Topic: Can Gambling affect your relationship? - page 8. (Read 4383 times)

Of course, I think this is more of a question that is looking for a more factual statement. I think gambling would really be a problem in a relationship if you are using the budget for the benefit of both of you, like for example you use money for wedding expenses and then you use the money for your gambling habit then obviously it would be a problem in your relationship with your loved one.

The important point is of course as you said that all the problems started from them putting an amount of budget that they could not afford, if only they initially understood about the risks involved in gambling I think they would not be desperate to put money that they could not afford which certainly has the potential for problems. I think you have mentioned a list that is quite appropriate to the facts and possibilities that can occur. Therefore, understanding the risks in any case must be prioritized, do not take it all lightly.

Yes if you are suffering from family problem then that is big problem because you can't focus on gambling that problem makes your losses. Don't gamble in pressure and angry mind that will create losses in your gambling. For that reason many relationship break. Quiral with family members etc problem creat. In our country I seen people stonel thik for doing gambling. I also thik stable people being poor for gambling. It's very bad and it's actually happened.

Was this a question or a statement of fact?! )
You are one hundred percent right. After all, relationships are built on trust and broken by its absence. If a person cannot control himself and starts gambling with money that he cannot afford to lose, then sooner or later this will lead to a break in relations with his partner and to problems with friends and problems at work, as well as with loved ones and relatives. This is probably not a complete list of problems that a person can get when starting to gamble with money that cannot be put at risk.

All of this is due to their worsening financial situation, because with their worsening financial situation it can have an impact on their psychology where they tend to experience changes in attitude and behavior but these changes usually lead to negative changes. And indirectly this will make them different and it is likely that they will become more sensitive or more aggressive, because those who experience negative changes of course they will get angry easily even with small or trivial things, because their emotions cannot be controlled so they will always be angry and if their anger occurs with people who are easily angry too then there will be conflicts that could become a big problem, also with their own family relationships, If one of their family members is addicted to gambling then they are likely to experience a change in attitude where they will spend a lot of money on gambling and when they run out of money there is a chance that they will ask their family members for money and also if their family knows that the money they ask for is for gambling the family is unlikely to give it and those who are addicted to not being able to restrain themselves from gambling then they may get angry at their family who cannot give them money, A person who is addicted will experience many bad changes, so don't be careless about the impact of gambling where the impact can spread its losses.

someone who is married or has a family of course they must be responsible for their relationship to be able to maintain it properly. let's say this husband is addicted to gambling, because usually those who are addicted to gambling are men. When a husband who is the head of the family has become addicted to gambling, he can commit acts of violence against his wife because of his addiction that has made him change his attitude for the worse, because someone who is addicted to gambling usually they will become a more stubborn person, where they cannot accept advice from their wife or from other people, they tend not to want to listen to advice from other people because they only want to fulfill their gambling desires. With the husband who is addicted to gambling, he will only focus on his addiction where he will spend a large percentage of his money only on gambling, and of course this will have an impact on their family, where their economy will become bad with basic needs that are not met or always lacking, because the money they have is only spent on gambling because the husband is addicted to gambling. this must be avoided because it is impossible for them to abandon their family because of their gambling addiction. it's not good.

winning or losing at gambling can make them addicted to gambling, for example someone who gambles because he can't control himself when he gets a win he doesn't have the mind to cash it in, because he just thinks the luck they have is still there so they decide to continue the game, by increasing the amount of bets because they want to get a bigger win, where those who get this win will become addicted to gambling. And when he loses he will feel upset with his resentment that can encourage them to gamble again because many of the gamblers usually when they lose they will say "maybe one more bet" well this is usually there when they have lost, because with his defeat it will make them curious especially with a good game that can make him believe a little more will get a win.

I think that if they have gotten a win that is quite profitable they should think about stopping because luck will only come once in a while it is also unlikely to last long, even though he is sure of his good game it does not rule out the possibility of losing, however defeat still has a higher percentage than the percentage of wins.

Gambling is only liable to affect relationship at where there is no ability to control their emotions.
An irresponsible gambler is not worthy to be entrusted with a corporative (partnership) funds because where the gambler has run out of a gambling budgets, he is flexible to temper with the entrusted funds.

Imagine a scenero where a fiancees gambler who is an irresponsible gambler whom had fixed a date to their weeding and had accumulated and had savings for the ceremony but along the lines, one of the fiancees who is a gambler came across a guaranteed game and he was unable to control his emotions believing that he was going to make more money to add to their weeding event and finally he gets gets cut off that he losses the game, I am sure that there is said to be sentiments and bridges within their relationships which is liable to relationship breakout.

If we lie to our partner, of course one day they will be able to find out because once we lie, we will continue to lie to our partner to cover up our first lie and when they realize all the lies we have done, of course they will be very disappointed and they will never trust what we say again.
Indeed, it would be better for us to be honest about what we say rather than telling lies that are detrimental to the people we lie to. When we are honest about what we say, of course they will be able to understand what we say even if they don't agree with what we say.

Yes definitely,it can,it all depends on the way you go about it,if you started the relationship on a lie,and you told your friend you don't gamble while you gamble,the day she finds out,there must definitely going to be a problem because you never told her the truth,all you told her was a lie.One thing about relationship is that,what you tell your partner whether lies or truth has a lot to do when it comes to her mental health.I remember lieing to my friend about me going to see my best friend late in the night,when I went to see a match,she later find out that I didn't tell her the truth,and to be frank,from that day,she looked at me as an insincere person,and someone who always tell lies.Ever since then,I promised to always tell her the truth nomatter he she will react when I tell her.

If someone is addicted to gambling, he will not prioritize the interests of his family but will only want to fulfil his desires. His desires will be more important than the interests of his family, and from there, there will be arguments or fights with his family because he has changed and no longer pays attention to his family. A professional gambler would not do something like that because they have good self-control and can take good care of their family to balance everything. Apart from that, they also always try to avoid gambling addiction because they don't see that it will provide anything meaningful for their lives and their families. But if someone uses gambling as a place to make a living, he will have difficulties because gambling is not a place to make money. And that person should be able to think of other ways to help him make money. Many other places can give him the opportunity to make money so he doesn't need to make a living from gambling because it won't be easy.

Addiction to something, gambling, drugs or alcohol will not do anything good and will only pose worse risks to him and his family. When someone is addicted to one of these three things or even all of them, it is not only him who experiences the problem but his family also suffers. That is why we must be able to take good care of ourselves when gambling so that we can avoid gambling addiction and not cause problems for our families. And that will clearly destroy the family relationship between us, so if he marries, he could experience divorce and not be able to maintain his household. And it is indeed better if we spend time with family so that our family relationships can become closer and we can look after each other.

Yes, when most gamblers lose, especially when they lose large amounts, they will have quite significant changes in behavior so that this kind of thing will have big impact on relationships between families or social life.
But I sure there are quite lot of people whose attitude changes tend to become emotional levels that are more easily uncontrolled and of course this will lead to more complicated problems.
One of the best ways when you experience defeat is to leave the house for a while to just get some fresh air and win yourself over or you can also be alone in your room to rest.
This will be quite effective in avoiding bad things that could happen regarding attitudes and behavior when we experience defeat from gambling.

Of course, because we ourselves are men and when we have wife they will definitely not give us permission to gamble for financial reasons or addiction, this is wife worry when she finds out that her partner or husband has been gambling.
I sure that most gamblers prefer to hide what they do regarding gambling from their partners in order to avoid disputes and problems that could occur.
Likewise with me personally, when I knew that my partner would be angry when he saw gambling activity, I decided to hide it from him, avoiding the problem would be much better than solving it.

Yes it is real when a man gets addicted to Jaya he is not like a normal man. A person addicted to gambling becomes a fairly unbalanced person. A gambling addict cannot concentrate on his religion, his family, his business, so a gambling addict becomes a very bad person to his family, to his partner, to his religion.

I understand the aspect you are coming from and it is very logical to reason so. The reason be that some gamblers are very much aggressive when they lose. I mean if their bet goes wrong, virtually everyone will know due to their sudden change of behaviour.
@Onyeeze is suggesting that gambling can cause domestic vawulence at home. Especially when both parties did not determine unanimously to be gambling. Gambling among couples should be an agreement but if thean things he can hide it forever from his wife, good luck.

In normal sense can make a union to be separated if time is not taken, because I know quite well that the place that gambling can make issues to manifest in relationships is the area of concentration and I believe that gambling is all about concentration and when you gamble and lose you will not like to give your partner time because you will be battered in mind, so I don't have anything to say concerning gambling and relationship, because a man who doesn't want the family to be shattered does let the family know that he is into gambling because anything that happens in your house the wife of the man will think that it's because he has lost in gambling that is why is behaving indifferent

It could, but it shouldn't. The thing is that if you allow gambling to become a major discussion inside your relationship, you already have a problem going on for you. Gambling shouldn't be a major topic for you and your partner just as with any other pastimes you involve yourself in. You don't make a convoluted topic about crocheting and how it takes up so much of your wife's time that she could've spent on you yeah? So why should you let gambling even be worth the time to talk about?

I say quit gambling if it already came to this point. Gambling's not worth anything you're dropping for it, that's the truth. If you're choosing between your partner and indulging your gambling tendencies you might wanna take a step back cause you're already cooked in the brain and honestly, I'd say you're addicted to gambling already, so make the choice that will make your life for the better and don't let gambling be anything other than a pastime you partake in when you don't have spare pennies lying around and you don't know what to do with it.

The error of trying to control someone elses spending habits might be the bigger problem really.  Is spending money on shoes you dont need a bad idea but plenty of people buy clothes and fashion stuff they dont need.  Its a hobby, bad idea to interfere with someone spending their own money.  The real fair argument is the proportion of money shared in a relationship to address bills etc.  keep people safe warm and well fed, that is a fair argument but within a budget let people spend the money on gambling or betting horses whatever they like, its their free time leisure they can spend it however they like.   Just have a set budget and theres no need for an argument past that, clearly you wont be into everything a partner might be interested in.

Yes, it would really vary on which there would really be those people who would really be that having those kind of relationship into other people whether their fiancee,friends or family members.
On the time that it would really be that affecting your relationship into others or becoming that toxic then it would really be just that right that you should really be that stopping it immediately
because if not then when things turns out to be messy then it would be a choice neither you would be proceeding on doing gambling and messing up with that relation or would really be
completely stopping and trying out to save it out? It would be your choice. We do make out choices which would really be that basing up into our own life decisions and the outcomes
that it could possibly give.

Most times, why gambling could result into bad situation in a relationship is when the partner neglects they fundamental responsibility and gives all the attention to gambling,  this time they are gambling with family resources, or worse still selling of family properties such as a house or land just to gamble with, at that level, that gambler is already an addict and should have some medical attention to get some treatments if possible..
But if the partner still gamble in moderation,  it can still be worked without having such a negative reality on the daily life of the gambler, but then if you are into a relation and your partner did not have of see anything wrong with gamblin

I agree with what you said, gambling can really destroy a relationship especially when a person's gambling is out of place. When you become addicted to gambling, you will lose everything, everything you worked for will be wasted. We know that it is very difficult to stop gambling addiction, so let's avoid getting into this situation.
We know that gambling has ruined many lives and relationships, let's not let that happen to us.

Yes, you are right that gambling disturbs many relations and isolates the person from the rest people but here I am giving my point of view on it. People some time ago did gambling just for refreshment and to spend some time with their friends but with time it Changed and people used gambling as a source of income. Many people want to become rich quickly and for that, they gamble all their savings and when they get some profits they do not stop and do it again. You know gamble if full greed, and the human race wants more and more. When he lost all his funds in one gamble he became frustrated and did violence at their home though their relationship got disturbed and in my view, this is the reason. I am not against it but if you are doing then do use a small amount and when you feel better then return home.

When a man has nothing to do and has no way of making money and see only one option, they make sure that the option gives them what they want no matter the cost and that cost is what addiction brings to gamblers that want to make some money without having another means of making money. As a gambler, your main focus should not be gambling money but as a side way of making money because it is not guarantee in any form, by the time you have less than $10 with you and use it to bet and win nothing, you will be angry and you might want to recover that money lost which in the process can cause you more damage.


I can gamble and nobody will know, when I deposit money, nobody knows and when I win, nobody knows no matter how closer youa re ti me, that is how seretive I'm with betting, I don't interfare with gambling and my relationship, each have their own time and I'm sure that my wife will not tell me to quit gambling because I'm not giving her all the time she needed, unless she is that a bitter and selfish person that doesn't like me to gamble and I will not quit if she doesn't give me a congent reason to quit. Gambling kills time and should never bring rift between two people in a relationship unless there is problem of addiction.

There is a difference between couples and maybe people who are just dating. If it is ordinary dating, it might not mean much if the man does not reveal to the girl that he gambles and the relationship can be smooth without issues. But once it is marriage, I seriously advice that as a man, your wife should be aware of your gambling habit. This will enable her to be a check on you when you are gambling excessively. But blanking your partner out totally will cause a big problem and trust issues when she discovers.