Topic: Support, do not criticize. - page 5. (Read 1163 times)

Criticism only makes things worse, especially for people facing psychological problems. Gambling addiction is also a psychological problem. They need more sympathy than alienation and criticism, which will push them away from us because at that time they will form a psychological resistance to our words. It is a natural reflex of the brain. When faced with criticism, most people will oppose those words. Even though it's clear that their actions may be wrong, and are affecting many people, including you, no one will admit their addiction and mistakes right away. It requires a process of self-enlightenment.
We should act as people next to them, cheering and encouraging them to do the necessary things to quit addiction. They have to do those things themselves, we cannot do them for them, so using words of encouragement instead of criticism will help them be more motivated to quit gambling addiction

Yeah.

If seen that they're making a change and doing efforts as much as they can, they really should be given some help. They need someone to pat their back and support them at all cost because they're just starting out.

As long as there's the will that you can see from them, you're for sure not going to get tired of helping them.

Yes, I completely agree with you that people who are addicted to gambling doesn't mean they are doing bad things, so we shouldn't mock them for their addiction, because after all, no one wants to experience something like this. Indeed gambling addiction is their own fault for not being able to control it themselves, but that doesn't mean we have to judge them and make it seem as if their actions are very bad, if they want to stop gambling that is a good intention and if we know them it would be better if we provide support to them so that they will be more enthusiastic about being able to cure their addiction. Support from the family and close friends are a very important role for an addict because they have become a part of the gambler's life.

Indeed, curing gambling addiction is not an easy matter, but if we mock him and say something that seems to discourage him mentally, he will become even more frustrated because according to him, addiction is impossible to cure. Even though gambling addiction can still be cured if we provide support and assistance to those who suffer from it needs and advises him well without discriminating so he will slowly try to stop it, just having the intention is good because usually people who don't have the intention to stop will be more difficult to cure because they continue to gamble continuously, so as long as he has the determination it is better to support so that the level of addiction in our country decreases.

You are right OP, criticizing an addicted gambler simply because he was advised or you had wanted to stop gambling and with all of your efforts contributed for the gambler to get to an end of his gambling habits become null and invaluable, please do not be so hash at him.
Addiction is some kind of habits that has dwelled to the vein and the soul and if no time taken, some ends their lives by it without the knowledge of their endivoirs is being a sock to their awful state of life.

It requires a psychological aids of qualities of you must stand in a better position to stop an addicted gambler but it you persist that the addicted gambler must do it on your own way then you could get the situation worse and that is definitely not the solution to it.

It is better of if you could always have eom cool times of discussions with him about life supposing to be of interacting about how some person's indulges in one or two ways of activities which has the potnetials to ruin their lives by themselves. If you have some references persons whom you could bring to his ideal about what gambling addictions had done to them then it is a good on for him to virtualize on that aspect and probably he would not want to be a victim to that even if he has already but at  such state of mind, he would be of tendencies to be a change person.
Don't ridiculous a gambling  addicted person who is not flexible to your wills of advices. Be technical and psychological thrilling enough to tolerate the unpleasant conducts at times.

You know it's not easy to become addicted to gambling because there is a process and it takes time before you get into that situation. And when you become an addict and the time comes when you want to change or quit being addicted to gambling, it is not easy to get out of a situation like that.

And that's where the support of your loved ones comes in; they will remind you, support you, and understand you in your situation. Even your other close friends will also remind you because they want to help you and get rid of the addiction that can destroy you.

But during their recovery or intervention, it's not really the right time to criticize someone that's trying their best to recover from their addiction sure it does work for some but do you want to risk on knowing whether it works on them or not when the alternative isn't to criticize at all and just give them all the love and support that they're going to need in their healing journey? I think that it's a matter of time before you can do that criticism part and in my opinion, that part only should happen when the recovering person permits you to do so and sometimes, what you think might be constructive criticism might not be for that person and the tone of your voice might also play a part on the reason why criticism isn't bad. Sometimes the people that are having problems don't really want solutions, they want someone to vent their emotions their problems and how they're dealing with it, if all you do when someone's telling you their problem is to give them solution instead of just hearing them out then you're never going to really help someone.

It's important to offer support to those trying to overcome their gambling addiction. Relapses can happen, they need encouragement to remember why they wanted to quit instead of judgment. Quitting gambling is not easy and criticizing them makes it even harder, that's why they need our support and motivation in their recovery.

I appreciate your insights into this topic. It reflects your deep understanding and experience with addiction and addiction is a kind of illogical behavior or, as some people call it, a trauma that individuals engage in. It occurs when someone repeats a particular behavior multiple times until it becomes ingrained in their mind, making it difficult to let go. It then becomes a subconscious drive for them, compelling them to continue engaging in the activities they are addicted to, despite the negative consequences. This repetitive behavior can affect the brain, leading one to seek relaxation through these activities, even though they are aware of the harmful effects.

Addiction have oftentimes resulted to loss of control, where those involved in it find it challenging to resist the urge to return to their addictive behavior. Whether it involves substance abuse like drugs or behavioral addictions like gambling, firstly, you will need to make a solitary decision and intention to stop gambling. Then, seek support from friends and family who can advise you on the best ways to break those gambling habits. They can also assist you in creating distractions, which is one effective method to curb gambling urges. Surround yourself with people who can easily divert your attention towards positive activities instead of negative ones that may lead you back to gambling.

There are people that think they are bright or felt like they are helping when mocking with others
but do not know that it's not helping instead crating more damage,people that having issue in gambling felt like they
 are good and better but the truth is they are in the verge of losing their future ,because there's nothing in their mind
 but to become instant millionaire but even if they won million they will continue to gamble and will lose again
and again not until they realized how important money and time .

This is exactly my point and what I'm trying to say because criticism on addicts can be very tough, and we may even forget that some of these people have it in mind or have discussed with us sometime that they wish to change. When they start making efforts, we have to try to help them so that they keep going until they're able to achieve an addiction free life.
If you are a gambler and you are friends with some of these kinds of people trying to stop gambling because of the adverse effect on them, help them by not gambling in front of them, and not discussing gambling in a way that reveres it.

And that's why they need a helping hand.

If you have a relative or an immediate family or friend that's dealing with this, and you're there to help.

Try to show them your one hand that you're there to help. But you have to make sure that you'll only help them in the means that you can.

Because there could be moments that these people might abuse your kindness so watch yourself too.

Right? If someone's kicking the gambling habit, be their cheerleader not their critic. Relapses happen but instead of giving them a hard time, remind them why they decided to quit in the first place. Quitting isn't a walk in the park and imagining a lifetime without gambling can be overwhelming. They need your support, not your judgment or mockery. If you make them feel like it's impossible, they might give up trying. Encouragement goes a long way and it helps them stay on track. Be the friend who believes they can do it. Everyone's journey is tough but with the right support, overcoming gambling addiction becomes a real possibility

Me I have also been in support of giving gambling addicts all the support that we can render to them, provided that they are willing to learn and give up on their addiction. 
 
The best form of people that these gambling addicts listen to are those who are close to them and who they consider and call family, so if you are opportuned to be part of them, then we can use that to your advantage and give them all the advice and tools you can guide them through in order for them to get off that addiction stage. Even if it will take you to also stop your own small gambling habit in front of them in order to prove a point for them, you should also do it.

I agree, it is not going to lose you money when you see an individual trying to overcome his addictions and trying to win against them by supporting them. And one of hows is by giving them the thought that you're with them and you want them to win over these addictions especially in gambling because you just want them to get better in life. Having this type of support to that person might boost his confidence and there's someone that's counting on him for him to win over this gambling addiction. But, if you are someone that sees it as mind your own business and you have nothing good to say, much better to leave it as is and don't say anything bad at all.

Ignoring the guy is much better and saying nothing at all. Because who knows what the other person is going through and how tough he's been doing everything in his capacity to do these necessary steps just to quit gambling. We don't know the battles that the other people are going through so, please be gentle with everyone and shut your mouth when you have nothing to say. Words of encouragement are powerful so as words of discouragement that shall embedded to their minds and they will remember you as that guy that never helped them to give a support and when you're at the time of needing some support, you won't be able to see them there for you.

sometimes in life, you don't really need to put much pressure into things happening around you; if the person is an addict, he's definitely battling with anger issues too. So you get snarled at, insulted or probably slammed outta his ruthless anger for getting too close or tryna make him recall what he said? You don't take such risk especially if the said person is also into drugs.

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Most addicts have been out of the system permanently, and that hasn't been as a result of anyone bugging them... They sometimes get into real, challenging situations and that's it for them.

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

This statement is on point, It's a mind over matter so we need to be more careful on our actions and words that may come out in our mouth, because we have no idea in the struggles of other people and maybe the words that come out of our mouths are one of the reasons why a person's addiction never goes away. This situation is not a joke and it is really difficult to overcome it especially if a person is in a severe condition, because it also depends on the person how he will help himself, also we can't rely on giving advice, medicine, extra care from the people around them because sometimes, they themselves are the ones who can help them the most.

I agree that people who are "down" need support, but that support is different for all of us. We can't generalize this... Each of us has a different character, for some people, a "softer" approach is better than a "harder" approach. So while some people need some gentle approach and sweet talk to change their mind, some people need to be criticized and maybe even have a tougher approach. Understanding someone's psychology is not easy and simple, usually, we need to take some steps before we learn what works better... I guess that means knowing someone deeply and how that someone thinks and reacts is crucial for making/creating the best approach.

Trying to gamble shame anyone is the least thing any serious person will engage into, it can happen to any person because no person is too big to be a victim and no small person that is too little to be affected by gambling, we are all potential victim until you lose some money to it and get out of your mind. I always tell beg my sprit to lead me well if one day gambling try to make a mess of me, I should have the sense and ways to go over it like it never even happened in the first place.

We should also be proactive than aftermath, there are many ways to never addicted to gambling but people don't want to lewrn, when they say gamble with the amount you can lose isn't like the phrase was coin from anywhere, it was done to protect the interest of gamblers but many chose to ignore. When advice not to chase after loss, it should be practice but people don't adhere to that, these are the little things that matters but we just turn blind eyes and do what we like and then cry later.

That's a kind thought, supporting someone struggling with addiction is tricky.  You wanna be gentle but honest too.  Sugarcoating don't make problems vanish.  Maybe something like, "Hey friend, how're you holding up? I know quitting ain't easy, but remember why you started this journey.  We got your back but gotta keep sight of your goals too" and  no judgement, just care plus a friendly nudge back on track.  Its a balancing act for sure, being both understanding and keeping it real. 

That is why someone who wants to stop gambling must limit their activities and it is best that they be supervised by those closest to them by refraining from going out. Support from those closest to you is needed for gamblers who want to stop and ridiculing or belittling their desire to stop will actually cause bad psychology. Encourage them to do other activities so he can forget about gambling and make his life more busy with other activities so he has the ability to be in activities that are more beneficial to him.

It is not easy to make gamblers stop because it will be much more difficult for them to stop if there is no support from those closest to them. But for someone who has the patience to want to help then do it and if not then look for a place that can make him stop gambling, such as a rehabilitation center because there the treatment will be much better.