Topic: Never gamble in front of your kids. - page 54. (Read 7256 times)

Yeah, you shouldn't be gambling in front of kids. Kids, especially at a young age, likes to mimic what their parents do. Their minds absorb everything around them and they learn really fast. Your kid, seeing you play blackjack probably seemed like any other fun game she plays or watches you play. She doesn't grasp the financial and psychological implications behind gambling. She doesn't even know that you are playing with real money. It's just the colors, the excitement, and the notion of "winning" and you getting excited that caught her attention. But yeah exposing your kids to gambling can normalize it for them, making them more likely to engage in such activities without understanding the consequences when they grow older. Later this temptation might become an addiction destroying your kids life which you will blame yourself for.

I don't think any responsible man would even think of gambling in front of his kids knowing fully well how captive the minds of little ones can be. Most habits that children are prone to were capture when they were very young and this particular habit tend to stick people it has been practice overtime and it now tend to be an habit that's sticks and these habit is really hard to get rid off.

As we discussed previously, the worst impact if minors find out about gambling is that an instant mindset will emerge because minors do not yet have perfect emotional control and are very vulnerable to gambling addiction if one day the child tries to gamble and other negative impacts. Minors who know about gambling will try various ways to get money to gamble while the child is not yet old enough to find work to earn his own money so he is very vulnerable to stealing his parents' money or stealing money from other people.
So we as experienced adults should hide gambling activities from minors and wherever we are because the mindset of minors is very easily influenced and we must be able to maintain our attitude to hide gambling from minors.

I never did it in front of my kids.When i start it ,i have a room where i passed my time and my kids play on another room .I think you got a good lesson and after that you will mever do it in front of your kids.I always try to busy my kids on watching video gamer and also cartoon which has a learning lesson .You can do it as well .Gambling is a risky way of earning and no kids are allowed to do gambling even work when they have a time to learn . However we all should need to avoid gambling from our kids .

But the point is that we can still gamble provided that our kids never see us. Because the moment they see us gambling, they will also gain curiosity and then ask about it. What we did was just to keep our kids away from getting interested in gambling because of what they saw. Of course, we can't hide this forever but we can explain them well when they are capable enough to understand gambling. As long as we still have the chance not to expose gambling to our kids, the better.

Well, no matter the age of the kids is small or big, in both cases, the kids tend to have a keen observation of their parents and most of the habits they have adopted, is because they have seen their parents doing the same. So parents should realize that if they want their children to stay away from gambling, the parents need to stay away from gambling first.

For most people, this is a difficult task to quit gambling only for the sake of children. So the end result is that kids will be gambling once they enter their teenage.

There's nothing we can do about it on which there would really be those adults who dont really care whether there are kids that would really be able to see or witness those activities as long they could really be able to
play on gambling or as they want and dont mind about people around whether old or young which they dont really care at all. For us parents then if your children is really that expose to these activities since you do live on a place where it is crowded or these things are really that rampant then it would really be that better or worth on telling your kids that its a must thing to be avoided and never ever tend to touch up these things if you dont like to mess up your life in terms of finances. It might really be that totally conclusive or really that discriminating gambling but it is really that truly a bad thing if you are that someone who cant really just have that good control towards yourself when it comes to dealing up with things like this. As a parent then we are really that minding on whats really good for our children but if you are that a type of parent who do really gamble
then most likely your children would really be going on the same path unless if you do really discipline them towards it then you could really might be able to change.

Children always select those fields in which their parents are interested may be its better or worst but they always choose that path as parents habits has a great impact on children's behavior.

Parents should teach their children about good and bad habits because if they don't learn from them they will never learn. Remember that your children are yours shadows so wherever you go they will follow you.

There are many parents who themselves are a part of gambling but they don't show about it to their children and give their children a lesson of good things as a result of which their gambling have no adverse effects on their children.

If parents are smoking in front of their children so you have seen that how their children quickly copy them so same is the case with gambling therefore always try to not play gambling of if you don't move way from it then at least don't involve your children in it.

Very much agree with you, and even though it very much depends on the type of game you are playing, like for example, if you are playing a slot game, most slot games looks like some video games we normally play on our phones and computer, I would say that, it's actually not entire wrong to allow them watch us play slot games since they probably assume it to be a video game, most especially, if the child is still very young in age and likely don't know how to read yet.

For the a bit grown ones, the teenagers who already know how to read, it's bet to completely shut them off from our computer so they don't end up accessing some stuff we don't want them accessing.

Parents are the first role model to their kids, and whatever that they see you doin, they will also want to do such. This is the reason why parents shouldn't gamble in the presence of their kids because they will think that it is something good and they may try it later.

Children these days are too smart and learn very fast, whatever that you know isn't good for then, then there is no need for you to do that in their presence, if you really want to keep them away from it. It is better that they learn from their friends, because you can correct them but when they learn from you, how will you correct them.

Of course we should not gamble in front of our kids, because it will make them curious of what we are doing and keep asking about it and maybe they will ask to try it. It means that we have to choose the best time to gamble to avoid them watch us unintentionally while we are playing gambling. We should also minimize the chance of our kids accessing our browser as they may find it in the history of somewhere else in the browser.

It may stick to her mind for a while. She may forget it after a few days or weeks but the moment she sees a card, she will be reminded of it. But then anyway, she will learn about it maybe in her teen years.

A father will always remind their children not to do casino stuff but kids find their way to it when they grow older. It's best they know there is legal age for it and consequences when playing while not of legal age.

Well that is a really long post to read

I have also something to tell whole community. Why gambling in front of kids is a problem? Why they should not watch me gambling? Because gambling is bad? Because it is illegal? Because it is wrong? Because people should be ashamed of gambling? Oohhh... I know the answer to all of this questions. Because of gambling addiction. I think I am gonna say something stupid and unique, probably gonna open someone's eyes - those who gamble, not always turn into addicted people. And gambling addicted person is not always a broke, financially and mentally person.

You are 100% correct about mentality. I would add education also. Educate your kids properly, teach them right things and they would always know where is the edge, when it is time to stop. Otherwise, you can ban, hide, limit your kids from gambling or everything, but they will get addicted to something through their friend and surrounding anyway.

P.S.

Never read in front of your kids - they might get addicted to reading, lose sight.
Never do sport sport in front of your kids - they might get addicted to it and get injured one day.
Never run in front of your kids - they might get addiction to running. Walking is better, no need to hurry, let whole world wait.
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Never in front of your kids. I can create such rules endlessly

Children are innocent souls who tend to imitate their parents. They have a curious mind, the main reason they ask questions all the time. If your child sees you gambling or anything illegal for her age accidentally, they won't ask any questions. If that is not the case then what happened to you would happen to every parent. What you did was the right thing to answer her question and inform her about the legal age. In the future when she reaches her legal age she can make the decision.

My recommendation to you is to stop gambling when she is around in the house. Since it is her growing years it is better to indulge with her in other activities when she is in the house. It would create an impression that her father is no longer active in gambling or has stopped gambling. It will help her to concentrate on her studies and daily activities rather than thinking about it.  

Dude, thanks a lot as you fulfilled my wish and filled me with joy and happiness as I was literally awaiting for such a response. Now, I've got something to tell you and the whole community.

Let's say for example, a guy is a beggar.
He begs daily and earns more than a software engineer can, each month (and I'm honestly speaking truth because I know some beggars who give a million dollars as a loan each month to people at 5% interest rate). Okay, he's got kids. Now, he still sends his kids to government schools but doesn't compromise with the nurturing part of his kids and grows them up in a very simple manner. Now, his kids become adults and one of them becomes an engineer and the other one becomes doctor based on their skills and capabilities as they managed to get a scholarship and did everything on their own. Now, both earn a lot collectively and always keep asking their father to stop begging but their father says that whatever he did before, he found happiness in it because he was able to grow up his kids through that begging, and now he's doing it for his own happiness because now he's used to it. He says that he earns too much, however he never wanted his sons to become what he had been (a beggar I mean), so he did whatever he can to make his kids reputable so that they could live their life with ultimate respect in the society.

You know what? It totally depends upon your mentality and how you deal with each situation. It's not necessary that even if you win a million dollar today, you'd just ask your kids to enjoy their life as they became rich. What if he gambles away all the money again because of his greed and loses everything? So what I'd do is, I'd simply save 80% of the money that I won, on the name of my kids so that their future is secured. Rest 20% is enough to live a simple yet king sized life with my kids till they grow up, and I'll definitely teach them the value of every cent before they spend it, so that they don't commit any mistake in the future. Especially, I won't ask my kids to gamble ever in any case, even if I win a 100 million dollar lottery.

Kids do whatever they see their parents doing, so it's not only about gambling but anything that isn't to be learned by kids shouldn't be done in front of them. Upbringing plays a great role in shaping the future of a child whether it's a girl or a boy. If parents teach their kids good things and avoid showing them or letting them watch things that aren't appropriate for their age, they will surely not get involved in activities that might be harmful to them in the long run.

That's why, as parents, it's important for us to be careful with all these things. We should keep telling them what isn't good for them and they shouldn't do that, I think we should also not tell them that they can do that once they reach a certain age because that will only make them curious and they may want to try it before that time this way but they won't do it if we tell them it isn't for them and they should stay away from it.

Right now you forbid gambling because of age and support the idea of not gambling in front of kids. But what would be your attitude, if you win a millions? I think you wont hide your happiness, you would shout "YES!" like crazy or something like that, you would change your lifestyle after that. How you gonna explain it your kid? My point is - when we just gamble or lose, than gambling is not for kid, it is illegal, not for your age and etc. But when we win a lot, then "you've said you always wanted alive pink unicorn with giraffe and dinosaurs? here you are, we are rich now, enjoy life, forget about studies". 

It is better to keep gambling away from children because the present age of children is the learning age. At this time if kids get addicted to gambling then their reading will be ruined and later they will start earning in easy way and forget reality. They will realize their laziness towards the fact that they actually have to work hard to earn and they will later choose gambling as an easy process. And if there is a loss then the whole family will be destitute because once the person becomes addicted to gambling it will be difficult to come back. So it is better to teach children education and everyone is better to gamble away from children.

With this story, isn't it true that our gambling activities should be carried out more privately, meaning we can't play just anywhere, do it in secret not because we are embarrassed but rather to avoid things like what you experienced?
I see how gamblers can play via their smartphones and it's done openly, I think it shouldn't be especially when it's seen by children that they think it's interesting to do and they just think it's like a normal game but actually, it's not and when they already like it it will be difficult to stop them and they may even find a way to fund their game account so they can play.
Adults must be responsible for their gambling, including playing in places that are not public places and seen by people who are not allowed to gamble because his age is not yet in the adult category.