Topic: People keep asking me to borrow money, some of them for betting - page 5. (Read 1870 times)

In our family we always instill an attitude of helping each other when one of the family members experiences financial problems, of course the money is used for positive things. Lending money to relatives who are related by blood is an obligation for us, the cycle will continue to spin without anyone wanting to harm anyone.

However, if it is for a friend or not a family member, I will not take the risk, especially if the money is used for negative things. Friends or anyone who comes to borrow money will show a gentle nature so that we feel sorry for them, but when repayment is due there is always an excuse to delay payment. There is no reason for anyone to lend money to place bets, I always adhere to the principle, money lent to other people is not my money because I cannot use it when needed.

They will comes back to us and asks for more money to borrow and that can makes them owe big money to us. We don't have to lend to them if we really knows that they will use the money for playing gambling. We don't wants them in a trouble and makes our relationships ruins and that is why we can say that we needs that money for the other things. They will difficult to repay the money to us because they can lose that money anytime and they will lie to us that they will pay the money immediately.

We must say that we can't lend them the money and if they still insist to borrow the money from us, we can say anything to them, including lying to them.  We just don't wants to gets a problem from them.

I always ask the reason why they are asking for a loan, and if I do not receive a satisfactory answer or I think I am being lied to I refuse the loan, now if the amount I am asked is on the high side, unless this is because of a medical emergency I refuse the loan automatically.

As you may imagine this makes me an unpopular loan source, since many people think that I have no business asking them about the reason for the loan, a completely crazy notion, but believe it or not, a great deal of people think like that.

Expecting the return of money from those who use it for gambling is very unlikely, therefore it is true that it is better for us to give it than to lend it or indeed do not expect to be able to return the money that has been lent. Apart from that, it is probably better not to lend it or not give it unless it is true. we are ready for the money lent to be lost or just think of it as lost. by borrowing money to gamble because they can't stop themselves from gambling, so even though they don't have money, they still gamble by doing everything they can to make money and gamble again, such as by borrowing, because they don't know whether the money will be returned or not.
Indeed, if they borrow money, it is very unlikely that they will be able to return the money or improve the situation, but by borrowing money, of course their goal is to improve the situation, their good intentions are to want to improve the situation, but the actions they take are wrong, the actions they take it only makes their situation worse.

When someone requests that you lend money to gamble, take a stand not to give it. If someone is requesting that you provide $2, $5, or $10, then give them if you don't want it back. This is the extreme of gambling because they don't have money and they weren't able to stop themselves. So with the least amount, they keep wagering, and this doesn't stop with one person. They keep asking most of the people, and at some point they themselves will feel down and end up gambling.

I have never shown other people that I have money "to spare", I have always lived a life "without luxuries" and therefore I have never had the problem of anyone asking me for a loan. However, I have witnessed two very embarrassing situations involving people close to me:

• The first was with my father who lent a significant amount of money to a cousin's me so that he could finish renovating a house. He had a fixed salary, but had no credit at the bank. Unfortunately, he lost his job after a few months and was never able to pay my father back.
• The second case occurred with my father-in-law who sold his car in installments to his ex-son-in-law. After a few years, this person separated from his daughter and never paid him back. Fortunately, my father-in-law was able to get the car back, sold it and each of us kept the part of the money "that was owed to us".

You need to know the person you are going to lend money to very well, understand what they are going to do with it, and always refuse the loan if it is for gambling.

This fall will be subjective it seems, I really will not lend money carelessly to people and I will not lend money to others if he is a gambler, maybe that sentence is not clear enough for me to say, because I can still lend money to people I trust even though he is a gambler, of course I know more about that person, both from his family, his environment and even the assets in his investment I know the amount as well as his work, I know everything, especially since his income is far greater than my own income.

But sometimes he runs out of money somehow he spends his money, but never passes a week he pays his debts to me, obviously only him I can trust even though he is a gambler because he is my best friend, and from his history of debt and credit with other people it does not have a bad history, so that's the reason why I really trust.

Maybe in your mind I look inconsistent, in fact I have exceptions for certain people.

Actually it would really be something personal on whatever the cause or reason on why someone do borrow up some money but if someone you do know or close to you then it wont really be that somewhat shameful would really be asking about on where you would be using it but even though it would be still that not right on asking something which is personal, but at the moment that you do know that
your friend or that someone is a gambler and one day decided to borrow up some funds then it would be that safe to assume that he/she would definitely be making use of it on gambling again.
So high probability that you wont really be paid up back at the time that he/she would reached his/her due. So if you dont like on having that kind of headache then better to reject such
favor but of course you would be having those kind of tough situation specially if its your friend or someone which is close to you.

Yes, that's the first thing to do to at least find out what the person is going to do with the money they have borrowed, but if they are someone else who really doesn't have a close relationship with you then I think it would be really It is very difficult to find out what their likes are and what habits they have, of course it requires a process to investigate and maybe this is quite complicated, meaning knowing other people's likes is when they are one of our friends or close friends who have a close relationship with us. Actually it's not a problem to lend money, but what is certain is that you have to really be able to make sure that they can pay on time or you ask them for a guarantee, and make sure they won't run away from responsibility, and that's what local banks do in every country. Of course, they ask for guarantees first to minimize unwanted possibilities.

So you still give a loan to a trusted person even though you know he will use the money for gambling. The answer to the point above is the same as you are not committed to refusing to give a loan to a gambler. When he can't pay it on time because he doesn't have another job, then you You will realize that the person who gave the loan was not the right person, so be careful about giving loans to gamblers or anyone who cannot be trusted.

Is quite accurate that those who borrow gamblers money tend to get blamed. So doing this is also to the lender's detriment because when they are losing or when they cannot pay they will say that if you hadn't borrowed them the money they wouldn't have been into the problem they are going through. It's not bad to assist somebody in need of money.

That's if what they need the money for would be of great profits to them, not something that will cause more harm to the person. I've read of multiple cases where addicts blame random people for being the reason for their trouble. Imagine going to ask for your money and the player ends up accusing you for contributing to his problems. Such things are very annoying and could make the real owner of the money to feel sad.

It will hardly end fine for the player, in the sense that, he'd lose the money. The moment a person says he's using the money for gambling, no need to bother about lending out the money. It's better to avoid them, or give a little amount of money to them and forget about it. Players always feel sure that they'll win big after borrowing the money. But, once the money gets to them, and they try to multiply it via gambling and fail.

Their thoughts returns back to normal and they begin to find a way to settle their troubles. Cooking up lies and deceitful talks would be the player's next thoughts when asked for the money. Instead of passing through such treatments in the hand of a gambler. Avoiding it remains the best option.

What I normally do if I come in contact with some of my friends is that I completely divert or if possible ignore the whole conversation because if it continues it can lead to you entangling yourself and aslo even making wrong decision just because you don't want to answer a bad name but sometimes answering the bad name just not to get all inconvenient with the person is probably the best way to go about you now borrowing the money from you.

If you ever want to lend someone your money that you are not familiar with then you should be probably know what he or she is into so that you don't go wasting your money by giving it to the fellow because everyone has their use if money and Gambling is the worse of all, borrowing money to a gambler is just like dashing out your money for free.

Yes we also need to look at his background, working or not, where he lives and provide collateral then how his activities are whether the person has a history of being in debt or not, if there are things that make us doubt we should avoid it because it will make us like beggars in the future, charging and charging without payment, but of course there are not no people who like to gamble but he always pays money on time after borrowing even though we did not communicate well before just a casual introduction, but it is very rare for people who are responsible for their debts for today.

You are just like me, when someone borrows money for gambling, I will immediately refuse because it is not a good thing for him or for me who lends the money, or simply I know that the person likes to gamble, when asking for a loan I don't give it, we only need to refuse subtly without having to mention his gambling activities, but if the person proves to be trustworthy, even though he is a gambler and says that he will use his money for gambling, I will definitely lend him money.

You have made an acceptable and very important point because it should never be done after borrowing money from others and then deciding to gamble with that money. I just thought of gambling but I don't have money, so I borrowed money from someone else, but if I do all this without thinking about whether I can repay the money after borrowing, then it can be said that these people do not have the ability to make the right decision. Every gambler should refrain from all these acts even if it is for their own good.

This is normal because even though we have money, if we lend money to those who want to gamble, it is unlikely that they will pay and repay it, I am not sure that they will be able to pay and pay off the loan debt that has been made, because I have experienced this several times. lending money to gamblers and having a hard time getting the money back. and in the future maybe I will refrain from lending money to those who like to gamble for whatever reason because they can lie with other reasons but in reality the purpose of lending money is to gamble. It's not wrong if we lie by saying we don't have money to those who borrow money to gamble because in my opinion lending money to gamblers is the wrong action because it is very unlikely that we can get our money back.
what you do can make your friends pay and of course not everyone is like that, there are people who have borrowed money but even though we have defended ourselves, whether it's threats, they don't care at all, that's what's annoying. but threatening him in the way you did, in my opinion, is not a mistake, because we should be able to take our money back no matter what.

Nobody here looked on the situations this way: when people ask to borrow money, he asks for help. Most of people see this like this: I am not lending money, because I dont want to be that persons sponsor. Only few consider lending as help. Why do you think that we should not help others? Not necessary to help each and everyone. Each case must be considered separately. Even lending money for gambling might be considered as something good. Lets suppose a person has lost money and now has a debt. He can start living normally, when he had to think all the time about gambling debt. Why not lend such guy money, let him repay debt (it is common for gambling debtors to pay an extra % for their debt, that is increasing all the time) and focus on the work to earn and repay you.

Lying to those who wants to borrow you money will be okay as you don't wants to lend your money to them but you don't saying clearly. I also do that and usually, I will say to them that my mother needs that money and I will gives that money to my mother. At least, they believes what I am saying because they know my condition and will not trying to force me to gives that money. I will not gives that money if they will use it for playing gambling because I caught up my friend who borrow money from me but he used that money to gambling. He was lost at that time and said that he can't repay the money so I tells him that you must gives my back immediately. Otherwise, I will tells to his family and asks them to repay the money. Well, he is afraid with what I said and gives that money two days later.

This is the real world and we should be ready to know our stands when it comes to dealing with humans, they can't be unpredictable most times but always learn to tolerate certain things from them. But when it comes to money aspect, I don't jeopardize my chances because we're talking about values. Why lend money to people when I know deeply that some of them wouldn't bother paying back? I'm not biased but I'll never afford to compromise my position to please anyone, be it my relatives and friends.

I have this technique where when this happens to me and someone's asking to borrow some cash from me and they're not my friends or mother and father, I usually just go and make up some stupid stuff that would make them reconsider borrowing money from me, that technique is where I give them a boastful remark about how expensive the recent expenses that I have, I always make sure that it's at least believable but that I'm also making sure that I look arrogant in the situation, 10 times out of 10, it will always be the same thing for them, they don't get any money from me and they will stay away from me the next time that they do this stunt to me again.

Lol tell me about it. Partly the reason why I don't even go out posting shit anymore on social media, people think it's a pass to borrow money when they see me having lavish shit and when I decline, it's like I'm the one who owes them shit with the way they talk me into it lol.

I have a few friends that are really down in their lucks who I've lent money and was able to pay it off with no problem, that's usually the ones I have the most trust with since if you're already living in such conditions and you still made sure that your loans are paid on time and without compromise, that says a lot about how you value our friendship and how you see yourself as a person as well. I have a few former friends cut me off just cause they can't pay the loans I gave them, doesn't matter, cause the way I see it, that's the price I had to pay to keep people like them out my life, and that's a big-ass bargain if you ask me.

Ultimately, I have friends like you who asked for loans so they can support their gambling indulgences, to those people I give out deadlines to pressure them into paying me on time, better yet I decline on those I know are already so far gone that paying the loans they are about to get from me's even more impossible than them quitting gambling.

It's all just a matter of choosing who to really bank on or not. And perhaps it's much better if you stop posting shit like me so people don't go out there thinking you have money trees in your house where you pick a fresh stack of paper.