Topic: People keep asking me to borrow money, some of them for betting - page 3. (Read 1870 times)

They keep asking ypu because ypu keep handing it out.  It's simple just say no.  I guess there are some exceptions but most of the time money amd friends or family don't mix well.  In the case that someone can't pay it back I wouldn't want that to divide us and our relationship.  And just tell them that.  They should respect your position.

That's true, both of these parties can equally suffer losses. And if you say what is wrong I think the two are wrong, the borrower is wrong to dare to take at risk such as this even though borrowing money to do gambling is an action that is not recommended at all. I can't understand that the borrower makes a loan of money to gamble on the basis of advice from other people such as friends or anyone. It is very stupid to follow the advice of friends who give advice to borrow money to be able to return to gamble. This action will only make things worse it has become a major chance, because the opportunity to win is very small, even luck does not know when it will happen.

If you don't have money to gamble, you should stop, don't force yourself to continue to gamble because there is no guarantee to be able to get a victory. Gambling using your own money but excessively includes wrong actions, especially gambling using money from the loan from other people is very fatal. There are two things that will happen because of course losing money then what will happen we have to pay off the money that has been borrowed, and we must find ways to cover the losses we experience. The decision that Hars will make well is considered not to worsen the situation unless you want life to be destroyed then do it, but I think no one wants to be destroyed.

I think a lender should have a binding agreement that the borrowers have to sign before they can be granted the loan, so that no matter how the borrower tries to outsmart the lender so that they won't have to repay the loan, the agreement will be presented as evidence before every legal panel. If one lends money to friends and the lender is expected to get the loan repaid, I think they should present strict rules to the borrowers because there are some people who love being debtors. Even if they have the money, such people don't like to pay back their loans. But if the borrower is lending to a best friend or relative and doesn't care if they get repaid or not, then the borrower can just give the loan with strict rules. 

As long as you don't lend money to someone to gamble, you don't have to be afraid when someone else invites you to gamble with that kind of money. Because the person who has to return the money is the borrower, not you unless you have made a promise to return the money together when you lose at gambling. But if you are only invited and are not told about it by the person who invited you, I think you are free from anything so you don't have to bear paying the money.

As long as you don't lend money to someone to gamble, you don't have to be afraid when someone else invites you to gamble with that kind of money. Because the person who has to return the money is the borrower, not you unless you have made a promise to return the money together when you lose at gambling. But if you are only invited and are not told about it by the person who invited you, I think you are free from anything so you don't have to bear paying the money.

When a gambler tells you he's borrowing money to gamble, he's implicitly warning you that if he loses, repaying the loan might be difficult, and you could end up sharing the loss. As someone with my mindset, I should be cautious and well-informed in such situations.

Do you usually lend money to relatives, friends, etc.? Have you ever felt bad about it, done it unwillingly?

The major loans on this forum end up being done for gambling and few for emergency needs.

If the player wins big, they will return if they dont, they have to cough it up from next salary. Either way it does act same on the borrower and the lender both having lost. However there is no alternative to this, gamblers on this forum come to the forum loans sharks and would not want to take money from the nearest bank for gambling.

Hence these things are risky to take as loan because its gambling all the way. Always avoid playing with borrowed money.

It has become increasingly common for friends and not-so-close "friends" to come and ask me to borrow money. I don't usually ask for the purpose, but some ask me because of betting at online houses.

The last time I lent money to a colleague, who I hadn't had much contact with other than at work for a short period, it was with great difficulty that I got the money back.

I don't know where people get the amount of money they think I have, they must think I look like a bank...

Who likes having to borrow money? Unless you are a loan shark and lend with collateral where the risk is almost zero, why lend money where you end up with a loss? 'cause in addition to no one paying you with interest, most never pay you on time, at least you will get your money back after repeated charges.

Some people even go so far as to ask me to borrow money for what? to bet!! What a joke. I answer briefly and bluntly that I don't have the money to lend for these purposes!

And the worst thing is that they ask me for small amounts, like $2, 5, 10$... I think that if the person doesn't have that money now, the chances of them getting that money to pay you are low. If the person is in need, it's easier for them to confess right away to see what I can do, because I'm not a bad person.

Do you usually lend money to relatives, friends, etc.? Have you ever felt bad about it, done it unwillingly?

And when they are female friends, do you lend them?

I am sorry to say that I think it will not be a wise decision to lend money to a gambler though many times we have to lend it can make loser both the lender as well as a borrower as the gambler can lose the funds and for that reason if the person can't repay the fund then s/he can fall on a bad situation.

Yes but I think it is very unlikely that they would tell a borrower that the money would be used for gambling, because in general people are usually reluctant to lend money to gamblers even if they are gamblers who have good responsibility in their gambling activities or in the sense that they are gamblers who can maintain and control themselves well. This is because there have been quite a few cases that have occurred that it is really difficult for a gambler to be accountable for the decisions he has made such as borrowing money which in the end usually means that they run away from responsibility.

And maybe this is the reason why gamblers are usually secretive about what the money they borrow is for, usually they lie and say that the money will be used for something else which can also be a plan or scenario that looks desperate so that a borrower feels sorry for them and gives them a loan. This means that I think it is quite difficult to really identify what the money is being used for, unless the person is a very close friend of yours who you usually know about their habits.

When a gambler tells you he's borrowing money to gamble, he's implicitly warning you that if he loses, repaying the loan might be difficult, and you could end up sharing the loss. As someone with my mindset, I should be cautious and well-informed in such situations.

The last time I lent money to a colleague, who I hadn't had much contact with other than at work for a short period, it was with great difficulty that I got the money back.

You will not know because they will not tell you; they will always come up with excuses that will convince you to give them that money, or they can even boldly tell you that they want to gamble with it, not that they don’t have the money but that they don’t have access to it for the main reason that you should lend them the money later in the day and they will send it back to you. Things like that do occur.

This is very true. Once a gambler gets to the stage where they can no longer control their own gambling amounts and which money is not supposed to be used for gambling, that stage is very difficult for them to even remember their family.
 
All they care for is how to fulfill their gambling desires, and everything else means nothing to them. Once you see such a type of gambler, al they need is help to get them off that stage, even if it will take sending them to a rehabilitation centre for them to be free from punishing themselves.

It has become increasingly common for friends and not-so-close "friends" to come and ask me to borrow money. I don't usually ask for the purpose, but some ask me because of betting at online houses.

The last time I lent money to a colleague, who I hadn't had much contact with other than at work for a short period, it was with great difficulty that I got the money back.

I don't know where people get the amount of money they think I have, they must think I look like a bank...

Who likes having to borrow money? Unless you are a loan shark and lend with collateral where the risk is almost zero, why lend money where you end up with a loss? 'cause in addition to no one paying you with interest, most never pay you on time, at least you will get your money back after repeated charges.

Some people even go so far as to ask me to borrow money for what? to bet!! What a joke. I answer briefly and bluntly that I don't have the money to lend for these purposes!

And the worst thing is that they ask me for small amounts, like $2, 5, 10$... I think that if the person doesn't have that money now, the chances of them getting that money to pay you are low. If the person is in need, it's easier for them to confess right away to see what I can do, because I'm not a bad person.

Do you usually lend money to relatives, friends, etc.? Have you ever felt bad about it, done it unwillingly?

And when they are female friends, do you lend them?

As long as I know the money is for betting i wont give it

As long as I know the money is for betting i wont give it