Topic: Keeping your gambling habit a secret. - page 55. (Read 8311 times)

It's not wrong if you know to your self that you are still responsible or you don't over gamble but if you are like this then why would you be afraid to let others know about your gambling hobby? Gambling can be a taboo on some selected place or religion while there are also religions and place who allow it but there are still people who think it's bad.

I think it's because this is what they hear from others or they themselves had a bad experience with it. The truth is gambling is not bad as long as we are doing limiting ourselves and we gamble according to its true purpose. Gambling addiction on the other hand is bad and treating gambling as a primary source of income is also bad.

Good point with using your own money, as long as you are not bothering anyone to loan your budget for your gambling there's no need to broadcast your gambling participation, I like that side of you which you pointed it out about being an influencer where you really needed to share your gambling activities to attract people to follow you, there's money in terms of affiliate and ads which some of those good influence are really taking advantage of this industry, they now that there's always money if you know how to use your skills and knowledge, no need to risk a lot just to established connections with gamblers then surely casino will seek for you to pay you for promoting their business.

But in terms of your own gambling activities, it's better and safe if you are just playing it and enjoying it with fewer people that know your participation.

Besides, why should many people know that we are gamblers, it seems that it is not important that people should know that, unless we are an influencer maybe people need to know that while promoting affiliate links to new users and using social media to get new users as well as bonuses, if we were just casual gamblers who valued privacy, I don't think there would be a problem either

As long as we don't harm people and use other people's money, let alone gamble with our own money or at our own risk, it doesn't need many people to know, I also prefer to hide my gambling activities from anyone closest to me except my wife, because she manages my budget. to gamble and have fun. so there is no problem for me to choose who should know and not. indeed it was not a strange act.

It would be better to tell or disclose the gambling activities that we do to our wives so that there are no misunderstandings or disappointments that can happen to our wives.
As I have been doing all this time telling my wife every time I enter gambling and asking for some money to bet on the gambling that I do because I have a wife who understands and accept that gambling I do once a week is for entertainment and pleasure, anyway I leave all my finances to my wife, including the results of my work, which she manages so that she can give me boundaries when I want to gamble.
With what I do indirectly a wife can accept all the gambling activities that I do because she knows that I only intend to have fun and not lose large amounts of money because she herself gave the money for gambling capital.

Try to apply what I did and your wife can also advise you when it's time for you to stop and rest your thoughts, emotions so they don't get out of control.

Drugs are simple to see on faces, it has that physical reaction when closely observed but gambling has its own ways too. I don't know for Casino freaks but if you watch football, there is a high chance you will have this urge to gamble/bet sometimes, even the popup ads alone are enough to make one start gambling, and with this tip, you can tell when a person is into gambling, it has a way of changing mood when the last thing you expected happened at the end of the outcome, you just need to be observant and I think its easier to guess if you are also a gambler because only a gambler will know the characters of another gambler.

These are easy to detect when they are still in the early phase of gambling, when they are not winning, they get frustrated over little things; when they make a deposit and it doesn't come through, they panic, when they win a small amount, they celebrate it an as big a win, when they initiate a withdrawal and it doesn't come through, they also panic, when they detect them of violating the gambling platform rule, they run hectares for help especially if there is money in the gambling platform and many more. These are not limited to newbies in gambling, it can occur to long time gamblers but their reactions may be difficult to see.

I cannot imagine how did the family handled it because going through like that is no joke, they could've done so many things and had many options, but they don't know what to do because they don't even know that their main provider is already addicted in gambling. And to make it worse, he or she was already on the situation where there is no turning back and he can only afford to say sorry for what he or she have done.

Some families didn't survive the trouble while some family remained intact but safe to say that they had to deal with it painfully and gave an option to the one who was addicted to gambling to choose between them or gambling, and the rest is history. But hopefully, when things are getting more comfortable again, I hope they wouldn't go through that situation again because there are still some chances you know.

I think it's not even a matter of religion really, just a matter of mentality itself. It just so turned out that the mentality of those people who developed the religion viewed gambling as something negative, which I don't blame, I mean the idea that gambling was bad originated from that era after all, it just continued on since no one bothered questioning it simply because they were the minority in each of their community.

It is hilarious how people associate the devil with almost literally anything they don't like though, in their eyes it's like a free pass to hate something.

True. People can want their privacy without having the need to give a reason. Gambling is an activity that is legally allowed in most countries anw, and if it wasn't then that might just be a reason itself. But anyway hiding it isn't anything weird if it was legal, I mean I hide what I eat everyday, hows that any different.

Well, all my life I have always lived in front of an Evangelical Church, and I have gotten along with many who are Evangelicals and they tell me those things , I tell the truth to those who are my age if I tell them that all this is a lie, that These are simple rules that religions believe, however, that lady the other day saw a snake and began to yell that this was the devil and she started to pray, the truth made me laugh a lot, first because of how she was doing , second because I am not afraid of those animals , and thirdly, they associate everything with the devil, I believe that religions should teach people to be stronger spiritually , because the fight is not there, it is in the spiritual , in what is it puts people in their heads, in the ideas they have, in those who are and who have very ugly thoughts , not in those who play in casinos , much less in those who place sports bets.

Sometimes religions make us think that we do things wrong, but what people are capable of combating demons and spirits in the world at the level of an exorcist? I think few, and they don't teach that in religions, so that's where the struggle is , but gambling is a matter of luck, of fun, it has nothing to do with evil, so that type of thing is People need to understand that this is not the Case.

Games of chance have always existed and the things that are compared to them that are bad, is a total lie, people cannot be saying or of the opinion that an activity is bad or not, if it does not affect them it is not like that, what happens It is that some people have so much free time that they are capable of getting into the lives of others , but it is the level of unemployment , in my case Everyone knows that I like casnio, that from time to time I drink my beers , and who tells me something? no one, because they know that I am direct, I am one of those who say that this is not their problem, apart from this casinos are not a bad thing , I am one of those who do not hide so this habit of keeping it a Secret with me is not Goes.

If that's the case, the gambler already has a gambling addiction because he tries to do anything to earn money, even by selling his personal belongings. And those around him won't know what he's done with his personal belongings because he sells them secretly. A gambling addict will use most of his time to gamble or find a way to win at gambling and he completely forgets the time just to gamble. Maybe he shows signs of gambling addiction in those around him but those around him do not understand these signs and take them as normal. And it is true that he will lose a lot if he has a gambling addiction.

I agree with you. Therefore, the people around him must be able to see the signs of gambling addiction so they can immediately provide assistance.

There may be signs from a gambling addict that shows he needs help from us but unfortunately, we are not able to pay enough attention to it so we are too late to help him. But it is true that a gambling addict will not clearly say he is addicted to gambling so it is still difficult to find that he is really addicted to gambling. Those who are already addicted to gambling are very good at keeping secrets about their gambling addiction and this is what makes other people have to be able to enter the room now and then to see what he is doing. Surely in that room, we can see something that would indicate that he has a gambling addiction so we might conclude that he needs help but he doesn't realize it.

I think no wife should let her husband gamble. But for a gambling addict, it will be very difficult to quit gambling. But those who are addicted to gambling can stay away from gambling if they want. It may be difficult at first. But I like gambling very much.

I have often heard that everything secret becomes clear sooner or later, but I have never realized that this is so. And I am sure that it is almost impossible to hide from relatives and loved ones that you are fond of gambling. The fact is that if you play betting, or are fond of poker or batting, then you will have some kind of result. It will either be a hole in the budget or its replenishment. And it will be indirectly noticeable. If you lose money, then you will become irritable and save more. And if you win, then you are unlikely to get rid of purchases that will be suspicious to others, and you will have to explain where the money came from.

Perhaps the most simple reason that explains why people hide their gambling from others is simply because they can, hiding a drug addiction is almost impossible as someone is bound to notice the change in your behavior and physical condition.

But gambling does not generate those warning signs and as such it can be hidden from your friends and loved ones for a very long period of time, and it would not be surprising if they did not discovered there was a problem until significant money problems came upon them.

And that is because the breadwinner will just allocate the money that he's got into gambling and sometimes, he'll hide secrets of getting a portion of his money so that he can still gamble despite that there are other needs that have to be funded.

I've got friends that have been like that, they're family oriented but behind that they're hiding a problem that they're struggling financially because of one's addiction. I don't know how they're doing right now but I think that they're able to solve that problem eventually. And that's because the wife will leave the husband if he didn't change for the better. There are times that these secrets aren't really good especially if it's affecting the family.

The majority of the time, those who act recklessly feel the need to conceal their actions. And you're true; keeping such a thing from a partner can breed suspicion and feelings of betrayal. Why would you do it to a loved one? You have a problem with priorities if you spend more money gambling than on your family.

There are those of us who adore the rush of a wager, but we also know when to stop! We have a system, we establish boundaries, and we uphold them. It's not always about the money; sometimes it's about the enthusiasm, the experience, and the plan. There shouldn't be a problem as long as you are honest and careful not to breach any boundaries.

When I first started gambling I kept my gambling secret from the people around me and especially from my family. However, I later realized that this was nothing to hide. Unless you're addicted to gambling it's not hard to realize that it's not actually something shameful or something to hide. I think that people who have reached the level of addiction and hide it think that gambling is a bad thing and therefore they hide their gambling addiction. Also, considering the possibility of exclusion based on religious and social pressure I think that this pressure and belief may be among the reasons for those who gamble but hide it. I don't think that people who hide that they gamble for such reasons feel regret.

It's part of the game and we should accept that already because it's totally expected that people wouldn't understand us specially if they don't gamble and they will always see gamblers as an addicts, no difference to those who are abusing drugs or alcohol, as they cannot see something anything that is beneficial from gambling aside from the money of course but they too know the probabilities because it's almost impossible to win consecutively without going through any loss.

And about the family thing, specially to our wife/husband, we should be transparent to them so that they know what is going on and let's initiate the talk while it's still early because once they knew it first hand, there's no turning back from that trust that we broke.

It's not uncommon when we spend time with people we really love, so as much as possible we cover our own disgrace, especially if the people we care about don't like gambling and think it's a negative thing. So whether we like it or not we have to keep it a secret because on the one hand we don't want to lose our loved ones and on the other hand we also cannot leave gambling activities. But how long are we going to keep this fake and become a burden in itself which results in us having to play stealth which can raise suspicion in relationships. And no matter how good we are at keeping gambling activities secret, in the end, it will be discovered too, whether it's from our friends or from anyone, it will definitely be uncovered. then being honest is better, because we will never know how it will turn out if we never talk about it.

yes, that's true especially if he finds out about it from someone else, this will make him even more hurt. It's good if we tell our gambling activities to people we care about because in my opinion he is the only person who can stop us when we lose control while gambling.

Hiding any form of activity from a spouse sets a dangerous precedent for the foundation of trust in relationships! Your explanation that the money is for "extras" is insufficient. Even if they're just pennies, the connection needs to be open and accountable.

What about the time-honored defense, "Its my first time playing," when you get caught? Really? That is comparable to catching a kid with their hand in the cookie jar. Its time to take responsibility! Community impressions are something you should be prepared for if you are aware of the negative connotations associated with gambling but still decide to participate. Social conventions cannot always be used as a justification for concealment. Own your choice to gamble.

There will be no peace in any family if the main earner is addicted to gambling. If a wife observe her husband's gambling ratio is so high and he loss more in gambling she may feel unhappy like her husband and usually the wife does not want her husband to focus more on gambling. I have never seen a wife who encouraged her husband to gamble. No matter what a gambler does throughout the day, no one will accept it if the results of his day's activities come home and affect the family. A gambler should devote enough time to the family as well as fully support the family financially.

The truth is that gambling is prohibited in Islam, but as you know, we have individual differences, and it depends on how disciplined you are in your religion. We have people who, whatever money gambling can generate, will never gamble in there because it is prohibited and their religion does not support that, whereas there are people who gamble every day and still their religion makes it prohibited. Some people are after the money, while some people don't want to engage in such things because of what their religion says. Some people gamble because that is where they derive their happiness from. They have made gambling a way that will give them happiness, which some of their religions do not support, but because of their environment, they gamble since they are exposed to an environment with many gamblers.