Topic: Can Gambling affect your relationship? - page 7. (Read 4383 times)

   Gambling is one act that has its own consequences in certain areas of living. People gamble for their respective reasons and so it's essential and only advisable that one should have an honest reason for doing the act and at the same learn how to be cautious and responsible in it. Too much of everything isn't good. This is applies to everything we do,  we should learn to take a break or even taking a bow completely. A good dancer knows the right time to leave the stage. Being in the stage for too long will spoil the performance this can also apply to gambling. Knowing when to stop doesn’t make you weak but rather a smarter player.
   Let's take an instance here, a young man with family responsibilities, maybe he's doing gambling just for the fun of it and then gets his income pushes in a part of it into gambling, his luck maybe shines and then the gamble clicks. That's definitely good news no doubt but as a family man, there's every sense of responsibility that's needed for the act. Let the purpose not go beyond fun and even if it does, don't bask too much in the act that then would cause irresponsibility in both financial and family management because at the very point that it happens, then sadly, the whole family bond will be at stake. Definitely a spouse won't want their partner to do things irresponsibly and would definitely be unhappy when irresponsibility kicks in. Trying not to shade the act but truly it affects relationships both positively and negatively. It all balls down to responsibility while at it.

Gambling, as a fantasy of rapid riches, generally fails! The Truth: the house always wins. Gambling to fix life's problems is absurd, like expecting a cyclone to clean your house. The erroneous attitude behind this behaviour must be recognised. Unrealistic optimism about a lucky break is perilous. Not a strategy, but an escape.

In relationships, a vigilant spouse may seem helpful, but its just a bandage. She may stop the financial bleeding, but what about trust, respect, autonomy? These are casualties too. Partner control doesnt replace personal accountability. Gamblers must face their demons or continue gambling.

Consider the big picture. Gambling addiction reflects unhappiness and cries for help. Not only money, but fulfilment, self-worth, meaning. Holistic well-being, not simply financial literacy, is the solution. We must develop resilience, purpose, and life happiness.

Such players are driven by the hope that everything will change. And indeed their lives are changing, but not for the better. All this happens because avid gamblers, who have seen victories, have a devaluation of money in their minds. They understand that sometimes casinos share money and why work at a full-time job if you can get money through slot machines? or batting for example.
And money should always be appreciated and understood that free cheese is in a mousetrap.

The player thinks that in gambling he will win money that will help him avoid problems or quit a job that he does not like. In the player’s mind, after a huge win, you can do whatever you want, please your wife with expensive gifts or a vacation near the sea. In reality, much more often the opposite happens. To pay off debts, you will have to work more than usual and your wife will leave so as not to participate in the player’s problems. It turns out that it is better to appreciate what you have and not chase the illusion, otherwise you may be left with nothing.

There are other cases. Sometimes a wife can immediately notice that her husband (player) has changed, and immediately understand everything. After this, she will take tough measures and will not allow her husband to continue losing money from the family budget. But there is a downside, she won’t be able to be with him all the time and if he wants to play, he will always find a place and time for this.

so this is not a question after al? this is an pre explanation why gambling can affect relationship and indeed all that you mentioned is here to be supported but also to be shared.

I have a Better example of a friend (actually  a dear friend ) that Lose is family because of addictions and yes very likely that if gambling enters addictions and tolerance this will damage everything that is in Good faith.

Better to keep family and friends on track so they will never experience such  broken relationship .

anything you are doing in life, will affect on you positively or negatively. nothing wrong in doing gambling untill anyone become so addicted and doing such thing aggressively all the day. addiction will lead you towards many bad habits and i saw lot of stray, broken relationships due to gambling habits. Gambling shouldn't be selected as main income source but sometimes people do so even they spend all of their monthly salary or monthly income in gambling and then a person can't be normal due to financial instabilities emotional turmoil as op said which could affect relationships badly between couple, between friends and family. So a person should be stricked enough about such matters

When starting to gamble, a player may not even suspect what consequences this will have for him if he succumbs to emotions all the time. When opening a casino site, he must understand that it is possible that this will destroy his family and take it seriously, one should not underestimate it and think that this is just entertainment. From entertainment it can turn into addiction and after that you will have to choose between family and gaming. The player will understand that family is more important, but will not be able to do anything about it, because emotions will be stronger than his understanding. In the most serious situations, even children suffer, no matter how hard it is for me to say. In this case, you need to immediately leave the player and look for a better life.

If there are no children, then you can try to get the addicted person out of this, if after several attempts he plays no matter what, it is better to leave him with the game, because otherwise both people will ruin their lives.

That's a problem often faced by gamblers. They often exceed their limits in gambling, causing disturbances to them and their families. Whether this is due to the use of money that exceeds the limit or the length of time, they gamble and don't do anything else.

And playing gambling for too long really makes a person forget about time. They have too much fun gambling even though they have other activities. Especially if they have to fulfill their living needs by working, and they are also often late in doing something because they are still gambling.

If he is the head of the household who is required to work but instead chooses to gamble frequently, he could run out of money for his family. That was if he couldn't allocate some money for gambling. And that has happened a lot in society.

Of course, not only will it be a big problem but on the other hand it will also make one of them put doubts on one of their partners who is a suspect in terms of allocating money used for gambling and of course that doubt has the potential for possible marriage failure, because from here alone they already know the true character of one of their partners who acts carelessly and does not think about something more important, namely the wedding party.

If indeed this scenario really happened or even there is one of the gamblers who has experienced it then I am sure from the suspect's side he put money on gambling with the intention and purpose of multiplying the money for wedding expenses, whether he wants to make the party bigger or whatever it is with the money from his gambling winnings if he wins, but unfortunately people like that or who are especially addicted they are difficult to be able to think using common sense so that the risk for possibilities that do not match reality is not thought of in such situations. Yes, it's a good suggestion to first show our true nature before entering into a more serious level such as marriage, I think it's more about opening up and adapting to each other.

This happens unnoticed during the game. The player himself will not be able to understand exactly when the line between entertainment in gambling and real family life is blurred. Therefore, this needs to be very strictly controlled. The stakes are too high, but usually no one thinks about this, but rather thinks about game strategies, odds, potential winnings and who to borrow money from next time. If a player’s head constantly thinks about such things 24/7, then his family will leave him sooner or later and it will be almost impossible to get her back. It’s better not to let things get to that point and try to control yourself. After all, if we lose our family, then ultimately we may lose ourselves.

Its would really destroy your life if you wont really be that careful and would be mindful on the actions that you would be making against or with gambling. Its not actually a bad thing, things that on what you do because of too much addiction is the thing that what makes things or lives to be that being destroyed. This is why self moderation and control would really be needed and something that you would really be needing to mind if you dont like on messing up your life. It doesnt only that mess up your money or finances but also with your relationship into your loved ones. If you dont like
on messing up everything then you should have the control but if not then it would really be that your choice, you are the ones who would really be leading up into your demise
if you wont really be that responsible.

If the gambler cannot divide his time between gambling and his family, he can start to become distant from his family. And if he becomes less and less aware of this "distant," he will become increasingly distant from everyone, not just his family. He will become more concerned with gambling than other people, even his own family.

They cannot differentiate between their gambling and their family. All that was on his mind was gambling. And the more often they gamble, the more they will forget the presence of their family. Every gambler should avoid this because they gamble only to have fun. And that means they must not forget or become distant from their families or the people around them.

If they can balance their gambling activities with their family, they can still enjoy their free time by gambling. However, if they feel that gambling makes them distant from their family, they must immediately stop their gambling activities. If not, they will get deeper into gambling and will eventually become addicted to gambling.

Yes we have seen when a gambler start gambling at the starting time the distance between a gambler and gambler family increase. In our society usually people don't take gambling lightly they have a lot of bad thinking for gamblers. Because the gambler in our country limit less. They play until go empty. That reason relationship distance increase and people don't like gamblers.

When you talk about building a relationship on lies, it is also prohibited. It is not a good idea to lie to your partner. But at a time you should also consider the nature of gambling and how gamblers are generally seen as irresponsible people in the society. At the first contact with the girl and to introduce yourself should yo in any way tell the girl that you are professional gambler? Gambling is something that people are not proud of. So, if a man must have been hiding his gambling habit from a good girl that he loves and at a certain time the girl must surely know because nothing because secret forever. You should not just blend a man because he did all that he did in order to protect his relationship. What happens is that both of the should find a landing ground to continue and preserve their relationship.
If the man will stop gambling it will be better, otherwise the woman should be involved by being the one to handle and control the man's budget for gambling

Many family of the gamblers was get divorced because of the gambling,actually two of my friends had get divorced because of the gambling.The reason was the gambling addiction by those friends,they never give money for 8 months and the second person for one year.Because both of them aim for the biggest winning in the gambling site by risking their full income.For this reason both get divorced from their wife,one of my friend become the richest person and millionaire now.His wife was trying to connect to him for the rich life,but my friend had refused it.The friends get into more credits and trying to get loan from another friend.

So imagine how terrible gambling addiction is. Gambling destroys people's lives bit by bit. Those who have thought of leading their lives around this gambling game are the ones who have suffered the most in their lives. I have also seen local people in my area who are addicted to gambling and have lived their lives so badly that most of the time they have to go to people for help. Once addicted to gambling, very few people recover from gambling addiction.

A gambling addict will definitely prioritize his gambling over other obligations he has to do out there, just imagine how many gambling addicts end up having problems with their family and friends at their workplace because their behavior changes drastically.
I used to have a friend who was very active in gambling, he really found it difficult to maintain social relationships with his friends and even his own family, the thing that always crossed his mind was gambling and gambling, fortunately, now that he has recovered, he is able to be active well and reduce the intensity of gambling.

How can you talk about any risks, if gambling is not an investment, but an entertainment that constantly requires money from the user?

I recently watched a podcast in which a man engaged in processing for casinos said that according to his statistics from the casino for which he works only 30% of funds are returned to customers. As I understand this is some local casino in my country and other casinos may be returning more to players, but we don't have a tool to check this. 

It would really be just that total irresponsible if you do consider out on spending out that marriage budget on which addiction is really just that severe on this case.It wont really be just that affecting into your loved ones but also in other people that you do know as well in speaking about being irresponsible in terms of finances then this is something that will really be giving out that huge effect.
If you dont really like to mess up your life when it comes to finances and relationship then it would really be just that right that you should really be that sensible on the things that you would gonna decide with. You cant really just that give out some priority on things which arent supposed to be put up or would be minding in. It would really be just that impossible that you cant really be able to make yourself not be able to compare which one is important and which one is not.

As you've said, gambling will be a big problem if a person is using the budget for both of them and you've mentioned the wedding budget, If that's the case, possible it will cause a big problem and for sure that will be the root cause of why their marriage will not continue, it will be an eye opener for her partner and will be able to think about whether the decision to getting married  is the right one. when it comes to being in a relationship, I think it's better if we show our true character in the beginning so we can get to know our partners better, because it's hard to regret it in the end.