Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 6. (Read 727 times)

It's a shame, and actually I also agree that a man like that is not worth keeping around, and I completely understand his feelings.
The woman must have been very disappointed and angry, but it all happened.
But it all depends on the woman's feelings for the man and if the woman still loves him very much and still wants to keep him, it doesn't matter because the relationship if they love each other will be strong in facing any problems. And in this case the woman must be firm with the man and if the man really loves her then he must immediately return the money as soon as possible. And if the man agrees then there is no harm in giving the man time, and if the man really loves him he will definitely try.
And if both agree, just ignore the failed plan, it wasn't actually a failure. However, God had other plans because actually this story happened a lot, only the story was different and in the end they still got married just because it wasn't the time yet.
And when it comes to gambling, it depends on the woman and whether she wants the man to stop gambling, and if so then the man must agree to it for the good of the relationship.

I have had to laugh out loud seeing the headline but on a second thought, this is not funny. This is nothing but a pure wickedness, a man that doesn't have a lovely heart, a man that doesn't care how others feel about him is the only person capable of this stunt. This is cheating and stealing because if really the lady contributed 60% and the man had the audacity to used the money to bet, common this is bad.

Another thing is that, the woman is having the desire to get married on time because she donateed more than half of the money, where I comes from even if the lady is the one trying to get married on time, the bill and responsibilities of the wedding lies on the man and not on the woman but here reverse is the case.

She better thanks the man foolishness for using the money to bet, because if in the end they get married, the marriage might not last, the man will gamble all the money in their saves and they will drag and drag eachother and later divorce. It's sad but better this way.

Simple rule; you have no rights to use someone else’s money no matter what reason you are having. Well, indeed if it won both would be somehow happy but the fact that the man took the risk using not only his money, is rude. Even if it won, things would still be not great to see. It is gambling he engaged himself with, meaning, he was ready to lose the money in the first place given that winning will never be certain. In all aspects I wouldn’t agree to the guy. He’s insensitive from doing so and might fall under addiction as well so he better consult and check himself if he really wants to change for the better. Nit because he has a part of that saving means that he has already a right to use the whole thing; just pure commonsense he is lacking.

It is quite sad when I see those who are even determined to use or allocate their marriage savings just to fulfill their temporary desires by gambling, if there are people who do things like this then I can't imagine how their level of addiction is, which is certainly a very severe gambling activity.

Therefore, it is important not to overdo gambling, do not be too serious in this activity because obviously this is only recommended for entertainment only without bringing any seriousness in terms of earning. In case you're in a situation where you're lucky then you'll be able to get the winnings you've always hoped for. And also yes there will definitely be quite a deep trauma that will be in the bride-to-be when she finds out that the budget for her wedding was used for gambling by her partner, I think with the growth rate of gambling getting worse in society, cases like this may not be rare anymore, and with that maybe this incident can be a lesson for them or other people who see this alarming condition so that they can also better control their gambling so as not to be too excessive and still keep their wedding savings. Well it's true that openness is also very important, I hope you don't cover everything to your partner especially about bad habits because of course it will be a big problem.

The lady is not deserving for that reckless Kind of man, he will do more worst in the future, this shows that he's not being transparent enough to his partner, for him to have use that kind of money for gambling is a disappointment to himself and the lady may not find a place in her heart to forgive him or let go, the man should be the one looking for money foe their wedding, but fir the lady doing so means he's an irresponsible man, yet he proved that by using the entire money for gambling.

Don't anybody see this yet that we are having a gambling addiction pandemic. And it is getting worse by the day.

This lady in the story would forever be scarred and traumatized for life. I wish one of the ways would cope is through a post traumatic growth of being a therapist to help other women whose partners -to-be or partners are addicted to gambling.

This story also brings to light the value of openness and honesty in every relationship. Be opened with your partner about everything and anything.

Stories like this pains me a lot and it is so sad to read.

Truly heart breaking. But in my opinion, there in the gambling discussion section, we have found even crazier and more heart breaking situations when compared to this one.
True, it is hard to see that much money you saved being gambled away by someone else, but it is worse to commit a crime, or try to kill someone for the sake of continuing to gamble. Remember the news we shared around here about how man tried to kidnap a younger family member so he could use the ransom to further gamble?  That is more serious, that is running ones life.

In the case, at worst, it is a ruined relationship and wedding.
The lesson here is to always be sure we know our partner and what they are capable of for the sake of money...

If she had really thought about canceling the wedding because the money was being used for gambling, maybe that would be better for her. What the man did was unreasonable because he had chosen the wrong path by using the money from his wedding to gamble. He should be very sorry for using his money to gamble and apologize to the woman. But I don't know if the woman will forgive the man even though she really loves him.

Perhaps it was a difficult decision for the woman to cancel her marriage, but she could not continue the marriage if she no longer had any money. However, perhaps the man would have returned to gambling again if they had remained married because he had already had the idea of using his money to gamble in the hope that he could double his money so that they could get money quickly. Everything now depends on the woman.

Cases like these show the couple's lack of knowledge of themselves. How do you explain that a person intends to marry another person and does not know that this person is addicted to gambling? people when they are in a relationship should pay a lot of attention to their partners, if she in this case had paid a lot of attention to him, then she would have easily discovered that he has become addicted to gambling. And another very important thing is that considering the amount of money she mentioned, I don't believe he took 100% of the money and made a single bet. he probably made a lot of bets, which means he took a long time to place bets and he must not have realized

I'm actually curious to know how she discovered that he was taking the money to bet and which casino or betting site he used and what portions of money he was using to deposit at the casino or betting house, this could make it easier for us to understand whether he was having some victories or whether he was simply having consecutive defeats, either way it is a fact that he lied to his future wife and since marriage is a very serious matter and yet the guy was wasting the money for the wedding, So my advice would be for this woman not to come back with him again. because in the future of both, he will only destroy

Such amount of money for a wedding is also another point to this story.  $5,000 in a wedding is huge no matter the country's currency.

m thinking if you are planning to spend $5,000 for a wedding then the would be husband should have more than that since he is claiming to support the girlfriend with the money he will win so that the burden will not be on her.

Another point to this is that if you are saving up for a wedding, you don't need such amount of money to be saved up before you do your wedding. If you are saving up it means you don't have and people who don't have don't need such elaborate wedding, I mean the story is twisted and for the guy to use the $5,000 saved for wedding to gamble is really not giving the real light to what it is.

Again maybe this is another social media frick who is looking for followership. Like if you are saving $5,000 for wedding that is too much to be saved for wedding, like people who plan $5,000 wedding ceremony are wealthy and they don't have to save for it because the money is always there and what they would need is to fix their date  

Even if she called off the marriage and refused to marry this man, she would not get her money back. By calling off the marriage, she will lose her husband too to whom she was to marry. The money is gone already. Don't know what decision is beneficial for her 

I think if the husband's intention was to double the money, only to get his wife out of trouble of saving more money, then I won't call it wrong but one thing he did wrong was that he gambled with the money, without asking from his wife. If he had consulted his future wife and told him that he wanted to double the money through gambling, the wife could have either refused or maybe asked him to use only 10% or less money to try his luck.

I think your friend needs to get away from this guy right now. Most likely he is a loser, if he wants to increase the amount of money through gambling As you rightly said, the wedding is very important for girls because it is quite a rare event. If a guy is risking money, which depends on whether they have a wedding or not, then he simply does not value his future wife. Once again, you need to run away from such a guy.

Can't say if he's addicted or not but the truth is he is a gambler. There's nothing bad being a gambler but he wasn't a responsible gambler.
He should have known his limits and his responsibility. If he had been just a little responsible with the amount then he wouldn't have lost the amount and his fiancee.

Well, for me, there is absolutely no wedding to pursue anymore. first of all, i personally think that the lady in question doesn't really know that her husband to be is a gambler to that extend that he would risk money as important as their savings for their wedding arrangement, there are several women who sure know that their man gambles, but do not know to what extent the man takes gambling serious, and i personally believe that this may be the situation of this lady, if at all she actually knows that the guy gambles.

And maybe again that the guy doesnt gamble, but for the he was seeing the situation on ground and feeling helpless, he decided to try gambling to see if a miracle would happen, as his way of trying to help, but unfortunately, it turned out a very wrong decision.

For me though, if i was the lady, i sure would end the relation for good, this might just be a sign that i am about to marry the wrong man.

There’s still a silver lining on what happened to her. Atleast she will not get stuck to his fiancé for a lifetime since she call of the wedding. This story will be much more devastating if she got married and still his husband continues his gambling addiction despite the fact that he contributes less on their finances.

As a man, I personally don’t allow my wife to work since I want to provide 100% financially to her while this man has the audacity to gamble the wedding funds that he has less contribution.m

This is really heartbreaking most especially for the lady who has contributed a lot to their savings just to make the wedding perfect for both of them. But I really wonder if she’s really aware that his fiancée is a gambler because if ever she is, she must had never trusted him such a huge amount of money because he will surely be tempted to spend it for his gambling habit. And it did happened and lost everything they’ve earned. The lady must have been very frustrated for now wishing that he had not trusted everything to his fiancee.

This brings realization for us that once a gambler, always a gambler. But if he acted as a responsible gambler by that time, most likely he won’t lose everything on their savings. The amount might not be intact anymore but at least only a small amount is lacking, which they can easily find ways to fill in the missing amount and still pursue the wedding.

Even using that 5% or 10% then it isnt really just still right that he should really be using up the fund without her girlfriends approval and just like been said that its really a show of disrespect because you are really that taking up decisions which arent really that supposed to be done considering that you are risking wedding funds then it is really that not worth on doing such decision or risk.
You can make use of other funds but not on your wedding savings, if you do love your girlfriend and have decided to bring him into the altar or making her as your wife legally then its better to set aside with that kind of urge. Just like been said that it would be better that you shouldn't really be making yourself thinking on other fast solutions because this is where things do usually mess up.

If you could really that prepared on exchanging your wedding or your love one because of such decision then go ahead but if you cant afford on doing so then better avoid
such action and just continue your savings until you would be able to hit up those amounts that both of you are really that trying to save.

If I read the story of these two people, it is really heartbreaking, this man should not have done that, this man did not consider the risks involved in gambling, The intention was indeed good, but the method was wrong, the woman was working hard to collect money for their marriage, but instead the man acted ridiculously, it was a disaster for their marriage, With that money they should have been ready to get married this year, because the money was spent on betting, of course they have to collect the money from zero again, this is annoying. if the man is responsible, he must try to find other money, for the survival of their marriage, if he is irresponsible, of course....finished.

If I judge that the man is not good, he should be the one looking for money for their marriage, not the woman, he is a lazy man, he can spend what he has, most lazy people have high hallucinations, wanting a lot of money but not wanting to work, hoping that gambling can bring him luck, that's a ridiculous thought for a man.

If I were the sister or brother of that woman, I would have to say that she is not a good man to marry, but that is love, love is blind, even if one party is hurt.

Well it also looks dumb to me that the guy would go gamble with wedding money. Even if he wants to take such risk, it is pardonable that he tries even 5% or 10% of it than pulling the rug.


This is definitely worth a rethink for the lady. Staying with the man will keep her more headache than joy because more egregious surprises are waiting to be unfolded.

What joy is there to stay with someone you are always going to have your heart in your head because of such things that you going to keep witnessing.

OMG, does anyone actually do something like this?
It's just sad to think that there are still men who can do this kind of thing, think about what you've worked hard for and saved up, you'll just waste it on gambling, is gambling worth more than being with the girl you love for the rest of your life? The man is too addicted and has no conscience.

For me, the woman should just think that it's okay that she saw the man's behavior early, it's okay for him to go through a disgraceful phase of his life rather than having regrets for the rest of his life.

There's a famous couple in the Philippines who had the same situation, however the difference is that they were already married when it happened. The woman chose to annul their marriage because of the disrespect from the man.