, cousins and so on, and I might also not trust friends.
But when it comes to married, it's important to marry someone we trust, for a married where there is no trust, such a marriage may likely end up in divorce with both partners going their separate ways.

But then again, I still reason with what moneystery said, it is no doubt possible that sometimes, people we trust might betray us, for in this case, we can see that the young lady trusted her to-be-husband, who eventually failed her, it's really a pity though, for in the end, this lady may end up not ever trusting any man she meets in life again, this is if she ends her relationship with this man because of this incident.

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Quote from: Yaunfitda on October 26, 2023, 03:25:27 AM

I don't want to be in her shoe right now. But I guess she has to make that important decision in her life, whether to stay with that man, or broke the relationship and start all over again.

The lady may still have decided to stay with the man, as she may have already spent months or years together with him, and to break up with him may not seem like a wise decision to her. However, if they have wise or elderly people around them, I don’t think they will break up but will take the marriage until another time when the man is able to generate another set of funds for them to settle down and marry her. The fact that she loves the man to the extent that she decides to marry him is why she won’t leave him because of this incident that happens.

However, the guy may think betting with the money is a wise idea, as he believes if he wins the ticket, he will get more money to add to the wedding. Just that he made the mistake of putting almost complete or complete if the money, which happens due to a lack of control over his emotions, I believe he has learned his lesson now and will never do something like this again because this is an unforgettable story for both the man and the gal.

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one of the very stupid behaviors that this man did and I can not think how much it hurts the woman heart. as a woman, she has given the man the opportunity to save together for the future of his marriage because the woman is a pity if her partner has to be burdened with huge costs for events the wedding, but after the woman felt sorry for her partner, the man actually spent his money on betting, which is really ridiculous.

from my personal experience, I was once a gambler who was very crazy about gambling, even like an addiction, but when I was thinking about marriage, I would not mix my future life with gambling, that was not very good, whereas that man easily believed in gambling if he could double his money and as someone who read this story, I became emotional because it was behavior beyond reason.

with this story we must really understand that there are no guarantees whatsoever in gambling. keep away from the thought of gambling where doubling your money is just a nightmare.

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Quote from: moneystery on October 27, 2023, 03:10:34 AM

it's quite sad to see this woman how she saved her money to get married but in the end the money was spent by her future husband. this case teaches us that sometimes trusting people with our money is not good because they could betray our trust and never gamble with other people's money, savings for education, health, or other important things.

So you mean we shouldn't trust our parents, family, wife/husband because they can betray our trust? not really sure if you've married or not, but I can't imagine when you've married, you still treat your wife as a stranger and not completely trust her.

It's already a risk if you want to have a relationship with other people, unless you're not want to marry anyone, you will 100% free and not disappointed with your spouse.

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Quote from: Fivestar4everMVP on October 26, 2023, 02:50:10 AM

Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

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My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

This is the reality for many addicts every single day and it's hard to have sympathy. If he had spent his half, that would have been acceptable - although his fiancee would likely have broken up with him if he did. However to spend the full sum is basically theft when somebody else has contributed towards the total. In this situation, depending on the country they reside in, then she could theoretically take him to court and they would be able to make a claim for the amount she contributed. There is no point in trying to decipher his actions any further, because there is nothing to be gained from it and it was never a reasonable position for him to enter. Sadly he has hurt not only himself but at least one other person by his selfish actions.

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Such an incident is heartbreaking, and it harms the woman. It appears that the male additionally demonstrated that he does not truly love the woman. I realize it's difficult for the girl, but she needs to go on and accept what happened to her.

That's exactly what it means: you gamble when you can't manage yourself in situations you can't handle. You should only risk with money that is excessively large, not with money that has been assigned. I feel terrible for the girl.

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