Topic: People keep asking me to borrow money, some of them for betting - page 8. (Read 1861 times)

For someone whose really that addicted with gambling then it would really be that impossible that you would really be asking or tending to ask about such amount but if you do make out those kind of refuse or
trying out to tell them that you dont have money but you do have an intent on giving about $3-5 then it would really be just your choice on which its really that true that these people wont really be able to repay you up if ever they would really be that tending to let them borrow specially if someone whose really that get involved with gambling then it would really be not shocking that they will really be not prioritizing on the amounts that they have borrowed someone that they do know. Not all though since there are persons who are mindful with their loans but majority would really be something like this.

If you are someone who do have the money then it would really be just that depending on you but if you are someone who do have  that budget then it would really be that significant that you would really be that trying out to control things according into the money that you've been holding or specifically will really be not making those kind of decisions since you do know that it is something
you do need rather.

Why will someone even be confident that they are going to win a bet? Most people who take out loans just to gamble are always confident in the games they are planning to place bets on, so if they can win, they are going to repay the loan that they took. Some people always have the belief that before they gamble with all the money they borrowed, they are going to win back the money and make profits, but gambling doesn’t work like that, you might gamble with all the loan you took and never win.

Some people are always winning. I agree with you, but some people who are always claiming they are winning are not really winning, they are just deceiving people. I don’t think people who are really winning will be gambling with loan money, they will have generated enough money, and that’s what they will be using to gamble.

I am terrible at asking people to return something that belongs to me so I never lend money to anyone not for gambling but in general cause money and relationship is really a bad combo and no matter what it's going to end up in a conflict.

If you knew that you got the ability to get the money from them in one or other way then do it because it's good for you though cause you make interest from it and who knows they might pay you with something more valuable than what's you lend them and that's how the loan sharks are making money.

Not really.

Even you didn't show if you're capable or rich, they will still ask for money.

This kind people don't see friend as a real friend, but they will think them as an acquaintance, so they will not feel lose when they lose the friends where they borrow the money. So, make sure you can know and differentiate between real friend and fake friend.

Ask yourself, is there no one ever ask you to borrow money

Honestly, I don’t know how to track this, because a friend can do whatever he wants with this money. Of course, if we do not make this purchase for him and do not receive an official document with obligations on his part to repay the debt in full. Probably after this he will not want to do this, because the trick may not work, because he really needed the money.

Of course, this will be a difficult situation to correct, I agree with you here. Because for a player who is always in search of money, he poses a problem for the people around him. He has only one idea in his mind - to make a bet to win back, but we have mentioned many times that this idea will only lead to worse results. And even if you imagine that he is lucky and still wins money to give back, this does not guarantee that he will give it back, because the next day he will decide to place a bet again, just to win, this process can continue endlessly, unfortunately.

If your friends are asking you to borrow them like $2 or $5, then you should know you want to do a free gift. Many of them may not pay it back and you will surely forget it later if you are blessed with enough. But first, on judging all that you've narrated, what I can say here is that you might not be keeping the right circle of friends, so if you are a comfortable person among many of them who are not comfortable, it is still an issue and there is no way you will not continue to feel their burden and disturbance on you.

This is why it is good to keep the right circle of friends so that none of you will depend on the other for anything, and if at all some are facing one or two challenges, you will surely understand and help. But not in a situation where the friend appears irresponsible always. You can imagine the person who borrowed money from you but was unable to return it as and when due and those ones who are likely to bet with the money borrowed. These are irresponsible friends, to say the least.

Also, yes, I've lent my relative money and it was a big amount of money and was paid even before the stipulated time. This is what we call trust and a responsible act, and I assess very well before I lend my money out as some will not return it back. This has happened to them many times in the past but I've already cut off such a circle of friend. As for female friends, I like to avoid them in this context but give them a bit I can let go of. Should in case she insists and she is responsible at the same time, why not?

Someone who dares to borrow money from others, most of them see that they are able to provide loans, meaning that there are supporting factors, namely that the person appears to have a lot of money, such as his life can be said to be a capable person or a rich person, which can be seen from his daily life which is above average from the lives of others.
So that borrowers will dare to come to him even though the results are still in doubt.
And in my opinion, it means that OP is one of those people who are already seen as capable people or rich people, so borrowers come to OP just to borrow money.

There is no problem in borrowing money or taking a high interest loan if there is a guarantee of profit in that case then there should be no problem in borrowing or taking a high interest loan. But taking a high interest loan for betting on gambling is certainly nothing but a fool's errand since gambling is an uncertain prospect and there is more chance of loss than profit. More over If you take a loan from a bank at a high interest rate and put collateral against that loan, the collateral is more likely to be forfeited. I will not in any way support or suggest anyone to take money from the bank or any other source at high interest rates and gamble that money.

Even with the payment structure i will never lend money to someone to gamble even if he a close friend because if he refuses to pay people will actually blame me for giving out money to someone just to gamble. There is this spirit in lending money to someone, because whenever someone needs money from you the person will be very humble and submissive to you just because he or she wants to borrow from you but when the time for the person to pay he or she will turn arrogant and become very unreasonable so if the money is all that urgent and important that he or she must gamble let him go to any financial institution and borrow with collateral so it will enable him to pay fast, however, i don't lend money to people for some personal reasons but i can assist my friend for free if he or she has financial needs so borrowing money to people is out of my agenda especially when it has to do with gambling.

There’s some instances which a capable person resort to borrowing money just because their upcoming is still few days to come while they have a free weekends to gamble. Loan was invented to help people that in need of money now which they can pay later. I don’t agree about you shouldn’t borrow money even if you are capable on paying it unless the person is already addicted.



Being no money is different to being a temporarily no money just because you are still waiting for the payday while need money on your current situation.



Again it depends, most of the lending industry gets profit from gambler especially on Vegas. Financially speaking, gambler borrowers is the most profitable customer on lending industry as long you have collateral for the loan amount.

Wow, there must be a reason why you are getting asked a lot by people for money. It might be that they know you have a lot of money and then maybe have the spare cash lying around somewhere. It may be leaked that you are friendly and have extra money.

What I don't like is that they use their children to have you feel some kind of remorse or helplessness. I remember a time when my co-worker was asking me for money because his kid was sick. I said why not ask the company? And then he just didn't ask anymore. He might be using it for his gambling activities.

I don't know what the connection between female or male friends but it's the same for me. As long as they ask for money, I think of his/her background first before I lend it to them.

It's true, money can destroy an initially good relationship. You have to be careful when lending money to other people, including your own family. I myself lend money to my family members carefully, where I must first know the purpose of the money borrowed and know everything clearly, including the risks and positive sides. what you say is quite reasonable, it can be done like that, especially lending it to people who are usually shameless and can even forget themselves. I often experience this, but I sometimes like to tease them with the aim of making them aware and paying off their debts. But even though we lend money that we can afford to lose, that doesn't mean we have to lend it to gamblers, because that's not the right thing. lending money to gamblers is tantamount to giving them a path to misery.

Maybe it could be said that we are giving them problems indirectly, because the gambling they do will not definitely result in a win and after that they will lose money and will also be confused about paying their debts and of course they will definitely want to gamble again, especially when they have money as they think. is to double up on gambling to be able to pay off all the debts that surround him, but instead of wanting to improve the situation, it only makes things worse. It's true what you said, if you really want to gamble then you should use your own pocket money.

Even though this is something that many gamblers know, the fact is that many gamblers still do it for various reasons, maybe other people will say because they are addicted but maybe not because when an addict tries to get a loan it will be difficult, so could be he is a regular gambler but is very tempted by promotions and so on which are sometimes very attractive so that it is difficult for the gambler to ignore them, but I agree that it is better not to borrow to gamble and also lend to people who want to gamble because there is a chance that we will not get the money back, but actually no matter what the reason for loaning is, when If we have given it, it will count as lost money until it is returned to us.
But I'm sure the gambler who borrows will not tell you that the money is for gambling because he knows it will be difficult to get the loan.

That's why we don't have to lends money to those who only wants to uses the money to playing gambling, especially they don't have a big chance to wins and only lose that money. If they lose that money, they must gives back the money to us no matter what's their reason and that can makes us in trouble, especially if they can't pay back the money. That happens to many people who lend their money to other people and that can makes their relationships will disturb and it's difficult to fix. Borrows money from other people to playing gambling just makes them in a difficult situation as they can't gives the money back if they don't have money from their jobs.

If our friends wants to borrow our money to fills their needs or they have an urgent things that needs money, we can give that money and don't thinks about when they can repay that money. That will be a different situation because they really needs that money while they don't knows where they can gets the money.

That's true, even though there are no fixed rules like that, we ourselves must be able to limit the gambling we do, by having our own rules, as you said, by not gambling using borrowed money. Even though there is a chance to win at gambling, there is no certainty about that. Don't even think about borrowing money to gamble when our finances are exhausted. If gambling has drained our finances then it's better to just stop. I agree with what you say, a gambler who borrows money is probably experiencing despair where they have lost all the money they had by gambling so they think about borrowing money and going back to gambling hoping to get a big win that will enable them to have a certain amount. money as well as being able to repay the loan money made.
It's not a good idea if we lend money to those who use the money lent for gambling. the reason is that when they are addicted and borrow money it will be difficult for us to get the money we have lent, even though the addict has money it is unlikely that they will be able to remember the debt and will pay it, but they will most likely return to gambling when they have money instead of paying off the debt that surrounds their life .

For immediate purposes, I do. Before I don't mind much because I wasn't a family person until it had changed and I need to wise up with money decisions including who to lend money.

I've felt about it because your relatives are even the ones comfortable not to pay because you know them and they keep on saying that soon, they'll pay you.

But with no much hope, I have also changed my attitude towards that.

Not anymore.

One rule of gambling is; never gamble with loan money. Any gambler who goes as far as taking loans is just being desperate and should not be encouraged. It doesn’t matter if they have the ability to pay back or not. A person who has no money should be thinking of jobs and trades that will give him money and not gambling. My friends should be able to control their urge to gamble when they have nothing on them and that is what makes them good gamblers. As a lender, it is never a good idea lending money to gamblers for the sake of gambling. Lending them money is like gambling with your hard earned money which might be difficult to recover if there was no win recorded. I will never be a supporter of reckless gambling and this doesn't make me a bad person.

If you do know that those borrowed funds would really be that ending up on being gambled then it would be better that you should reject such request because you are really that fueling the addiction that they do have on that particular moment on which we know that this is something which it isnt really that not easy because we do have friends or known someone that if they are really that being rejected or ignored then they would really be changing up their impressions towards you. This is why i do understand on why others would really be tending to make them borrow despite of that not good feeling because they dont really like
that they would really be ending up on such situation on which there would really be that some gap specially with your friends.

If we do really think up that carefully then it would really be best that you should really be needing to have that kind of control and if you dont want for them to have that kind of addiction
and having that more debt problems then it would be best that you should ignore such request but of course it should be done on non offensive way which it do sounds
simple but doing it is really that hard. 

When it comes to lending of money to people I'm very careful about it especially with family and friends because money have destroyed si many good relationships with friends and family. I think the best way to lend money to people if at all one must do is to lend out the money that you can afford to lose.

Lending money to someone to play is not a good idea, it is just as if you are contributing to the person's problem because when one lacks money I think it is better to give gambling a break. Gambling can't be predicted I don't think I will borrow anyone money to play gambling,  a gambler should be able to play gambling with money from his/her pocket, this is how gambling is supposed to be played and not taking loans to create debts.

I wouldn't lend my money to you if I know that you are involved in gambling and you don't have a good record of gambling. There are some people you will see from there gambling activities, you will know whether they deserve to have your money or not, actually there are people who gamble and makes money frequently and I can lend money out to but you see those ones who gamble and doesn't have nothing to show for it, I will not lend out money to them no matter the amount they promise as interest.

As for female friends, I don't lend out money to them but I dash that is only if it's amount I can let go because borrowing a female friend money don't end well most of the time, they are dramatic even more than the male friends and would want to pin emotional situation on you when they don't have the means to pay back. Just give if you can and say no if you can't dash the money.