Topic: Can Gambling affect your relationship? - page 6. (Read 3760 times)

Time spent can never be recovered. And when we spend more and more time doing nothing productive and meaningful to our lives, we end up starting to fail to discern and give importance and time to the important things in our lives.
And for someone who’s gainfully employed and married, giving more time to his gambling activities would certainly tell on his performance at work and affect his family life at home. At that point, gambling may seem more fun to do than spend time with family and having thoughts of gambling even while at work, would reduce any innovative possibilities of such worker.

If you gamble for fun, it may not have any effect on your relationship. But those who become addicted to gambling in the name of entertainment have relationship problems. Gambling is not bad if you can take it as entertainment, gambling is bad only when it becomes your addiction. But a person should spend 1%-5% of income on gambling and not more than that. Also it is good to keep track of losses and wins because if you keep track of losses and wins it will not become addictive and the relationship will not be damaged.

Yes of course, gambling can affect your relationship, if you have a partner who does not encourage gambling I think he or she may opt for a breakup because he or she might not be satisfied with such a habit, gambling has ruined many marriages today, gambling as an addictive act, has many defects, a chronic gambler does not know what he or she does sometimes but what they are always considering is to satisfy themselves, many gamblers sell off the only property or thing the family owns in other to make their gambling habit a continues process, relation is meant to accommodate open discussion within both partners but a gambler can hide his income rate for his partner so that he can use his or her excesses to gamble and when their partner notice thsi, it becomes a problem that can lead to breakup.

I agree, how can you handle the relationship properly if you yourself can't control yourself from gambling. Gambling destroys many relationships as well as families and we know that but others still gamble knowing that they are in control but in the end they are not. I also believe that even if you are not addicted to gambling as long as you gamble it will still affect your relationship.

The most expensive things on earth are those we get free, but the money we gain through gambling is not free. Somehow the gambler pays to get the win. However it's not the main motive of gambling, though, many gamblers have turned it into their most important motive of venturing into gambling. In life, we have to spend or lose something for another, so gambling can affect our relationship in some ways that we may not describe. Gamblers would think that it's only when they're addicted that people or loved ones would get upset about the gambler's habit. However, I realized that by focusing on gambling and doing it consistently, even when not addicted, the gambler's spouse can get angry and begin to complain about it. Especially if the girl came from a family that doesn't accept gambling no matter the odds. While the gambler in the response by summonerrk, may be seen as the one people would hate, can be lucky to end up with a loving spouse, who will stand by them and try to change them for good. I'd always say that gambling works for people differently, same with luck. Gambling doesn't end in the casino alone, whatever thing happening in the life of a gambler should seem to him as gambling.

We can't predict those who will get sad or upset of our mistakes. Same way our results in gambling are not predictable, that's how people in relationships can't be known to go or stay if their friend, goes astray due to gambling addiction. A member of the forum once testified in his response that his girlfriend stood by him during his struggling days with gambling addiction. Which helped him to survive problem gambling to date. He wasn't just addicted, he lost all his money in gambling. One would say or think that every woman would abandon such a man. But the opposite happened. That's why we can't conclude whether gambling can break every relationship. It's all about the rapport between the people in the relationship. Gambling addiction is fast cured through this relationship, but because the gambler is now toxic or low on money, people close to him, who are his best therapists, begin to let go of him, penalizing his actions and making him suffer more in the future.

   Gambling is one act that has its own consequences in certain areas of living. People gamble for their respective reasons and so it's essential and only advisable that one should have an honest reason for doing the act and at the same learn how to be cautious and responsible in it. Too much of everything isn't good. This is applies to everything we do,  we should learn to take a break or even taking a bow completely. A good dancer knows the right time to leave the stage. Being in the stage for too long will spoil the performance this can also apply to gambling. Knowing when to stop doesn’t make you weak but rather a smarter player.
   Let's take an instance here, a young man with family responsibilities, maybe he's doing gambling just for the fun of it and then gets his income pushes in a part of it into gambling, his luck maybe shines and then the gamble clicks. That's definitely good news no doubt but as a family man, there's every sense of responsibility that's needed for the act. Let the purpose not go beyond fun and even if it does, don't bask too much in the act that then would cause irresponsibility in both financial and family management because at the very point that it happens, then sadly, the whole family bond will be at stake. Definitely a spouse won't want their partner to do things irresponsibly and would definitely be unhappy when irresponsibility kicks in. Trying not to shade the act but truly it affects relationships both positively and negatively. It all balls down to responsibility while at it.

Gambling, as a fantasy of rapid riches, generally fails! The Truth: the house always wins. Gambling to fix life's problems is absurd, like expecting a cyclone to clean your house. The erroneous attitude behind this behaviour must be recognised. Unrealistic optimism about a lucky break is perilous. Not a strategy, but an escape.

In relationships, a vigilant spouse may seem helpful, but its just a bandage. She may stop the financial bleeding, but what about trust, respect, autonomy? These are casualties too. Partner control doesnt replace personal accountability. Gamblers must face their demons or continue gambling.

Consider the big picture. Gambling addiction reflects unhappiness and cries for help. Not only money, but fulfilment, self-worth, meaning. Holistic well-being, not simply financial literacy, is the solution. We must develop resilience, purpose, and life happiness.

Such players are driven by the hope that everything will change. And indeed their lives are changing, but not for the better. All this happens because avid gamblers, who have seen victories, have a devaluation of money in their minds. They understand that sometimes casinos share money and why work at a full-time job if you can get money through slot machines? or batting for example.
And money should always be appreciated and understood that free cheese is in a mousetrap.

The player thinks that in gambling he will win money that will help him avoid problems or quit a job that he does not like. In the player’s mind, after a huge win, you can do whatever you want, please your wife with expensive gifts or a vacation near the sea. In reality, much more often the opposite happens. To pay off debts, you will have to work more than usual and your wife will leave so as not to participate in the player’s problems. It turns out that it is better to appreciate what you have and not chase the illusion, otherwise you may be left with nothing.

There are other cases. Sometimes a wife can immediately notice that her husband (player) has changed, and immediately understand everything. After this, she will take tough measures and will not allow her husband to continue losing money from the family budget. But there is a downside, she won’t be able to be with him all the time and if he wants to play, he will always find a place and time for this.

so this is not a question after al? this is an pre explanation why gambling can affect relationship and indeed all that you mentioned is here to be supported but also to be shared.

I have a Better example of a friend (actually  a dear friend ) that Lose is family because of addictions and yes very likely that if gambling enters addictions and tolerance this will damage everything that is in Good faith.

Better to keep family and friends on track so they will never experience such  broken relationship .

anything you are doing in life, will affect on you positively or negatively. nothing wrong in doing gambling untill anyone become so addicted and doing such thing aggressively all the day. addiction will lead you towards many bad habits and i saw lot of stray, broken relationships due to gambling habits. Gambling shouldn't be selected as main income source but sometimes people do so even they spend all of their monthly salary or monthly income in gambling and then a person can't be normal due to financial instabilities emotional turmoil as op said which could affect relationships badly between couple, between friends and family. So a person should be stricked enough about such matters

When starting to gamble, a player may not even suspect what consequences this will have for him if he succumbs to emotions all the time. When opening a casino site, he must understand that it is possible that this will destroy his family and take it seriously, one should not underestimate it and think that this is just entertainment. From entertainment it can turn into addiction and after that you will have to choose between family and gaming. The player will understand that family is more important, but will not be able to do anything about it, because emotions will be stronger than his understanding. In the most serious situations, even children suffer, no matter how hard it is for me to say. In this case, you need to immediately leave the player and look for a better life.

If there are no children, then you can try to get the addicted person out of this, if after several attempts he plays no matter what, it is better to leave him with the game, because otherwise both people will ruin their lives.

That's a problem often faced by gamblers. They often exceed their limits in gambling, causing disturbances to them and their families. Whether this is due to the use of money that exceeds the limit or the length of time, they gamble and don't do anything else.

And playing gambling for too long really makes a person forget about time. They have too much fun gambling even though they have other activities. Especially if they have to fulfill their living needs by working, and they are also often late in doing something because they are still gambling.

If he is the head of the household who is required to work but instead chooses to gamble frequently, he could run out of money for his family. That was if he couldn't allocate some money for gambling. And that has happened a lot in society.

Of course, not only will it be a big problem but on the other hand it will also make one of them put doubts on one of their partners who is a suspect in terms of allocating money used for gambling and of course that doubt has the potential for possible marriage failure, because from here alone they already know the true character of one of their partners who acts carelessly and does not think about something more important, namely the wedding party.

If indeed this scenario really happened or even there is one of the gamblers who has experienced it then I am sure from the suspect's side he put money on gambling with the intention and purpose of multiplying the money for wedding expenses, whether he wants to make the party bigger or whatever it is with the money from his gambling winnings if he wins, but unfortunately people like that or who are especially addicted they are difficult to be able to think using common sense so that the risk for possibilities that do not match reality is not thought of in such situations. Yes, it's a good suggestion to first show our true nature before entering into a more serious level such as marriage, I think it's more about opening up and adapting to each other.

This happens unnoticed during the game. The player himself will not be able to understand exactly when the line between entertainment in gambling and real family life is blurred. Therefore, this needs to be very strictly controlled. The stakes are too high, but usually no one thinks about this, but rather thinks about game strategies, odds, potential winnings and who to borrow money from next time. If a player’s head constantly thinks about such things 24/7, then his family will leave him sooner or later and it will be almost impossible to get her back. It’s better not to let things get to that point and try to control yourself. After all, if we lose our family, then ultimately we may lose ourselves.

Its would really destroy your life if you wont really be that careful and would be mindful on the actions that you would be making against or with gambling. Its not actually a bad thing, things that on what you do because of too much addiction is the thing that what makes things or lives to be that being destroyed. This is why self moderation and control would really be needed and something that you would really be needing to mind if you dont like on messing up your life. It doesnt only that mess up your money or finances but also with your relationship into your loved ones. If you dont like
on messing up everything then you should have the control but if not then it would really be that your choice, you are the ones who would really be leading up into your demise
if you wont really be that responsible.

If the gambler cannot divide his time between gambling and his family, he can start to become distant from his family. And if he becomes less and less aware of this "distant," he will become increasingly distant from everyone, not just his family. He will become more concerned with gambling than other people, even his own family.

They cannot differentiate between their gambling and their family. All that was on his mind was gambling. And the more often they gamble, the more they will forget the presence of their family. Every gambler should avoid this because they gamble only to have fun. And that means they must not forget or become distant from their families or the people around them.

If they can balance their gambling activities with their family, they can still enjoy their free time by gambling. However, if they feel that gambling makes them distant from their family, they must immediately stop their gambling activities. If not, they will get deeper into gambling and will eventually become addicted to gambling.

Yes we have seen when a gambler start gambling at the starting time the distance between a gambler and gambler family increase. In our society usually people don't take gambling lightly they have a lot of bad thinking for gamblers. Because the gambler in our country limit less. They play until go empty. That reason relationship distance increase and people don't like gamblers.

When you talk about building a relationship on lies, it is also prohibited. It is not a good idea to lie to your partner. But at a time you should also consider the nature of gambling and how gamblers are generally seen as irresponsible people in the society. At the first contact with the girl and to introduce yourself should yo in any way tell the girl that you are professional gambler? Gambling is something that people are not proud of. So, if a man must have been hiding his gambling habit from a good girl that he loves and at a certain time the girl must surely know because nothing because secret forever. You should not just blend a man because he did all that he did in order to protect his relationship. What happens is that both of the should find a landing ground to continue and preserve their relationship.
If the man will stop gambling it will be better, otherwise the woman should be involved by being the one to handle and control the man's budget for gambling

Many family of the gamblers was get divorced because of the gambling,actually two of my friends had get divorced because of the gambling.The reason was the gambling addiction by those friends,they never give money for 8 months and the second person for one year.Because both of them aim for the biggest winning in the gambling site by risking their full income.For this reason both get divorced from their wife,one of my friend become the richest person and millionaire now.His wife was trying to connect to him for the rich life,but my friend had refused it.The friends get into more credits and trying to get loan from another friend.