Let's focus on the positive in this situation. Although the girl may feel embarrassed, the fact that she is not yet married means she still has the opportunity to make the best decision for herself and find a man who truly deserves her.
To the man, it's important to realize you have lost a woman who loved you. Not all women are willing to fund a wedding unless they genuinely love their partner. Even if a woman loves her partner, she is not obligated to provide for the wedding expenses. You have wasted the opportunity to be with a woman who truly loved you to fuel your gambling addiction. This should be an example that the money allocated for important occasions, such as weddings, should be used wisely and not spent on gambling.
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The man is a big fool for thinking that he can double $5000 through gambling, he must be an addict that sees gambling as a means to make profit. If not after gambling with $1000 and lost the bet, he is suppose to stop gambling but instead he went ahead to gambling all his wedding funds.
He is a gambler and that is why he did it, if not his mind wouldn't go into using such important money that he has a little percent in it to gamble without looking back. I believe that the lady in question will quit the relationship, since she said that he hasn't been disgraced like that.
Poor woman that is doing everything possible to be wedded but it all ended up in vain. I have seen a marriage that was broken because of gambling addiction.
He is a gambler and that is why he did it, if not his mind wouldn't go into using such important money that he has a little percent in it to gamble without looking back. I believe that the lady in question will quit the relationship, since she said that he hasn't been disgraced like that.
Poor woman that is doing everything possible to be wedded but it all ended up in vain. I have seen a marriage that was broken because of gambling addiction.
It's obviously very wrong at what angle you look at it and I don't know what is the reason behind this man to take that risk to gamble the money suddenly that they have work hard to save just to have a great wedding. On the other hard, it's good that the girl has experience it before their actual wedding. I mean just imagine if they stay in one roof and suddenly he discovers that his husband is a gambling addict.
So she should just move forward, I know it's very difficult for her, but this is the only way she will have a better life than to live with a man that you cannot trust specially with money matters even though that she loves him very much.
So she should just move forward, I know it's very difficult for her, but this is the only way she will have a better life than to live with a man that you cannot trust specially with money matters even though that she loves him very much.
I want to only talk about the comic part although for many people there is nothing comic in here,yet the lady didn't she knew that her fiance was a gambler and out of a gambler what can you expect when the hardest form of addiction hits you,you will find any remote possibility to get money to bet and to feed your burning desire to gamble.
The fact that he wanted to double his money is a clear indication that this guy is definitely addicted as only addicted people do not think much about consequences as they are only focused on doubling their money whatever the amount they bet for them is irrelevant.
The fact that he wanted to double his money is a clear indication that this guy is definitely addicted as only addicted people do not think much about consequences as they are only focused on doubling their money whatever the amount they bet for them is irrelevant.
On the contrary, he might be new to the system and not really an addict because thinking about doubling his money sounds so foolish to be coming from professional gambler. Sounds like someone who was deceived by some friends to try his luck on gambling and everything goes against him. This the consequences of gambling with other people's money. Even with your own money, you're supposed to gamble with what you can afford to lose and not gambling above your worth. I feel bad for the poor girl because the love she has for the guy will not allow her to take necessary action on the guy.
Both of them will never forget gambling for prolonging their wedding if it will ever take place again. Such a bad experience!
It's good if she not yet married a gambling addict, she need to thankfully to her boyfriend because she can easily break up and search for a better man. If they've married, it's become more harder for the wife to divorce with his husband because become a widower isn't easy.
Never think he will become a better man, human will never change.
Never think he will become a better man, human will never change.
The same happened to the person I know when he used the money that had been entrusted to him just because he was full of himself that he gonna win the bet that day. But gambling is not to be trusted when it comes to money needed to buy your essential needs and when he regret his decision, it is too late because he lost the money that supposed to buy supplies for his friend's store and he doesn't have any means to pay it and after that, he just lose a friend and took a loan to pay his debt because it was a huge amount of money that he just wasted. I wonder if their wedding will still be done in the future but if it was me, I would count it as a red flag and quit becoming his bride.
Betting with savings money is wrong I agree with it.
But every story has two different sides we we can't come to any conclusion about whether her choice is right or wrong with her partner but he may have his reasons for such actions too is there any information about the results of the bet or its assumption of complete loss that is why she did this?
It's wrong in all aspects because the money that's gambled is not just his money but also her money. And there's a reason why they're saving up that money and that's for their most awaited union, their marriage. But every story has two different sides we we can't come to any conclusion about whether her choice is right or wrong with her partner but he may have his reasons for such actions too is there any information about the results of the bet or its assumption of complete loss that is why she did this?
On this case, we don't need any other side of the story that will come from the guy. The obvious matter has been said that he has spent their savings for the wedding and it shouldn't be tolerated.
Let us say that he has his reason doing that, and that's to gamble and nothing more or less. Sad on her side but better decision will come for her after this.
To be honest when I read the title I thought it was a personal experience and seeing your name as the op made me more eager to read through the thread, but unfortunately it’s nothing personal but that still does not make it less tragic.
This is the type of case where the popular quote makes sense “the idle mind is the devil’s workshop”, I really don’t know what made him take that bold step by betting such a large amount he might have been doing it for a lower amount and has had a higher rate of winning and that’s why he was confident enough to have used that amount.
And right now the lady is left in a situation where she has to cope with the man’s decision and save another money or just part ways with the man and move on with her life and it’s not going to be a easy one for her and it’s also something she can do alone with no one’s assistance.
This is the type of case where the popular quote makes sense “the idle mind is the devil’s workshop”, I really don’t know what made him take that bold step by betting such a large amount he might have been doing it for a lower amount and has had a higher rate of winning and that’s why he was confident enough to have used that amount.
And right now the lady is left in a situation where she has to cope with the man’s decision and save another money or just part ways with the man and move on with her life and it’s not going to be a easy one for her and it’s also something she can do alone with no one’s assistance.
I really feel sorry for the lady with no single sympathy for the man. The only area I don't understand was if she already knew her man was a gambler and the extent to which he can gamble. If such information was revealed to her and she still felt she could cope, then she should deal with it and move on because she should not be surprised. On the other hand, if the man concealed such information from the fiance, then he still have terrible secrets and marrying such a man is not the best for the lady.
Gambling is supposed to be done with spared funds and not money one cannot afford to loose. The guy should first go and treat his greed level before raising a family because it is obvious he hasn't understand the important of priority.
This will also help us learn from his mistakes because many people have poor mindset about gambling. Since it is something of probability, we should always follow it in that manner because it is not certain the outcome you choose will work that way.
Questioning the lady is nonsense. She's just a victim of a man not being responsible, despite the plan for their wedding, he still ends up hurting the woman. Let's say the woman knows the gambling activities of the man, they might already talk about it. However, the man has no other way to contribute more. Being desperate to act like a man and pay most of the expenses, he ends up betting the money for their wedding. Gambling is supposed to be done with spared funds and not money one cannot afford to loose. The guy should first go and treat his greed level before raising a family because it is obvious he hasn't understand the important of priority.
This will also help us learn from his mistakes because many people have poor mindset about gambling. Since it is something of probability, we should always follow it in that manner because it is not certain the outcome you choose will work that way.
The man should think deeply before he acts and starts betting. Thinking about the possibility of what will happen if the money is lost in gambling, or what his partner would feel if the man acted alone without her consent.
I really feel sorry for the lady with no single sympathy for the man. The only area I don't understand was if she already knew her man was a gambler and the extent to which he can gamble. If such information was revealed to her and she still felt she could cope, then she should deal with it and move on because she should not be surprised. On the other hand, if the man concealed such information from the fiance, then he still have terrible secrets and marrying such a man is not the best for the lady.
Gambling is supposed to be done with spared funds and not money one cannot afford to loose. The guy should first go and treat his greed level before raising a family because it is obvious he hasn't understand the important of priority.
This will also help us learn from his mistakes because many people have poor mindset about gambling. Since it is something of probability, we should always follow it in that manner because it is not certain the outcome you choose will work that way.
Gambling is supposed to be done with spared funds and not money one cannot afford to loose. The guy should first go and treat his greed level before raising a family because it is obvious he hasn't understand the important of priority.
This will also help us learn from his mistakes because many people have poor mindset about gambling. Since it is something of probability, we should always follow it in that manner because it is not certain the outcome you choose will work that way.
what could be more heart breaking than this?
What was more painful was that he did not reimburse the woman and only apologized, which meant that the woman had been greatly harmed financially and mentally.Feeling sorry for what the woman was going through, the decision to call off the wedding was the right step and I'm sure many are curious about the continuation of their relationship, whether to stay in the relationship or break up.
It is very important to discuss finances before starting a marriage because finances will play a very important role in the future household because without the same view about finances, it will be difficult for a couple to build a family future.
The man was stupid in thinking he could double the money and gambling is uncertain because the chances of winning and losing are equal.
A legend word say.
The man is 1% aways from winning a jackpot ~XD I cannot believe for anyone who are playing using such other fund, I mean (I have gambling addiction) but only using the money until I run out the money (for my worst scenario)
Never using someone money or money are gonna to be used for paying the rent and something like that.
The man is 1% aways from winning a jackpot ~XD I cannot believe for anyone who are playing using such other fund, I mean (I have gambling addiction) but only using the money until I run out the money (for my worst scenario)
Never using someone money or money are gonna to be used for paying the rent and something like that.
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I also felt very sorry for the woman because she had struggled to save money for her wedding with her fiancé. Still, her fiancé instead used the money to gamble, hoping that he could double his money quickly so that they no longer had to save for their wedding costs. The man was foolish. He had disappointed his fiancé because he was willing to make sacrifices for his wedding plans and instead thought he wanted to gamble with that money.
We don't know what happened to them. But hopefully, the man will come to his senses and can cancel his plan to bet. For their wedding, they could still have a simple wedding attended by only their close family. That would save him money if he still had it. But if the money is no longer there, the woman must postpone her marriage for certain reasons. And the worst thing was canceling the wedding because he couldn't be with his fiancé anymore. But the woman had to be able to remind her fiancé not to gamble for anything because they were risking his money.
We don't know what happened to them. But hopefully, the man will come to his senses and can cancel his plan to bet. For their wedding, they could still have a simple wedding attended by only their close family. That would save him money if he still had it. But if the money is no longer there, the woman must postpone her marriage for certain reasons. And the worst thing was canceling the wedding because he couldn't be with his fiancé anymore. But the woman had to be able to remind her fiancé not to gamble for anything because they were risking his money.
Betting with savings money is wrong I agree with it.
But every story has two different sides we we can't come to any conclusion about whether her choice is right or wrong with her partner but he may have his reasons for such actions too is there any information about the results of the bet or its assumption of complete loss that is why she did this?
But every story has two different sides we we can't come to any conclusion about whether her choice is right or wrong with her partner but he may have his reasons for such actions too is there any information about the results of the bet or its assumption of complete loss that is why she did this?
It can be a blessing in disguise for that lady that the nature of the guy has been exposed because of gambling. If she didn't called off the wedding and continued because of how desperate she is and loves the guy truly, she'll be the one to suffer with both of them living on the same roof. With that attitude and addiction in gambling, the money that they agreed to save for their wedding won't just be like that if they do plan another saving for some of their needs or plans together. It's possible that the guy will spend the money and will just carefree as if nothing has happened.
It's sad to see that a dream wedding has been called off because of such incidents but the woman will eventually realize that it's okay but, the pain is there at the beginning and she had to accept and endure that until it's finally gone. The final decision of leaving the guy and moving on is what she need to do to have a brand new start. Finding the new love of her life might not be easy as it may be but that's what should happen if ever the guy will never change. The guy is also going to be a lucky one if the woman will give him another chance but the question is, is she going to give another shot for that guy that's been the major reason why their wedding has been canceled?
It's sad to see that a dream wedding has been called off because of such incidents but the woman will eventually realize that it's okay but, the pain is there at the beginning and she had to accept and endure that until it's finally gone. The final decision of leaving the guy and moving on is what she need to do to have a brand new start. Finding the new love of her life might not be easy as it may be but that's what should happen if ever the guy will never change. The guy is also going to be a lucky one if the woman will give him another chance but the question is, is she going to give another shot for that guy that's been the major reason why their wedding has been canceled?
Her life will be in total misery if he marries this guy, this guy is a compulsive gambler, he doesn't care about his bride's feelings, and it's better for the lady to cool off the wedding and only talk about the wedding if he is totally cured.
Maybe or maybe not. What he did is stupidity. Some people can think they can still give such a person second chance. But if it is me that I am the girl, I will not only call off the wedding but also call of the relationship. If the girl did not also call off the relationship, maybe she is stupid. But maybe not, becuase some people can think of second chance, I noticye my friends that were addicted left gambling after they had huge losses that severely affected them just like this, sometimes, there can be second chance. 
Her life will be in total misery if he marries this guy, this guy is a compulsive gambler, he doesn't care about his bride's feelings, and it's better for the lady to cool off the wedding and only talk about the wedding if he is totally cured.
Compulsive gamblers like the guy in the description should not have a family, they will spend more time in casinos and spend all their money betting, if that lady is a friend I will ask her to just break the guy, and if he wants her back he must show first that he is totally cured from his addiction.
The worst thing that can happen to a woman is getting married to a compulsive gambler, the marriage will eventually end in divorce and he will continue to hurt her feelings, there are many straight and clean guys so it is better to look for a man who take care of her and not spend her money or love gambling more than he loves her.
Compulsive gamblers like the guy in the description should not have a family, they will spend more time in casinos and spend all their money betting, if that lady is a friend I will ask her to just break the guy, and if he wants her back he must show first that he is totally cured from his addiction.
The worst thing that can happen to a woman is getting married to a compulsive gambler, the marriage will eventually end in divorce and he will continue to hurt her feelings, there are many straight and clean guys so it is better to look for a man who take care of her and not spend her money or love gambling more than he loves her.
Marriage is off then. There is no good for this man to marry her as it is already a problem from the beginning. Give it a year after the wedding the guy will be spending money he didn't earn. Regardless of what his motive is. Let's say he meant to grow the money to impress this woman that he is a good provider but look at how it turned out.
Not gonna be great if she continues their plan. So people in Nigeria are actually no very traditional where only the men spend money for their girl?
Honestly, she might be better off calling off the wedding. They've been scrimping and saving for the big day, so it's clear they're not rolling in money. But then her fiancé goes and gambles it away? Talk about a wild risktaker, but it's not exactly a smart gamble. Wedding funds shouldn't go into a bet as that's just asking for trouble. If he'd won, folks might call him daring, the 'all-in' kind of guy. But since he lost, it's all on him.
Seriously, marrying a guy like that is a recipe for disaster. Making big decisions without consulting the wife? Hey, lady, maybe you should look for a different fella, someone who's not all about the high-stakes gambling. No hate on gamblers, I mean, some of us enjoy a little risk, but this is just too much.
Seriously, marrying a guy like that is a recipe for disaster. Making big decisions without consulting the wife? Hey, lady, maybe you should look for a different fella, someone who's not all about the high-stakes gambling. No hate on gamblers, I mean, some of us enjoy a little risk, but this is just too much.
I feel bad for the lady. If she decides to leave the relationship, I think it would more than just about money.
The man is either a gambler already who knowingly risk their wedding money for gambling or a first time gambler who genuinely hope that he could double the money. If it is the former, it would be unforgivable fir me. He shouldnt have made the decision at all right from the beginning. If it is the former, I think they can try to talk to each other and sort it out. Whatever the lady decides, I think it is valid. She was lied to, regardless of the reason and that something that a partner should refrain from doing
The man is either a gambler already who knowingly risk their wedding money for gambling or a first time gambler who genuinely hope that he could double the money. If it is the former, it would be unforgivable fir me. He shouldnt have made the decision at all right from the beginning. If it is the former, I think they can try to talk to each other and sort it out. Whatever the lady decides, I think it is valid. She was lied to, regardless of the reason and that something that a partner should refrain from doing
Her life will be in total misery if he marries this guy, this guy is a compulsive gambler, he doesn't care about his bride's feelings, and it's better for the lady to cool off the wedding and only talk about the wedding if he is totally cured.
Compulsive gamblers like the guy in the description should not have a family, they will spend more time in casinos and spend all their money betting, if that lady is a friend I will ask her to just break the guy, and if he wants her back he must show first that he is totally cured from his addiction.
The worst thing that can happen to a woman is getting married to a compulsive gambler, the marriage will eventually end in divorce and he will continue to hurt her feelings, there are many straight and clean guys so it is better to look for a man who take care of her and not spend her money or love gambling more than he loves her.
Compulsive gamblers like the guy in the description should not have a family, they will spend more time in casinos and spend all their money betting, if that lady is a friend I will ask her to just break the guy, and if he wants her back he must show first that he is totally cured from his addiction.
The worst thing that can happen to a woman is getting married to a compulsive gambler, the marriage will eventually end in divorce and he will continue to hurt her feelings, there are many straight and clean guys so it is better to look for a man who take care of her and not spend her money or love gambling more than he loves her.
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