Topic: Do you blame someone for your gambling losses? - page 20. (Read 6087 times)

It would be weird to do so otherwise because it's your own volition that you got yourself into gambling just because someone introduced you to gambling doesn't mean they've got to take care of you not to get crazy and overboard with your gambling habits. Exactly, the irresponsibility of an individual is their own fault and it's weird but expected of those irresponsible individuals that they blame the people that introduce them to gambling, they're irresponsible after all and they lack self-awareness.

And the most common thing that gamblers mostly do is to point the finger at someone or at the system itself. They will not accept that mistake. So, either to hide it or to find someone to blame, I think this common reaction is normal as human behavior, but it's always better not to hide the truth and accept that failures to avoid having that kind of issue the way OP tell his story. Don't blame anyone as you place your bet freely, and you take that risk without anyone who's pushing you to do so.

Accept your defeats and re-try to assess and analyze the outcome. It will prevent you from going up that far and creating more problems instead of the money alone that you lose during your gambling session.

I will not blame anyone for my gambling losses but in this case is I will blame the mother for her irresponsibility. What I am know that gambling amount should be as much as one person can a afford to lose but in this case the seen is totally different. I think the mom will be responsible for the son. Addiction is very dangerous especially on gambling.

from some of our conversations, is this a sign or is this gambler who often blames others a gambling addict? what do you think ?

because I think gamblers who are always angry when they lose and blame the people around them always ignore advice from other people and keep gambling after what they want as I said before, whereas the first signs of gambling addiction are they always ignore advice or have very poor self control and emotional which is uncontrollable and I had time to wonder whether a gambler who regrets and blames others is an early sign of addiction or whether he has already become addicted.

just try to imagine if they were an ordinary gambler without addiction, of course every loss was just normal for him and he never made very silly mistakes like blaming other people as described by the OP, but if the behavior is rude after this losing session, there is definitely something wrong with them his mindset and is definitely affected by things like addiction.

Yes you are right here mother and son may have nothing in common between them. If mother and son had a good heart then maybe they would not be involved in such trouble. Also the son's father may not have been able to keep the son's mother under good control due to which his wife has become addicted to gambling. Here the boy definitely needs a worthy strong father. Here too I don't like their punishment because they gambled freely of their own will and lost.

        -  Yes, it's true that, as much as possible, let's be honest with what we say, because it's beautiful to hide nothing. It's just that most people can't avoid it, especially if you lose a large amount of money, because you know that others will be angry and think differently when they find out about it.

Of course, the response of the people around us will be negative when they find out that you have lost a large amount of money gambling. And it is not unlikely that you will be blamed for that incident, so gamblers are able to keep this incident a secret and keep it to themselves.

People tend to forget that the act of gambling is a conscious and intentional one. You barely have anyone point a gun to your head to gamble, you consciously put your own money into your oen choice of game without no one telling you to. The question is, why would you blame someone who is entirely out of the gambling equation for the loss you incurred while gambling?

If anyone talked to you about his wins in gmabling, it is still within your power to toss his counsel into the bin and walk your part

Yeah, the thing is that these actions don't occur overnight.

They start to happen after a long exposure to an addictive behavior. From the outside it might look extreme, but for the person inside, they only have changed a bit every day.

After a long time, that small negative daily change produces a vastly different person, capable of doing many things.

The same can be said in reverse, like going to the gym and lifting a bit more every day. After a year you are a different person capable of lifting way more than in the beginning.

Wow that's a though story, especially lying to your family about how you lost your tuition money. It's one thing to gamble with more money than we can afford to lose, and something completely different to lie to our family. I think at such a state we need to take a hard look at our gambling activities to see if we are not struggling and need to change something. At least for me it was important to always be honest with my friends and family, to not fall in the trap of having to build a house of lies. Usually one lie is not enough and it keeps building up until we will get caught or can't handle the pressure anymore. Life is already stressful enough and we shouldn't increase the burden on us. Losing is part of gambling and we should be owning up to it, the same as if we make a big win. To me it feels a bit like if we lie to someone else, it's not far from lying to ourself and that can lead to an addiction. We are responsible for our own actions and can't put the blame on someone else.

Well in the world there are many people who have Different ways of managing their emotions , Anger control and Everything that has to do with this , it is difficult because for some it is very easy to know how to behave in Front of a group , but for Others it is not like that, things They usually go another way and it can be evident that they will always do things that go against the best they can have, in this case we can emphasize that things are very Obvious when doing any type of Activity , if a Person is losing a lot During the game, it is Obvious that she will be a Little upset, but it must be understood that the Others are not doing Anything , you Cannot take out anger with People , it is something not worth it, and this will Undoubtedly have Consequences for the player , Because that is what is evident in Physical casinos, where there is no Guard for each person , the person is Aware of their Actions and it is Expected that only Adults enter Every casino, for that Reason it is that When we do Different ways of Game you should Control us.

Control is not Always Aimed at Making a good Management of the Balance that we are willing to lose, no , it is also due to the thing that we are Willing to Control in the game and after the game, we Always have to do the best so that We can have many things in Terms of actions, yes, it is possible to have an emotional reaction to Anger , but you can Also have a very Different reaction to a big victory, and this turn of Emotions can be very relevant When it comes to Establish any type of reaction , because if the person is very Excited , at most he can also beat up another person , and in a Possible case of not Controlling the emotions in an online casino , he is Wrong and bet a lot of Money on a Gambling Option , and to lose and Possibly Destroy whatever you are playing , be it a Phone , PC or Something like that , this has a lot to do with not being able to be Mentally Well.

If they continue gambling like that and still don't want to understand how gambling works, they will continue to gamble excessively and emotionally without being able to control themselves while gambling, and they will blame the people around them. They don't want to understand that it is their own fault, and they must change their behavior before others can't accept it. If another person cannot accept it, he can fight with that person, and there will be other people who will support him and defend him because that person is innocent. On the other hand, the gambler will be blamed because he cannot control his gambling behavior.

Well, that's how they are. They want to avoid hearing advice from other people that is useful for them. They don't want to see that the advice is actually for their good and try to open their minds so they can become responsible gamblers. Maybe people feel that the gambler has gone too far in gambling, and they don't want to see the gambler lose a lot even though these people are not responsible for the losses the gambler will suffer.

It's true, gambling is based on one's own actions, there is no element of coercion from anyone, after all, gambling is clearly likely to get a defeat which is certainly detrimental, and I think those who gamble should not think about let alone question the losses that have occurred. because it is a natural thing, the name of gambling is sure that there are losses that will occur, and this loss can be felt by all those who gamble without exception, because the chances of a big defeat become more dominating than the chances of a small victory.

someone who is used to gambling maybe he doesn't mind the loss,  but one day he has a friend who wants to know about gambling because all he knows is about winning, obviously he becomes curious about gambling, and maybe the person who is used to gambling tells him everything in gambling is also very sure he tells about the victory that is difficult to get  so in my opinion if someone is gambling and experiencing harmful things it is natural, but if they blame friends or other people for the losses they have received it is not natural. then it's better not to gamble.

Humans have a similar behavior, blaming people for their mistakes. Few humans can take responsibility of what happened to them, these days nobody is forced to execute any action. But it seems like the blame doubled since the human race began to comply emotions to their flaws and would always find a way to shift the blame to somebody else. However, in gambling, many cases has been reported about gamblers blaming their friends for engineering the idea of gambling to them, and for that it wasn't their fault in the first instance. Such a gambler wouldn't be able to escape his addiction because he doesn't acknowledge that he's at fault. In all, I've never came across a saddening issue as the one Op just mentioned. This behavior of a mother and child, is not condoning and how long would the family recover from their actions.

Somehow, they are not aware of what has become over them, and the person whom they lied against is innocent. I think we shouldn't call it blame. They're laying false accusation on the next person. In a country where the law enforcement agencies are strong the both gamblers would suffer long term in jail. As gamblers it's good to refresh our memory with the type of actions addicted gamblers now display around the society. Learning not to repeat such a thing would help most gamblers to avoid addiction and be responsible in any gambling related activity they find themselves into. It's been made public that gambling is for adults, hence the actions we take is ours and doesn't belong to anybody else. The losses are quite common, to them that they now see it as normal and don't bother about limiting it. Their senses came back after losing out almost all the money they've got. If they're awarded another amount of money both the mother and son would still engage in gambling. Remorse has been removed in their mind.

While your way of handling your losses in gambling is absolutely  fine and ideal, other people tend to have contrary measures of handling their gambling engagements. I've been opportuned to see gamblers who will always want to transfer the aggression that was brought upon them by their losses  in gambling to other people around them and that's absolutely childish if you ask me.  Gambling is one engagement that is solely meant for adults that have a mind of their own and that's why it's advisable for people not to engage in gambling if they can't  control the effects of losing in it

There are platforms who gives out gambling codes to the public to use and gamble and a lot of people are good in using those codes to gamble and immediately blames these platforms when they're their money which I think is not expected from a gambler because those codes are purely people's predictions about games and there's no guarantee that it'll play our the way it was predicted.

Experiencing losing money in gambling will make people emotional and want to recover their losses by continuing to gamble. Unfortunately, they don't think that this method can give them the opportunity to recover their losses because it will only increase the number of losses even more. Many gamblers have become emotional and depressed because they have lost so much that they have even gone bankrupt, so they can't do anything anymore.
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that's the bad thing about gamblers who can't understand how gambling works and how to use gambling appropriately without overdoing it which causes themselves to become uncontrollably emotional and only blame other people when they lose while other people have given the best advice and some friends usually also give advice for dont really chase losses in gambling but they just ignore any advice from other people without realizing that they themselves are bad gamblers who dont have good control but only think selfishly.

sometimes I just think what they think in their brains who gamble recklessly are given advice ignored but when they lose they blame whoever is nearby and this is a very stupid thing that irresponsible gamblers do and I also sometimes find people like this blaming his friend when he lost but I said to myself that he was a very stupid gambler who gambled with his own choice but involved other people in his loss.

Well, it's good because no one's to blame; it's ourselves or the gambler itself. No one should be involved. If you are blaming others for your gambling losses, then the problem is with the one who blames, because why would he involve others in his losses? In the first place, he is the one who made the situation, the one that made the losses, but it can't be avoided because sometimes gamblers or us gamblers tend to divert our frustrations to other people to ease our pain or frustration, but still, it is not good and healthy for the people around us, so we should always avoid blaming others or involving others in our own doings because of our own losses.

I once experienced something like this, but I regret it right away. Instead,  I divert my frustrations to other things, things that are not alive, or I ease my frustration by playing games or reading. In that way, I can control my emotions and will not involve others in my frustrations.

This is what makes gambling sometimes very naive if played by people who don't really understand the risks of gambling, blaming other people for their own mistakes is a stupid act, this is like you don't accept if you lose even though gambling is the game that causes them to lose. .
Yes, sometimes people who don't have a responsible attitude definitely can't control themselves so that when they lose they will take it out on other people and blame other people, just like when someone plays poker with an opponent they know from an offline casino, maybe if they lose they will blame a friend. played and thought it was cheating.

People who are not ready to accept defeat means that they do not have the mental strength to accept it, and as a gambler you should really understand the risks of gambling, where defeat is always possible. If you are not ready to lose, you should not be reckless in gambling.

As long as there is no element of coercion to enter the world of gambling or to start gambling, I will never blame someone who introduced and taught me about gambling. And in fact I would like to thank this person, because he taught me that getting a profit in gambling is not as easy as what we previously imagined, so we are required to have sufficient knowledge, skills and strategies to increase the chances of winning in gambling. . And even if I suffer a loss, it is just carelessness. Because up to now, there is no single strategy that can guarantee that we will always win in every gambling session.


This is quite a good step, because blaming other people will never solve anything and will not restore the losses we have experienced before. However, regret alone is not enough, we have to decide whether we will stop gambling and leave it, or continue with the condition that we must further improve our ability and knowledge in gambling, so that we can always increase the possibility of winning and minimize the occurrence of significant losses significant.

I tend to remain silent and regret my actions when I experience a big loss, because sometimes when gambling I get carried away by emotions and continue to make deposits, I never blame other people, it only tells about my own stupidity.

I will not blame someone for my gambling loss but I will never forget someone that introduced me to gambling without having the knowledge of gambling but he will be telling me some games that will enter for me to win but he will not use his own money to gamble that particular game and the games he ask me to bet will cut at the end. But since I know how to gamble sports betting in the gambling center, I don't allow anybody to tell me what to do with my money in the gambling center because, if I win I will celebrate myself but if I lose I will blame myself.

If you look at that story very well, you will know that the woman and her son are addicted to gambling because, for such people to used that kind of money to gamble without recovery from their losses show that they are addicted and they will go for prison for such stealing habit.