Topic: Keeping your gambling habit a secret. - page 53. (Read 8311 times)

It’s much better to keep your activities to yourself. People are open to mostly criticism and condemnation from the society when they tend to always publicize their everyday lives. I think there are people who would only mostly have negative and sometimes hurtful inputs so it’s better not to give them anything to talk about.
A lot of people are hypocritical and are equally intent on shamelessly putting forth their shitty opinions on how/what someone else should do and behave.

This is especially useful in communities that are closed and that see gambling with bad eyes, even if the person is not addicted and it is something they enjoy doing as a way to entertain themselves.

However as times passes gambling as an entertainment is getting more widely accepted and the need to keep it a secret is going down, even then it may still be a good idea to do so as you never know when you may encounter a person which may try to use your hobby against you.

Not sure about secret but I would refrain from boasting especially.  To tell or discuss with others who either bet regularly or might choose to if they feel like is normal.  Its probably part of why betting is becoming so popular via sports betting or similar games where people play anyway and a few will bet on the outcome.   I dont see it needs to be a secret, be sensible with your money only spend the spare left over after paying your bills, do that and you are doing nothing wrong imo.

Indeed. No one can force us to tell our habits, including our gambling habit. So, it is not a must to tell people, we have the right to keep it in a secret. We know that telling others about our gambling habit probably brings negative impacts only. Moreover, if we live in religious society, they are likely to judge us negatively. So, the best choice is to keep our gambling activity privately.

Debt is also a serious case, it is surely to give bad impact to our family. It is a must tell our family if we are in debt, they deserve to know it. If we are difficult to repay, we probably get a help to our family. It is actually the same as gambling habit, it is no problem to tell our family but we shouldn't to tell other people (random people, outside of our family). We must be wise to tell something the the right people!

Rightly said!  Keeping our gambling habit a secret should not be a big deal.  Keeping it secret saves us from prying eyes that convict people of crimes just learning that they are into gambling.  Aside from that, we don't have any responsibility to inform them about what we do in our lives.  So keeping our gambling in secret is a good thing considering the space and peace we can get from hidiing gambling activities.

Yes, if you are a on a community or a surrounding on which gambling is really highly been frowned upon or really that being discriminated then you would definitely be deciding on keeping that activity for yourself or would really be in secret which its not really that something new or shocking for an individual on doing so.Even myself would really be keeping my activity be in silent because im really that a type of person whose really that
too mindful on what others would be saying specially in my part or related to me. This is why im really doing my best on avoiding as much as possible but if you are living in a community who doesnt have that kind of criticism towards gambling then its not really that totally a bad thing on what you are doing.Some doesnt matter whether living in a community which is discriminative or not, as long they could really be able to play
no matter what then thats the real deal. They wont care on what others be saying.

I think even under debt, something like gambling won't also be part of the said interrogation. Like debt for example, as you mentioned, the purpose will be to ask if they can pay a certain money and that's it. And I doubt a person involved will really tell the public officials that he is involved in gambling and so what.

I agree with the last part of the statement that as much as possible, it's good to just keep our gambling habit secret.

I don't see any reason why we should tell others about it in the first place.

so long you are not harming or bothering anyone, they don't have the business to know what you're doing. unless, you have a lot of debts and your family is directly bothered by these lenders, then maybe time to re-think your choices here.
but as much as possible, better keep your gambling activities to yourself. at least you have your peace of mind that no one is badgering you about your habit. even if they are not affected by it

If you live alone, you can live as you please. But in reality, we don't live alone, we have a big family. We may feel don't care about people critics, but our family may view it differently. Many gamblers keep a secret of their gambling activity because they don't want to bother their family. In certain circles, people who gamble can be viewed as doing something bad. So the people closest to the gamblers can also be considered as bad people. This judgement can have a serious psychological impact on our family. People call it as a social punishment.

Agree. We are free to share our gambling habit if we live in a society that accept the gambling habit. It will be okay because they won't judge us negatively. So, it won't give any impact to our family members. But if the society isn't friendly with gambling, I think it is better to keep gambling habits secretly. We may feel not care about people's judgment, but we must think about the feeling of our family members.

Personally speaking, the decision to keep ones gambling habit a secret is determined by the kind of society or individual that's the said person is surrounded with and how well the said person is also managing his gambling habit.
What I mean in my first paragraph is that if the said person happens to find himself in a society or among individuals that are always judgemental about people's private lives then there's no need to tell them about your gambling habit. However if the gambling habit of such person is under control by the person, then I think it's better to open up to people so that they can help talk the person out of the addiction of gambling

Yes, there's also an impact regarding to the community that a gambler is residing, if there are people who criticized such an act then gambler may hide their gambling participation and same with your statement, if the place are widely open embracing this activity then there's no problem to bring it out into open.

It will be on the person's side whether to keep it hide or let other people knows about his gambling participation.

i've said things like this in my previous post but not all people understand that even though gambling is legal here, besides that the crime rate is also quite high and this has made many groups emerge and groups that support freedom such as gambling get resistance from community groups anti-gambling ^{(my percentage prediction for those who accept gambling as a form of freedom and also reject gambling and consider it part of the crime is 50:50 here)}

#but if it's not important for you to tell other people about your gambling activities then why do you have to tell it.

Yeah, for me it is better to keep it to yourself that you are a gambler because most of the time people around you still has that stigma that people who gamble always end up being addicted or being bankrupt that's why it is good that you keep it to yourself if you knew that it is the kind of behavior of the people around you but then like you said it is good that you can share stories bout sports and some strats.

There is certain politics inside a family and for someone who is not dependent and almost like a big shot in the family, no one will bat an eye whatever they do with their money. Playing poker could just be a taboo but probably behind his back, some jealous guys in the family (inlaws usually) are just waiting for his failure. You never know, some of them think their sister's money is their money.

I would be proud of my gambling also but I'm not showing it to anyone in my family not even to my wife. But I can talk so much about sports or even gambling strategies whenever we play cards.

Well, maybe your family doesn't touch on that topic because they also have Respect for you and that is something that can be very delicate for them, also, since you keep your finances in order, they can't get too involved either , it's something that can sometimes cause them a taboo subject , but as time goes by and they realize how things are with casino games, they will realize that it is normal, for me it is that they do not want to go into details because some problems may occur, as long as There is an exchange of opinions and that there are different points of view, because things can heat up and perhaps the relationship that they have with each other will deteriorate, and since they are family, it is better not to touch on those issues, because not even they can change you , but you can. To them, that's like a topic when it comes to politics , many people don't understand it and they tend to get upset when they have ways of thinking that are very different from them.

What you say about playing poker and if someone comes out on TV wow that would be something very cool, because there they will see you differently and they may even admire you a lot and accept it in a way that they didn't think , but it's not worth it, I think that as a poker player as long as you do what you like, well you should keep doing it, being a famous person is alerting thieves and bad people to persecute you and your family , sometimes things tend to be better like this in a quiet way so that there are no problems that are generated later, the majority of people in the world are envious, the percentage of people who are happy because others are doing well is very small, it is difficult to find people like that .

However, the one you give is a great example, because just like you, there must be many similar cases where some do not dare to say it out of fear or for other reasons that can be very determining, there are times when in couples, women do not like that, and there are some who do not give Importance to them and even that can be a Reason for Separation.

I think this also depends on the  type of society you belong to because some society actually frawn at people's gambling habit and most individual will prepare keeping it a secret in such society while a society where gambling is widely accepted like that of mine, people actually feel free and okay with their gambling habit and it wouldn't be much of any problem keeping it a secret or not.

Gambling have both negative and positive impact on the lives of people, it's our decision to choose the sides we belong to. Gambling often spoiled the reputation of some people, mostly well high place influential individuals who are looked upon by people. It's normal for an individual to gamble but absolutely not the same case for these influential individuals. In my opinion there's nothing wrong with showing the public that you're involved in gambling activities, because in one or two ways, they will definitely find out and criticized you when they do. I lived my life as it pleases, not for anyone.

Though there are people who are open in this kind of information they are sharing their gambling participation and some of those becomes an influencer and earn by doing vlogs and different socmed that can give them additional earnings, but still there're differences in terms of how people embrace this kind of activities, if you are a kind of open-minded person there's no problem and you won't be ashamed from anything that relates you into gambling but for those who are still leaving in a place where culture and religions still dominating, this kind of vices may affects you and you wanted to be more discreet in terms of your participation.

In my case, I have been playing poker for many years and my close relatives know about it, but it is a topic that is not usually discussed. It is like a taboo subject. I guess because everyone knows or has heard of someone who has had problems with gambling and they think that one day it could happen to me. This despite the fact that my finances are going well and I don't have any economic problems at all.

I suppose that if I went on television as a big poker star it would be a different story, but since it is a relatively private thing where nobody sees what I do at the tables, they feel insecure.

But gambling habit is another case that we don't have to keep secret, especially from our family. They have the right also to know what makes us busy and besides, whatever happens to us like getting into trouble because of our addiction, they were to help us.

Well, I could say that I was different from you and probably different from others too because I believe that our family is a part of our life. Some things would be kept secret and alone but the majority will be known to them as well. I'd preferred to tell my family as trusted them most rather than telling my friend which could possibly spread more about the issue.