Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 20. (Read 3840 times)

The current global economic crises is financially affecting more than 80% of the world population and it's made a lot of people to become financially sensitive and wise in other to survive the harsh economic situation. For two spouses to live together and fend for themselves and children as well, they'll have to be very wise in taking financial decisions and that's why I think any man that used money that was saved to finance wedding to gamble isn't mentally ready for marriage and should be avoided by at this time.
It's one thing to be a gambler but totally a different thing to gamble with almost everything and whoever that gambles with money that's not a disposal income isn't a matured enough for marriage.

Some people really need to understand that gambling is not a guaranteed way to double their money, gambling is accessible to every single person in the world, and if it was that easy to double your money through gambling, everyone would have been doing that again and again until they get ultra rich but that isn't how it works. Casinos are businesses and businesses don't make their customers earn money but they earn from their customers, that is how a business works and that is how they earn revenue.

So people need to stop using money that they have for something important in gambling only with the thought that they can double the money or at least earn something extra on top of it because that depends on your luck and you can't always be lucky and when there is extreme risk in it, why even make the attempt and risk losing the money that you actually need in your life?

I feel sorry for the lady, if the story is true. I know that people do make mistakes, but she needs to evaluate the guy a bit more before they go ahead in their lives just to make sure that he can actually provide for her in the future. I also believe that the financial status of the guy isn't good because he is a gambler and he probably uses most of his money it just like what he did with their savings.

It's really a heartbreaking incident because if a person spends long time saving money  and that earned money is wasted within minutes by gambling then it will be a sad story for everyone. It was no fault of the woman that she didn't even know that her husband was a gambler. I will not blame the gambling platform but the gambler should have known that this money was not meant for gambling. There is a picture in many places where a husband sells a lot of his personal life to manage his gambling money. A gambler needs to know what kind of money to use. If the awareness of gamblers is not increased, such incidents will continue to happen.

The action made of groom is so immature and shouldn't be tolerated so that it cannot harm more. Since if She easily forgive what his groom done for sure that there would be a worst thing to happen since guilt feeling will be taken out since the man knows that he's fiancee would just forgive him even if he commit a sin on their relationship. So I guess its better for the girl to go away and decide to cool off to see if his soon to be husband is really worth for his trust and also if there's a changes will happen after that incident and also she decide to cancel everything about him.

Yeah we can expect the man will ask for forgiveness and win her heart again but he need to learn a valuable lesson since what he does is really a big mistake and he need to fix his attitude upon dealing with critical things.

Are you married? This scenario is a perfect example of what a man would get when he gets married Did you read the first post or whole story? If not, here is what you should pay attention to: they were saving money together, he has used part of it and she is now disappointed. Did you get it? What was her is her, what was his now is their In fact, either this is not a full story, but so far it wasnt mentioned that he has lost those money. The chick just cant handle the fact that her future husband used their money without permission or saying. Imagine the guy uses the money  and doubles them. Would she also start to complain, if he makes their wedding double times better?

To everyone - either we find a full story, or stop fantasizing how the story ends. The guy just used money to gamble. It wasnt mentioned if he won or lose. Be more optimistic than pessimistic. 

Now I consider this a grave betrayal of trust, a wedding is essential for a woman, and for a guy to spend the money for their wedding is very difficult for a woman to accept, the lady should choose to cool off the wedding, it seems the man love the casino more than he loved the woman that he is going to marry.

The lady did not deserve the man there are many men that are better than this guy I'm sure he will find a better guy, and her life will be in a big misery if she decides to continue with the wedding.
You cannot build a relationship if one is betraying one's trust.

This case has happened a lot in real life and I feel sorry for people who experience bad luck like that, gambling is actually not bad, it depends on someone using it responsibly or not, sometimes someone thinks that gambling can multiply money but in reality the more we bet the more We waste a lot of money in vain and honestly what this man did was a stupid thing to spend so much money just to bet on gambling especially when he used the proceeds from his shared savings before doing that he couldn't think about the impact that would happen?? I really feel sorry for the woman, she trusted her partner to hold onto her savings, but it turns out the man used it for gambling. It's really heartbreaking. It would be better if the woman not only canceled her marriage but also broke off the relationship with the man because if the woman continues the relationship that This will have a bad impact in the future, someone who is addicted to gambling will find difficult to stop.

I think the lady already knew that this man is a gambler? That's the first red flag, as this man is a desperate gambler who thinks only for himself, if they can both gather money together and he went behind her back to make this stupid decision then he can't be trusted, assuming this man is the only one planning the wedding on his own with his money and this happened its better, but your woman also saved part of the money for the wedding? That's pure wickedness.

Why can't he just gamble with a certain amount or why not just risk his own part of the money that he saved? Why use all the entire money? Forget love for a second, this is a reckless man who don't care about others, I am also a risk taker and I don't like putting people in a bad condition or shape, I prefer risking my all for myself, and be ready to face the result but bringing someone down with me? Never!

If I can meet this man I have two things to say to him, I will describe how selfish he his to him and also tell him that he is better off without the lady because he doesn't deserve her, how can you use such money to gamble when you know it's possible you lose it? Such man can do anything, she deserves someone better.

it's quite sad to see this woman how she saved her money to get married but in the end the money was spent by her future husband. this case teaches us that sometimes trusting people with our money is not good because they could betray our trust and never gamble with other people's money, savings for education, health, or other important things.

and also if someone thinks that they can double their savings or money that is very important to them through gambling, that is a very stupid thing because they will not be able to double it, on the contrary, they will lose all the money they have and this has been experienced by many people. gambling is not a way out, people should understand that doubling their savings is not by gambling but by increasing their income or borrowing other people's money if they have to. thats the only way.

Surely he has broken any trust that was suppose to be built in that relationship and no matter what happens incase she goes on with the marriage, it will need a greater conviction to believe in him anymore. I can imagine she having such huge money and the thought of giving it to him for keep, that will be a big temptation for her.

Anyway, talking about leaving the relationship or having a future together, you will be surprised the man will reconvinced her again, there are some guys good at such convinction where there is existing love, just like they love convers multitude of sin.

You are absolutely correct. If he could use money saved for marriage to gamble then he can do more stupid acts. I have read the news of someone selling his child without the wife's consent because of money. The girl should rethink if she can really spend the rest of her life with him because he might cause more trouble in the future.

It could also be that it is just a mistake and he has never acted in such a stupid manner in the past. I have never invested in a Ponzi scheme but there are times when family members or friends will keep convincing and persuading you to put in your money. If you are not careful, you might consider putting in a big amount. Maybe this man was convinced that he would win if he staked the money. I hope he has learned his lesson and will consider gambling responsibly in the future. Nevertheless, it is up to her to take the decision.

To be fair this depends on the personality and more about like how the relationship would go on. If he is a gambler that will go on to gamble and take these type of risks all the time during the marriage as well then yeah I think calling off the wedding is fine, that woman shouldn't marry this man. But, if this is a rare situation and he couldn't find any other way to help and normally do not gamble all that much at all, then it was a stupid mistake derived from wanting to do something nice, and that is of course a stupid move there is no doubt about that but at least it's a decent act.

I think that is an important thing and should make the difference, in that case some form of argument would be more than enough for them to go on. The difference is that, once in a year is fine, but doing it constantly means rest of your life would be like that, and no person should marry another person that would be making mistakes like this at all times constantly.

These kind of men aren't just risky but also plain stupid, it's your money for the wedding and I don't think that there's anything you can spend it on besides the wedding itself. One thing that's clear here is that the woman has dodged a bullet if she did called off the wedding and broke up with the guy because there's no bigger sin than destroying what the love of your life has been dreaming of which for most women is a grandiose wedding. This is such a disaster for both the couple and the people involved in the wedding, definitely a story worth sharing to other people about the dangers of gambling.

It's really unfortunate and really a  sad story that makes big dilemma. Also sad about the woman's condition. And for the man who was her future husband, this was truly outrageous. If there is still a chance, even though this is not easy, even very difficult, it is better not to continue. I think this is not just a plan to make the money multiply by betting. but it could be that this has become a habit or even an addiction. And when someone is addicted to betting without thinking about financial management, this will last a long time. And it won't be easy for that person to change. It may be difficult, but it may be the worst possible outcome.

And this can be a lesson for all of us. Please remember, don't expect to get rich from gambling, don't risk what you have in betting or gambling in the hope that you can multiply what you have. In fact, it is the debt that will probably double because of this. because after all, financial management is very important, when someone dares to use money that is very important to them to gamble, it means that their thinking is very narrow and their financial management is very bad. Whether the story is true or not, regardless of all that, don't make betting your absolute hope of making more money.

This was the right signal for that woman, i would say this was something good because if she got married to a man like that it would be the biggest mistake in her life. So, with this, she lost part of the money for the wedding, but was a cheap price to pay, other way that guy could gamble the house or the cars in the future.

I really feel bad for her, is one of those scenarios where the gambling vice is bigger than love and trust.

This is a really sad story that the fiance have to take their whole $5000 meant for upcoming wedding to just gamble it all away without he taking proper measure knowing fully well that gambling is just like a 50/50 chance whereby you are likely to win or lose, and as such he ought to have gambled with the fund he knew he could always afford to lose, and not the entire $5000. Because with is situation now, I doubt if that wedding will ever go on again, as that lady is likely not to ever forgive his fiance any day ever again for making such a huge mistake in such a critical and important time like this in her life. And this should be a lesson to all other men to not gamble with any money that they just can't afford to lose.

Oh what was the man thinking when he did that! He has left such a lady heart broken. Definitely its not easy to take the burdens of wedding alone that is why some friends and families contribute to support individuals who wants to get married. But the guy in question was too quick to do that and at least he should have been sincere to the lady by telling her before he decided to use the money. To find such ladies who are willing to save up with a man to plan weddings together is rare these days. This is such a terrible situation for the both of them as now the wedding will no longer hold and also all the hard earned money saved is loss. Except the extend of their love for each other I dont see the both of them getting married.

Yeah, I get it.  It's a really heart-breaking situation and I can't help but empathize with her. Weddings are a huge deal for a lot of women, and she put in a bunch of her own money too.  So finding out her fiancé blew their savings gambling has gotta be just crushing.  I feel bad for her.  But it's probably better she found out now instead of after they got married, you know? At least this way she can make an informed choice if she really wants to start a family and spend the rest of her life with this dude.  

Making contributions to get married or even taking loan to get married with are both not a good ways to start a family,  and one of the cardinal points of marriage is the ability to sustain your family as a man,  and in doing that you as a man must have a good income system and on long term base to avoid running into bankruptcy after the wedding and everything and if care is not taken and proper arrangement is not made by the man before marriage,  the pressure from the marriage may force one of the partner to walk out of the marriage.

So for a man that have such issues with gambling even though he is not financially stable is not yet man enough to start a family because there is the possibility that in the future he may start gambling with their children's school fees or be unable to pay the bill due to being exhausted from gambling passively to make an earns means.

If I knew the lady, I would say her fiance is a red flag; there are more scenarios like that that could happen to them in the future. What the guy just made is a decision wherein he didn't think before he used the hard-earned money. I get it; he only wants to help, but the method he chose is not a good idea. You see, it shows how reckless he is about money; he didn't hesitate to waste all that $5 million just to gamble. I don't care about his intention to help; if you are in your right mind, you will never ever use the money for your wedding for something that is too risky. I'm not saying to break up with him I know you love him but you should not trust your fiance in terms of money handling, because he did it once and it could hav more.