Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 7. (Read 727 times)

Yes, on which as a man then you would really be having that kind of ego that you should really be the one to spend up on speaking about wedding preparation or on whatever expenses that your wedding would really be having and never intend to make your wife to be on having that kind of partition or having also that responsibility on taking the slice when it comes to saving up.Yes, it is really that shameful in our part on which considering that we are really that should be the one would do the spending and just let your loved ones would be the one will be waiting and shouldnt really be bothered about wedding expense. This is why we dont really know on whats up on the mind of that man but  as a man itself then we do really know on how he do feels. He did take up the risks just because he do want that the money would really be doubled. It is really just that a mistake that he had really risk out on gambling rather than on other option but i cant really that deny that gambling is the fastest way or instant, it is really just that the risks is really off the charts.

He decided to take up the shot but he didnt think that the risks isnt really just that on losing money but also he would really be losing his soon-to-be wife which i couldnt really take
up such risks and its better to swallow that pride because there are really things which arent really needing or wise to risks on and which causes for your entire life kind of regret.

This is the height of it all, how can any sane person use money that is not his spear money to place a bet, I am sure his partner will get him arrested for that, this guy is ungratefully greedy, how can you use 5 million to gamble in that kind of his condition where the lady already mentioned that she saved almost 60% of that total amount.


This means that the guy in question does not have the financial capacity to marry yet and at that, he should pay the lady back her money and also stay away from her because what he needs right now is a mental evaluation of what he thinks is money and ways to get money.

Depending on the girl, it will be her decision if he can forgive the absolute madness that his fiancee did. His fiancee might have a good reason why did he try to use their wedding money to gamble but the way to fullfill the good intention is not the correct way. It will be a absolutely hard decision for the girl to forgive her fiancee but even if the girl forgave him, the trust that is broken will be his forever burden. If this story is a real deal, I wonder what did the girl do after discovering the fiancee mistake.

I didn't want to jump into any conclusion because I can't assume what their terms are about saving that money and if its her money then why she give it to him? As I said they were clear that this money is strictly for their wedding expense or not so can't blame him for using it on other purposes while using savings for betting with the intention of doubling it and also without the consent of your partner is wrong and he has to face the consequences too.

Yes, I agree with your opinion. Please cancel the wedding as soon as possible. Maybe it's too early, but she'll regret not doing it. He is too addicted to gambling. He may be willing to bet his beloved's entire future on gambling. Although it will be painful for you to make this decision now if you continue to live with such a compulsive gambler, I think her life is worse than living with people who are addicted to cigarettes or alcohol. I don't think he was trying to make money for a good life. In fact, he was satisfying his addiction. Or he is too naive to consider gambling a place to make money.

Damn bro, where do you get those stories. I can see "Rant Vault" as the watermark but finding this might be hard.

Anyway, about the story, truly it is a sad one. But I do understand the point of the "should be groom" because maybe he is really just trying to help and feeling down that he only has 40 percent on their contribution. This is pride and ego and not a gambling addiction. Maybe he is cornered and trying to find ways to help but he made a mistake in putting it in the gambling way.

But on the "should be bride" side this is of course a bad decision and she will probably just end their relationship because of this mistake. It's the right thing to do because what if they are already husband and wife and they have money saved for their mortgage payment or bills then the guy gambled it again just trying his luck. That will make her regret her decision to wed him and they will just separate, it's better to do it early while they are not yet one.

Totally heartbreaking i would say on which spending up your wedding funds or savings for the sake of gambling then this one indicates that your man isnt really that serious on you. Even if we do say that he's aiming on doubling the money for that kind of purpose but we know that its never been that a good decision or ideal one for you to gamble out those funds, not unless you have some permission into the other half or with your fiancee if there's not then its just purely showing  that you disrespect her. She had really the  right since he had contributed 60% of the entire savings on which she has right to know on where those funds been stored or if ever there's plan on some unexpected spending.

This is heartbreaking for the girl and as much as possible as long its still early, then she should leave the guy yet this kind of action does indicate about being addicted with gambling.
This isnt something that couldnt really be good into your future endeavors on your marriage life. Its impossible that you cant really be able to assess these things on point.
Yes, it does hurt but you do make the best decisions which would really be that just right for you. Dont force yourself into a man which arent that worth of your love.

Call the wedding and the relationship off lady! Probably better for you. There's a lot better fish than the sea take your time. Idrk if it was good this happened before marriage or not lol.

I mean honestly, any sane gambler out there would not use funds you've gathered up especially one that was gathered together with someone to gamble.  It's rather confusing really how some people consider gambling as a "guaranteed" way of earning money jesus. Yes, he did the act hoping for the best, but it's the best of both worlds, one of which does not give a fuck about you. Let's not even consider how the money had the wife contributing more than him.

Let's focus on the positive in this situation. Although the girl may feel embarrassed, the fact that she is not yet married means she still has the opportunity to make the best decision for herself and find a man who truly deserves her.

To the man, it's important to realize you have lost a woman who loved you. Not all women are willing to fund a wedding unless they genuinely love their partner. Even if a woman loves her partner, she is not obligated to provide for the wedding expenses. You have wasted the opportunity to be with a woman who truly loved you to fuel your gambling addiction. This should be an example that the money allocated for important occasions, such as weddings, should be used wisely and not spent on gambling.

The man is a big fool for thinking that he can double $5000 through gambling, he must be an addict that sees gambling as a means to make profit. If not after gambling with $1000 and lost the bet, he is suppose to stop gambling but instead he went ahead to gambling all his wedding funds.

He is a gambler and that is why he did it, if not his mind wouldn't go into using such important money that he has a little percent in it to gamble without looking back. I believe that the lady in question will quit the relationship, since she said that he hasn't been disgraced like that.

Poor woman that is doing everything possible to be wedded but it all ended up in vain. I have seen a marriage that was broken because of gambling addiction.

It's obviously very wrong at what angle you look at it and I don't know what is the reason behind this man to take that risk to gamble the money suddenly that they have work hard to save just to have a great wedding. On the other hard, it's good that the girl has experience it before their actual wedding. I mean just imagine if they stay in one roof and suddenly he discovers that his husband is a gambling addict.

So she should just move forward, I know it's very difficult for her, but this is the only way she will have a better life than to live with a man that you cannot trust specially with money matters even though that she loves him very much.

On the contrary, he might be new to the system and not really an addict because thinking about doubling his money sounds so foolish to be coming from professional gambler. Sounds like someone who was deceived by some friends to try his luck on gambling and everything goes against him. This the consequences of gambling with other people's money. Even with your own money, you're supposed to gamble with what you can afford to lose and not gambling above your worth. I feel bad for the poor girl because the love she has for the guy will not allow her to take necessary action on the guy.

Both of them will never forget gambling for prolonging their wedding if it will ever take place again. Such a bad experience!

It's good if she not yet married a gambling addict, she need to thankfully to her boyfriend because she can easily break up and search for a better man. If they've married, it's become more harder for the wife to divorce with his husband because become a widower isn't easy.

Never think he will become a better man, human will never change.

The same happened to the person I know when he used the money that had been entrusted to him just because he was full of himself that he gonna win the bet that day. But gambling is not to be trusted when it comes to money needed to buy your essential needs and when he regret his decision, it is too late because he lost the money that supposed to buy supplies for his friend's store and he doesn't have any means to pay it and after that, he just lose a friend and took a loan to pay his debt because it was a huge amount of money that he just wasted. I wonder if their wedding will still be done in the future but if it was me, I would count it as a red flag and quit becoming his bride.

It's wrong in all aspects because the money that's gambled is not just his money but also her money. And there's a reason why they're saving up that money and that's for their most awaited union, their marriage.

On this case, we don't need any other side of the story that will come from the guy. The obvious matter has been said that he has spent their savings for the wedding and it shouldn't be tolerated.

Let us say that he has his reason doing that, and that's to gamble and nothing more or less. Sad on her side but better decision will come for her after this.

To be honest when I read the title I thought it was a personal experience and seeing your name as the op made me more eager to read through the thread, but unfortunately it’s nothing personal but that still does not make it less tragic.

This is the type of case where the popular quote makes sense “the idle mind is the devil’s workshop”, I really don’t know what made him take that bold step by betting such a large amount he might have been doing it for a lower amount and has had a higher rate of winning and that’s why he was confident enough to have used that amount.

And right now the lady is left in a situation where she has to cope with the man’s decision and save another money or just part ways with the man and move on with her life and it’s not going to be a easy one for her and it’s also something she can do alone with no one’s assistance.

Questioning the lady is nonsense. She's just a victim of a man not being responsible, despite the plan for their wedding, he still ends up hurting the woman. Let's say the woman knows the gambling activities of the man, they might already talk about it. However, the man has no other way to contribute more. Being desperate to act like a man and pay most of the expenses, he ends up betting the money for their wedding.

The man should think deeply before he acts and starts betting. Thinking about the possibility of what will happen if the money is lost in gambling, or what his partner would feel if the man acted alone without her consent.

I really feel sorry for the lady with no single sympathy for the man. The only area I don't understand was if she already knew her man was a gambler and the extent to which he can gamble. If such information was revealed to her and she still felt she could cope, then she should deal with it and move on because she should not be surprised. On the other hand, if the man concealed such information from the fiance, then he still have terrible secrets and marrying such a man is not the best for the lady.

Gambling is supposed to be done with spared funds and not money one cannot afford to loose. The guy should first go and treat his greed level before raising a family because it is obvious he hasn't understand the important of priority.

This will also help us learn from his mistakes because many people have poor mindset about gambling. Since it is something of probability, we should always follow it in that manner because it is not certain the outcome you choose will work that way.

What was more painful was that he did not reimburse the woman and only apologized, which meant that the woman had been greatly harmed financially and mentally.
Feeling sorry for what the woman was going through, the decision to call off the wedding was the right step and I'm sure many are curious about the continuation of their relationship, whether to stay in the relationship or break up.
It is very important to discuss finances before starting a marriage because finances will play a very important role in the future household because without the same view about finances, it will be difficult for a couple to build a family future.
The man was stupid in thinking he could double the money and gambling is uncertain because the chances of winning and losing are equal.

A legend word say.

The man is 1% aways from winning a jackpot ~XD I cannot believe for anyone who are playing using such other fund, I mean (I have gambling addiction) but only using the money until I run out the money (for my worst scenario)

Never using someone money or money are gonna to be used for paying the rent and something like that.