Topic: Have you ever had the feeling that someone is controlling your life? (Read 1434 times)

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You have such a lighthearted attitude about it. If it is a mutual agreement, then I think it can be fine. If you feel like you want him to always know what you're doing and you're happy doing that, then I don't think there's anything wrong with that. The problem is when you have no freedom. If your boyfriend is always asking you what your doing as if he's suspicious of you, that is not good. If you have to ask permission and your boyfriend forbids you from doing things, that's not a healthy relationship. The important thing is that you feel comfortable and happy.

yes i felt this way, like i am destiny's puppet.

Once, when I was deeply in love but the person I loved didn't feel the same towards me.

Never and never want to

Yup. Pretty much the whole school and college time. Greate i`m working now and... Waaaaaite a minute...

I'm happy because all you want to do you do not prohibit stalking you

No. I never had such weird feelings.

At least you no longer together. I know it hurts when you think of your past, but it will not be forever. Your past makes you stronger than ever. It is hard to ease the pain. Just pray to God to help you release the pain you are suffering right now.

I've had a relationship like that. When love blinds my eyes and mind at that time, everything I will do must be known and must be through the agreement of my partner at that time. I think I can only follow all orders from him under the pretext of love. But apparently that is something very wrong.

I have been very luckily to not experience this. I think I may have come close in the past though. I am more of the kind of person that could be interpreted as controlling. I like to have completely open relationships. This means that I tell my partner everything. In turn, I expect the same from my partner. I don't actually want to control what my partner does, but I'd like to know what she does. I think it can be a fine line between this approach and being controlling. I hope you can get over that feeling soon!

I always have this self-realization that I may not have any control over what happens in my life but i always have complete control over the choices i make. I always have a choice. My future is always in question and my life is at constant peril of spiraling out of control. This is why I must find ways to take responsibility, grow wiser, and orient myself to this activity called life. If you're friends are asking your whereabouts it's because they care for you. It's not that they want to take control over your life. If someone is making his/her move to make you feel better, try to be a little bit cynical and weigh things out so that you can tell if that person is sincere with his/her intention. If you can sense that s/he is, open up, break some walls and create some bridges that'll connect the both of you. You should stop worrying with their simple questions. Calm down and be strong for yourself. Yes, easier said than done, but it doesn't mean that it's impossible.

Guys, ladies are far less evil. When I enter a supermarket I faint of all these prices 
This greedy system totally controls my life

Yes! Like falling crazily in love with a girl. You would do anything just to please her. I once fell in love with a girl and I had to change my style of dressing just to suit her likes. I had to like the things she liked even if I used to have no interest in such things. It felt like my life is being controlled by a lady. Love can be a poison sometimes

Growing up in a broken family makes me more independent to others. I learned to do everything on my own. Maybe that's the reason why I won't let anyone control my life, my decisions. I know I'm not good in making decision in a short time but if I were given enough time to think, I can have the best decisions of my life. Also as an achiever in my academic endeavor, my family has a lot of trust on me that I would choose wisely in every decision that I will make. They are certain that I would think for the good of my own and for them. That's why I never had the feeling of someone is controlling my life. I wasn't living like it is the last day of my life but because I do my decisions with right sense of responsibility.

Luckily I don't have the feeling that someone is controlling my life. I know a lot of people who are controlled by their past, sad and fearful memories from their past. But even if I had some hard moments in my life (and I know that everyone had hard times), God helped me overcome them and continue living a new and free life

I do. Even though not purposely controlling me but by simply allowing the person to be in my life creates boundaries in my life. Even with out the person knowing it, the result being him in my life is causing me to be limited, bound and that is only coming from my own thought and not really from the person. 

Unlike most people I feel it's a privilege that can be presented to someone you love but not at the expense of feeling exploited,controlled or bogged down. There is general trend in human behaviour initially they long for proximity, then as relationship grows they start carving for space as they think they are being controlled by the other person in their mind. Few people may like to ask their loved ones for all the choices they choose it may be just part of their habit of sharing. However to see as oneself as a victim or to label the one who helps you in choosing what migh be good or bad as control freak is absurd. When we allow someone to do control us we could either trust them for life or accept that we are incapable of deciding for ourselves or it's our own choice. It's who we choose, it's who we decide.

On the surface it looks like I am controlling my life, but there are a lot of layers to that.

After you become an adult, you can for all practical purposes, do what you want to do, go where you want to go, and there is usually a great exhilaration about this.  But probably 75% of one's so called destiny will be determined by back ground, family, education, society,  culture, and most of all, one's beliefs at a deep level.

I was the black sheep of my family so I like to believe I broke away from so many limiting beliefs my family had.  I got out as soon as possible, 17, and went to college, had a career and traveled the world. And I did have a much different life than my family.
But...As they say, "No matter where you go, there you are."

How controlled am I by my beliefs, which in turn get projected on to other people,? So it may seem sometimes,  that other people do have control over my life and the quality of my life.  For example bosses, relationships, friends, etc.  What we truly believe at a core level seems to follow us around and mysteriously create our day to day world.

And then, one day, just out of fun, you might think...who is controlling the government and who is controlling the world?  And how does that relate to our beliefs?

We are definitely controlled by many things, which sometimes may be people we know, or society in general. But our biggest opportunity to change our world comes from  our own thoughts and beliefs.  Traveling helps a lot, and seeing how other cultures, live, think and view things,  is the best education in the world. I like realizing that this life is much more fluid than we think it is. It can go in any direction we want, if we put our mind to it.

Thanks for this great topic.

All of us have ghost haunting us from the past --- and that includes the feeling that someone is controlling your life. Personally, I have already felt that someone's taking the ride of my own. They have been crossing beyond the lines to the point that thry are dictating what you should do and what you should not. Where to go and where to not. And whom you are going to be ang whom you are going to be not. And I believe that the ones controlling our lives is the society. Well, technically, we are controlled by the government because that is the nature of the institution, to maintain social control. However, the great factor in control is what we think the society thinks of us. We are always conforming to what is traditional and we are bounded by fear to do something what we really want. We are doing things for the sake of what the society dictates us to do.