Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 6. (Read 3855 times)

Definitely he's a regular gamblers with big dreams on his wedding day. The grandest ceremony in his town could have been funded through gambling, if he won. All that savings would multiply to bigger amount, I guess he never wanted to host guest on an average wedding party. That was greed, not just addiction, hitherto he'd been in regret and would be in a bigger mess as the next choice will be loan, or canceling the date.

However, his fiance may not have been aware of the type of player she's been dating over the years. Additionally, love is beyond habits, and finding a spouse that would stay despite the faults and flows is a blessing.

I am late to the party but my would still share my opinion on this. I will be calling off the wedding immediately if I was the lady, no matter my commitment on the plans set to have a beautiful marriage and the fact that I have the highest percentage of contribution. The man action display an act of irresponsibility and carelessness.

It is a very painful scenario and she owes no one any explanation, even her family just need to cheer her up because if she had ended up with the man, it would have been worse. The man must be addicted to betting for him to think that's the better way to double the money.

I would have met the lady if I was the man and discuss things with her before taking such a decision even when I know we are supposed to have a forever ever life.

But my question is, is he addicted to gambling or was it just a moment of impulse and bad decision to gamble away the wedding money? Because if he was addicted to gambling, i don't believe his girlfriend didn't know about it the whole time they were together. If she knew he was a gambling addict but still decided to love him and still trusted him with her money, then she is the one to blame.


People think he is addicted but I guess he is not addicted to gambling because he also contributes 40% of the money. It was a stupid moment and the worst mistake he could have made, but this action cannot be used to confirm that he is an addict, IMO.

Sometimes, the pressure weighs on a man when he cannot earn money to take care of his lover, he gets stuck and starts to have bold thoughts. But in the end, things turned out worse than he thought.

Financial matters are very important in a marriage relationship. A couple needs to be open and resolve their financial issues wisely. If there is no trust anymore, then there should be no relationship worth maintaining. Such a situation can happen to both women and men. But if they still want to be together and try to fix everything. Their financial management must be improved. Especially men who must be more responsible with their gambling. Whatever the reason, he actually did not need to risk his savings. It clearly hurts everyone who supports them.

This is the reason why every partner should be open to each other because an addiction like this can ruin the future of the relationship. On this case, this guy deserves not be married instead need to go on immediate rehab to solve this addiction problem.

All of us has a tendency to become like this when we are involved on gambling while we have huge amount of money in possession and can easily use to gamble.

My wife holds all my salary and savings since I want to play safe. This is the reason why I gamble rarely using my signature campaign earnings.

Now that the man has broken the trust, I don't think the woman will trust this man for anything if they get marry in the future, because she will never forget what happened in their wedding preparation that make the man to use their saving to gamble. If truly the man love the woman, he will surely apologize to her because all those kind of woman are very few in the world today, and many ladies these days don't want to support their boyfriend because they feel anything can happen that will make the guy not to show interest on them.

Is not written anywhere that woman must support her man for wedding but it can only be willingness from the woman to support the wedding preparation, and some men use to take advantage of that not to take good care of their wife because they didn't support their wedding.

The blame should be for the groom alone and not the bride because she doesn't have an idea that the man was going to use the money to gamble. If the man knew that he would be so loosed not to control his gambling desire, then he should have asked the woman to save half on the money in her own account, instead of his own. It was the man that got greedy here without the consent of the bride.

In my opinion, you shouldn't have anything to do with people who suffer from gambling addiction. They are absolutely not suitable for flirting, love, friendship, and especially for family relationships.

I was once on vacation at a resort in Nice and was actively meeting beautiful girls there. That day, I went out to the embankment and suddenly saw a black-haired girl of unprecedented beauty. She was gambling on a slot machine. I immediately saw that she was losing and decided to get to know her in an unusual (as it seemed to me then) way.

I bought a gaming token and when she lost everything completely, I handed her the gaming token with a smile. She behaved like a zombie, took the gaming token from me (without even thanking me or showing any emotion) and put it in the slot of the slot machine. Of course, she lost again and left.

And I realized that a person with gambling addiction behaves like a zombie and is absolutely not suitable for interpersonal communication.

That will be ridiculous if he still make gambling as his important thing in his life because he will marry with his wife and must not use the money for the other things. I think he needs to get check his minds why he decide that as wedding is for his life and his wife will be besides him for a long time. So using the money for gambling in reason of making more money will not be reasonable to do. But if playing gambling with his own money, maybe that can be acceptable because he is not use the money for his wedding but he must realize that he can lose his money. It is better to leave gambling for a while or forever after his wedding so he can focus to pass his life with his wife.

We must know which is important and not so we don't have to make a problem especially in our important day. He needs to be wise using his money because when someone marry, he should think of his couple and not just for himself. The money that he gets should be use for his family daily needs and not just allocate his money to playing gambling. His life now have family so he must focus with his family and should reduce his gambling activity.

Using money to increase the amount of his money from gambling will not a good idea because there is a certain of losing in gambling and if that is happen, he will get a problem with his family. We must not just use the money without any plan because now we are not alone to pass our day. If we can use the money with right, that will help us to survive although we can playing gambling with some allocating budget that we prepare.

This is a very good narrative you've pointed out here and truth is that in a real case where they both love themselves, this is not enough reason to call off the wedding permanently. A relationship that has gotten to the stage of preparing collectively for marriage has reached that stage where both parties are aware of what each of them is capable of doing and I'm so sure that the wife to be is aware of the man's gambling habit. I'm not justifying what the man did and certainly, it shows that he's not responsible afterall cause regardless of the urge you have regarding using money in your hands for gambling, an important saving as this should never come to your mind for such a thing.

If they eventually fix things up, I believe this is a subject they will have to talk through thoroughly or else, they will face a worse case when the husband starts mismanaging house hold funds for his personal gambling needs.

In that woman's place, many would think twice about continuing the relationship. We don't know if the woman had information that her fiancé was addicted to gambling or spent too much time on it. I think the woman most likely didn't pay attention to it or knew about it but didn't attach much importance to it. In essence, the incident that occurred was the woman's retribution for her frivolity. We know that people addicted to gambling cannot fully control themselves. They don't know what responsible gambling is. The guy claimed that he wanted to double their money by using it in the form of bets. This suggests that he has no idea about risk management and bankroll management.

I put end to a long friendship relation with someone who did the same thing your friend did to you. I hadn't no choice but to leave him because i lost my credibility with the house owner and had to live in a shelter-like garage for more than two months. I couldn't forgive him because of the damage i suffer as a young college student at the time and can't ask my parent to send money again. This was the worst incident ever happened to me with a gambling addict. Since then, i keep taking cautions dealing financially with any gambling addict i met.

It is never easy to deal with a gambling addict even if you intend to help him recover. It is very difficult for those close to the addict because gambling affects important aspects of their lives in a way that makes it difficult to have good relationships with them. I know that there are several ways to treat addicts, each according to his condition and the degree of his addiction. But honestly, I have never known a gambling addict who was able to recover completely and stop gambling with money that he should not have touched. They all maintain the belief that they can win and make up for what they lost, and this is one of the symptoms of chronic addiction.

This attitude is becoming more and more common, this idea that a person deserves something and as such everyone else should do their best to fulfill their wishes is ridiculous, if a couple wants a certain standard for their weeding but they cannot pay it, the only rational choice is to forfeit those desires and hold a wedding they can actually pay, since I have seen couples that decided to borrow money to pay for the weeding of their dreams and years later they are still paying for it, a circumstance that could ironically lead to an early divorce.

Interesting. In the traditional culture of my country (which isn't important these days anymore), it was family of the bride's duty to sponsor the wedding expenses. Anyway, being the bride or groom's duty, it's very irresponsible and greedy to appeal to gambling in order to raise enough funds for a party. If they don't have enough money to have the party of their dreams, better that they don't party at all until having enough conditions. Or, better that they accept the fact it has to be a humble party, because that is all they can pay for right now.

It's much worse when besides ending without any money, due to having lost everything to gamble, the couple also doesn't have any wedding party, because the money is completely gone. Moreover, there is always the frustration and guilt feeling in the air, with serious potential to prejudice the relationship of the just married couple.

I believe that’s the case with the couple. The story is about a Nigerian couple, in most Nigerian culture it is the man who is expected to foot the bills of the wedding ceremony. The woman can assist but her contributions should not be more than the man’s money except in cases where the woman is more financially stable than her partner. This kind of explains why the man would want to double the money through gambling. If he had won the bet, he could marry with his pride intact and give his woman her dream wedding.

You are right bro, I also think it's rare to find a woman that will even show interest in supporting the man with some financial assistance to carry out their wedding. It's usually the man that does everything in my place too and the fact that this woman supported the man, should be a reason that the man should not have even exhibit this kind of attitude.

Even if it is not for a wedding but in the end when we have a good intention then in the end of course it would be wiser if we do not mix the budget for an important thing with gambling, we will not be able to prohibit anyone from gambling but in the end we still have to be more mature in controlling ourselves so as not to let the money that has been collected either for savings, investment or indeed for other needs be used only because of emotions and momentary ambitions because of the gambling that is done.

The initial concept of gambling that must be realized is that in the end the risk of loss will be far greater than the profit or victory obtained so it would be ridiculous to expect something (victory) from gambling because it is just a thought that in my opinion is too optimistic and even seems naive because it does not think about the negative situations that could be faced.
Many people or gamblers know this but they don't really pay attention to it, making the situation complicated in the end for themselves because they have to lose something important for the momentary emotion of gambling.

Thats why as early as this one will already be having that also the advantage specially if it talks about on your soon to be partner. If on the moment that he had made out such action on spending up your marriage budget which it do already shows that his true colors when it comes to financial and also if he had been able to take up some decisions on spending up that budget then this shows that he doesnt care about your marriage. If you are a guy whose about to have that special day of your life then he wont really just that let himself be doing such actions specially on spending up the money on which it supposed to be used on the special day of their life. This would really be bringing out that huge disappointment into that partners emotion on which spending up on something that they've been saving up for so long.

Just like on everyone else been talking on here that it would really be that up to you whether you would be still continuing on marrying the guy or would really be having doubts or second thoughts already basing up on the incident that do happen. On this one then it will really be that impossible that you cant be able to picture out on what kind of possible life that you could be. If the had been able to do this while you arent still married
then better think twice on trying out to make it happen.

Yeah, I would say she dodged that bullet, or more like the bullet missed its target, lol. 

Living your life with someone so irresponsible and reckless can make your life hell, so whether it's a man or a woman, if they show carelessness and behave like they don't care for you, the partner should better back off when it's early because taking the next step will only get you in more trouble. Every person has their soulmate somewhere in this world, ending up with someone who doesn't even care about anything shouldn't be a compulsion.

I personally believe that people who are addicted to gambling shouldn't get married because they don't have the right the ruin someone else's life for their bad habits. You can't manage a family and keep them happy if you can't stay away from gambling and will probably spend most of the money you earn on your gambling activities.

I believe many of us here that are gamblers that always like to utilize opportunities could learn from this kind of mistakes. It doesn't make sense actually but it is a big regret for both couples planning to get married soon and they're now slightly becoming an enemy because of the costly mistake. Maybe we can say this is an act of addiction because if it's not as a result of gambling addiction, the man could have given up since retaining the remaining money while looking for other means to complete the lost fund. No one knows what the lady will be passing through now that it looks like their plan of getting married is shattered finally.