I don't care about privacy i just don't know if that makes it possible for someone to steal my coins or not
Your coins are safe using a remote node. Take it for what it's worth from a random internet person.
I can't get it to work yet with the node I suggested. However
this node from Moneroclub.com does work as an external node, just tested it myself:
simplewallet.exe --daemon-host node.moneroclub.com --daemon-port 8880
I am
asking for help in the in the Monero Support topic from anyone that can help me figure out what else I need to configure to be able to act as an 'external node'.
In general, external nodes are frowned upon....by The Protocol. We don't want to create a culture where people connect to remote nodes for convenience. This leads to centralization, much like some bitcoiners use electrum without even realizing they're not running bitcoin. Running a node isn't that much of a bitch right now. It just requires patience. And honestly, whats the rush to get access to your coinz? Sync the blockchain. Be your own bank.
When you say "can't get it to work", did you open up 18081 in the firewall?
Additionally, if you continue down this route, there are other flags that are useful when opening your port. For instance, if someone connects via simplewallet to your node, they can initiate mining unless you have it disabled... i dunno what the flag is off the top of my head. --limited-rpc or something.
Ultimately the "slow initial use experience" is something that plagues ALL cryptocurrencies (unless you use second tier "fixes"). I'm hoping to put together a cogent "ideas" post in the getmonero forum that will hopefully attract a developer for the whole headers first, reverse blockchain dload, then reverse wallet refresh approach for enhancing the "first impressions" experience ...