Topic: Support, do not criticize. - page 4. (Read 1167 times)

But do you think he will listen to any discouragement you said about him? Are you prepared to lose your friend? Do you think he realize the mistake he do for just like that? Since as been called a gambler or worst been addicted already for sure that he might just ignore all of negative approach for dealing his current situation. Not everyone can understand that you that just for their own good since sometimes there are people will feel bad about what you said to them and instead you think you will be corrected for that matter he became your enemy because he take all of it badly and will never talk to you anymore.

so true. I have a friend who is a gambler who, when my friend experiences defeat in gambling, I will definitely support him to stop gambling by saying words that can stab him from all directions. So not criticizing anymore, but more of a slightly harsh word about the stupidity of him betting on gambling.
I even often support him by borrowing some of his money, so that he doesn't run out when gambling. Only when he really loses and needs money to live will I return the money.

Yeah, Criticize only happens to my real close friends, not to friends that I barely know about. So I might bully him little bit tho hahahha but Like I was said before Im gonna support him even tho he want to stop the addiction and stop to do gambling

This is a good pint, it's not easy to quit from gambling mostly when you have been addicted you might try your best to stop gamble. The was to know if one is trying to stop gambling is when you don't see him/her in a gambling arena again, though it might not be as easy the way we say it, but if you were able to become addicted to gamble you can also work yourself out from that mess. Supporting one from coming out in the mess of gambling addiction is good because some gamblers have committed suicide because they can't stop gambling, I read a story on how a man killed himself because he used all his savings to gamble then he lose everything at ones. If you help ones from addiction you have also helped the person, because you don't know if tomorrow the person might not be able to overcome the regrets for his mistakes.

You raise a good point, I have seen many topics on how to recover from gambling addiction-related suggestions but no one speaks against the criticism that people hear when recovering from gambling addiction. I think many times people's harsh words became an issue to addicted gambler from coming back from his addiction. In that case it can be seen that the people responsible are the ones who when an addicted gambler wants to come back from gambling but cannot, go back to gambling out of frustration. I appreciate your topic. I myself have made this mistake of criticizing a friend of mine, but he is now much less addicted, to say the least, he is now gambling less than me.

We will not be able to stop anyone from stopping gambling, basically it is a bad habit that is inherent in gambling addicts, so there are stages to be able to support them to recover, namely helping to introduce and change their views about gambling, that gambling is actually just for fun. I'm happy so we can introduce him to new games or hobbies so he can have fun with other games besides gambling. I often help my friends not to continue gambling and support them to try playing outside with new hobbies.

A gambling addict cannot be criticized because they will not listen to the people around them who do not provide support for them so in the end they need advice and moral support to get out of their addiction, but this must be done gradually and slowly in order to change their bad gambling habit. The point is, it doesn't have to be stopped, it's just asking him to reduce and limit his time so that he doesn't get too addicted to gambling, which ultimately makes him lose a lot of money and time during his life, so that his life doesn't go to waste and he regrets it later. 

I think that a simple criticism is different from a true punishment, so it may be fine and in fact, it may still not be enough for some heavily addicted gamblers, as they will just close their ears either by using their hands or not, or they can also listen to our criticisms but the words will only pass from their one ear to the other, straight from the outside.

We still can monitor them and maybe give them a warning first that if they won't still change, we will now be tough on them next time. When we are just a kid, we are always being criticized and punished by our parents and we think we are not being loved but this is wrong. They can do these things actually because they care.

There are people who do really tend to listen up if someone does really have that kind of approach but there are ones who would really be that be listening if someone would really be having
that kind of aggressive or someone who would really be that scolded up before they would really be having those kind of realizations on which it wont really be that a bad thing
i would say but of course it would really be that recommended that you should really be going into that soft side first kind of approach before trying out to make some adjustment
if things doesnt really work on what you are really thinking.

Its true that once people do become that addicted, then they cant really be able to think up clearly and this is why advices could neither be effective or not because most of the time
on which people would really be just that simply on having in denial state on which as long they are able to hit up their preference and interest in then
what do counted the most.

Well, we are people who are always going to see things from different points of view, for example when we are in a casino we know that the main thing is to play and try to win. If this is not achieved, it is not professional to start seeing that the Things can be criticized to improve, no, in addition we must be very careful with these things, because we do not know the problems that people are facing and what they have to solve, this is something that not everyone starts to see, also as They say where I live, "No one knows what the cross that each person carries is" in recognition of these we always do our best to do what is necessary not to bother, much less criticize, I am not critical of people because I am the same a human with mistakes and everything, normal as everyone is, in view of these things we do not have to feel that we have the right to criticize.

If someone is in a casino, whether they win or lose, we should not criticize, we are not owners of things as they happen, we have to be very aware of everything, if it is not for us we should not criticize that is all we should learn.

From criticism something very ugly comes out and that is gossip, which brings problems for what everyone has to do, I am in favor of not criticizing or anything, because absolutely all of us have straw tails, which at any moment cannot be grabbed. candle, then we must be aware of not speaking too much.

I will always think that things with criticism and Games of chance , we are adults, and each of us must be consciously aware that this is an act of our own free will, and that criticism has no place here, only now this is so open, That any topic is discussed in the social networks and you have to see very pleasant and personal events of the people who share it , so now that is so Common , that yes, that is why criticism is generated.

In my experience, to criticize someone is nothing but purely counterproductive. The person will not be able to accept the criticism and will only blockade any further input from you, no matter how useful it might be.

I think supporting them but also leading them unto a better path, by making them comfortable with confronting their problems is the best way to help someone with their gambling addiction (or any other addiction, really).

Although how exactly you do that is hard because everybody is different. A psychotherapist might be a better help.

I think it's important to talk about this issue and supportive care. Many people don't realize that it's adding fuel to the fire when they are strict and aggressive toward addicted gamblers. The best approach in this case, like you said, is to be supportive even when they fail. I was reading about scientific research that stated that it's easy for an addict to recover if they get love and care from their family. Usually, a bad life is the reason for every addiction, people feel depressed because of a bad relationship with their family and become addicted to gambling because gambling makes you a little high. Gambling addicts need support from their families instead of anger and criticism, society needs to be enlightened about that.

In fact that is the key to stopping gambling because if they don't realize that gambling as an addiction is not a way to make money then it will be much more difficult for them to stop. Their mindset is ingrained in gambling as a way to earn money so it is difficult to stop. Even though in a conscious state we realize that gambling is an activity carried out for fun and making money from gambling is only greater than the luck we will get.

If it's family or friends, maybe we have a responsibility to heal and indeed we need to provide support so that they are more enthusiastic about stopping. But if it is someone else then there is no obligation for us to provide support because whether they want to be heard or not is their individual responsibility.

Worse, we will receive threats when advising or providing support to them, because they think we want to take care of their lives and interfere too much in other people's lives.

There is a technique called "negative reinforcement" where you apply a punishment for people who perform badly on their respective duties. On the other hand, there is also what we call "positive reinforcement" where we reward people when they perform an activity that is commendable.

In the given scenario that you have provided OP, it is better if we apply positive reinforcement wherein we give commendations and rewards for people who show progress in dealing with their addiction in gambling. Instead of humiliating or punishing them for their behavior due to relapses, it is definitely better if we continue to encourage and show support to their progress.

At the end of the day, if you show your genuine support and care for these people who struggle in combating addiction, then the chances of them getting better would be higher.

Those who help other people and also mock the people they help, of course this will be very detrimental to the people they help and if the people they help cannot control their emotions, of course this will be very bad and things could even happen that they don't want. It is true that some gamblers certainly expect big wins on the bets they play and only some people can feel satisfied with the winnings they have gotten and they take the winnings to enjoy and others will continue to gamble until they again lose the winnings they have made. get and also the capital they bring to gamble.

Yes, the initial desire to overcome addiction has always to come from the addicted individual. It doesn't work to have a vast network of support around the addicted gambler if he himself doesn't care about how important it is for his recovery. That is what brings up a reflexion on why many people who are loved, supported and cared don't value such gifts from life, while others live on loneliness, without anyone caring for them, although they would give their best if they had support and were loved by someone.

It makes me believe support in excess, without the individual supported retributing anything in counterpart, contributes to selfish, egoistical and cold behaviors, not only towards his pairs, but also towards the value of his own life and integrity, as we see such individuals completely destroying their lives through addictive behaviors and showing little or no regrets after all.

For someone to be able to stop the addiction of gambling on their self, they ought to have it in their mind that gambling is not the way to make money. Having that kind of mindset alone would help them minimize their addictions to gambling.

Showing addicted gamblers support is quite okay but they ought to accept on their own that gambling is not the way to financial breakthrough. If their belief in gambling doesn't change and remains the same, no matter how hard you try to support them, they will find their way back to gambling.

I know how many times, I have tried to show support to gamblers to quit gambling, a repeated attitude of going back to gambling is what I do see.

When you are tending to advise someone specially if its someone whom you do know then you would really be going into that soft method but on the time that they do still on proceeding on playing
without tending or planning to stop then this is the time you would really be doing it on harsh way. Yes, it is something that wont really be that not all would really be liking to heard of but if you are really that serious on trying out to help someone at least then you would really be giving out those kind of words but well its not something a guarantee that it would really be giving out that kind of solution.
The only solution with gambling addiction is into those people who would really be having that kind of seriousness on quitting it on the first place.

When it comes to criticism then you cant really stop people on not to have those kind of stopping themselves on telling or something to say. There would really be those words
that would really be coming out into someones mouth and this is something that really very normal. So better to ignore if there would be someone who would
be advising that you shouldnt be wasting up your time on helping those addicts. They do need help at least.

op criticizing them will not actually help them but the issue here is that addiction i like something that is already part of you so it actually takes a whole lot of courage and sensitization to achieve.

lets take chain smokers for example , it is always very hard for any chain smoker to tell you that he /she wants to quit smoking whereas he/she stays with the company of smokers ,this is always very easy to say buy very hard to accomplish unless the person avoids his company of friends that he keeps.

lastly ,criticizing gamblers will not actually make them to stop rather supporting them with words of encouragement will help them reduce their addiction. and also every addicted gambler who wants to quit gambling should also stay away from his collage of friends that gamble too.   

Of course, if someone wants to stop himself from gambling, then instead of scolding him, he should go to his side and give advice on how to get rid of gambling easily. If a severely addicted gambler makes a plan to stop gambling, it is really good human behavior to advise him to carry it out. It is very difficult to devise a plan to stop a gambler from gambling, and if he is criticized without lovingly standing by, he is not doing his duty as a good man. It is definitely a duty to support him and his family as much as possible by extending a hand of help, cooperation and sympathy to his family. If a gambler is treated cordially and treated well by his family members, he can easily get rid of the terrible gambling addiction very quickly.

Well, I have had members of my family who unfortunately became addicted to gambling and I must say that they were very difficult and complicated moments in which our patience was constantly tested, because that addicted relative of ours made many promises that he would change his behavior. , but after a few months he would make the same mistake again, but we managed to remain calm and motivate him not to give up despite the difficulties he was facing, even at that moment he had the mental strength to continue with the treatment , but some members of my family who were very close to him, were criticizing him and when he said that he was suffering in the rehabilitation hospital where he was isolated from the world so that the treatment would be effective

These people from my family went to take him out of the hospital and in a short time he went back to his addiction, but as he was afraid of going back to the hospital, he hid his illness and also hid that he went back to his addiction, only when he realized that he was dying and that he needed to urgent hospital treatment was when he asked for help from the tough family members who always supported him to undergo treatment, they didn't criticize him but they were tough in isolating him in the clinic so that he could undergo treatment, he went back to treatment, but unfortunately days later he died because it was already too late when he arrived at the hospital. By this I mean that often the people who criticize us are the ones who want our best and truly love us.