Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 22. (Read 3840 times)

Not all addicted gambler can stoop so low to behavior like this, I think a 10 years old child cannot be this stupid. This is beyound gambling addict for real, just imagine the pains the lady is passing through and it takes a lot of braveness to come out in the public. I will advice the lady to leave the marriage because he might end up betting his house one day.
But sincerely speaking I don't think the man wants to marry the lady why? Sometimes when taking some certain actions you need to consider the consequences and if you have a wife or fiancée  that should be the more reason you need to be careful, now in this case he deicide to use his marriage money for gambling knowing fully well that betting is very risky 50/50, very risky and he went ahead using his marriage money. I think from the starting of the story he was never interested in that marriage, ladies nowadays will never support a man for wedding plans or savings except the lady loves the guy.

How does a person convinces themselves to do something so stupid as this that hearing it or reading it alone makes you sick to your stomach. How does somebody decides to throw away dear future 4 this. You don't need an elaborate wedding. You do not need to impress people. Your wedding doesn't need to be the talk of the town. See the extent to which he has made his addiction to drive him to do. His marriage is called off and relationships destroyed. Seek help.

The wedding plans are already ruined because using a whole lot of $5000 grand to stake in gambling, it means he's a very competitive gambler that's desperate to make money from the system, she should thoroughly go through his phone, he might turned out to be a addictive gambler. Saving up money with your partner and having no concerns of the activities he engaged in during his free time doesn't pull a big concern? She's at fault because it's her major duty to know the in and out of her fiancé, where he goes, what he does for a living, and most importantly, the places he visits to cool off. All these points given are important, tell me if she knew about that, she wouldn't have entrust the man of making joint-saving together.

This is the most recommendable thing to be done on which if he do really just simply put up his relationship on priority or importance then he wont really be that able to make such foolish decision yet we know that there are really other options on which we could really be able to take and not just only via doing gambling. Yes, it might really be taking up some little bit of time comparing to gambling which offers instant but we know the risks involved is never been that something that could really be denied or ignored. Once you do make out those bets then it would really be considered final and result could neither be just a win or lose and if you do lose up that one then it would really be a loss forever and this is something that wont really be just losing fiat money but also you would be losing your loved ones.

For sure that girl would really be that so unsure after this incident or moment on which its impossible that she wont really be making realizations on the things happening in front of her.
Spending up the money which is supposed to be used into your wedding but ended up on being gambled just for the sake of doubling it into fastest way?
You are really just that crazy if you do really ending up with that kind of option but well regrets do always happen in the end.

This is directed to the girl who made the post: I say leave the guy for better or for worse. The thing is that he's either really stupid with money, or he's just addicted to gambling, either way you won't want a partner like that for the rest of your life. Imagine being stupid enough to think that betting on a stupid game all your savings for a very important occasion, I can't and I won't cause I may have been greedy and belligerent in the past, but even I know that there's limits you need to uphold for yourself. These kinds of stuff are non-negotiables for me, you're going to stay with him for a very long time and he's already showing you what kind of person he really is when it comes to money. If you stick with this person you're going to struggle financially even if you make a million a month, trust me. But just imagine spending more than half of the 5 million, what in the actual hell.

If he wasn't willing to put all the wedding burden on her, he should have found another way to make that money grow, through a method which didn't involve gambling with her funds. Maybe he could just have done some extra jobs to raise money to help with the marriage expenses, but he took the easiest path to "double the money" instantly and I think there isn't an excuse for that bad decision. He didn't think on her and on the effort she had to do to contribute with 60% of the couple's savings.

It gives a real worrying sign of what kind of householder he will be, putting the finances of the family in danger with brainless decisions to reach unrealistic goals. Indeed, for her, it might be a good idea to give up this marriage idea... Unless the man shows he has learned with his mistake and repairs all the harm he did to their relationship.

I see a few users mentioning that calling off the wedding is too much, but to be honest, it wouldn't be. This is purely disrespectful to his wife and to them as a couple in general. How could you possibly gamble on all your wedding preparations? Why would someone with the right mind take such a risk, even if it was an attempt to double them? I don't think the husband wanted to lose the money either, nor that he had bad intentions, but this is a pure example of an addiction going too far and not accepting that you're having trouble controlling yourself, because if he did, he wouldn't have proceeded with such a bet.

Even by EU standards, the lost amount of money is still a significant one that cannot be saved on short notice. He's definitely not worth it if he's willing to take such risks. I can't imagine how his wife would have felt, not only for the lost money but because her soon-to-be husband is an addict with no self-control. Hopefully, she dodged a bullet and kicked him out of her life.

That’s really crazy to me. How will a man be so dump to do that kind of thing? Why will you gamble with wedding money that the girl struggles to save? That’s really heartbreaking, and I have pity on the girl, but the man is very annoying. How will you gamble with the money that’s meant for a wedding and you think you will win and increase the money? Gambling doesn't work like that because when gambling, you don’t know if you will be winning or losing. Everyone is always hoping for a win, but I notice loss is always higher than win when gambling. That’s why you have to be careful.
 
From my perspective, I think the man is an addicted gambler, and he wanted to take a risk, maybe he will be lucky, but unfortunately luck was not by his side. The girl wanted to cancel the wedding, which is what I think is the best thing to do. If the girl wants to continue with the money, where are they going to get money for the wedding after a man just wasted the money meant for the wedding?
 
Even if the wedding will be cancelled and maybe shifted to another time, the wife should reconsider it if she will be able to stay with the man after marriage or try to change the man from gambling. If the man is not ready to change, it’s better they don’t even get married because things might end up not going well after the wedding.

This is true as a lesson to take from this story. She doesn't know the would be husband because if she does then she wouldn't have allowed him to have access to the money not to talk of using $5,000 for gambling. It is an addict that is likely to take that as a chance because a new player would be scared of losing but an addict will see it as an opportunity that has been presented to him.

She doesn't know what character he could display and probably he has been hiding his gambling addiction away from her.

People in the gambling world have done some really dumb sh*t and these stories never stop to amuse...and unfortunately in this scenario I know for sure women can do anything for love and am not surprised that this lad used the money for his games, knowing very well that  he gave her a convincing reason to use the funds and will soon be replaced soon and not that he wants to use it for some high risk games and fun... Just hope this couple still made their wedding work with the hurdle at hand.

If people risk their life savings for high risk games then we should prepare for the waste, things like suicides, crime, scammers etc will be on the rise as people will try to survive in the name of gambling addiction pandemic!

With such an arising problem, what have these Casinos and sportsbooks done about this if I may ask because this is a serious issue!!

Well many news flying on social media and everyone wants to hop on the trending news. Right now the news about playing bet, gambling is trending that's the biggest news right now and this is another story wanting to get into the trend, let's assume this is  true but how can your husband he in a financial situation and you people have saved 5 million this is not practical and saving 5 million for a wedding if you have Any financial issue at all is not wise.
Regardless of if it's true or not playing gambling with funds meant for something else is a red flag for me and to me signifies how desperate or addicted the person is. Gambling should not be a do or die affair

That would seem very frustrating and sad even if the roles were switched around for the man instead of the woman.

But I agree that the husband-to-be actions in the story were not something that a regular person would even think of doing. A man like that is not worth marrying because it will end very poorly. He obviously has more than just red flags at this point, the guy himself is one giant walking red flag. He obviously has a gambling addiction so severe that he will make life hell for anyone around him.

But it also kind of sounds like the wife knew about his gambling problems and instead of trying to ween him off it, went along and may have even enabled him. So its hard to say who is at fault here.

It's a shame, and actually I also agree that a man like that is not worth keeping around, and I completely understand his feelings.
The woman must have been very disappointed and angry, but it all happened.
But it all depends on the woman's feelings for the man and if the woman still loves him very much and still wants to keep him, it doesn't matter because the relationship if they love each other will be strong in facing any problems. And in this case the woman must be firm with the man and if the man really loves her then he must immediately return the money as soon as possible. And if the man agrees then there is no harm in giving the man time, and if the man really loves him he will definitely try.
And if both agree, just ignore the failed plan, it wasn't actually a failure. However, God had other plans because actually this story happened a lot, only the story was different and in the end they still got married just because it wasn't the time yet.
And when it comes to gambling, it depends on the woman and whether she wants the man to stop gambling, and if so then the man must agree to it for the good of the relationship.

I have had to laugh out loud seeing the headline but on a second thought, this is not funny. This is nothing but a pure wickedness, a man that doesn't have a lovely heart, a man that doesn't care how others feel about him is the only person capable of this stunt. This is cheating and stealing because if really the lady contributed 60% and the man had the audacity to used the money to bet, common this is bad.

Another thing is that, the woman is having the desire to get married on time because she donateed more than half of the money, where I comes from even if the lady is the one trying to get married on time, the bill and responsibilities of the wedding lies on the man and not on the woman but here reverse is the case.

She better thanks the man foolishness for using the money to bet, because if in the end they get married, the marriage might not last, the man will gamble all the money in their saves and they will drag and drag eachother and later divorce. It's sad but better this way.

Simple rule; you have no rights to use someone else’s money no matter what reason you are having. Well, indeed if it won both would be somehow happy but the fact that the man took the risk using not only his money, is rude. Even if it won, things would still be not great to see. It is gambling he engaged himself with, meaning, he was ready to lose the money in the first place given that winning will never be certain. In all aspects I wouldn’t agree to the guy. He’s insensitive from doing so and might fall under addiction as well so he better consult and check himself if he really wants to change for the better. Nit because he has a part of that saving means that he has already a right to use the whole thing; just pure commonsense he is lacking.

It is quite sad when I see those who are even determined to use or allocate their marriage savings just to fulfill their temporary desires by gambling, if there are people who do things like this then I can't imagine how their level of addiction is, which is certainly a very severe gambling activity.

Therefore, it is important not to overdo gambling, do not be too serious in this activity because obviously this is only recommended for entertainment only without bringing any seriousness in terms of earning. In case you're in a situation where you're lucky then you'll be able to get the winnings you've always hoped for. And also yes there will definitely be quite a deep trauma that will be in the bride-to-be when she finds out that the budget for her wedding was used for gambling by her partner, I think with the growth rate of gambling getting worse in society, cases like this may not be rare anymore, and with that maybe this incident can be a lesson for them or other people who see this alarming condition so that they can also better control their gambling so as not to be too excessive and still keep their wedding savings. Well it's true that openness is also very important, I hope you don't cover everything to your partner especially about bad habits because of course it will be a big problem.

The lady is not deserving for that reckless Kind of man, he will do more worst in the future, this shows that he's not being transparent enough to his partner, for him to have use that kind of money for gambling is a disappointment to himself and the lady may not find a place in her heart to forgive him or let go, the man should be the one looking for money foe their wedding, but fir the lady doing so means he's an irresponsible man, yet he proved that by using the entire money for gambling.

Don't anybody see this yet that we are having a gambling addiction pandemic. And it is getting worse by the day.

This lady in the story would forever be scarred and traumatized for life. I wish one of the ways would cope is through a post traumatic growth of being a therapist to help other women whose partners -to-be or partners are addicted to gambling.

This story also brings to light the value of openness and honesty in every relationship. Be opened with your partner about everything and anything.

Stories like this pains me a lot and it is so sad to read.

Truly heart breaking. But in my opinion, there in the gambling discussion section, we have found even crazier and more heart breaking situations when compared to this one.
True, it is hard to see that much money you saved being gambled away by someone else, but it is worse to commit a crime, or try to kill someone for the sake of continuing to gamble. Remember the news we shared around here about how man tried to kidnap a younger family member so he could use the ransom to further gamble?  That is more serious, that is running ones life.

In the case, at worst, it is a ruined relationship and wedding.
The lesson here is to always be sure we know our partner and what they are capable of for the sake of money...

If she had really thought about canceling the wedding because the money was being used for gambling, maybe that would be better for her. What the man did was unreasonable because he had chosen the wrong path by using the money from his wedding to gamble. He should be very sorry for using his money to gamble and apologize to the woman. But I don't know if the woman will forgive the man even though she really loves him.

Perhaps it was a difficult decision for the woman to cancel her marriage, but she could not continue the marriage if she no longer had any money. However, perhaps the man would have returned to gambling again if they had remained married because he had already had the idea of using his money to gamble in the hope that he could double his money so that they could get money quickly. Everything now depends on the woman.