Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 9. (Read 3855 times)

I would describe him as an impulsive gambler, and that move was incredibly foolish. No one in their right mind would bet their savings in such a manner.

I can’t understand why he did that. He should have found another way to increase their savings instead of making such reckless decisions.

That was definitely the thought that was in the man's mind, because that was why he dared to risk his wedding savings. This is one case that I think is sad because in addition to harming himself, there are also other people who experience the same loss, namely his partner and I even think each of their families may be embarrassed even though they have not distributed invitations but at least I think word of mouth has already spread.

Even in our good condition, I think it is not good to gamble with the assumption of wanting to get profit, especially in urgent situations such as needing large funds to overcome one of those things, it is very unlikely to get profit, very lucky and happy if you do manage to get a win and the amount is quite large according to what is expected, but the fact is that the loss will be more dominant, so the funds that are bet when lost will likely only make the situation more complicated. I think those who dare to risk their savings for gambling are people who are desperate, so gambling is the only thing they think about which is considered a solution to get out of their difficulties.

This is really a sad story indeed, I felt pitty for that young lady for being messed up by her man due to Gambling, I know how it usually be when such thing happens expecially money contributed for marriage, it's very bad. J believe the man will regret his actions but wether he regret ls or not it doesn't change anything, the deal has been done thats why we need to be careful with our actions because a negative action may lead us to losing very precious thing to us.

No wise woman will do such a dumb thing like that. For me I don't think a woman who called off a wedding will still date that same man who disappointed her. I see it as a deal cut off both wedding and the relationship altogether.

He is a gambler in my in my point of view. Someone who is not a gambler usually play bet with fear and tremble which means any slight loss will Leed them to regret and leave that bet and blame himself of even gambling at the first place. But continuously playing till he lost the #5m means he is an addict chasing after loses.

Although he's probably have that genuine thought of multiplying but his ways were terrible and unwise.

I wouldn't give the benefit of the doubt to the guy because if he wants to increase the money and budget for their wedding, he should have find another hustle instead.

The groom may have thought that he can double his money by gambling and he never knew that it can turned into that way. I am not supporting his act but if he had won in gambling, everyone would have been praising him and encouraging him for taking risks. I think gambling is not made to make quick money for urgent needs. Yes if you are intelligent enough you can earn slowly and steadily from it but those who think it as a quick rich scheme usually end up in the way like that person has lost his money. Also, it is the greed that always results in the loss.  

I like the idea that the two are saving for the wedding which shows that they are really in love with themselves but the idea of the man using all the 5 million to bet and lost everythings shows that the man is indeed an addictive gamblers. When money has been booked for something else, it doesn't make sense for the other partner to feel somehow using the money to do something else. Gambling with funda is a financial decision and it's good we focus and not use fund that is meant for something important to gamble because of the risk it could pose if the funds is lost and can not be recovered.

Sincerely we love wedding and it's our pride and it shows how happy we are on that very day, this is something that puts people together including friends and family especially to those we have also attended their wedding. But on the other note it's very painful to see that their heart earned money was just gambled away without any winning attached to it, what I don't like most at times is taking unnecessary risk or, do I say it's a calculated risk or an intentional risk which I know doesn't worth it neither does it yield fruit to it at the later ends.

On the other hands if we look at this angle, the man was just trying his best to make sure that he increased the money by all means so even though the money was gone through gambling that doesn't mean that he did that just for gambling sake but instead to also assist the young lady to reduced her Borden and load of contribution but without knowing it would go on the wrong way where they would have to lose all money just for a twinkle of an eyes.

On the other hands it looks like the husband to be for the woman was gambling secretly, because if the woman have known that her fiance is a chronic gambler she wouldn't have agree to make a joint account with him. However since the gambler can no longer hide it as he has lost the money for there wedding that was how the wife to be knows that her fiance is a chronic gambler and might be addicted (if she checked closely).

For this lady to consider getting married to this man it means that she must have known that he is a gambler, she shouldn't have agreed on having a joint account with him, instead she should have tried to keep him away from the funds they both contributed. Gambling addiction is terrible, once the urge starts kicking most gamblers find it difficult to resist. It's very possible that he lost all that money because he was chasing his losses. This is why gambling will always be a vice, it doesn't matter if people are winning, it has caused more harm than good.

In the end his actions saved money because now they wont need to spend the cash to get married only to find out they disagree and have different interests on how to spend free time etc.    All of that is useful avoidance and saving emotional energy as well as a large amount of money then just the wedding.

Lawyers cost even more then gambling so he avoided that by his actions being so overt they communicated something if nothing else, it was ultimately an honest action in that respect.   The bet was not the wrong action as such but unilaterally deciding where their funds should go was a massive mistake and no doubt cost him any further involvement in the relationship.

One doesn't need to overcome anything, she should take the decision and leave him because he isn't worth it. You can't risk your life for someone this irresponsible because if he didn't think about the most important occasion of their life and used the money for gambling, there is no guarantee that he wouldn't do the same thing again in the future. So if she wants to live a peaceful life with no tensions and worries, she should find someone else because he's clearly not the right one for her.

As for the guy, he needs to learn to control himself and his emotions and urges because you can't make such decisions in life all the time. I know that it happens sometimes, your mind doesn't work and you do something you may regret later, but one should at least do something while having a limit.

I hope that the guy finds himself in a better position in the future as well.

Yes it is definitely sad because that woman doesn't know about gambling. I think greed worked in her fiance because the man came up with an idea where he saw his own interests being magnified. He forgot that in gambling one can not only win but also lose. It would have been better if he had budgeted separately for this or if he would have taken a risk with a little money but it is never a good idea to spend any necessary money on gambling. Before gambling he should have kept in mind that what he might suffer if he loses the money he bet. If he had taken a decision considering the issues  then he could have bet according to his wish.

This is exactly why this makes her a victim, after all if both agreed to bet the money it was supposed to be used for their wedding in this way, then I can only say they were two naive people trying to beat the casinos and they learned their lesson the hard way, but she did not knew anything about it, so the feelings of betrayal she felt from the person that she was supposed to share the rest of their life with are immense, and it is difficult for me to imagine how could she ever overcome those feelings from now on.

Anything which is connected about not telling the truth or simply making up actions secretly without telling your partner or whom you do love with specially if we do speak about on the money that they've been both saving up for their wedding then it is really always the form of disrespect into someone. You do know that this is a fund which is really that allocated or being intended for that very special day of your life on which it is on your wedding day and if that guy did really consider out on taking up such step about spending those funds without letting your partner know then its a sign of disrespect. I do also feel bad for the lady considering that he's been together with a gambler. Its not really that bad to gamble but compromising such important funds just to make your leisure or urge to gamble to be satisfied then you are just putting your relationship
into such demise.

This is why it would be better that you should really know on what you are doing and you should really be wary on the things that you should make on which never ever consider
on taking up such actions or steps on which you do know that this could really break your relationship.

Do you know why I feel bad for the lady? The fiancé didn’t inform her before gambling with the money, if she was informed and she agreed with her fiancé to gamble with the money, as they lose the money, I am not really going to feel anything for them, but she knows nothing about everything that happened. The fiancé did so wrong by doing so. We should know that gambling is not a place to increase money or make money. why did he decide to gamble with the money that is meant for important activities like this? Seriously, that’s really wrong, and I feel sorry for the lady, and I don’t know where she will be starting from.

I also did not like the idea of both of them saving on the same account for the wedding. Because, apart from the guy using the money to gamble, what if it was a different terrible story that played out? For example, what if they were robbed and all the money was in one place and just gone like that? They will not blam anyone about it but themselves. They don't need to save together on the same account. It could be on a different platform, but the savings are going to be for the same purpose, which is their wedding.

Maybe, from another angle, you are right that there is no fault in the gambling itself, which was the root or reason why the savings that should have been reserved for the marriage of the man's fiancée were used for gambling.

So, the man was really wrong because he thought that his capital savings would be doubled in gambling, but he did not think that what usually happens to casino gamblers is that they lose. He became very positive in his thinking that he would really win the gamble; he didn't think about the consequences of what he would do.

Nope, I am not defending him If you want to ask my personal opinion, then he should not gambled at all, and they should not be trying to save money for wedding together. It was this man duty to pay all the wedding expenses, and that girl should have spent money only on the wedding dress

As to their situation. That guy screwed up a lot. But should that girl make such a big drama out of it? We can and should blame man for reckless gambling, but as well we should blame that girl for such behaviour. We dont know whole story. All we know that guy spend all money that they have collected together with 60/40 ratio. But we dont know all the details. What if that guy has put only 40% in the  wedding bank, but parallel also pays all the bills and buys food. Just imagine how situation would look if we have more details.


And among those 20k, that man has put 8k in the bank. If he had gambled all her money, that would be a different story. But he has wasted their money.

Anyway, if there is no trust in between partners, there is no use to get married at all.

Lol, friend, I see how good you want to defend this man, but I don't take with unreasonable behavior by some people. Even if he was trying not to put all the wedding burdens on the girl, he should not have just thrown all the money into gambling at once. 

Ok, think of this scenario: the woman said the money was five million (either five million dollars or what?) But let's imagine that the money was $20,000. Do you think that this man must have just collected this $20k and thrown it all into one single bet? Don't you think that this man perhaps started gambling with a small amount, but gradually he kept on losing until there was no money to gamble with again? 

If perhaps he gambled with the $20k just on one single bet, that's crazy. If he also started gambling gradually with just a small amount until he lost all that money, that is also crazy. 

If he were sensible enough, he would have stopped gambling when he saw that he had lost a lot of that money on his bad bet. If he was also reasonable, he will not bet with $20k just at once. 

If I were in his shoes, I would only gamble with some part of that money; I would not spend it all. Even if he was trying to impress the girl by lifting so much bills off her shoulder, he didn't gamble responsibly . 

Don't get me wrong; it's just my opinion. 

Imagine a situation, when you work and got blamed later because it turned to be own money in the end, as well as you are accused of stealing. You are missing the part that the guy also saved money that he gambled with. Look on this situation more global. That guy is not the only guilty here. Woman is also guilty for letting him gamble, havent realized that she is about to marry such a person. She would be a total different person, if he would have gambled and won. She would praise him. The point is, that money can always be earned, but would she (and he) be able to regain reputation.

In the end, dont blame that man so hard. I am sure he had used that money not just to gamble for fun or to have more his own money in the end, but to have a bigger budget for a wedding. Look on the text, he did it because "he was trying not to put all wedding burden on her". You see, he was trying to make it better and easier for the family. Guy failed with choosing method of help Should have invested instead