Topic: Lies told to cover up gambling habit (Read 2332 times)

If you dont like to have a life that been always keeps on repeating for your wife to tell about your mistakes in the past then better open up yourself on having this kind of thing towards into your spouse that you've been doing gambling or betting so that you would be able to make yourself that being safe in terms of potential situation on which most men or husband does have. Women do really loves on repeating those mistakes that we have done in the past and its really hard to have that trust issue same as you have said and its really that quite irritating or something that could pissed you out in the long run. Therefore, if you dont like to experience it out then better be honest and never hide anything from your wife. You might be able to find yourself that keep hidden for now but we do know that there's no such thing about hiding up a secret forever.
Sooner or later your wife will be able to find it out once you have shown those behaviors that it is really something off to her. They are wise and good detectives on which when it comes to observation they are really indeed superior.  

When telling up your gambling activity into your wife then if it turns out that she would be that just fine then good for you as a gambler/bettor but if she prohibits you on doing so then there's nothing
you can do but to quit it. There are really things in life on which you would be needing up to sacrifice or leave yourself for the betterment of your relationship and this is something that you must do as a husband.
If you could took up the risks on dealing with it without telling her, then it would really be up to your choice. Just make it sure that you wont get caught on this one.

If it happens that they are the supportive type and not the ones that usually judge based on what you do or what you did in the past then I don’t really see any reason why it should be kept a secret from them.

See one thing I noticed is that - if you’re able to lie to keep your gambling habit a secret from your spouse then there is a high tendency that you’ll also engage in cheating or things that could potentially ruin your relationship and still hide it from them - everything starts from the little things we do and once we start it, it becomes very difficult to stop.

If you do know that your wife is really that totally allergic or totally opposes about doing gambling and it turns out that you are a fan of it when you are still single or not still in marriage life
then definitely you will really be doing your very best on hiding it out from your wife since you do know on what comes next if ever this one turns out to be caught that you've been doing something that
she hates or not like. I cant be able to make out some conclusions on why someone will really be having that kind of behavior in towards on hiding things from their own wives.
We do know that this is really something risky because once you do get caught then it will really be that putting up that relationship on having some trust issues in the future
and we dont really like for this thing to happen.

Eventually, you'll need to open up to her especially when you run out of ideas, strategies and opinions.Although you wouldn't be in much trouble since you're not a gambling addict's,to avoid unreasonable and irrelevant questions concerning your choices for how you spend your money.

A lot of people wouldn't even feel the need or urge to discuss or bring up their gambling;is not everyone that'll comfortably share their gambling experiences with their spouses.

In fact, I am quite sure that many people will refuse to share information about their gambling activities with their partners, because it can cause prolonged conflict. In fact, we must be open to our partners, including about gambling, so that they can control or advise us when we act excessively. However, it is not as easy as imagined, in many cases gambling will always be considered bad for the sustainability of the household. Telling it to your partner or people close to you will cause more pressure, so I can understand why some people are still reluctant to tell it. If you tell it with the aim of leaving gambling forever, I think it is okay, but your partner will continue to suspect your spending forever. Simply put, gambling not only demands a certain amount of money, but it will take up your time and attention.

It's a relief to open up, especially when the gaming expenses get profuse. However, some players prefer gambling secretly due to the stigma people have on gamblers. Not every spouse would willingly be comfortable with such breaking news.

She could attribute it to the family not being able to save enough money. Players should be sure of the type of spouse they have before sharing the information with them. It'll be a sad experience for the family if the spouse feels terrible about marrying a gambler.

Spouses are different, some leave as soon as they learn about gambling addiction, while others, on the contrary, strengthen their ties and support their husband or wife throughout their lives. I have heard more than one story about this, but I often see that after a while they can no longer support them, because it is very difficult, because the player can break down at any moment. It turns out to be a kind of codependency, the spouse is completely drawn in and his life also becomes unbearable. I do not even know what to actually do in such situations and I do not have a clear answer, but I am inclined to consider each situation separately and make a decision about whether to talk about it or not.

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It’s not about gambling being legal in the country, but rather the people’s approach towards it.
There are people in my country (that’s if we’re speaking about countries) that are living out of gambling and all major sources of income comes directing from gambling and in situations like this, you’ll agree with me that, one’s spouse wouldn’t have any major challenge seeing their partner gamble since the results are positive and the winnings keep coming.
The truth is that, gambling isn’t generally a bad activity but in situations where the losses are becoming much more than the winnings, then there is always a cause for concern and when the results begins creating a negative impact on the individual where the gambler begins selling off properties and other valuables just to meet up with their gambling activities, then it will e tagged addiction and typically, no one wants to mingle with such persons not even their spouse.

It's also just a factor of a person - it can be stigmatized in one family (not talking about the country in which we are in) and not in the other. Usually - it is, however, there are cases where it's okay as long as it's a hobby, not a way to make a crazy profit.

This is why giving a general advice about something is very difficult since the circumstances that each one of us face are completely different.

For someone living in a country in which gambling is legal and there is almost no stigma associated with it, admitting to their spouse that you gamble is not really a big deal, however there are other countries in which such a thing could be a cause for divorce, so coming out clean about it is nowhere near as easy.

Me too on which im a type of person on whose really not that too love on talking on what are the things that im doing or dealing with even how close we are or friends or even my wife do able to know
when i do gambling on which im pretty sure that she would really be getting mad on which it would really be that something that too common impression not really just that into a certain individual
but also into those community on which it does have that kind of negative approach or insights towards gambling so it would be better to be silent if you wont really be that liking on getting judge.

Dealing up with gambling doesnt automatically means that you would really be that be getting wrecked up with it, there would really be still those gamblers who are really that responsible
in regarding into their actions on which they will really be that still doing and spending up money but in controlled manner but still able to make their finances still
that just fine.,

Things get better with the casino and other activities are no longer as taboo as they used to be, any type of person is capable of doing any activity, even those activities that may go against morality, are now legal, so playing in a casino is the most normal thing in the world for many, rather what should be done is to talk, I think that is something that has changed in the world, I remember that when I was little and they talked about casinos it was synonymous with addicted people and that they do nothing but lose everything, even their houses and live in ruin.

For the sake of comfort they know what they need to do whether or not to tell many people about our own gambling, for that I myself do not do it and it is better that no one knows except family even though there is always someone who judges it does not matter, as long as it does not become a burden for them.

Gambling is only for fun, so never use hot money to gamble, I always look for other sources to gamble or set aside a little when needs are met.
Talking about gambling to a friend will always be uncomfortable for us, we know there are still controls that we can overcome.

The truth is that, everyone will love to tell their wife about their gambling habit but hell no, there are already so much stigmatizing associated with gambling and I don’t know for other countries but I can relate with op because in a country try like mine, it will be very difficult to get to see anyone boldly tell the next person except they’re friends that he or she gambles and the worst is even with women as it seems like it’s a taboo for women to gamble in my country and anyone seen gambling as already tagged irresponsible and that’s the major challenge with many married gamblers in my country as they don’t want to be seen as irresponsible m atleast not by their spouse .

Some of the gamblers making up stories to tell their spouse or loved ones are not actually addicted but they are normal gamblers who did not involve their loved ones in their gambling decisions.

If I am married I will let my wife understand my gambling habit and maybe she will be my check. I'll let her know the percentage of my income allocated to gambling, such that when I want to exceed, she'll call me to order. When you are into the lying game, you have to keep lying the more in order cover up more lies.

Even though I don't support hiding things in a relationship, let me tell you one thing, there is a huge difference between a friend and a spouse. The understanding between two friends is way different than the understanding between two partners in a relationship. So just because you told your friends and they were supportive, it doesn't mean the same would happen if someone tells their spouse that they are addicted to gambling.

I know that a lot of people are very understanding and they don't overreact to certain things, but that isn't the case everywhere, and a person should know how their partner is and they should decide based on that whether they should or should not share a certain thing to them because they would know if the partner would understand or not.

Not everyone might think this is a good idea but I think it's better for a gamblers to open up to their spouse about their addiction especially if it's crippling their finances... I started feeling better when I opened up to my friends about my addiction, some were kind of judgmental and some were really concerned about it, they tried to always put my check which wasn't enough, no one can look over shoulders everytime, you must be intentional with yourself about making a change, but telling those around you the truth is the first step

In this era I think more people can say about the gambling they do, because it seems like slot gambling has also become one where people gamble freely. Thus, it seems that lies to cover up gambling activities occurred in the past, because in this era even people who work in government institutions also gamble on easily accessible slot games.

However, for me personally, I still really protect my privacy and personality because, at least, there are still many people who cannot accept gambling because basically they don't like it. However, if you are not reluctant to reveal your gambling activities, then of course that is not a problem as long as you can accept the responses of those around you.

As you understand and I am sure that the idea of ​​hiding involvement in gambling or losing will eventually be known by others especially by their own family, the reason I think is clear that this is an activity that involves money where their family will definitely know when it turns out that the gambler has difficulty in meeting some of his life's needs and of course the closest people will definitely realize this and may ask about where the person's money actually went which in the end I am sure there is no other way than to be honest and admit everything.

So far I think hiding gambling activities from others including your family is all up to you, as long as you are really able to maintain your involvement in gambling with the note that you are able to protect yourself by implementing many boundaries so that you stay safe, because even if for example you hide everything from your family but if you have an impulsive approach to gambling then in the end your family will definitely find out too.