Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 17. (Read 3855 times)

Well, from all indications, that fiancé wasn't a gambling addict, and I am very sure he is not even a regular gambler, it just happened that he somehow felt less of a man because he wife-to-be contributed much more to their wedding funds than he himself, that probably made him shameful of himself, and because of that, he was motivated to prove to his wife-to-be that he is capable of providing as well, and the easiest and quickest way to do this was through gambling and winning, since their wedding was already close by and there was no time to invest in any other business except trying to double the money through gambling.
And it's unfortunate that his expectations was cut short, this is possibly one the very bad ways to learn a very good lesson.

By the way, this thread is from way back last year, any reason why it's up again now? 😂

Okay, this is a very funny one, really funny. It might seem like a terrible thing to happen to anyone but, I don’t find if any less hilarious as well, given the situation of these want to be couple and the decision the man took. It’s a poor way to think, believing in the idea of quick money and having to speed things up through gambling. It’s the worst thing you could ever hope for as many at times, it ends as it is in the OP. You just end up loosing everything and even worst, there isn’t a way back to recovery except you gamble some more and that would be you about to lose even more money.

No doubt this man had the best intentions at heart, trying to fast forward things and make it happen quickly but, the wait is what makes it fun and enjoyable.

In my opinion, this marriage should never happen again.

If, even before they get married, the groom has already proven that he doesn't know how to deal with his partner's financial situation, just imagine what he won't be able to do in the future. Imagine after they have children, and he also compromises the child's health, education or even food?

I know that love between two people who are still engaged is normal, but I would really advise this woman to rethink a lot about going ahead with this marriage.

As for the man, he should also be more ashamed, admit that he has a problem, instead of trying to justify his actions. He should first seek treatment for his addiction before trying to enter into a marriage with another person with whom he will have to share everything.

Think about it... no matter how bad the situation is, maybe it's better that this happened now than after the wedding.

Come on people. You dont need to bring your family issues to the forum. If you cant solve such simple money moment yourself, how are you going to live together? He or she must have been familiar with person he/she gets merry with. It should not be a miracle that one of partner gambles. That is just one of aspects of being married. Either skip it and forget, or solve in between you two.

The whole is better that she got a better view of what she was actually trying to get herself into because it's definitely not a good option to gamble on your happiness and make this error of actually marrying such person because this kind of person like you said are always of the opinion that gambling is their first priority and nothing more and if he can do this on his wedding then definitely more other places or times when eventually they do get married.

I agree with your point. There is nothing wrong with gambling but as long as the person is a responsible gambler, because a person who is a responsible gambler will also be a responsible family man because your nature tends to reflect in everything you do, so if you are not a responsible gambler, it means that you are not a responsible human being in the first place.

Marriage is a very important thing, two people take the oath to hold each other's hands for life, and this is something very serious, but if one of the partners is irresponsible and doesn't value this relationship or things related to it, they will only create problems for themselves and their spouse in the long run.

This is why, it's important for every person to understand the person they are going to marry.

In fact, the lady who thinks the decision is good will actually be good for her. Although I think people should be checked with second chances, I would also say that it is better not to marry an addicted gambler, because they only put the family in a bad situation and never try to get out of that bad situation.

That's the reality. But what is the chances for a gambler to win a bet? It's fine to take risk as long as you know to yourself that no one would blame you incase your expectation didn't happened. But using the money that is meant for an important event is a big NO.

And that is the consequences of his action that a gambler should know before doing such. The regret is always in the end. Those who think they can double their money if they use it for gambling (especially if it's not an amount that they can live without) started with a wrong desire. There's nothing wrong to be hopeful but be aware of the risk and be prepared for the outcome. If you can handle the result and confident that you're able to manage the situation then that's up to you.

When a woman is in love, she does the unimaginable, so you don't have to blame her for entrusting the entire funds meant for the wedding to her husband to be (i.e fiance), because if she never had trust and loved him, she wouldn't have agree to marry him in the first place. Hence, the man is to be blamed for trying to raise more money the risky way, because the truth of the fact is that if within few months they were able to raise #5 million naira for the wedding, if they needed more, what they ought to have done is just shift the date of the wedding while they save more money. Because the person who could afford 5 million naira, can possibly afford more if given more time.

Yes of course, those are the glory which comes with taking such risk, but on the contrary, he ought not to have gambled with all the money in the first place, as it's just like putting all the eggs you have into one single basket.

Yes, of course it is true that this is a very worrying situation for a woman's fiancé or female partner due to the actions of her male partner, whose actions may cause them to fail to celebrate their wedding, and in this case I think the man is a gambler who is addicted enough to he dared to risk the amount of money he had saved for his wedding expenses, meaning he was a gambler who only saw and focused too much on the chance of winning while on the other hand of course gambling was always about two possibilities, namely winning or losing.

Winning is nothing more than a chance and losing is a possibility that will definitely happen whenever you are unlucky. Trying to double the money for a wedding party with the aim of making the party even more festive is a ridiculous idea, and there are two possibilities in this case, either you succeed in making your dream come true by holding a large wedding party or you fail to get married due to defeat. And don't forget, I will also correct a little of your idea that in gambling, it doesn't matter, even if you are an experienced gambler, in the end, if you are unlucky, you will lose, meaning that anyone is only allowed to bet a small amount that they can afford. they are accountable regardless of whether you are an experienced gambler or not, and lastly I will also tell you that gambling is not an activity that can be learned.

Wow, this thread is up again.

Either he is that stupid or because he is an addicted gambler. Because even if he's stupid, that's when he uses his wedding savings to gamble. Even a fool would think. Unless he is stupid but pretends to be smart and has a high-level fantasy of getting rich quickly, by gambling he dreams of getting a very big win in a very short time, even just one night. If something like this already exists in his mind, that's fine, that means it's hard to understand.

However, if he turns out to be an addicted gambler, then never mind, it seems like I'd rather leave him. Moreover, if we have tried very optimally to tell him but he is still indifferent and actually ignores all our advice and even goes so far as to use our wedding savings, oh never mind, just leave it. Because he will be much worse in the future.

You`re wrong here, she acted any good woman will act to are husband, don`t forget this is her husband to be if she did not trust him for such money for their marriage arrangement how will she trust him in their feature plans together. Also base on the story it seems like her husband to be was not really someone obsessed with gambling to say this was a red flag.


This is not true all the time while some may applaud his bravery, they will also criticize him about the risk while now that he loses it in has much as they will be so much grieved with his foolishness they should also try not to be too hash and keep a close eye on him to avoid him doing something more stupid like taking his life or even finding more money to gamble thinking he could possibly win it back.
 
Actually such person should never reply be praised or applaud exceeding they still somehow need scolded for it so that he won`t go about telling others about the risk he took, thinking he is a mastermind or luck or trusted source in gambling because many will be lead to take such risk and regret ot in the end.

When a member of the family is gambling, if he wins, the whole family praises him and everyone is happy with his move, but when he loses, everyone blames him. I think a gambler is already depressed when he has lost a good amount of money, so when everyone blames him, he may even be ready to take extreme measures. I have seen many in my country. All people have lost their lives in gambling or have gone mad because of one reason they lost their money and secondly because of the criticism they received.

I think that when family members find out that someone is gambling or wants to gamble, they should resist as soon as they hear about it and stop them before they lose, and if the gambler is praised for winning, then for losing, they should not be criticized, if there is a problem, it should have been stopped before, but I don't like it that when you win, everyone praises you, but when you lose, everyone starts to say bad things and stands up against you.

It doesn't matter if he is a gambler or not in this setting, you used the right word, it is optimal stupidity for him to use funds that he doesn't own alone to play gambling without seeking the consent of his partner. This states clearly his personality and validates the fact that he doesn't seek his wife's contribution or opinion before embarking on activities that concerns the family.

The wife was also careless with the way the funds were handled, maybe it was saved in an account he has control over. In recent times like this, joint savings are not left at the mercy of just one person. Both parties being present before any strong decision should be made or the money tampered is a condition that should have been put in place before the savings even kicked off.

Assuming the guy won, he would have been a hero is what some people would say, but to me he would've been more stupid to think that gambling is a way to makeup or further hustle since it favored him the first time. I think he learned his lessons early and that's very significant.

This was the sad part for the lady,it was the bad luck for her fiancé.If her fiancé had win the game in the gambling,he will book the biggest honey moon trip for her after the expenses of their marriage.But we don’t know how was the lady fiancé was experienced in the gambling.If her fiancé was the experienced gambler,he may not loss the game.So he should learn the game and play the game with the important money like this wedding money into the gambling.Gambling is the game for the people with huge luck or to the people with enough tactics for the game till the big win to the game.

Well, it is certainly horrible and very difficult to digest but people being used as colateral is not necessarily something new in the history of mandkind. It used to be more common, you know, when slavery was a normal thing around the world and when women were considered to be of a lesser importance than the men, to the point of being treated as merchandise.

The disturbing feeling comes when we realize that those disgusting practices have actually not been left in the past, they have mostly just hid themselves in an underground market in hopes to stay away from public scrunity.
I believe that what that woman is going through could be actually a good thing, a miracle in disguise, because there could have been a minimal but real possibilty she could have ended up being mistreated, abused or even sexual exploited to keep her husband's gambling going...

She may have dogged a bullet there. A life threatening one and she should be extremely grateful the man fucked up and revealed his bad habits that has probably cost him a lot before. It’s not entirely surprising the lady pooled in more money in the contributions for the wedding.
The action taken by the man suggests to me the marriage won’t be a happy one mostly for the woman as there is bound to be financial problems later on as she’s likely going to be the one to run the family as well as other things with her own funds and that’s not going to be fun for long.

Totally hard for the girl or woman for this situation or something that do talks about being heartbreaking on which it would really be that normal considering that wedding funds had been used up for the sake of gambling
which your man didnt really that been thinking about the things that should really be that to be prioritize first. I dont know if the girl would really be still that liking to hear off on whatever reasons that would really be telling which we do consider out that its never been that a wise decision or showing up some respect into your wife to be on such act even if you do say that you did such thing for trying out to double the money.
You dont really have the full rights on spending it all since you dont have that contribution or even lets say you do have the bigger percentage but it is really just that right that you should really be
asking first on whatever decisions you would really be taking because you would really be making things mess up if you do take actions without letting the other side knows.

For me as a woman then i would definitely be leaving out this man although it is painful but its better not to take any decisions on marrying him considering that he had made out some
gambling addicted kind of act and also he didnt respect nor choose that marriage but instead he do risks out those funds without hesitaiton.

I think this is will be a good decision for the lady, going into marriage with a man so addictive to gambling can also be a serious problem to her which will also affect her. Situation like this will keep on happening,  this particular one of gambling with money that was supposed to for the marriage ceremony didn't just happen by mistake, what gets me so surprised about this story is the audacity. I think this man sees gambling as the most important thing in his life , other things can came second.  People who play gambling like this can be a problem to other people,  which they can use the money of people to settle their gambling urge first.

The matter is too much sad for the lady. But trying luck in gambling is a big stupidity. If you try to test your luck in gamble you are the most stupid person in the world. Because luck doesn't fever every time favour on you. In gambling it's rare to favor luck on you. Game is fully depend on your mentality and your experience.

The man try to see he is luck but he had done too much stupid in his life. He spend 60% of his wedding savings. who we are Gambler here. We always gamble that amount of money which we can recover after loss. If we faces loss in gambling then we invest that amount of money that we can maintain and that will not create problem in our life. Gambling is a game there is a win or loss experience increase the win rate of game.

I feel so sad for the lady but the man made a big stupid for trying his  luck in gamble.