Topic: To what extent have you hated yourself due to your gambling losses? - page 7. (Read 1145 times)

When I didn't have much money I still took a risk and continued betting. This didn't end up good for me unfortunately. I lost a significant amount of my savings and this affected me psychologically too. I was really sad every day for some time by thinking about how silly I was about taking such risk. Betting was like an addiction to me those days. 

Later it was like a turning point for me to quit betting with my own money for a while. I started to just making bets in times like betting websites gave me free balance to play due to earning it somehow or just being lucky.

Now it is really helping as I'm not feeling addicted to betting anymore. 

When you say serious losses, that means a large amount, right? Even though I have never experienced a large amount of loss, I don't want to experience it, and I will never experience it because I have limits that I set when I play gambling.

And these limits are only a small amount of money, so even if I lose, it's not a big deal. Even if I lose, it's fine because I don't really take it seriously; instead, it's just for fun.

I can tell that the person in the story above has no friend. Anyone who has a friend they gamble with or discuss stuff about gambling with, they would have no room to feel this sort of self-pity that makes them hate themselves. This is because the person would notice that everyone  are more unlucky in gambling than they are lucky. They will through the conversation know that every gambler is going through the same thing. They will banter, laugh, tease themselves over it and after it everyone is fine and happy.

No matter how worse my gambling experiences are, I will leave to gamble another day. I also do not take it that seriously. I have other real life things doing other than gambling.

LOL, 😁
I would say majorly, most serious gamblers must have experienced this same thing a couple of times depending on how long they've been gambling, I remember vividly one night last year, I think it was in the month of November 2023, can't remember the actual date, but then, I was playing pick six game on l0tt0.com, and less than one hour into the game, I won a substantial amount of money, I was so happy, and felt its possibly a lucky day for me, that if I keep playing, I would win even much more, so, I kept playing and after some minor winnings, I started losing and losing, at a point, out of frustration and depression for a win, I changed my client seed believing that was possibly the problem, I continued to play and kept losing.

At a point, I started praying to atleast, win back that money i won before, then I would stop, since I've already lost all the money and now losing my initial deposit as well, but nothing, I played all through the night for more than 4 hours, until I ended up with an empty bankroll, I felt so bad I could not sleep that night, at a point, a tear 😢 fell from my eyes, just remembering this incident now, looks very funny to me, but sincerely, it was not funny for me the day it happened.

Hmm I'm curious, what is it that makes you blame yourself for the losses that you have experienced and why do you start the same thing? If that's true then maybe I would say that you are not a responsible gambler in the sense that you can't accept any results at the end of the session, but if it only happened once, meaning you didn't make it a habit and only at certain moments then maybe I would say that it's quite normal because everyone can never always avoid making mistakes that make them disappointed or lose, but if you keep repeating the same thing and with the same reaction at the end of the session especially when losing then maybe as I said above you are not able to accept the fact that you lost and that means there is no responsibility in your gambling approach, logically if you are always angry with yourself for losing then why not find a solution? For example, reduce the budget so that at the end of the session you don't feel too disappointed with yourself or another way may be to quit.

This is an interesting question and I’m sure most of the reply will be hilarious if everyone will be honest on their answer because I personally sometimes have a violent intent towards myself whenever I lose big time due to my greediness.

I already slapped my face hard one time when I lose my bankroll after I lose it all even though I’m already in huge profit few minutes before the disaster happened. Sometimes this kind of self slapping is very effective to me to wake on how shit I was when I lose all my bankroll that supposed to be in win if didn’t get dumb to just walk away with profit.

I've never experienced a series of losses to the point where I hated myself but I have experienced big losses. At that time, I didn't hate myself because I realized that it resulted from my mistake of not being able to control myself, seeing the losses I had experienced previously. Indeed, I felt sad because I had experienced such a big loss, but then after experiencing many losses, I realized that I really had to reduce my gambling activities. And I was lucky at that time. I didn't really have a serious gambling addiction and was still able to realize that it was my own fault.

So why do we hate ourselves? We have experienced so many losses while we have decided to continue gambling because we want to pursue a win, which we realize is difficult to obtain. We must be able to realize that after experiencing some losses, it is time for us to stop gambling and instead continue gambling. And we don't need to chase wins because gambling is not for making money but for fun.

Yes, I may have blamed myself but I don't hate myself because I was too careless in making quick decisions which ended up spending my budget in a short time when I should have used the budget to play for a few hours but it ran out in a matter of minutes because of carelessness, but talking about a series of losses, after all, who here is a gambler who experiences a series of wins, I think maybe not too much, winning and losing is actually a part of gambling that doesn't really need to be thought about in my opinion.

Take it as an example, if I am happy with my victory then I should be happy with my defeat, but even so, we still take lessons from the mistakes and defeats we experience, we don't have to regret it because whatever has happened will not come back again even though we can have the opportunity to choose to recover all the money you have lost, you should never do it because in the end it will only increase regret and lose more. just enjoy whatever the result is because that is more important than having to hate ourselves.

I never hated myself just because I lost at gambling, but I regretted it because I didn't follow what was set. Having experienced it was a lesson to obey what was set. I have experienced a defeat that was quite painful in my opinion just because of one match and had previously decided not to choose that team but because the team faced a very weak team so I thought it was impossible to lose and it turned out they actually lost so all the results in other matches were in vain.
Because I never hate myself for losing, everything can be accepted even though it takes time and it should be like that because there is always a chance to gamble again and also a chance to win as well as to lose so it's just like a wheel that keeps turning.

I blame myself in a way that tells me to be aware of how much money I'm losing when I'm on a losing streak, I don't necessarily hate myself but shouting curses and telling myself harsh words is one way to go when it comes to making sure that I don't bottle up the anger that I'm feeling when I'm gambling and so it doesn't burst out when I'm not gambling anymore and it saves the people that I'm interacting with that I'm not cranky after gambling. So far I'm doing just fine with that kind of set up in my gambling life, I'm all out of anger after gambling and no one is annoyed with me after gambling so it's win-win for me.

Interesting, I'm not sure if there are many gamblers who experience the same thing as you say. you know, maybe on a lighter scale there are many gamblers who have experiences almost similar to this thread. for me personally, yeah, I have experienced this phase and the situation was very complicated at that time. honestly, it is very difficult to express in words or even writing in this post. In my experience, if someone is in this phase. usually, you will be very devastated, both mentally. whether it's psychological, depression and everything related to hating ourselves for the series of gambling losses we made.

BTW, this thread is like interviewing gamblers.

But yeah, no problem, we can even share experiences with each other or learn from the experiences of members in the community. in short, in my case, I experienced a phase where I hated myself both mentally and psychologically. like regret that keeps spinning around in our brains, blaming ourselves for actions that I felt at that time were very stupid. not a few people experience this situation, needing help and assistance from other people. whether it's family, friends, yeah, at least relatives, family, can be more helpful from the psychological side of the gambler who is having a problem. if not, then it will become an even more complex problem. In this case, the point is that I experienced a phase of losing a lot of money at the gambling table. Since then, I started to reflect back and try to flashback everything. of course, thanks to the support of family, friends and myself, I can learn wisely from experience. Anyway, cases like this are not easy to resolve instantly, it is certain that each person has different phases and recovery methods. Based on my experience, so far, I am still gambling. although, at that time it had taken a break for several years. important points for me at the moment, understanding, awareness and responsibility.

Those experiences do occur to me but disappears after sleeping over it. The game is over, I'd remind myself. Then spend some weeks without gambling as a means of thinking of my mistakes. Because moving on to a fresh gambling session after the previous losses could be detrimental to gaming skills, and affects the emotions, which could lead to more mistakes. I've been in some situations where the money lost not only pained me, but the doubt I had on the predictions which could have landed me a win, got me worried. Gambling offers unique experiences to gamblers, and we need to understand that it's not meant to make us feel so bad of ourselves. What matters is staying responsible and maintaining our bankroll henceforth. The past moves so fast, and we have to run to the future, such that the past don't remain in our memory. Most gamblers who don't let go of their huge losses, end up wondering over the past that they forget what to do in the present.  

This the feeling one can have when their is much expectation to make money in gambling and this feeling is very terrible. With the understanding I have towards gambling I don't think I will play and get to the point that I will hate my self, I think at this point it is not just addiction that is the case but it has gotten to the point of depression.   It is always advisable that when playing gambling and it has start changing your moods and feeling , the next step one needs to take is to stop playing.

Gambling is a very unpredictable game that sometimes it happens that one can play and never to win any game through out, when the loses are increasing it is just better to pause.  Gambling is a game that people needs to apply wisdom,  if people just continue playing without any reasoning I think it can land them into serious problems that may be beyond their strength to control . Gambling is not a way to make fast money , if people should understand this I don't think they will be have much issues with the effect of gambling.

This is one of the things I have seen happen to my close family where he had a big problem when he tried to enter the casino, he just played there for the first time and he brought all the money he had saved however, He lost all of it. He locked up himself in his room for a few days, crying, and then he came to the point where he almost committed suicide, sorry for the word, but it was true. It had a profound effect on him, It was one of the things he regretted and it was the key to his learning in Life. This is also one of the reasons why he quit gambling, and thankfully he stopped, especially that he's working abroad after that incident.

Of course. There was a time when I felt really bad about myself. I had managed to win a series of bets, which rarely happens, but my greed took over and I made some bad decisions based on my emotions. Unfortunately, when it comes to gambling, I always seem to go through a losing streak. Recently, my cousin invited me to gamble online, and he won, but I ended up losing all of my bets because I couldn't control myself once again.

As I mentioned earlier, I lost all my bets while my cousin won. Despite this, I decided to continue gambling without worrying about the amount I was spending. In the end, I lost everything. I was filled with self-hatred at the time, and to calm myself down, we decided to drink liquor instead.

I never have hated myself for losing in gambling as no one forced me into it.It was my decision to go there and try my luck and when you lose trying your luck there is nothing wrong.What is wrong though in my opinion is that the slot providers never tells us real time RTP and they give us a fixed one which no one can really explain it in a human understandable way.

I feel a bit sad and maximum I blame myself for taking that decision that time but I never hated or hate myself for gambling.

It's good he now hates himself, if anyone had advised him, he would have taken the advice for granted, at least now he can make a decision on his own.  It is okay he realised early and can retrace his steps. He will heal.

Many gamblers fall into this category, they won't stop gambling until they lose everything. They keep encouraging themselves that the next gambling session will be that big opportunity to win. When they are in this mode, they ignore all forms of warning signals. They learn best when they meet their own misfortune.

I have made quite a number of losses in the past but it is not up to the amount that will make me hate myself. I am not a regular gambler but whenever I decide to, I gamble with very small amounts where I do not have to mourn over my loss. Over the years, I have come to realise that gambling is a game of luck, no matter the amount I stake, I might win if luck  shines on me.

Maybe my moderate gambling habit is influenced by the fact that I have a job and other side hustles where I earn from and still dedicate my time to. I only gamble when ever I have an interesting match coming up. I do this  to exercise my analysing skills(sports betting). Gambling is more of a fun thing for me.

I don't think about "hate" but I will admit my mistakes. But in the process of gambling, I learned to be responsible when playing, and there is nothing beyond my control to be upset with everything around me.

And honestly, I feel pretty lucky when I gamble, so not only was the experience good, but the results made me happy. But I have lost many times, and I still smile that this is simply a game and I am the one who controls it, not letting it control the other way around.

Most people lose control and feel uncomfortable when gambling, which puts them in difficult situations, so trying to stay alert is the most basic thing.

I've never hated myself after losing a bet simply because I gamble just for fun. Yes, losing is a part of gambling, so why should I hate myself for that?  Of course, you should never bet more than you can afford to lose.

I think most of us go through this kind of scenario in our gambling experience. I myself had experienced it and just like most of us, I lost my whole bankroll in an instant because I became tired of the losing streak. Thinking that all of my unluck was released and the "all-in" will be my lucky bet. You will instantly think about your actions after you lose on a scenario like this, you have no choice to continue since you don't have funds anymore, all you can do is to regret and move on.

This scenario sucks but I guess we all should experience this as this as the realization that we can get from this is important.