Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 24. (Read 4700 times)

sometimes other people can give us valuable advice but most of the times we know deep inside what we really want and should just follow our deepest desires, with some kind of sense of course
with rationality too not just heart but you get what I mean

luck may help us but we can't rely just in lucky to make our decisions otherwise we'll be doomed to fail.

The addicted players are the reason for the society's bad publicity on gambling, which happened to have affected the thoughts of many gamblers around the globe. Whenever, in the midst of nongamblers, what they say about gambling doesn't sound right. Because they've encountered some addicted players who caused their family trouble. These thoughts or complaints from such people is not meant to bother a stable gambler, they are only having fun through gambling. People must generalize in their words against gamblers, due to the fact that they'll hard invest time to research for more truth regarding responsible and compulsive gamblers. Such things on derails their conversation to a point where nothing meaningful come out from their mouth, other than hate speech. Due to critics, some gamblers prefer to hide their habit, and don't discuss it with close friends.

As they may not like the stigma that'll be placed on them by the society. Even the addicted players don't open up due to same stigma. The society need to advance more to a better thinking level where people don't just deduce to a false information. It affects most gamblers, but I wouldn't see myself being carried away by what they'll have to say about me as a gambler. It only unveils an opportunity to go into discussion with them and share more insights with them about where they're getting things wrong. I know some of the nongamblers, would learn from a gambler if the gambler is responsible and is ready tell them about gambling. And maintaining a strict rule on why the nongambler should not join gambling without doing prior research. To avoid being blamed on the long run.

What causes you to hesitate if a stranger advises you with better intentions? I think there's no harm in us following and respecting them too, after all this is for the good of our lives, things are different if we and a stranger are at the same table, maybe he wants us to stop playing and he has a goal, if he just looks and advises that we really appreciate it, even other people care about us

Ultimately no as the opinion is heavily swayed by whether you win or not.  What a person does with their own money is really upto them, I tend to think alot of things are a total waste of money and amounts to nil by day end but people do it anyway because it makes them happy so its worth it to them and generally its not for criticism.   Problem with gambling is the money aspect, its famous for people losing more then they can afford hence opening yourself up to criticism which is hard to refute as if you cant afford it then you dont do it and that to is universal and fair enough.

If indeed some advice like that comes from other people especially people we don't know at all then yes maybe we can put a little doubt and after all we won't be able to trust too much with people who are not too close to us to follow some of the advice they give, but if indeed some of the advice comes from one of the closest people, whether it's a true friend, relative or one of the family members then obviously there is something that does lead to the good they want, and that means they care about us and obviously we should be able to put a little time to at least consider and think about the advice they give.

Actually all the advice that comes is usually more directed towards a better change, but yes like us as humans must have a percentage of trust in everyone and as you said if indeed those who give advice are strangers who we don't even know at all then it is only natural that we have doubts about the advice they give even though basically there are also some that lead to goodness.

I listen if someone has something to say, but at this point in life i already know what i am doing and i have hard time seeing a situation, when someone says something to me about my gambling, that i haven't thought before.

But interestingly enough, gambling is one of those topics where everyone has an opinion. Even if they don't have opinion ready, they feel like they need to form an opinion and some kind of anecdote of it. Even if they don't gamble. So i always take every opinion with a grain of salt, as they are most likely just thinking out loud, trying to form any coherent opinions and tell a horror or success story if they have heard one. Most of the time none of these advices are not worth anything. Good advices i've heard from ex hardcore gamblers. One of them is: keep a budget for it, and never go over it.

Indeed, the words of those who are close to us, such as friends, spouses, or family members, can carry considerable weight. The emotional connection and concern from loved ones often play a crucial role in motivating people to address their gambling addiction. Family and friends, being intimately involved in people's life, have a unique ability to convey genuine concern and support. In some cases, the realization of the impact of gambling on relationships, leading to family problems or divorce, becomes a pivotal moment for people to reevaluate their priorities.

The journey to recovery from gambling addiction often involves a combination of personal determination and external support. The words and actions of those who are close can serve as a catalyst for positive change. It shows the significance of maintaining open communication and fostering a supportive environment for individuals struggling with addiction. The interconnectedness of personal relationships and the recovery process emphasize the crucial role that understanding and support from loved ones can play in overcoming gambling addiction.

Its funny how one and the same people post here that they dont care what other say about them gambling, and parallel they post in “keep gambling in secret” topic and “never gamble in front of kids” such a double standarts  

If you dont care much about others, then why you hide that you gamble? If youare so “Mr. I-dont-care” then why you talk about addiction?

Many people get sensitive on the words of the other people,but it’s quit not important one.Because we know the importance of the words of the people who are very close to us and the random people in our life.The gambling addicted person itself give importance to the people who are very close to them,because they never bother to the words of the person who they not consider such people as important to their life.

Many gambling addicted people was recovered only by the words of their closed one,mostly their friends or wife or mother of their own family.Some of the gamblers quit because of their family problems occur due the gambling addiction and most of them are divorce cases.

I dont know on why there are people who are really that much too mindful about other peoples saying or really that much too sensitive on what they would really be doing into others which
they dont really have the rights on what we should gonna do with our money and its none of their business on what are the things that we do gonna do because they hadnt been affected
on what we are doing and besides its out money. Then why would you making yourself that be scared on what would be they saying?

It would really be always best that you should really be just that do on the things on what you are interested into. Dont mind other peoples sayings and
their comments because it wont really be doing something good for you.

you can only get a genuine piece of advice or true concern from your loved ones and real friends. thus, if you receive such concern, better seriously consider it. because they are after for your welfare and not because they want something else from you. treasure those people who really do care for your well-being. as they want only the best for you and not because they are seeing something they can get out from you.

but for other people especially strangers, and commenting about your gambling habits, i guess, that's overboard and they are only seeing the surface. they don't know you as a person, so they only judge for what they are seeing.


so long it is your money, and you are not disturbing anyone under any circumstance, they don't have to nag you about your gambling activities. just mind your own business and live what you think is right for you.

You are absolutely right, no matter who says what. My games do not affect others in any way, so I don’t worry about what they will think or say. Since this is just a pastime, I don’t see anything wrong with it, my friends and I bet on sporting events which makes watching matches much more interesting. Another thing is antisocial players who stand at slot machines and beg for change for games, or those players who are addicted can bring discomfort to others, which in turn causes dissatisfaction and condemnation of gambling in general.

Exactly, this is the main point, you can reach a conclusion from some advice that often comes to you, I understand that maybe not everyone will think like you when getting some advice or input from other people or people closest to them, because there are also those who really think that all this is a nuisance for them, but if we try to reconsider it again with common sense and rationally the fact is that their advice is the best thing to do.

Especially if it is the advice of a relative or family member because obviously they must be very concerned about your safety and have concerns that maybe if they don't advise you then you will become one of the addicted gamblers along with experiencing the bad effects of addiction. So the point is that we should really be able to consider first about any advice that comes before finally deciding, and also to minimize regret at the end when we feel that what they said before was right.

I would appreciate my friends, relatives or relatives warning me about gambling, because I know they care about me and they don't want me to fall into gambling. For me, advice like this makes us realize that we should not be involved in gambling games. Maybe they are advising us because they see many gamblers whose lives have been ruined

The gambler's point of view and the spectator's point of view will certainly be different. For the audience, gambling is a stupid thing that is pointless because it only costs money without clear results. And that's not wrong. On the other hand, gamblers will claim that gambling can also provide them with income which they think is enough to support their needs and even buy luxury goods.

To be honest, I don't care about the audience's arguments, because there's no point in explaining the positive side of gambling. The stereotype of gamblers being bad has been around for a long time before online gambling existed. So let them argue whatever they want, because honestly it won't have any effect on your game at the gambling table.

Gambling is considered as a negative activity to do as there's a high chance of losing money, and that is the norms that people know about. It is already expected that people have always something to say it's either they care for you or just want to feel better for themselves by just simply saying that your habit can ruin your life. I agree that if you know to yourself that you are a responsible gambler, then there's nothing to worry about what people say because you to yourself know that you can manage the risk of gambling where it can reduce the possibility of addiction, financial issues, health, etc. Thing would be different if you are already married or have a family cause you need to hear their concerns.

Yes, that's true because by living in a country where gambling is legal, we can relax in discussing gambling and don't need to be afraid of the law. But it would be different if we lived in a country where gambling was prohibited. Maybe we will not freely talk about gambling and will choose quiet places or at home to talk about gambling. And for people who often talk about us or the gambling we do, we don't need to listen to them and choose to go away and leave them because we have nothing to do with them. And as long as we don't disturb the people around us and they are okay with the gambling activities we do, that means they can accept us regardless of whether we gamble or not. Each person can determine their choice to gamble or prefer to do other things, which is their wish. They can talk about us, and as long as we are not disturbed, we just let what they say about us.

As long as you know yourself why you are into this gambling activity, there's no reason to be guilty of.
Because people will always have something to say, no matter what. So if you are confident about yourself, then there's nothing to worry of.
Worry if you are loaning the money and spending your basic needs, and you have no financial back-up where you will end up destitute.
So in this particular subject, so long you are not bothering anyone because of your gambling activities, there's nothing to be concerned about.

Caring over what people have to say won't make any changes in the life of a gambler. We have unique priorities and should respect our motives of gambling. Hearsays is not in any way the reason why I started gambling. So, pondering about the reactions of people around us is a personal decision. Not everyone is independent enough to bypass the wordings of his close friends or family. Those thoughts seem annoying and is able to affect one's attitude. I wouldn't recommend that any gambler gets obsessed by what other non-gamblers has to say about gambling. Its certain no-good words would come out of their mouth. Because they've got no knowledge about gambling. And don't bother asking their acquittances who gamble to explain gambling to their understanding.

They rely on what is said around the society and speak in that sense. Which is wrong for anybody to say things without having done any research. I think the gambler would have himself to blame if he's adhering to the words of those who know little or nothing about gambling. It's like downgrading years of gambling research for the advice of a layman. Being a responsible gamble gets questioned by such people, that thinks every gambler is compulsive. The right thing is minding our business and stay strong not to get carried away by other people's lifestyle. As running back and forth over the thoughts of people on us, can be distracting and affect us mentally. If not for anything, gamblers deserve a cool and relaxed mental health.

Why that person sounded like that is that he is aware of irresponsible gamblers and addiction that's accompanied with gambling, I don't blame him much because some person has made ridicule of themselves because of their involvement in gambling, but in real he doesn't know that people can be responsible while gambling to, he reacted that way because the incident that he saw that took place is making him to have the mindset that anyone involved in gambling might end up being useless, if you look at it from the other side too, gambling has rendered many people useless because of the excessive individuals involvement in it, I know that the guy in question has no right to intrude but he acted based his little exposure and experience of an event relating to gambling.