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July 28, 2024, 05:20:51 AM
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Life's not a Disney movie. Everybody makes decisions; occasionally those decisions arent always clear-cut black and white. Business is business, and relationships are relationships, but they often intertwine. You have to do what you must. You do it if bringing customers late-night entertainment helps close the transaction. It does not indicate you lie or have poor marriage. It means you're a provider, a winner. Still, you have to be clever about it. Dont gamble your family's health or your own; be careful.

But dont tell your wife every little detail. What she doesnt know wont hurt her, right? Still, communication is fundamental. Perhaps you might discuss with her the demands you deal with and the sacrifices you give your family. Her knowledge will perhaps surprise you. Remember, relationships are about balance. Its about discovering that ideal balance whereby everyone gains. You may be a devoted husband and a great businessman. Though not easy, it is feasible.

Keeping things balanced in life is not easy. I've seen some people advise me to tell my wife the truth about my gambling. But like what @Rabata is going through, they are not in our position, they don't know what we have to go through and what we have to face if we say we are gamblers. Gambling is not a big problem for me because I am not addicted and only play when stressed for entertainment purposes. But if I tell the truth about what I'm going through at work, can anyone guarantee that my wife will understand me and my family will still be as happy as they are now? Does anyone understand me better than my wife?

You're right, life is not a Disney movie that always has a happy ending, life is not rosy and simple. What I do is just want to keep balance in life as well as keep my family happy, so I don't think lying in this case is a bad thing.
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July 28, 2024, 03:44:17 AM

I don't think it was THAT bad. You can have multiple favorite times in a day, at least.

Anyway, I think the only time I lied was during my early days? As I've shared before I was playing poker already with my friends back in hs, and was in a relationship. My partner abhorred the idea of me gambling (or at least, gambling with money, not poker itself) so whenever I was playing, I always told her that we were just playing with cards, no money involved. There came a point though where I was caught red handed so had no choice but to confess Tongue. Naturally I had to stop but eh, we eventually broke up and here I am gambling again.


Gambling affects you as a  person and gradually everything around you,, you will lose a lot of good relationships, of all the addictions in the world it's the worst, a close friend of mine  that was about to get married to his finance but she called off the wedding due to his gambling addiction, few months later he lost his job cause he was caught using some clients money to gamble, I've had my own terrible experiences as well, I'm also a gambler but all I can say is you should try to fight it  and restrict yourself

Yes, maybe I would also say that the situation you told about something experienced by one of your friends is included in the category of one of the worst impacts caused by addiction, or simply and the point is the impact of addiction can really thwart all the plans we have especially those related to money, and about your friend I am sure he is a gambler who has now reached a fairly chronic level of addiction, because he is really desperate to use money for something very important in life such as wedding expenses just to gamble.

So that's the only reason why we always say the following also by suggesting to anyone to only treat gambling with an approach that suits our abilities, and besides that we must also remain careful and maintain awareness in ourselves, because basically gambling addiction can occur without the gambler realizing it himself.
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July 28, 2024, 03:38:11 AM
Why do adults even lie about gambling? I would understand if a teenager would lie, or a shy person that recently turned 18. But for a really grown up person to lie about gambling? The benefits such person would get from a lie is so minimum and miserable, when the consequences are so big, that it is no use to do it. To lie to hide gambling habit is useless, as lie will always come up, and it is impossible to hide such a habit.
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July 28, 2024, 01:02:51 AM
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I don't think it was THAT bad. You can have multiple favorite times in a day, at least.

Anyway, I think the only time I lied was during my early days? As I've shared before I was playing poker already with my friends back in hs, and was in a relationship. My partner abhorred the idea of me gambling (or at least, gambling with money, not poker itself) so whenever I was playing, I always told her that we were just playing with cards, no money involved. There came a point though where I was caught red handed so had no choice but to confess Tongue. Naturally I had to stop but eh, we eventually broke up and here I am gambling again.


Gambling affects you as a  person and gradually everything around you,, you will lose a lot of good relationships, of all the addictions in the world it's the worst, a close friend of mine  that was about to get married to his finance but she called off the wedding due to his gambling addiction, few months later he lost his job cause he was caught using some clients money to gamble, I've had my own terrible experiences as well, I'm also a gambler but all I can say is you should try to fight it  and restrict yourself
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July 27, 2024, 08:32:13 PM
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Indeed, the main fault lies with each individual who gambles too much. If gambling is done properly without greed or other things that trigger addiction, all will be fine whether they are rich or poor, gambling will not have a bad impact as long as it is done with good control and good awareness.

That's right, in my own country gambling is prohibited. But nowadays there are many online casinos in circulation so it is not strange that many young people are doing online gambling. And I think those whose countries legalize gambling are the same if they don't have good control then addiction is a sure thing. So the point is that the solution lies with us, people giving good advice is good but considering everything is what must be done.

Yes, it means if there is a question about who is to blame, then it is clearly the gamblers themselves, because there is no coercion from any party to them to continue gambling or gamble with various actions that tend to be excessive, meaning that all of that is done by their own decision, and also meaning that all the bad impacts they experience are purely due to those who treat gambling in the wrong way, therefore this is why we are always advised to be responsible gamblers.

Basically in any case everything will not be too bad if it is done correctly, or in the sense of various actions that are indeed measured according to our abilities, especially when talking about activities that have risks in them. Regardless of whether you are in a country that legalizes gambling or not, in the end, yes, as you said, it all comes back to ourselves, because we are the ones who know what is best for ourselves, in the sense that we are the ones who know our limits, and also other people will not care too much about whatever we experience, especially the bad impacts when it turns out that we are addicted.
responsible gamblers know the reasonable limits that should be done, besides their thoughts and mindsets that I think they will treat gambling as just a means of entertainment because with that it is unlikely that they will become addicted to gambling. also when compared to people who gamble responsibly and not, maybe more people gamble irresponsibly because there are so many cases of bad impacts that occur. and they must be able to learn to gamble responsibly, one of which is to have limits on their budget and gambling time.

that is the importance of betting according to what we can afford, we must be able to allocate an amount of money that we can afford and consider the money to be lost because with his statement gambling will only make them lose or lose money so we should be able to let go of the money that was bet if it is lost. because if not like that gambling addiction is something that can happen and it is unlikely that other people will care when addiction has occurred.
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July 27, 2024, 06:39:45 PM
I think that we as players, should not cover up with lies whether we play or not , I think that we should be what they call upfront, always say things , lies always come to light, at any moment, because it is something that does not make sense , in the end lies achieve disappointment, then whoever we want to hide something like that from , I do not Recommend it, I recommend being as Transparent as possible, also gambling is not a crime, it is not something that is Wrong , you just have to face things as they are, if we like playing in casinos, then they have to accept it as we are.
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July 27, 2024, 03:55:26 PM
But dont tell your wife every little detail. What she doesnt know wont hurt her, right? Still, communication is fundamental. Perhaps you might discuss with her the demands you deal with and the sacrifices you give your family. Her knowledge will perhaps surprise you. Remember, relationships are about balance. Its about discovering that ideal balance whereby everyone gains. You may be a devoted husband and a great businessman. Though not easy, it is feasible.
Different people have their different orientations about marriage and that's also how it works for them. However, my own school of thought tells me that I should be free enough to tell my wife whatever I'm doing at any given time because she's the closest soul next to me. I don't think I should engage myself in any sort of engagement that I'll have to hide from my wife because if it turns sour at the end of the day, she's still the person I'm going to run to for solace. It's not a bad idea to make big sacrifices for your family as a man but your should let your spouse have the knowledge of your sacrifices especially the ones that involves finances so she can help cover up if it fails to yield good results.
And preferably anything that involves sensitive matters such as money and habits that are done must be told, because it is important to maintain the balance of a relationship between husband and wife, because the saying also says, no matter how deep the carcass will definitely smell, so don't try to hide it from your wife because it will have a fatal impact if you do something that your wife doesn't know about such as gambling.

Whether it's a sacrifice or whatever so that she can understand and understand what you are doing, she will also remind us if we are too deep in playing gambling, isn't it a good combination when both have an understanding of each other, so don't lie to your wife, just for fear that she will hate us.
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July 27, 2024, 02:16:10 PM
But dont tell your wife every little detail. What she doesnt know wont hurt her, right? Still, communication is fundamental. Perhaps you might discuss with her the demands you deal with and the sacrifices you give your family. Her knowledge will perhaps surprise you. Remember, relationships are about balance. Its about discovering that ideal balance whereby everyone gains. You may be a devoted husband and a great businessman. Though not easy, it is feasible.
Different people have their different orientations about marriage and that's also how it works for them. However, my own school of thought tells me that I should be free enough to tell my wife whatever I'm doing at any given time because she's the closest soul next to me. I don't think I should engage myself in any sort of engagement that I'll have to hide from my wife because if it turns sour at the end of the day, she's still the person I'm going to run to for solace. It's not a bad idea to make big sacrifices for your family as a man but your should let your spouse have the knowledge of your sacrifices especially the ones that involves finances so she can help cover up if it fails to yield good results.
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July 27, 2024, 10:41:40 AM
Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..


After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.


Doing it secretly means he's battling with gambling addiction,  nothing can be hidden under the sun, sooner or later the truth will eventually come out so there's no need to continue hiding it from his spouse, he should seek help before it's too late, isolating yourself and gambling means you are not doing it for fun purposes, it major be a major setback on your finances if not handled properly...if you are addicted to this point talk to people about problems instead of hiding it, it's better that way.

You are right that if a player tries to hide himself in gambling then he is a win addict. Because of which she is shy to reveal this to her family and what friends and here she avoids by lying but inside she is killing herself. Of course, I think it is possible to discuss this matter with your wife if you have friends and family members before you separate yourself. There is no point in hiding yourself by gambling financially and harming your family, but exposing yourself to everyone so that one can restore the assets of the gambler, using various tactics. Gambling addiction can be solved by talking to people if responsible and experienced advice is taken.
There are people who are really that good when it comes on hiding their emotions on which it could neither be that killing them inside or would really be that tend to hide it out no matter what.
As long they wont really be that getting caught then it would really be just that fine. There are really those addicted gamblers who are really that good on hiding out their true emotions or even on the activities that they are really that doing. There would really be no exemption to this on whether a man or a woman whose been involving into something on which its not really that limited to gambling but also in other stuffs as well.
For me then it wont really be that recommended on having this kind of act because sooner or later you would really be get busted up and might be ending for you to have some huge trouble in regarding your relationship
with your loved ones.

Its not bad to gamble and telling everything from your wife or husband is always been that recommended so that you wont really be keeping yourself be hiding something from them.
If there's something wrong then you could really open up and tell something and would be able to resolve problems together. There are really just those people who are really that
not wanting or liking to tell everything into their partner.
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July 27, 2024, 10:04:43 AM
But dont tell your wife every little detail. What she doesnt know wont hurt her, right? Still, communication is fundamental. Perhaps you might discuss with her the demands you deal with and the sacrifices you give your family. Her knowledge will perhaps surprise you. Remember, relationships are about balance. Its about discovering that ideal balance whereby everyone gains. You may be a devoted husband and a great businessman. Though not easy, it is feasible.
There are some necessary steps a man needs to take to keep his family going, I won't blame any man who falls under the category of the OP's post cause the responsibility of a man is too much and sometimes one needs to go extra miles to tackle it, and to some men gambling is a form of earning extra cash as a provider. Sometimes, the man should've opened up to his wife and save himself the stress of lying and making the whole situation seem suspicious but then he knows his wife and might think she'll feel disappointed at him being a gambler or that's where he squaders the money meant for the upkeep of the family, at that point what might be going through his head could be, "what if she dislike gamblers and begin to dislike me if I tell her". That's why marriage is about understanding, once a Man understands his spouse he should be bold enough to open up about some certain things, if truly she loves him she'll be willing to find out if  gambling is really beneficial or not worth doing instead of judging him.
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July 27, 2024, 09:38:28 AM
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Everyone knows that telling the truth is best, especially in a marital relationship, but things don't always work out best when we tell the truth. I do not encourage us to lie, but always telling the truth is not necessarily a good thing.

As in my case, because of the nature of my work and to get business contracts, I need to satisfy my partners. I regularly drank alcohol and participated in men's entertainment activities all night long with the aim of maintaining relationships and achieving profitable contracts for my business. Do you think if I told my wife the truth and we would be okay? I don't think every wife accepts and understands that, so in this case I will lie to ensure family happiness.

If your wife doesn't like gambling but it helps you have fun and relieve stress, then lying to gamble is not necessarily a bad thing. As long as you know what you are doing and stop at the right time to not let things get out of control and not affect your family. Lying in that case is not bad.
Life's not a Disney movie. Everybody makes decisions; occasionally those decisions arent always clear-cut black and white. Business is business, and relationships are relationships, but they often intertwine. You have to do what you must. You do it if bringing customers late-night entertainment helps close the transaction. It does not indicate you lie or have poor marriage. It means you're a provider, a winner. Still, you have to be clever about it. Dont gamble your family's health or your own; be careful.

But dont tell your wife every little detail. What she doesnt know wont hurt her, right? Still, communication is fundamental. Perhaps you might discuss with her the demands you deal with and the sacrifices you give your family. Her knowledge will perhaps surprise you. Remember, relationships are about balance. Its about discovering that ideal balance whereby everyone gains. You may be a devoted husband and a great businessman. Though not easy, it is feasible.
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July 27, 2024, 09:13:13 AM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
People have such bad ideas about gambling since long ago. Anyone who gambles is scolded or looked down upon. If there is a family member especially husband or wife they get worried because in gambling everyone has a common idea that they will turn into addicted gamblers. And thinking like this, one behaves abnormally towards others. I also never want to open up about my gambling. Because I know that once my gambling is known there will be a lot of criticism about me which will annoy me. So I don't like any kind of trouble which is why I resort to lies to hide my gambling. As long as my family members don't find out about my gambling habits, I can be free.

Lying is not good but sometimes letting others know the truth will be even worse. Some people say that we should tell the truth to our wife or family about our gambling but they are not in our situation, they don't know what we will face.

I think there is nothing serious about trying to hide our gambling from our loved ones as long as we are not addicted to gambling and causing trouble for our family.
In addition, everyone will have a certain level of privacy, and some personal space, and sometimes there are habits of ours that many people do not like, so there is no reason for us to let them know to avoid causing trouble for both parties.
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July 27, 2024, 07:52:01 AM
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Indeed, the main fault lies with each individual who gambles too much. If gambling is done properly without greed or other things that trigger addiction, all will be fine whether they are rich or poor, gambling will not have a bad impact as long as it is done with good control and good awareness.

That's right, in my own country gambling is prohibited. But nowadays there are many online casinos in circulation so it is not strange that many young people are doing online gambling. And I think those whose countries legalize gambling are the same if they don't have good control then addiction is a sure thing. So the point is that the solution lies with us, people giving good advice is good but considering everything is what must be done.

Yes, it means if there is a question about who is to blame, then it is clearly the gamblers themselves, because there is no coercion from any party to them to continue gambling or gamble with various actions that tend to be excessive, meaning that all of that is done by their own decision, and also meaning that all the bad impacts they experience are purely due to those who treat gambling in the wrong way, therefore this is why we are always advised to be responsible gamblers.

Basically in any case everything will not be too bad if it is done correctly, or in the sense of various actions that are indeed measured according to our abilities, especially when talking about activities that have risks in them. Regardless of whether you are in a country that legalizes gambling or not, in the end, yes, as you said, it all comes back to ourselves, because we are the ones who know what is best for ourselves, in the sense that we are the ones who know our limits, and also other people will not care too much about whatever we experience, especially the bad impacts when it turns out that we are addicted.
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July 27, 2024, 06:09:11 AM
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
People have such bad ideas about gambling since long ago. Anyone who gambles is scolded or looked down upon. If there is a family member especially husband or wife they get worried because in gambling everyone has a common idea that they will turn into addicted gamblers. And thinking like this, one behaves abnormally towards others. I also never want to open up about my gambling. Because I know that once my gambling is known there will be a lot of criticism about me which will annoy me. So I don't like any kind of trouble which is why I resort to lies to hide my gambling. As long as my family members don't find out about my gambling habits, I can be free.
That's right, the fear of telling others about our habit even though one gambler is a responsible one. I do fear my relatives to know that I am gambling but I will not tell them directly. If ever they saw me doing it then I bet they will have something to tell about it. I would not mind but they should not expect a good answer from me too.
There are people who easily judge others just because they are doing something and not even looking at the other side of the coin. My wife knows that I am gambling but because I am responsible for all the needs that are required in the house, she doesn't mind. As long as I won't be jeopardizing our budget. When it comes to losses though, I don't tell her that, only my about my profits so that she will only be happy about the good news and not the bad ones.
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July 27, 2024, 05:21:52 AM
Everyone knows that telling the truth is best, especially in a marital relationship, but things don't always work out best when we tell the truth. I do not encourage us to lie, but always telling the truth is not necessarily a good thing.

As in my case, because of the nature of my work and to get business contracts, I need to satisfy my partners. I regularly drank alcohol and participated in men's entertainment activities all night long with the aim of maintaining relationships and achieving profitable contracts for my business. Do you think if I told my wife the truth and we would be okay? I don't think every wife accepts and understands that, so in this case I will lie to ensure family happiness.

If your wife doesn't like gambling but it helps you have fun and relieve stress, then lying to gamble is not necessarily a bad thing. As long as you know what you are doing and stop at the right time to not let things get out of control and not affect your family. Lying in that case is not bad.
Many people still lie to their couple and not telling their gambling habit so that can makes misunderstanding between them. That will not be good for them because their household will always be noisy and can harmony. Small problem in their family can be bigger if they still lie to their couple because we may already seen many cases happens because of that. It is better we tells the truth that we sometimes playing gambling to release our stress and we don't use too much money to have fun in gambling.

If you think that it is better to tell your wife about your drink habit with your business partner, you can do that but you can underline to your wife that you do that because of your work. You can separate which is for your work and for your family so when you getting drunk and you come from, your wife will understand that. I think your wife is already know about your drink habit but she doesn't wants to ask for furthermore. Everything will depends on your situation and if you thinks that lying to your couple is good for you and your couple, you can still do that but you must know the consequences. Everything will have consequences and if you are ready with that, you can still do that.
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July 27, 2024, 12:25:32 AM
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Indeed, the main fault lies with each individual who gambles too much. If gambling is done properly without greed or other things that trigger addiction, all will be fine whether they are rich or poor, gambling will not have a bad impact as long as it is done with good control and good awareness.

That's right, in my own country gambling is prohibited. But nowadays there are many online casinos in circulation so it is not strange that many young people are doing online gambling. And I think those whose countries legalize gambling are the same if they don't have good control then addiction is a sure thing. So the point is that the solution lies with us, people giving good advice is good but considering everything is what must be done.
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July 26, 2024, 09:29:42 AM
Actually, im open to those people around me about my gambling activity like how much I play and how much I win so they are aware about the emotions sometimes I've given to them at the end of the day there's no lie that they didn't discover of course they will curious where did you get a lot of money and also whats happen with your behavior like having mood swings. But sometimes we commit a white lies those lies just better to keep secret and make safe, and to prevent argue that might cause to a family problem or any relationship problem.
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July 26, 2024, 09:19:05 AM
A thread that has been dead since May, and yesterday someone decided to bring up the topic again, under the guise of a quote...

All poster here collaborating, -/"Lies told to cover up gambling habit'" /-to cover a quota, ( w/p).

Final chapter:
Reload Líes, Topic: a thread that has been dead for two months,  being brought back to life.
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July 26, 2024, 09:00:34 AM
OP, I'll give you some good advice to help you gamble when no one will bother you. Stop going to church on Sundays. It's useless for you. I think you're lying not only to your wife but to everything holy, although you can't deceive God. You have to choose between gambling and God. "You can't serve both God and mammon."
In your case, it would be more honest not to go to church.
As for lying to your loved one, I don't want to sound like a bore, but how would you feel if your wife lied to you in the same way?
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July 26, 2024, 08:19:49 AM
Lies and concealment are the things that will accompany and go together in the same direction with an addicted player. Many excuses are built on lies, stories that can sometimes cause pity in your friends or acquaintances who will do good and lend money. But in the end, this player will still lose them and will be sad for those people who showed kindness and were left without money. It turns out that greedy people would not lend money and were right. Such stories make me sad, I would like this to change in a few years and players not to cheat and not tell fairy tales just to be given money for a new game.

The story about the husband who almost beat his wife because she asked where the money was, it really amused me, but at the same time it is sad for both of them.
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