Topic: Quit gamble! Easy or Hard? Let's talk. - page 33. (Read 10336 times)

You have correctly stated that most wives will not go to the casino as husbands, but I often observe new types of families when the wife is not just a housewife and someone who cooks food, but also a friend for her husband, she is ready to play computer games with him and even do extreme sports. But in general, wives will be strict about gambling, so it's still better to take friends with you for your control in games.

Recently I read a story about a family where the wife was neutral, she did not scold her husband for betting, and surprisingly, he realized at some point that he was ashamed in front of her. That she didn't give up on him, but she also suffered financially because of the losses. And in the end, her husband decided not to bet anymore. It's a pity not all stories end so well.

Many people first comes into gambling by thinking about making a lot of money. But everyday they lose and make their balance zero.
These leads to playing more to recover that lost money. Doing these for a long time it becomes addiction. Some people stop gambling conpletely and get back to normal life.
But majority of who are gambling addicted. Get into depression, get into debt, commit suicide, etc.
You are lucky you are not one of them.
Never think of gambling as easy money making machine.

For me, there was a time when I considered gambling as a possibility to make money, but luckily that never actually happened because I was always very unlucky at casino games (or maybe it's because I was really bad) and that's why the addiction couldn't take over me (I think).
Today, I bet mainly on sports games, because I love football and that's why I complement this passion with betting in casinos, but of course... it's all for fun.

Stop betting? Like all addictions, it is certainly not easy to eradicate, it is something that takes time and can often only be done with the help of someone very close to you or a professional.

The first case, which is cited above, speaks of an addiction that is directly associated with dopamine or direct induction in the brain, it is like a food, it is symptomatic, it is really complex, and the second are addictions acquired by frequency and that They also feed that part of the complex brain that needs them, someone recently mentioned this.

Both are addictions, but they are different to treat, it is the typical case of apples and pears, do not put them in the same bag, smoking has an associated component that deteriorates your physical condition and will eventually lead you to death, not to mention that it brings certain associated diseases.

Smoking is so complex that asymptomatic addicts, not gambling addicts, recover quickly, unlike people who smoke.

On the other hand, Quote 2, the family is not always the way out, it is relative, speaking in the case of gambling, you are always alone, the gambling addict has no cure, the asymptomatic addict does, but it is a lonely transition, which is also something relative.

In short, the point is that this issue has nothing to do with addiction, the mere fact of retiring from the game is hard due to different circumstances, some associated with family, work in general, time distribution and that in itself has no NOTHING TO DO WITH THE ADDITIONS. (Sorry, nothing to do with the additions)

It is a bad habit to take everything on this board to the path of additions, we will have to call ourselves "anonymous bettors" instead of Gambling.

Not to mention if it's something you like because yes, there are people who can't leave a single Sunday without watching a soccer game or consulting who plays or doesn't play this weekend, and the news bombardment is worse than the advertising, well The programs are there everywhere.

So quit from to bet/gambler can sometimes be a priority necessity in life and it is difficult for you to do it, but the beautiful thing is that those who are healthy achieve it and those who cannot or find it difficult simply must analyze if they are really entering a spiral. that leads to bad habits, stopping playing for short periods is a good start and doing it for months is a great test. If you cannot do it, you should consult a specialist and start making the decision to stop completely.

In other words, it is not about describing it as hard or easy, it is really a process that goes through these phases.

doing gambling is everyone's right, but behind a right there is an obligation in gambling, namely playing wisely. I say this because when someone is unable to play wisely, which is not only detrimental to themselves but has harmed other people and families because they are too addicted to the name gambling. Then it is legitimate for us as family members, especially older family members or the head of the family to stop the gambling activities he is doing, because if it is not stopped immediately, this will further add to the problem that is worse than just gambling addiction. Because when someone is too addicted to gambling, this often creates a domino effect which makes this problem even more complicated.

They can't because they love gambling so much, it is hard to give up things that you are already in love with and things that you enjoyed. That's why people like should not treat gambling as source of income because most people feel this way and get addicted afterwards.

Yes, sometimes our wives become our safety pin when things get  handful it would be bothersome but soon you will understand that it is good that they stop us because if not , we will be just other people who gambles unendlessly and has a broken family because they choose gambling over their families.

Are you sure that telling family members can help a person quit gambling? Now gambling requires only one smartphone and internet connection, then gambling can be done behind the scenes. so I think it is possible to reduce the gambling by informing the family members but it is not possible to quit gambling. Family members can only motivate but not force to quit gambling. Quitting gambling requires the gambler's self effort. it will only work quickly

Well, if we are realistic, obviously most of the times wives won't agree on going to a casino with their husbands, most women do not like the activity of gambling specially if they are conservative house-wives.

It would better to go with a friend and previously to settle an agreement with them about adding money individually to a wager poll and in equal parts. The winning amounts from the gaming would also be spread equally amoung the friends. So all of them have a common interest on watching over their budget and not over spend.

If anyone here has managed to marry or keep a long lasting relationship with a woman who also enjoys gambling in a responsible way, then that man deserves my congratulations. It would be something relatively weird to see here.

In order to restrain yourself from unexpected expenses, you need to take friends with you who really shouldn't be gambling fans. After all, if they are the same players, then they will not be of any use, but rather even harm. After all, they themselves can fall into a tilt or uncontrolled waste, making the situation of the player for whom they came here much worse. I think it's best to take a wife, because the husband and wife have a common budget and both worry about it not being squandered.

Well, maybe the woman hasn't reached the stage of serious gambling addiction and can still be cured because she can still recognize that she has gone a bit far in gambling and finally confesses. We don't know how serious it is if women experience gambling addiction, but it seems like the severity level can also be the same as that experienced by men. Indeed, it may be rare in women because they are not too brave to take risks. But we also don't know if there are women who dare to take risks because each woman will be different. I also think the number of women suffering from gambling addiction is less than that of men but that may require more research.

Someone can realize that their debts have accumulated and must immediately stop their gambling activities because otherwise, the problem will get bigger and the girl can admit that she has used a lot of money for gambling. It's not easy to admit a mistake, especially to one's mother, because it requires a lot of courage. Fortunately, his mother was willing to accept his confession and help him recover. Family members should do that when they see another family member experiencing problems. And it seems that the girl could rise from her downturn because her mother still supported her and encouraged her to recover.

That should be the support given to family members who are experiencing problems so that they can find solutions and help them to cure their gambling addiction. When there is support from their family, those who are addicted to gambling will feel that they are not alone in struggling to cure their gambling addiction so they will really try to carry out the healing process well. They also will not be discouraged in the healing process because they know that their family is always with them and will not abandon them when experiencing problems.

In terms of influence that's affect how the person will act with how they treat their gambling participation, I like what you said about the people that surround the person who might be prone to being addicted, the chance not to fall that hard or engage that much is possible though like what you said it will be depend from how the person will take it. But again, if that person is being surrounded by people who are not a fan of this activity, his chance to bring himself into addiction might not be that far.

It is quite difficult to convince an addicted person to stop playing like that at once, it is impossible, I think the best way is to do a lot of activities, where they have enough fun and I wish it were something sporty, like riding a bike, jogging, etc. can release that stress or anxiety that being in the game causes the person, another option is that if a person normally lasts -5 hours in the casino, then simply reduce it to 2 hours a week, then reduce it to 1 hour and a half the other and then the other 1, until it reaches at least 15 minutes, after that it is totally replaced by sport or by something that tires the person's body enough so that they do not have time to think about playing , that is the way that I see that naturally you can get out of that addiction, however the easiest way is to go to a psychologist and have him overcome it with professional help, which is not bad, but if you need to give a lot of effort to whether you can overcome that problem that is attacking many people currently.

This is a very serious problem, the damage that a person with addiction causes is very difficult to control, because the person has a sea of possibilities to find money and waste it in the casino, these things are what one has to avoid, There are people who, normally when they enter a casino, are capable of managing and dissimulating things very well, in this world there is everything, each person is capable of seeing how they can handle the issues of games, casinos and certain things like stress. ., the bad thing about a person with addiction is that instead of enjoying the game, they enter into a process where everything is stress, because they want to be recovering the money they lost, and that causes them to lose more and more, it is the pressure that which cannot be controlled under any scheme, that is why when we make certain movies in the casino we must do them with great restraint, because it is money with which we are tested.

in many cases people feel ashamed, they feel afraid, other people are convinced that they can stop the addiction on their own and then they remain silent even though they see that they are losing a lot of money, then they reach a serious level where they start asking for a loan to play and then Those who lose everything start to sell all the goods they have to take the money and gamble, at that moment the family discovers that they are addicted to gambling and they start fights because the addicted person will refuse to undergo treatment because in his head, he He's not sick, he's just having bad luck, but his luck will change and for that reason he needs money to keep playing

The things that an addict says sometimes make anyone who is close to them, listening to so much nonsense that the addict says, lose their patience. The addict will say a lot of things to avoid admitting that he is addicted to gambling, he will use all kinds of arguments to not go for treatment, which is why in most cases relatives end up giving up on the addicted person, be it sex, alcohol, gambling addiction. bad luck, eating, drugs... they all have something in common, the addict refuses to undergo treatment and there are few cases in which relatives force them to undergo treatment.

and even when they are undergoing treatment, the cost of the treatment is very expensive and those who pay are the relatives and when the addict finishes the treatment but returns to the addiction again, this causes a lot of pain and disappointment to the relatives who once again will have to pay the entire amount. cost of treatment, in poor families they have no choice and abandon the addict, what happens next is that the addict ends up living on the street, without eating, without sleeping well and becomes sick and dies. These are the most likely scenarios that happen here in Africa, a concrete example I see in my country

Well, whether it is a personal decision or not mostly depends on the context each one of us has and is living through.
For example, someone who is independent and has a job can certainly decide what to do with their money. On the other hand if we are talking about a young person living with their religious parents in a also religious country and community, I would not be about his choice to quite gambling or not.

We could argue that eventually an addict would do anything in their power to gamble, but I personally think that depends on the stage that person would be.

Those who say they can't, these are the people who are discouraged not because they don't want to. It's easy to say that you want to quit gambling, but we know that it's hard to do, especially for those who are already addicted. So you really have to believe in yourself that you can do it, that you can overcome it. Tell your family and friends that you are addicted to gambling, don't be ashamed because they are your family. It is easier to overcome the problem when someone helps you.

i dont think you can force people to quit gambling , its a personal decision and not even for people who are having fun playing . how do you quit having fun ? maybe for you you got addicted and things didnt work out so you had to stop. if you have tips on how the addicted can quit i think you should post it here. i dont think anyone will want to click on that link.

In as much as quitting depends so much on the person taking a decision to stop first , if we must be very honest it's not easy to quit gambling especially for someone who has a good knowledge about sports and have access to internet and a smart phone or device with little money enough to spare, then the person is just a click away from gambling.

Sometimes it will have to take therapy, or further extra help to get rid of the habit as it usually becomes inherent once cultivated, quiting becomes difficult, but with a strong will and probably seeking for help it's possible to quit. As seen with other habits such as smoking and drinking it's usually not easy even with all the decisions it's possible the person could go back at some point especially when they don't find a good replacement for the habit.

Triggers should be avoided when trying to stop a habit, triggers when not avoided it could make quitting difficult, an example of triggers could be keeping company that encourages that habit, availability of resources used to fund the habit it becomes very difficult to stop or quit the habit over time but when the resources are in shirt supply or not available at all, it could fast track the quiting of such habit

The difficulty of quitting is only on your mind. If all you think is about gambling and nothing more, it will really be hard to quit. If you focus on some other thing and take a long break from gambling, this will be an easy thing to do. A habit can be easily changed if you really want to. It's all on the person if he really pursues quitting or really wants to continue.

In my opinion, gambling is an activity that a person does so that some people become addicted to this activity and there are also those who can easily get rid of their habit. I really agree with you that if someone has chosen to stop gambling, this will really depend on their own personality and for those who have succeeded in stopping gambling, it can only provide motivation for those who choose to stop their activities. Leaving what has become a habit is not an easy thing, they have to consistently do it if you really want to stop.