Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet - page 23. (Read 3840 times)

Cases like these show the couple's lack of knowledge of themselves. How do you explain that a person intends to marry another person and does not know that this person is addicted to gambling? people when they are in a relationship should pay a lot of attention to their partners, if she in this case had paid a lot of attention to him, then she would have easily discovered that he has become addicted to gambling. And another very important thing is that considering the amount of money she mentioned, I don't believe he took 100% of the money and made a single bet. he probably made a lot of bets, which means he took a long time to place bets and he must not have realized

I'm actually curious to know how she discovered that he was taking the money to bet and which casino or betting site he used and what portions of money he was using to deposit at the casino or betting house, this could make it easier for us to understand whether he was having some victories or whether he was simply having consecutive defeats, either way it is a fact that he lied to his future wife and since marriage is a very serious matter and yet the guy was wasting the money for the wedding, So my advice would be for this woman not to come back with him again. because in the future of both, he will only destroy

Such amount of money for a wedding is also another point to this story.  $5,000 in a wedding is huge no matter the country's currency.

m thinking if you are planning to spend $5,000 for a wedding then the would be husband should have more than that since he is claiming to support the girlfriend with the money he will win so that the burden will not be on her.

Another point to this is that if you are saving up for a wedding, you don't need such amount of money to be saved up before you do your wedding. If you are saving up it means you don't have and people who don't have don't need such elaborate wedding, I mean the story is twisted and for the guy to use the $5,000 saved for wedding to gamble is really not giving the real light to what it is.

Again maybe this is another social media frick who is looking for followership. Like if you are saving $5,000 for wedding that is too much to be saved for wedding, like people who plan $5,000 wedding ceremony are wealthy and they don't have to save for it because the money is always there and what they would need is to fix their date  

Even if she called off the marriage and refused to marry this man, she would not get her money back. By calling off the marriage, she will lose her husband too to whom she was to marry. The money is gone already. Don't know what decision is beneficial for her 

I think if the husband's intention was to double the money, only to get his wife out of trouble of saving more money, then I won't call it wrong but one thing he did wrong was that he gambled with the money, without asking from his wife. If he had consulted his future wife and told him that he wanted to double the money through gambling, the wife could have either refused or maybe asked him to use only 10% or less money to try his luck.

I think your friend needs to get away from this guy right now. Most likely he is a loser, if he wants to increase the amount of money through gambling As you rightly said, the wedding is very important for girls because it is quite a rare event. If a guy is risking money, which depends on whether they have a wedding or not, then he simply does not value his future wife. Once again, you need to run away from such a guy.

Can't say if he's addicted or not but the truth is he is a gambler. There's nothing bad being a gambler but he wasn't a responsible gambler.
He should have known his limits and his responsibility. If he had been just a little responsible with the amount then he wouldn't have lost the amount and his fiancee.

Well, for me, there is absolutely no wedding to pursue anymore. first of all, i personally think that the lady in question doesn't really know that her husband to be is a gambler to that extend that he would risk money as important as their savings for their wedding arrangement, there are several women who sure know that their man gambles, but do not know to what extent the man takes gambling serious, and i personally believe that this may be the situation of this lady, if at all she actually knows that the guy gambles.

And maybe again that the guy doesnt gamble, but for the he was seeing the situation on ground and feeling helpless, he decided to try gambling to see if a miracle would happen, as his way of trying to help, but unfortunately, it turned out a very wrong decision.

For me though, if i was the lady, i sure would end the relation for good, this might just be a sign that i am about to marry the wrong man.

There’s still a silver lining on what happened to her. Atleast she will not get stuck to his fiancé for a lifetime since she call of the wedding. This story will be much more devastating if she got married and still his husband continues his gambling addiction despite the fact that he contributes less on their finances.

As a man, I personally don’t allow my wife to work since I want to provide 100% financially to her while this man has the audacity to gamble the wedding funds that he has less contribution.m

This is really heartbreaking most especially for the lady who has contributed a lot to their savings just to make the wedding perfect for both of them. But I really wonder if she’s really aware that his fiancée is a gambler because if ever she is, she must had never trusted him such a huge amount of money because he will surely be tempted to spend it for his gambling habit. And it did happened and lost everything they’ve earned. The lady must have been very frustrated for now wishing that he had not trusted everything to his fiancee.

This brings realization for us that once a gambler, always a gambler. But if he acted as a responsible gambler by that time, most likely he won’t lose everything on their savings. The amount might not be intact anymore but at least only a small amount is lacking, which they can easily find ways to fill in the missing amount and still pursue the wedding.

Even using that 5% or 10% then it isnt really just still right that he should really be using up the fund without her girlfriends approval and just like been said that its really a show of disrespect because you are really that taking up decisions which arent really that supposed to be done considering that you are risking wedding funds then it is really that not worth on doing such decision or risk.
You can make use of other funds but not on your wedding savings, if you do love your girlfriend and have decided to bring him into the altar or making her as your wife legally then its better to set aside with that kind of urge. Just like been said that it would be better that you shouldn't really be making yourself thinking on other fast solutions because this is where things do usually mess up.

If you could really that prepared on exchanging your wedding or your love one because of such decision then go ahead but if you cant afford on doing so then better avoid
such action and just continue your savings until you would be able to hit up those amounts that both of you are really that trying to save.

If I read the story of these two people, it is really heartbreaking, this man should not have done that, this man did not consider the risks involved in gambling, The intention was indeed good, but the method was wrong, the woman was working hard to collect money for their marriage, but instead the man acted ridiculously, it was a disaster for their marriage, With that money they should have been ready to get married this year, because the money was spent on betting, of course they have to collect the money from zero again, this is annoying. if the man is responsible, he must try to find other money, for the survival of their marriage, if he is irresponsible, of course....finished.

If I judge that the man is not good, he should be the one looking for money for their marriage, not the woman, he is a lazy man, he can spend what he has, most lazy people have high hallucinations, wanting a lot of money but not wanting to work, hoping that gambling can bring him luck, that's a ridiculous thought for a man.

If I were the sister or brother of that woman, I would have to say that she is not a good man to marry, but that is love, love is blind, even if one party is hurt.

Well it also looks dumb to me that the guy would go gamble with wedding money. Even if he wants to take such risk, it is pardonable that he tries even 5% or 10% of it than pulling the rug.


This is definitely worth a rethink for the lady. Staying with the man will keep her more headache than joy because more egregious surprises are waiting to be unfolded.

What joy is there to stay with someone you are always going to have your heart in your head because of such things that you going to keep witnessing.

OMG, does anyone actually do something like this?
It's just sad to think that there are still men who can do this kind of thing, think about what you've worked hard for and saved up, you'll just waste it on gambling, is gambling worth more than being with the girl you love for the rest of your life? The man is too addicted and has no conscience.

For me, the woman should just think that it's okay that she saw the man's behavior early, it's okay for him to go through a disgraceful phase of his life rather than having regrets for the rest of his life.

There's a famous couple in the Philippines who had the same situation, however the difference is that they were already married when it happened. The woman chose to annul their marriage because of the disrespect from the man.

Yes, on which as a man then you would really be having that kind of ego that you should really be the one to spend up on speaking about wedding preparation or on whatever expenses that your wedding would really be having and never intend to make your wife to be on having that kind of partition or having also that responsibility on taking the slice when it comes to saving up.Yes, it is really that shameful in our part on which considering that we are really that should be the one would do the spending and just let your loved ones would be the one will be waiting and shouldnt really be bothered about wedding expense. This is why we dont really know on whats up on the mind of that man but  as a man itself then we do really know on how he do feels. He did take up the risks just because he do want that the money would really be doubled. It is really just that a mistake that he had really risk out on gambling rather than on other option but i cant really that deny that gambling is the fastest way or instant, it is really just that the risks is really off the charts.

He decided to take up the shot but he didnt think that the risks isnt really just that on losing money but also he would really be losing his soon-to-be wife which i couldnt really take
up such risks and its better to swallow that pride because there are really things which arent really needing or wise to risks on and which causes for your entire life kind of regret.

This is the height of it all, how can any sane person use money that is not his spear money to place a bet, I am sure his partner will get him arrested for that, this guy is ungratefully greedy, how can you use 5 million to gamble in that kind of his condition where the lady already mentioned that she saved almost 60% of that total amount.


This means that the guy in question does not have the financial capacity to marry yet and at that, he should pay the lady back her money and also stay away from her because what he needs right now is a mental evaluation of what he thinks is money and ways to get money.

Depending on the girl, it will be her decision if he can forgive the absolute madness that his fiancee did. His fiancee might have a good reason why did he try to use their wedding money to gamble but the way to fullfill the good intention is not the correct way. It will be a absolutely hard decision for the girl to forgive her fiancee but even if the girl forgave him, the trust that is broken will be his forever burden. If this story is a real deal, I wonder what did the girl do after discovering the fiancee mistake.

I didn't want to jump into any conclusion because I can't assume what their terms are about saving that money and if its her money then why she give it to him? As I said they were clear that this money is strictly for their wedding expense or not so can't blame him for using it on other purposes while using savings for betting with the intention of doubling it and also without the consent of your partner is wrong and he has to face the consequences too.

Yes, I agree with your opinion. Please cancel the wedding as soon as possible. Maybe it's too early, but she'll regret not doing it. He is too addicted to gambling. He may be willing to bet his beloved's entire future on gambling. Although it will be painful for you to make this decision now if you continue to live with such a compulsive gambler, I think her life is worse than living with people who are addicted to cigarettes or alcohol. I don't think he was trying to make money for a good life. In fact, he was satisfying his addiction. Or he is too naive to consider gambling a place to make money.

Damn bro, where do you get those stories. I can see "Rant Vault" as the watermark but finding this might be hard.

Anyway, about the story, truly it is a sad one. But I do understand the point of the "should be groom" because maybe he is really just trying to help and feeling down that he only has 40 percent on their contribution. This is pride and ego and not a gambling addiction. Maybe he is cornered and trying to find ways to help but he made a mistake in putting it in the gambling way.

But on the "should be bride" side this is of course a bad decision and she will probably just end their relationship because of this mistake. It's the right thing to do because what if they are already husband and wife and they have money saved for their mortgage payment or bills then the guy gambled it again just trying his luck. That will make her regret her decision to wed him and they will just separate, it's better to do it early while they are not yet one.

Totally heartbreaking i would say on which spending up your wedding funds or savings for the sake of gambling then this one indicates that your man isnt really that serious on you. Even if we do say that he's aiming on doubling the money for that kind of purpose but we know that its never been that a good decision or ideal one for you to gamble out those funds, not unless you have some permission into the other half or with your fiancee if there's not then its just purely showing  that you disrespect her. She had really the  right since he had contributed 60% of the entire savings on which she has right to know on where those funds been stored or if ever there's plan on some unexpected spending.

This is heartbreaking for the girl and as much as possible as long its still early, then she should leave the guy yet this kind of action does indicate about being addicted with gambling.
This isnt something that couldnt really be good into your future endeavors on your marriage life. Its impossible that you cant really be able to assess these things on point.
Yes, it does hurt but you do make the best decisions which would really be that just right for you. Dont force yourself into a man which arent that worth of your love.

Call the wedding and the relationship off lady! Probably better for you. There's a lot better fish than the sea take your time. Idrk if it was good this happened before marriage or not lol.

I mean honestly, any sane gambler out there would not use funds you've gathered up especially one that was gathered together with someone to gamble.  It's rather confusing really how some people consider gambling as a "guaranteed" way of earning money jesus. Yes, he did the act hoping for the best, but it's the best of both worlds, one of which does not give a fuck about you. Let's not even consider how the money had the wife contributing more than him.