Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 20. (Read 4244 times)

This! This must be the ones that we must do during those situations but I think there are people who are just weak and can get triggered easily by these. I think the only thing that they can do is to confront those people and tell them if what's really their problem? Tell them that if they won't stop we are going to report them to the authorities. I think there is a case for that. It's like bullying.

We shouldn't let those people continue to be like that because they can also do this to other people. Doing so will also help them to focus on fixing their selves and maybe they will thank us one day for this. They might also want to be our buddies after that.

Gambling is meant to be done at a leisure time when one is free and not in an open place or crowded environment because we live is a world where people are more interested to know what others are doing and since you stay looking at your phone in a public place there is no way someone will not peep to know what you are doing or watching. Avoiding doing some personal things just like gambling that most people in the society feels that people who are into gambling are either wayward or useless, no need to give them opportunity to talk ill about simply because they have seen others go wrong direction in their gambling life.

Exactly, so far as they don't know you there is no reason to give them any explanation or care about what they said to you, but if it involves someone who knows you or a friend of yours it is good for them to know your are a gambler because they can give you good advice on how to go with your gambling because they are your friends so they will not like anything bad to happen to you so they are likely to be helpful to you.

As an adult, it's important to grow up to stage that you don't find people's opinion about your personal life relevant and in my own opinion, someone shouldn't be addressed as an adult when people's opinions about personal life still bothers the person. However, it's also important to note if what people are saying about you is a true reflection of your negativity or not because sometimes, people around us tends to genuinely care for us.
That being said, I do not care what people around me make of my gambling engagements and that's because whenever I gamble, I don't do it with any other person's resources but mine. Gambling is one engagement that an adult solely takes responsibility of the outcome so anyone's opinion about it is absolutely unimportant provided that such adult is gambling responsibly. But in a situation whereby an adult isn't responsible in his gambling engagements, it's very important to take advice from other people who genuinely wants the person to stop gambling irresponsibly

If it was someone else I would ignore it, why is it like that? because they don't know me in depth and don't know where I live so just relax even though other people will comment badly even though I'm gambling. But I always anticipate this by not gambling in public places, especially when we're in crowded places and there's not much difference in seating too far from other people because I feel uncomfortable if other people see my activities whether I'm chatting or playing on social media or even gambling because they could peek or want to know what we want to do. Because I also don't like peeking at other people's cell phones because cell phones are personal.

So whatever the reason, I don't care about other people's comments, but if my friend reprimands me or comments on what I do, whether it's gambling, I will respond why is that? because they know me and my family. So I'm maybe will explain that my gambling is healthy gambling, sometimes my friend is just worried if we gamble to the point of becoming addicted, therefore usually good friends always remind us not to go beyond the limits.

I agree, besides the money you are using in gambling is your own money. The fact that it is your own money, it only means that other people doesn't have the right to think or say/dictate anything about your hobby. Letting them to think whatever they want and didn't give any interest on their opinion is good, we don't need to stress ourselves with other peoples opinion, what we should think is how we become comfortable with our hobbies.

Beginning from your second paragraph, critics indirectly seek for information where there are not. Personally, have seen people who criticized some habits in the past but are now a part of the habit. A new gambler can criticize an addict, not knowing he could get addicted soon. Who knew he'd become a gambler. It's all a matter of environment and fun activities. Same way those critics wouldn't understand that they can become gamblers in future. Hence, getting hold of such critics to realize that their thoughts about gambling is completely wrong is a nice reminder.

Those few words of conversation would be cemented in his brain. Such that, in future, eventually, when he becomes a gambler, those words will guide him. One side of the publicity is in decline. That's why most people in the society accept that gambling is completely wrong. Helping them redirect such thoughts will help the person to see gambling differently. And such complaints on criticism and stigmatism will be reduced. How you know this is that everyone around you who is a non gambler will argue that gambling has no health benefit.

Interesting message.
It doesn’t matter to me what people think about my hobby, be it gambling or something else. Everyone has free will and the right to choose what they see fit, unless prohibited by law. Another thing is that you need to have wisdom and watching your bets is not always appropriate. I mean situations when, for example, you are at work or on a date or in a company on a holiday, this can be considered disrespect and bad manners. And regarding people’s opinions, everyone has the right to think about me and everyone else what they see fit

I think if you're hearing mostly bad things like you here the common impression of people to the gamblers, it's best to ignore them.

That's probably why I think it's best to ignore them but we can't avoid not to listen to them if we're in the same situation as OP that we're someone beside us and sees what we do.

If they say something good and it passes our ear then it's your thought to build in your mind whether you'd ignore or not. But for me, I'd just do my business and will totally ignore them if they're just reacting to what I do when I don't do it to others.

Anyway, you're right that sometimes we're also like them but we just don't voice it out.

My take on it is pretty straightforward, if it’s someone close to me their opinions do matter and usually these concerns can be addressed through an open and honest conversation. However, if it’s just an acquaintance or someone I dont have a strong connection with their opinion doesnt really affect me. This approach isnt just limited to gambling but applies to pretty much all aspects of my life.

At the end of the day what matters most is how you see yourself and not letting others perceptions cloud your own enjoyment or self image.

Sometime we need to consider what other's say about us because maybe there can be a good point that we can take from them.
Of course we have our own way to react to what other's say about us, but I think ignoring them completely is also not good unless it comes from someone that we know to be someone who have no good intention at all.
We should not be a hypocrite as well because we may also do the same as them unconsciously because it is like a human nature when we (people) like to talk about others LOL.

For me I don't care about what people say about me gambling, it's my money and my time so if you decide to ge mad at me or thinking that I'm wasting my career with gambling, my dear I don't care all i know is that i benefit from it so i don't give a dem of them. When I was at my teenage years I love football so much every day of my life i come back later from school, why because we do play football when school is over. But my mom was very angry at me that I'm wasting my time playing football instead of me to come and support her with her house chores. She stopped me of playing football because she said too much of loving football would lead to gambling later in my life. Because that's how my elder brother did,  but I see no evil thing with gambling but just that people over use something. For me I don't see why somebody would tell me that I'm going the wrong way because I'm gambling. I know I do lose but I don't really care about that I know what I'm earning for.

Understand that most people see gambling as a root of distraction in life and some people see it as if you're wasting your money gambling. I've also seen someone who gambled and build his on house with gambling.

In my phone right now I've so many betting sites is not that I don't have something doing. I do work but I use the gambling to support my self when I haven't received my payment at work, but their are people who don't do anything for work but what they do with their life is gambling. And this are the set of people who makes gambling seems insane and this set people will leave there home from morning before they'll come back home it's in the night, so is not that gambling is legal no it's not. But those people who are addicted to it makes it seems legal to those who don't know anything about gambling but they only had of it as a destiny distriction, I've a relative who does nothing for work he's life he as been gambling his wife keeps complaining to me about him. But she doesn't know I do gamble as well but his own was so much obvious that even his kids do complain of him.

But he doesn't care of what they say about him gambling because he wins more then loses. He's serious with it his prediction no day of his life that he plays a bet that he doesn't win a game, not that he doesn't lose he does lose but he knows it's a game of strategy and risky you most lose before winning occurs. So he's the one that thought me more about gambling that's why today I do gamble but I'm not sure if I'm addicted to it, so whoever thinks that gambling is a no go area then let it be to his self not condemning others who do gambles.

Yes but however it is a fact that most people have a negative perspective on gambling which makes them have a negative perspective on people who are involved in gambling so that criticism appears, I don't know what the problem is but what is certain is that society only sees as a whole about the bad behavior of a gambler who has entered the addiction phase, even though basically for example you are not one of the addicted gamblers but still people will not believe it.

On the other hand I don't know whether what you said is true or not about those who like to criticize actually want to be involved in gambling or not, but certainly one of the reasons they criticize others who are involved in gambling is because they really think that gambling is an activity that is prohibited or that must be avoided and with this then I think it is unlikely that they want to get involved. At the end of the day yes obviously whoever you are if you are involved in gambling then yes there might always be some people who criticize but as I said earlier that we don't need to care too much about it and one of my suggestions is that you better keep your gambling habits a secret to avoid the criticism and the other thing is always listen and apply some of the best advice from people to implement many precautions so that we can avoid the possibility of addiction.

Well it's just like trying to make certain decisions in life,we all know that the society had a huge effect on us in the sense that when we do good and bad there must be some group of people that will usually reckon you for what you've done and it's not like they hate or something but are trying to look out for the good in us but in the other hand their are some that don't mind what you do or experience but with this now it has a way to clearly prove to us that what this people says matters or not.

But  in the aspect of gambling people's opinions matters most times I would say probably if your an addicted gamblers ,but if you're a responsible gambler it doesn't change a fact about you to be bothered about what  people say.

We understand and respect your culture and beliefs when it comes to participating in gambling. I will go ahead with the others, we don't need to discuss this anymore because we know that there are countries that strictly prohibit gambling, even crypto is illegal in them but of course because we are in the modern age now, let's admit it Whether we like it or not, there are many people who belong to their group who secretly hear about or participate in this kind of work. How did I say? Because many people already know and sometimes they even gamble vulgarly even though we know it is forbidden in their culture, seems like they doesn't care anymore what other people may say to them.

I think a relationship should be based on basic understanding and trust in one another, each partner should know and understand what the other partner likes to do and they should be allowed to do that as long as it is not harming anyone or the relationship. When there are restrictions, no trust, no understanding, that is when such things start to happen where one partner starts hiding their activities from the other which is unethical but what can be done.

I agree with you that each person should have their social life and they should be allowed for it. If you are not an addicted gambler or don't spend excessive money and time on it, your partner should have no problem with it because being too controlling and bossy can bring distances in a relationship in my opinion.

Since gambling is legally punishable in our country and has the potential to be socially disgraceful, we cannot participate openly to maintain our social self-respect. Also in our country we don't usually participate in open gambling because a gambler doesn't want to have good social relations with an addict. Moreover no other family wants to be on good terms with the family of a gambler especially a respectable good man will never feel comfortable moving with a gambling addict. Many times a gambler is socially disrespected and banned from important events. Especially since gambling is completely prohibited in our native culture and law, we cannot participate in gambling.

As awkward as it may seem to some people, gambling activities of most gamblers can actually be affected or influenced by people around them. Most times when a gambler is in the midst of gambling haters, they often try to conceal their frequency during gambling activities however this doesn't appear to be the case where a gambler is in the midst of fellow gambling lovers.
The idea of making ones gambling activities less public is actually made more effective and easy via online gambling. Though some people prefer the physical and traditional gambling methods and casinos, online gambling is definitely more advantageous in terms of flexibility especially for people who usually have little spare time.

There are times that we're in good mood and upon hearing some of those people, they're irritating and even if you don't want to get stressed out by them.

You have to do something for them to stop doing that because it's likely that it's not the first time that they're doing that kind of gossiping of what others are doing and then, having some feedback that's unnecessary and odd and they'll make you hear it out.

I don't think that it's criticism, someone who just happen to see you gamble and yet they've got some reactions and feedback that are unnecessary.

They criticize you if they have seen you do something wrong and you're harming other people but no you don't. There are people that just want to get into the lives of others without even thinking to fix their lives first.

Anyone who gambles has their own reason for gambling, which still depends on their own way of life. So I see no reason why you will have to hide what you are doing with your life because no one is in a position to stop you from doing what you do as a source of life and survival. That is why you are a human being, so even if you are a gambler and you think some of the people around you look at you in a negative way, you just have to reduce or cut off entirely with them; if not, they will not allow you to concentrate. But if you keep staying with them, their actions toward you will start making you insecure, and you might get some health issues that will affect you. If you feel like you cannot do without them, then you just have to choose between your own life and other people's lives. That is just the truth because you can never certify people in this life.

people who does not participate in gambling do not think the way you are thinking so basically if they are making mockery at you I believe that they might directly or indirectly discourage you not to participate in gambling that is why even for the environment you find yourself you need to make sure that you protect yourself and to also not to review yourself to people concerning your activity in the gambling but myself I believe that Keeping a Secret in gambling matters a lot so as a new Gambler or old gambler you don't need to be open every time in gambling people that you know that criticize you