Topic: Indirect victims of gambling addiction - page 10. (Read 1247 times)

These are some of the ways persons connected or related to a gambler can be affected when he's addicted:

• His business may crumble and his employees may lose their jobs.
• His family may go hunger.
• His family may be sent packing by the landlord because of inability to pay rent.
• The children may be sent out of school because of inability to pay school fees.
• A family member may even die because of lack of funds for proper medical care.

As a gambler you need to keep your gambling habit in check and never allow it get to the point of addiction. At any point you find yourself being addicted, quickly seek help.

I Understand the situation perfectly, things with addicts may have affected many, and that is what we, when we sit down to play, must realize that not only the people who suffer from it also suffer those who are always making a difference next to them. We, our family, friends, they affect everyone, all these things are what we must see, that is why we have to understand responsibility and mature it in every sense, because we cannot be thinking that these things are so simple, that we can play with our things.

Sometimes the people who become Addicted do not give importance to what they have to lose, they do not give importance to family things, nor do they feel sorry for anything, they do not care about shame if they have it or not, for example The reason is that we have to make a difference, that is why these topics are Useful to help Everyone we can.

That is true like I can say it is happened with me also. One of my friend is heavily gambling addicted And he spends most of the day gambling. And one day I and some of my friends hangout with him in his house and in the crowd of words he picked up that he won 6000 dollars from only 30 dollars. And he was talking about various techniques that must be done in this way to win.  And where its tempting I also fall for the lure and I also place my big amount for gambling as a result I lose my fund.  In fact, all the techniques he talked about were just imagination, they are not really useful, basically all depends on the algorithm.  And this is my short story gambling addicted person being my friend I am affected.

when there is a gambling addict in the house, whether it is a child or a father/mother, then all family members are affected. whether it's mental stress, emotions, or the impact of domestic violence that might occur. and over time this will become an emotional wound that will leave an impression on the victims and that will affect relationships within the family. and it is possible that this will spread to bad relations with neighbors and the surrounding environment, perhaps because of the commotion that usually occurs and that makes the neighbors uncomfortable with the gambling addict and his family.

therefore, the victims of gambling addicts can be several parties and recovery for the victims is not that easy and professional psychological recovery is needed, especially for cases that involve domestic violence.

Not only those who are financially connected to the gambler, but it can be generalized to all those who have moral relationships with him, such as family members (in general), close friends and neighbors. This is because excessive gambling affects a person's entire behavior in such a way that it affects all his relationships. It is true that some close people can end the relationship with him and avoid the resulting troubles, but there are types of relationships that are not affected by all circumstances and are able to withstand. I can mention to you a personal experience with a friend who was addicted to gambling. We were all his friends helping him try to overcome his ordeal, and none of us thought of abandoning him, even though his behavior often became hostile and he tended to temporarily boycott everyone who wanted to help him. These are symptoms of illness, and those close to them who are concerned should be aware of this.

Only a few gamblers affect their friends when they are addicted to gambling because their friends are mostly gamblers themselves and they are not bothered by their friends' actions because they are one of them with the same vibes, as for their families, rarely do you see a whole family are gamblers instead those who are addicted to gambling are just a few from them which cause huge problems to others because they are asked for money or else their things will get stolen. At least, this is what happening in our community, They are causing some problems for their families by making them pay some debt or they are not getting any sustenance from them because of their addictions, especially those who have wives and children.

Not only those whoch are dependent 'coz even the simplst people around a gambling addict would be affected; no man is an island. Perhaps his friends, they would be for sure asked for money to be borrowed by him. Now, indeed we may refuse to do so but not all people could resist someone especially if he's special to his friends; the guilt of not lending him the money and the idea that they are supporting the addiction if ever they would be allowing the assumed request, could be stressful. It could also be normal people who he interact with, if he's in huge loss then there's a high tendency for him to be grumpy and could be affecting other people he will come across with.
Absolutely, the gambler will take most of the 'damage' from addiction. Addiction simply affect one's functioning especially daily routines. If he has work then that would be the first where it would be evident; poor work performance and employee relation. Not to mention that salary won't be used wisely due to the urge of gambling continuously. Just like with other addictions, it will have the same symptoms however in gambling, it is more devastating to one's life simply because of the core involvement of money, not to compare but just stating facts.

You have said it all. When a gambler is not married, his dependence being the parents or people whom are his care givers are those that get troubled and affected by his gambling woes and when the gambler is married then the wife and children bear the brunt when he doesn't want to stop. They are the ones that will bear his financial indeptedness whether directly or indirectly when those troubles come, because a creditor may go overboard to seek remedy by taking his family to be part of him if he (the debtor) sees that is the only way to recover back his loan, property or other debts.

However, the other layer are the friends but they are not very much involved, they play advisory role to the gambler but when the troubles starts to brew, it is the family or parents that really get affected.

And addicted gambler and his addiction on gambling can be very dangerous for the family and friends at the same moment. I think only one gambling addicted person is enough to destroy a family. I have seen lots of incidents like that gambler make debt by playing gambling and the family got on the trap. And I have seen that an gambler take money from his friends for gambling and leave away after losing the fund. So yes it is true that friends and family can be indirect victims of gambling addiction.

Just like proverb "a rotten apple spoils the barrel", such people should be kicked because it will harm other people. I'm surprised even the team leader know if he's a gambling addict, he didn't report him to HRD because AFAIK most of company didn't accept gamblers. Most people think gamblers are lack of money management and they could steal company's money to gamble.

I do not know the statistics of gambling addicts worldwide, however, we know that the incidence of gambling addiction is rising worldwide and in the next 50 years it may have tripled. Countries that have a good healthcare systems ready to cater for gambling addicts in terms of therapy, rehabilitation etc will not feel indirect effect. But those countries especially developing countries where that have a weak health care system coupled with the high cost of seeing a therapist or even an insurance that can subsidize it would not have it easy.

In my estimation, in addition to the spouse, family, friends, relatives, and everyone around being indirectly affected by gambling addiction, another party that will be indirectly affected  is the health care system of the country where the addict resides in, especially those living in developing countries where that weak system cannot accommodate and effectively rehabilitate gambling addict.

Gambling addiction affects not just the gambler but his friends, family, and job.  There was a report where a young student committed suicide because he used his school fees as well as accommodation money to gamble. He had to kill himself when he lost all the money. A news outlet confirmed that this was not the first time he had used his school fees for gambling. But his parents kept replacing the money and always encouraged him to quit gambling. I was just considering the loss the parents have to suffer. They have wasted their money raising him and paying his bills because of his gambling addiction. His death is a big loss to his friends and family members.

So many gamblers have subjected their families to untold hardship because they have used money to provide basic needs for gambling. Apart from financial effects, it could lead to friction in family relationships. There was also a report of a man who left his two-year-old twins at home alone because he wanted to visit a casino. The wife might not be pleased with such behavior and file for a divorce.

Some gamblers are so entangled with gambling that they gamble during work hours. This has led to the loss of manhours and a decrease in productivity. Gambling can even cause a lack of concentration on the job which can lead to costly errors. Some have even gone to the extent of using company funds that were budgeted for specific projects to gamble. Any gambling addict who controls the finances of his organization might misuse the firm's funds.

      -     It's a big problem when the gambling you use comes from debt, and when it reaches your relatives or family, it's a big headache for them. It would be okay if we were the only ones affected the most; we still have loved ones.

This is really not a good idea, as long as we can be responsible gamblers, and being good gamblers guarantees that they will not let their family or loved ones be affected.


They will be fired from their jobs when their superiors catch them, it is not right to play gambling via online at the same time because it will affect their work in the company, and the company will be angry with them.

It's really sad that this kind of thing happens, I wouldn't really mind someone doing something that's really bad in my perspective but then when things get heated and problematic, other people get caught with their failures to control themselves and preventing themselves from getting a violent outburst.

This isn't always the case but other people that's playing with the gambling addict or within the vicinity of the gambling addict could also be considered an indirect victims and what I mean when I say that's not the case most of the time is because there's not a lot of times that a gambling addict goes to a psychotic episode or outbursts because they've got some kind of problems at that time and so when these outbursts happen, they tend to cause some form harm or annoyance towards those people, even the casino staff, this is a unique case though as these indirect victims can only be seen in physical casinos.

I think workmates are also part of this as these gambling addicts may also have been employed and even gave headaches to their colleagues by asking or borrowing money from coworkers. This scenario might not happened to you but it actually does with me. I remember way back 2011-2012 I was working in an electronic company and since I am a friendly guy I met a lot of new workmates in the production area where this gambling addict was working as well. Fast forward, months had passed I noticed that this guy's behavior changed and based on my observation he is troubled by something, not until our team leader shared that the guy used the money for his gambling activities. That money was actually raised from their group who initiated a "savings and lending" system that is very common here in my country. That guy's job was affected as he is not that productive anymore, he is in trouble sometimes with coworkers and that made him quit the job but he promised to repay what he owes to my coworkers in three months though it really was paid but they waited for like five months until it was fully paid. Months later I've seen him being hired in another electronic company wearing white shirt that indicates he is newly hired.

That really affected the entire production area during that time because the members of that savings and lending system wanted their money back immediately because they have an intended use for that money.

That is the reality truth about the effects of an addicted gambler. It brings about shameful personalities that is most concerned within the addicted gamblers relatives and not the gambler himself because at such a time, the gambler is being careless and unconscious about reputations.

I know about an addicted gambler who borrows money to fund his gambling but does not care paying back instead he goes after others to borrow more.
The family was called on the attention about the guy being indebted in several places which lead the gamblers relatives to get him arrested, he signed and undertaking that he would not gamble again before he was released from the detention.

Just after 2 day he started gambling again after in about a week he has been indebted with over $500.
At this time the relatives had to make it a public announcement that no one should borrow money from to the guy again and if anyone is heard of borrowing him money that person will be arrested. Then the relatives also cleared the debts.

When he could not reach out to funds for further gambling he started selling the he families belongings and when he was caught on the act, they got him at home arrest being locked up in the room without the chances of steeping out from the house.
This guy really brought about bad images to his family and relatives and he has so caused them lost of funds in paying his debts and the emotional challenges that their own has becomes useless to life.
Shame.

What suffers the most loss here is the gambler himself, as a result of failing to control his emotions to gamble responsibly. Of course, all the people closest to you for the first time will be willing to provide financial assistance, motivation and support to stop. But if you fail to maintain the trust of those closest to you, they will no longer care, and will of course keep their distance so as not to be affected by the gambler's careless actions. If you lose the attention of the people closest to you, a gambler will easily get depressed. In fact, there are many impacts that can arise from gambling, but if you can manage your gambling activities well then everything will be fine, this means you need to set limits when you want to gamble.

I always think that gambling must be prepared to lose and should not be excessive. I know that it is difficult to realize when you are addicted but there we must understand that from addiction, everything will be affected, including spouses and families, so be wise as a gambler if you have more money, please play but if the money is mediocre then don't force it to play.

Have heard many stories like this and almost commonplace in some articles where they are damaged in terms of family due to gambling.
I will not blame the casino or anyone else but we must realize that gambling must be responsible so that you can control it.

Money can still be earned, by working hard every day. Finances may be will be on negative impact when gambling without control. However, the most miserable for gamblers is the damage to their relationship or with their family. I think, a similar topic seems to have been created before. And I commented about the broken potential of family relationships as a result of gambling habits. I understand that there are some who accept their husband/wife, or parents show their son/daughter addicted in gambling. However, most of them experience cases of divorce or parents abandoning their children, because they are addicted to gambling and cannot be stopped, and bringing bad/negative effect for their family not just about loan but also criminal.

Gambling addicts are no different from any of us, they would feel guilty too upon knowing that they have ruined the future of their kids as they spend all their money that is supposedly meant for a college education of their kids. Somehow these people are chasing their jackpot dream to win big but it's still unsure if they stop gambling if ever they win the jackpot.

It's like they are caught between chasing that jackpot dream and getting back to where they once were. A high school friend was like this but after his father died he was left with no one taking care of the family business. He turned out to be responsible after the death. Rumor was that he left his old father alone and then got a heart attack.
I hope they will not wait for something big will happen before they become responsible.