Topic: Gambling by financial dependents. - page 30. (Read 4204 times)

I'm sorry though, but if this is just the beginning of his career in gambling, then I don't believed that he will be responsible enough not to get addicted to it. Specially that if he is winning and think that it will continue that way.

The best advise for this young boy is to really let him know the dangers of gamble. For me what he answers is just a defense mechanism. But it seems that he could really turn out to be a gambling addict in the future unless you really as a uncle will have to step up and give him the life lessons that a gambling can bring to him.

You're not a responsible gambler if you are using your parent's money to gamble, his mother is right in insisting that he stop gambling, because it's not easy to make money nowadays and he is still studying and gambling is such a big distraction even if his grades are good.
I will advise him that he can have all the time to gamble and the money he can spend to gamble that is after he graduated and earns his own money but while he is still under his parents he should respect and obey his parents by stopping and just focus on his study and make his parents proud.

What if he's destined to be the next professional poker player or something? Don't try to put everyone in the same basket and operate on extremes, like people who say that you got to have a family or you'll never learn to be responsible, or that all people who have fast cars end up in accidents and drive irresponsibly, or that you shouldn't own a firearm because you'll end up killing someone. These are extremes.

I'd ask the kid if he's ever going into debt over it, what is his win rate, is he making money or losing it all the time. If he's good he should pursue this and maybe get into some tournaments, or get a job in the casino. It's not a bad industry to be in. He could have chosen much worse.

Tell him to get a job and stop depending on his mommy for money. If he is independent, then he can do whatever he wants with his money. He also needs to be responsible if he chooses that route as he can easily lose the money for his bills and such and be out of school and homeless fast.

The boy should try making his own money first in other for him to stop receiving all those embarrassment from his parent, because as long as his feeding, his transportation fares and every essential needs which he needs to foot the bills including school bills is coming from the parent, they will never stop calling him names and they will never believe most of the things that he is saying including some sort of bills that might arise from school they might think they are all made up in other for him to get some money that he can gamble with.

I really understand where the mother is coming from, as it's not easy to be spending money on a child, and yet it turns out that the child is wasting the money some where else (even when they are not apparently doing that) especially in this hard economy.

If the boy can't be able to at least be raising a personal money for himself he should try as much as he can to avoid his mother noticing his gambling activities or he should just stop it entirely for the main time, as it might even get to the point that the mum might reduce the allowance that's being given to him on weekly basis, in other for him not to have some left overs that could be use for gambling.  

Since he is already eighteen years old and now on his legal age, we can no longer tell him what and what not to do. But it does not mean that we will just let him alone for he still need guidance of those who are more experienced than him. I think the best way that we can do about it is to make him realize the consequences the moment when he enters the world of gambling. At the end of the day, it's still his decisions but at least we did our part as a parent. Or we can tell him that he is still young, and there are lots of things that he can do other than gambling.

My advice to the young boy is that he should not gamble. He should quit now. He can start gambling when he is the one providing his own shelter and making his own money. This is the only time he should gamble. Gambling while not having any responsibility is very dangerous, it will make him believe that money comes easy.

My advice to his mother is that she should keep talking to him about the dangers of gambling at that young age, under her roof and with her money. She should take him to gamblers' meeting for him to sit through and hear the horror stories of others who gambled away their life, career, relationships and finances.

My advice to the boy would be to learn how to manage his funds correctly especially in this very crucial stage.

If ever he does win in gambling, he must use those funds and recycle them as his new capital in the event he decides to gamble again. In addition, if he needs to manage his finances when it comes to expenditures given that our initial reaction to a "loss" is to recover them quickly by gambling again. As long as he knows his limits, then he must faithfully adhere to his promise.

Gambling is a very difficult act to control due to its very nature. As someone who is as young as 18 years old, he needs guidance and direction in order to avoid all the pitfalls that majority of the people experienced.

Advice for him is to stop gambling, even though he is at the age that is allowed in the country to be involved in gambling and he says he is a responsible gambler, but still he is still too young and if he is at a very young age already involved in gambling will there is a tendency that he will become addicted because at that age it is difficult to control himself, and the money he will earn from work will only be spent on gambling so that his future is not good.
What is better in my opinion is to engage in gambling when our finances are stable enough, and have several sources of income and make gambling as a normal activity not to earn money.
So what his mother expects is true, and the young man can gamble when he is no longer the responsibility of his parents meaning he has his own life, have a steady income, have a house and other assets.

His mother is probably just overreacting. If there is no evidence that her son is stealing her money, there is no reason to accuse him based solely on his side activities. If he enjoys the occasional gamble (provided it is within his financial means), then so be it. Even students who are working hard on their education need a break and some activities just for fun. By the way, how are his studies progressing? If there is no significant drop in his study results, there is no reason to worry. Someone who is addicted to gambling certainly cannot be a good student at the same time.

A tad bit too early, but I guess I was the same really. I started gambling when I was in late high school, nothing too big or even official really. If you've seen a few of my past history, I started gambling in high school with my friends, but it never went outside of that. If he can manage his spending, and if his mother is actually going to help with that instead of actively just stopping it, then I reckon everything should be fine. If they have conflicting opinions and never meet in the middle though, it might create a rift between the two.

Well it's quite understandable why the mother really wants him to stop the habits gambling is not something you would want your son doing especially if he is still solely dependant on your earnings to survive because there are obviously going to be sometimes he would be tempted to do the extraordinary just to gamble especially if he feels he need some cash from his gambling habits .

We know that when a person is under 18 years of age he is a minor and should never register on any casino platform to gamble. Since your nephew is a teenager he probably has gambling money for which he gambles constantly. But his father may see that gambling money and think that his son is gambling with his hard earned money but the matter is different. Since the gambler has become good at winning bets, he may have made a lot of money to make a better bet than that. If your nephew's father suspects his son of stealing money and gambling with it, I think it's very suspicious.  So he has to refrain from gambling so that his father does not suspect him and he does not become more addicted to gambling. As the boy is not yet 18 years of age a student so he should refrain from gambling at this age or else he will face a lot of harm in future. So he should never be allowed to gamble instead he should focus on studies and it would be better if he can gamble in future when he becomes a responsible gambler.

Even if the age to allow someone to gamble is 18 I will advise him to stop gambling until such time that he can sustain his gambling activity, the young man is still dependent on his parents, it's his parents' money so he should respect his supporters by refraining to gamble, it's irresponsible to use someone's money, especially coming from your parents.

In the first place, your parents did not give you money to gamble it's your allowance until the time that you can sustain yourself and had a decent job he should stop and focus more on his study.

While its early its better to discipline his child towards this activity. Proper advice is really needed so that he will not go on a situation where she feared to happen.
If his son insist not to stop then she need to show some dominance so that his child would respect him. Cut off all means of connection where he can access gambling and she should put some not so heavy punishment like cutting off his allowance if he's seen to gamble so that he can remember something to scare off and decide to stop gambling.

In a problem like this I think it is very possible, we must remember that this is gambling where someone especially who has experienced addiction he will move under his subconscious and do it based on his lust. And as we are discussing this that he is still a minor and is still very dependent on his parents regarding various needs including in terms of finance, so if he wants to gamble but does not have money then in my opinion it is very likely that he will steal money from people around him such as his closest family. Children who are still underage are still very vulnerable to any temptation that comes to them, they have high curiosity and always want to try new things, if gambling comes to them and they are interested then this is very dangerous. That's right, the only solution that can be done in my opinion is restrictions that must be very strict from both parents, tell him slowly and limit all access that allows him to do gambling such as cellphones or whatever it is. Nowadays gambling is very easy to access and I hope all parents realize this for the good of their own children.


That might be true, I mean he might be right that he didn't steal from his mom for gambling capital. But on the other hand you also have to be more suspicious of him, if you have gambled or know about some cases of people who are stressed because of gambling then I think you will find out more about the real truth. It could be that someone is saying no just to cover things up, it's very possible. I am an active gambler and I really feel some conditions in gambling including when you really want to gamble but don't have money, I really believe that if the parents continue to let it go then one day maybe the child will do things that are out of bounds, borrowing money from his colleagues to gamble is very possible and to steal it is also possible if he has lost his way. I honestly agree with what his mother did, I'm sure she's a good mother and really cares about what's best for her son. For now maybe he is still a beginner in gambling but believe me if it is allowed then someday bad things can happen, and I think this is what is in his mother's mind so insist on prohibiting it.

He may be a responsible gambler but you might observe him more closely by interacting with him more so you will know what type of person he is. By interacting more frequently and closely, you can also see his habits and maybe you can invite or ask him to build a new habit where he doesn't hold his cell phone or is in front of his laptop or computer so he doesn't focus on his device.

He is still young and anything can happen, especially if he has started gambling at such a young age. If it is not stopped immediately, over time he can become a gambling addict and you already know what the consequences will be if someone has become a gambling addict. Indeed, the gambling age in your country is 18+, but it would be better if he was not familiar with gambling and did not play gambling so that he would not get into trouble from gambling.

That’s the problem with gambling people often think gamblers will always end up stealing though there have been many cases of people who steal so they can gamble so it is good that mother have shown concern from this early stage before things get out of hand. Young people are easy to talk to so i think OP you should talk to him and teach him a lot about gambling especially how to always bet responsibly and how to manage his earnings into gambling since you have knowledge about it and also you are the best person that can convince him easily because his mother might use a different approach which may even worsen the situation.



We can’t be so sure about all he said because if i was in shoes also I wouldn’t admit i stole anything and I won’t admit that i gamble recklessly. Let’s just hope it’s not too late for him because he is at the stage of going through all this and i feel no matter how you try to make him quit gambling if he doesn’t want to do it willingly he will still come back it one day. Gambling is not a bad thing if you can control yourself and maintain a good gambling habit so I believe this is now up to you as the elderly one to make him grow into a responsible gambler. He is lucky to have you around to impact to him all what you have learned here because most of young gamblers on the street lack proper knowledge about gambling addiction that’s why they all end up as an addict and have no knowledge about how to manage their finances into gambling and so they end up losing so much while gambling.

It is difficult to stop gambling for someone who has started it, even if he gambles just to enjoy the game, over time he will continue to do so.  Especially when the desire arises to play but don't have money, he will do everything he can.  He will take his mother's money secretly even though he intends to return it because he hopes to win at gambling

A person cannot be forced to stop gambling unless he has other activities and limits himself to hanging out with friends who often gamble.  Apart from that, his mother also had to be more careful in saving the money she had because she already knew that her child was involved in gambling games.

You are correct, he might be lying just to make me believe him. Maybe I will have to asked his friend and if possible check his account. But I fear that he might become a secret gambler and hide his experience from everybody. If he finds out that we are investigating his activities, he might end up not trusting anybody. When he trusts nobody, he will not open up when he is facing some problems. I think he needs to have someone that can advise him.


She was just expressing her fears which gave rise to suspicion. She only told me and never accused her son of stealing. Sometimes we use money and don't remember we have spent it. But when we suspect someone, we might think something else. I also don't think it is a genuine reason to have an issue with your mum. I have been accused severally by my mum of several things I never did. Mothers are naturally suspicious.