a gambling addict needs support from someone to be able to fight to stop himself from gambling. criticism from someone is not needed by him because it is only an obstacle for him to recover from his addiction. someone who empathizes and understands what a gambling addict feels is the best support he can get and it can help him speed up the addiction treatment process.
it's best if someone is unable to provide support, there is no need to criticize because that will only add to the person's shame and guilt. it's best to just keep quiet and let the addict try to recover from his gambling.
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If you know anybody trying to stop the addiction of gambling to become better for themselves and their family, try and show them support by not criticizing them. If you observe that they experience some kind of relapse and go back to gamble even when they said they were not going to gamble, try to encourage them to remember why they wanted to stop gambling for the time. It is not an easy decision for some of them to make, and even imagining that they will never gamble again can make it worse for them, most of them need all the support they can get to help them maintain the decision to give gambling some time away. If you criticize and mock them, they may nurse in the heart the mindset that gambling is impossible to stop, or even stop trying to stop gambling because you have already made them feel like they can never do it.
Empathy is not equally distributed. And in terms of gender, one gender gets more empathy than the other. A male gambling addict on the path to recovery is likely to receive less support than his female counterpart. The male will be teased, mocked, almost insulted for towing the path of recovery. It happens every day especially in places low in empathy and emotional intelligence. On the side of those who are on their recovery journey. Do not expect everyone to be nice to you. Do not expect that they would not mock, tease, and insult you for having the courage to fight your addiction. You should expect these things so that when they happen, you will not be disappointed. You should grow a thick-skin because that is the way you are going to beat them and overcome.
and made out some advises or any form of help then you are lucky but if someone who do love to tease and having those kind of bullying then for sure it will make things even more worst.
This is why it would really be always important that you shouldn't really be making yourself that getting addicted with gambling. You should really be playing in moderation not only on controlling
your finances but also you should be controlling your emotion and involvement of course.
Helping a person addicted to gambling can bring him or her to a better position but it will take time because the addiction is not easy for people to give up. Before betting one should be careful in the beginning gambling is thought to be bad. People suffer more financially when they catch bad bets and then it affects their physical health. I also believe that people should consider how to bring them back to normal life without criticizing them.
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Criticism isn't anything negative really, it's pointing out someone's mistakes or wrongdoings in the most blatant manner, which can be quite helpful when it comes to people who can't seem to understand what they're doing wrong. Though I guess it depends on how someone criticizes others, well, at least that's how I take criticism that comes to me. It's honestly a lot more helpful than empty words and whatnot that seem to support my "psyche" but in reality just build up a fragile ego in me lol. Again, this depends on a case-by-case basis though, and how the person criticizes the other party. I'd definitely take any criticism on a positive note though, taking in the mistakes they pointed out and ignoring the rest that were seemingly made just to chide me.
Great points and I agree that criticism can be taken as a support as well because some times people will be more affected positively with criticism than soft advices.
Different people may have different reaction for criticism or advice so we should also know the person we are going to criticize or to advice.
If we know them personally well, we know which one will be the best thing to do to remind them.
Personalities differ and people react differently to criticism. We are not talking about a gambler with a healthy lifestyle here, but an addict. Most addicts would rather choose to hide their activities from you once you begin to criticize them. When these people who obviously need help begin to feel uneasy telling all they've been through and how much properties, money and opportunities they've lost and even the debt they are struggling to settle then,it might really take time for these addicts to recover.
The best way to support an addict is by putting yourself in their shoes. This way they will trust you enough to tell you stuffs you really don't know about them and they will also trust you to follow your advice and recommendations.
Be careful who you choose to help, unless they are very close to you or your family, don't go out there and risk yourself for an addict, sometimes it turns into your regrets, so much that you will feel like turning back the hand of time.
You wouldn't know someone is addicted from afar except you are close to them to actually know the level of damage done already. Help is not offered out of coercion, the little advice you render to that person so he doesn't get into further trouble is help. If they refuse the help you are offering, then it is not in your position to force things. Everyone should know the extent they can go when rendering help, there should be no trespassing.
People have different perspectives once they know a particular person getting addicted in playing gambling, but to those people who want to help those people to change their path and that person is willing to change its self in too much gambling addiction there's nothing wrong in supporting them, they would like to change but of course they don't know where to start, having a guidance is a must or a therapy if you have a budget so they can fully recover.
Do you know that helping strangers who are addicted is not safe? Some gamblers don't believe that they are addicted, some don't want to change, they know they are in trouble, but they will feel relaxed since they have something else to put the blame on.
Those part seems like they are still in denial and keep focusing on themselves that all things are still alright, we cannot change others' perspectives if even in themselves they don't want to.
Do you know that helping strangers who are addicted is not safe? Some gamblers don't believe that they are addicted, some don't want to change, they know they are in trouble, but they will feel relaxed since they have something else to put the blame on.
Those part seems like they are still in denial and keep focusing on themselves that all things are still alright, we cannot change others' perspectives if even in themselves they don't want to.
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Criticism isn't anything negative really, it's pointing out someone's mistakes or wrongdoings in the most blatant manner, which can be quite helpful when it comes to people who can't seem to understand what they're doing wrong. Though I guess it depends on how someone criticizes others, well, at least that's how I take criticism that comes to me. It's honestly a lot more helpful than empty words and whatnot that seem to support my "psyche" but in reality just build up a fragile ego in me lol. Again, this depends on a case-by-case basis though, and how the person criticizes the other party. I'd definitely take any criticism on a positive note though, taking in the mistakes they pointed out and ignoring the rest that were seemingly made just to chide me.
Great points and I agree that criticism can be taken as a support as well because some times people will be more affected positively with criticism than soft advices.
Different people may have different reaction for criticism or advice so we should also know the person we are going to criticize or to advice.
If we know them personally well, we know which one will be the best thing to do to remind them.
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Criticism isn't anything negative really, it's pointing out someone's mistakes or wrongdoings in the most blatant manner, which can be quite helpful when it comes to people who can't seem to understand what they're doing wrong. Though I guess it depends on how someone criticizes others, well, at least that's how I take criticism that comes to me. It's honestly a lot more helpful than empty words and whatnot that seem to support my "psyche" but in reality just build up a fragile ego in me lol. Again, this depends on a case-by-case basis though, and how the person criticizes the other party. I'd definitely take any criticism on a positive note though, taking in the mistakes they pointed out and ignoring the rest that were seemingly made just to chide me.
Well it's not always your business to do this, in fact you could be blame for standing up for a addicted gambler, we are all humans and shit do happen among us, I will only help someone who is in the family, or someone very closed, the way you write your topic up sound like helping any one who is an addict and that's wrong.
Do you know that helping strangers who are addicted is not safe? Some gamblers don't believe that they are addicted, some don't want to change, they know they are in trouble, but they will feel relaxed since they have something else to put the blame on.
Be careful who you choose to help, unless they are very close to you or your family, don't go out there and risk yourself for an addict, sometimes it turns into your regrets, so much that you will feel like turning back the hand of time.
Do you know that helping strangers who are addicted is not safe? Some gamblers don't believe that they are addicted, some don't want to change, they know they are in trouble, but they will feel relaxed since they have something else to put the blame on.
Be careful who you choose to help, unless they are very close to you or your family, don't go out there and risk yourself for an addict, sometimes it turns into your regrets, so much that you will feel like turning back the hand of time.
If you know anybody trying to stop the addiction of gambling to become better for themselves and their family, try and show them support by not criticizing them.
We should not, but people cannot stop hurling insults and criticism at people who are addicted to gambling and who want to change their ways, these people are the reason why gamblers are afraid to come out because of the ridicule, they are judged as being weak and they cannot control themselves, for these people they treated gamblers are bad people so gamblers prefer to deny and lie about their addiction, they don't want to feel weak in the eyes of the peopleQuote
If you observe that they experience some kind of relapse and go back to gamble even when they said they were not going to gamble, try to encourage them to remember why they wanted to stop gambling for the time. It is not an easy decision for some of them to make, and even imagining that they will never gamble again can make it worse for them, most of them need all the support they can get to help them maintain the decision to give gambling some time away. If you criticize and mock them, they may nurse in the heart the mindset that gambling is impossible to stop, or even stop trying to stop gambling because you have already made them feel like they can never do it.
This is why I advise families of gamblers to get help from professionals so they can be guided on what to say and how they should act when their relative who is in the process of recovering should act, gamblers who wish to recover need all the help they need and they need encouraging words to combat the inner evils, the first few weeks is the hardest for the gambler and the family should be there to assist the gambler to overcome his addiction, the battle is in the mind and the only way to combat this inner evil is understanding. 
If you know anybody trying to stop the addiction of gambling to become better for themselves and their family, try and show them support by not criticizing them. If you observe that they experience some kind of relapse and go back to gamble even when they said they were not going to gamble, try to encourage them to remember why they wanted to stop gambling for the time. It is not an easy decision for some of them to make, and even imagining that they will never gamble again can make it worse for them, most of them need all the support they can get to help them maintain the decision to give gambling some time away. If you criticize and mock them, they may nurse in the heart the mindset that gambling is impossible to stop, or even stop trying to stop gambling because you have already made them feel like they can never do it.
Empathy is not equally distributed. And in terms of gender, one gender gets more empathy than the other. A male gambling addict on the path to recovery is likely to receive less support than his female counterpart. The male will be teased, mocked, almost insulted for towing the path of recovery. It happens every day especially in places low in empathy and emotional intelligence. On the side of those who are on their recovery journey. Do not expect everyone to be nice to you. Do not expect that they would not mock, tease, and insult you for having the courage to fight your addiction. You should expect these things so that when they happen, you will not be disappointed. You should grow a thick-skin because that is the way you are going to beat them and overcome.
I don't get the logic behind your statement.
So if you criticize a gambling addict(who is trying to stop), he will feel guilty and he will start gambling again? This doesn't make any sense.
Who is going to criticize a gambling addict, that is actively fighting his addiction? I know that most gambling addicts try to keep their personal issues a secret. Maybe most of them are afraid that they will get embarrassed and ridiculed for revealing their inner struggle.
Everyone with a brain will always try to support a struggling gambling addict. Only the psychopaths/sociopaths would say "nah, you should keep gambling, because it feels good".
I'm guessing that "criticizing" isn't done exactly as you describe it. No one is going to tell you to keep gambling as a way to criticize you, but they may be harsh against you when you share what's troubling you or how you're suffering. So, if someone maliciously tells you that it's your own fault or that you dug your own hole, although this is true to a great extent, it's probably not the nicest thing to say when someone is struggling and is deciding to share it with you; they trust you, and instead of supporting them, you're being harsh, judgy, and unsupportive. So if you criticize a gambling addict(who is trying to stop), he will feel guilty and he will start gambling again? This doesn't make any sense.
Who is going to criticize a gambling addict, that is actively fighting his addiction? I know that most gambling addicts try to keep their personal issues a secret. Maybe most of them are afraid that they will get embarrassed and ridiculed for revealing their inner struggle.
Everyone with a brain will always try to support a struggling gambling addict. Only the psychopaths/sociopaths would say "nah, you should keep gambling, because it feels good".
If you know anybody trying to stop the addiction of gambling to become better for themselves and their family, try and show them support by not criticizing them. If you observe that they experience some kind of relapse and go back to gamble even when they said they were not going to gamble, try to encourage them to remember why they wanted to stop gambling for the time. It is not an easy decision for some of them to make, and even imagining that they will never gamble again can make it worse for them, most of them need all the support they can get to help them maintain the decision to give gambling some time away. If you criticize and mock them, they may nurse in the heart the mindset that gambling is impossible to stop, or even stop trying to stop gambling because you have already made them feel like they can never do it.
The problem nowadays for modern era gamblers was they can hide their gambling activities easily due to the existence of online casino. They can play whenever they want with privacy on their room without other people noticing it so it’s really very hard to find who’s addicted to gambling unless they are showing intentionally to other people.
But I agree that comforting them is the best approach rather than criticize since addicted gambler will just make it a secret to you once they knew that people don’t like it. Providing company and engage with socialization is the best way to forget gambling addiction because most addict gambler is just gambling because they don’t have other things to do.
with a dear friend, who has this addiction, I criticize him instead. even a lot.
or rather I always show my support! helping him when possible but I try to criticize the reality of the game addiction by making some examples so he can see how much money and time he loses in this activity.
It is not true that compulsive gambling cannot be stopped, but I believe that each person must find the "key" to stopping this mechanism on their own.
or rather I always show my support! helping him when possible but I try to criticize the reality of the game addiction by making some examples so he can see how much money and time he loses in this activity.
It is not true that compulsive gambling cannot be stopped, but I believe that each person must find the "key" to stopping this mechanism on their own.
If you know anybody trying to stop the addiction of gambling to become better for themselves and their family, try and show them support by not criticizing them. If you observe that they experience some kind of relapse and go back to gamble even when they said they were not going to gamble, try to encourage them to remember why they wanted to stop gambling for the time. It is not an easy decision for some of them to make, and even imagining that they will never gamble again can make it worse for them, most of them need all the support they can get to help them maintain the decision to give gambling some time away. If you criticize and mock them, they may nurse in the heart the mindset that gambling is impossible to stop, or even stop trying to stop gambling because you have already made them feel like they can never do it.
Supporting gambling addicts that are trying their best to let go of the addiction is the best things to do than mocking them and making it worse for them. Shelters that handle addiction patients should also get our support so they can have things that they'll use to accommodate the addicts. Donations can be sent to facility that handle addiction patients and not only showing support to the patients individually. Those taking care of the patients need to be appreciated too.
As a love one or a family member, being there for an individual that is closed to you that is suffering from addiction problems will help the individual alot. Making them feel loved will make them to want to stop the addiction so their loved ones won't be disappointed with them. I have seen how individuals that are addicted to gambling feel therefore showings them our support to help them to recover is a good thing.
Most people will mock and criticize unfortunate people because they don't have any empathy.
I'm enough to see people doing like that, when someone make mistakes, they will say "I've told you before, stop gambling!", "This is why I stop to gamble, it's your fault since you didn't follow my advice", "I don't care, I won't help you" etc etc.
A hero will help and guide them to stop gamble, giving such reacts have no impact to the addict.
I'm enough to see people doing like that, when someone make mistakes, they will say "I've told you before, stop gambling!", "This is why I stop to gamble, it's your fault since you didn't follow my advice", "I don't care, I won't help you" etc etc.
A hero will help and guide them to stop gamble, giving such reacts have no impact to the addict.
Like you all know, I was an addict before. One thing made me stop. That was when I started to think that gambling is not a way of making money. Instead of me making money, I was losing. I borrowed money to gamble several times. I hardly have money in my bank account at the time. I have not known about cryptocurrencies around the time. When j know that I can not make money from gambling, I stopped after it taking much from me. If an addict can also realize that, he will stop nthe addiction by not gambling for a long time just like I did. But addicted person will always still talk that they see a means of making money.
You are lucky that you come to this awareness before you put yourself into a terrible situation. Meanwhile, a lot of gamblers are still in the dark place as they chase their losses. It really needs self intervention on this phase of your life. Because no one will actually help you in sincere way but your own self.
They need to do a great rethink to themselves so they can get everything fixed up,yes people around can cheer them up inorder to ease the pains they are passing and moreso when you tell them most times they won't adhere to.
Some of them might still pretend to come out of that predicament and still venture into it again probably we need to put up our possible best in supporting a whole lot of them that are close to us.
Some might be out of ignorance, peer pressure and all of that they end up becoming addicted and can't come out of it but to every problem there's a way out of it,so criticizing them won't be a better option rather but instead to have them turn a new leaf by encouraging and supporting them both mentally and physically.
If you know anybody trying to stop the addiction of gambling to become better for themselves and their family, try and show them support by not criticizing them. If you observe that they experience some kind of relapse and go back to gamble even when they said they were not going to gamble, try to encourage them to remember why they wanted to stop gambling for the time. It is not an easy decision for some of them to make, and even imagining that they will never gamble again can make it worse for them, most of them need all the support they can get to help them maintain the decision to give gambling some time away. If you criticize and mock them, they may nurse in the heart the mindset that gambling is impossible to stop, or even stop trying to stop gambling because you have already made them feel like they can never do it.
If you know anybody? Many people are trying so hard to stop their addiction but I can't stick my neck out for everybody, they are many in my vicinity, few don't even admit that they are addicted and that's the first solution, the addicted gambler need to accept that he or they are addicted to gambling.
There are some that are addicted to gambling and they want to stop, but they are struggling to beat the addiction, yet they still go back and gamble again, what do you expect me to do? Lock them up in my basement like dogs infected with rabbies?
The person responsible for stopping his addiction is the gambler himself, to stop addiction means staying away from any gambling activities until you get yourself back in control, not going back in the middle of the night to place some bets while everyone is asleep.
Quiting gambling is not something that could be done at once the decision is made it got to be a gradual process, depending on the level of addiction it could take months even a year to finally let go of the gambling habit. It's easy to criticize people for things we don't understand as it affects them and that's very bad an approach to take on on people that are in themselves trying their best to quit gambling.
What such persons need is a constant reminder that they can end the bad gamblinh habit, talking them into understanding they are in charge of their decisions and that there's always a way out of any situation when there's a will. Criticizing them of their weakness can only exacerbate their inability to fight against the urge to quit and we should all know this now.
What such persons need is a constant reminder that they can end the bad gamblinh habit, talking them into understanding they are in charge of their decisions and that there's always a way out of any situation when there's a will. Criticizing them of their weakness can only exacerbate their inability to fight against the urge to quit and we should all know this now.
Absolutely, we need to help any guy who wants to quit the addiction of gambling. I am not saying gambling is bad, but yes becoming addicted to it, and to gamble you will go upto any extent, this mindset is wrong. Now if someone trying hard to get away from this, then definitely we need to support him for this. I know many people’s default nature is to criticise people on their mistakes, but if we try our best then we can definitely stop this behaviour of taunting and criticising and can really help the addicted guy.
If you know anybody trying to stop the addiction of gambling to become better for themselves and their family, try and show them support by not criticizing them.
Gamblers who are determine to overcome their addiction really needs an encouragement and not criticism from people who can't understand what they have been going through. Because it's not an easy process thus having someone who can understand the situation (family or friends) is a big help to motivate the gambler to continue walking away from gambling.On the other side, it's also normal to be judged by others for being an addicted gambler, because in their eyes it's a bad activity or a sin. But if the gambler is a family or a relative, would you let him to be criticize? If you truly care, a simple word of encouragement will do to show your support. Everyone deserves a chance to change what we used to.
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